this is going to be wierd having this on other people's blogs

Wow. Ok. I very much despise this ask. It’s been sitting in my inbox for awhile now, and I think it’s time to give it a swing. 

Tumblr has a problem that often gets called “call out culture,” but I think I will be slightly more mean about right now and describe as “tattle-telling.“ 

I do want people to feel comfortable coming to me when they sense I’ve done something wrong. If I’ve fucked up in any small way, please come speak to me. That is not overreacting or anything bad. I want to hear. 

If I’m interacting with someone you view as bad though, the rules change slightly. I am curating a space for you: this blog. This blog has rules for interaction and community. I’m trying to curate a certain open, welcoming environment so that folks are introduced to gaming well. But others that I’m interacting with don’t necessarily need to follow those rules in their own spaces that they make for themselves. 

I don’t ask that of them. Me doing that would be real WIERD and rude in it’s least harmful state.

There are a few things I WOULD like to be informed of abt folks that I interact with. They all pretty much boil down to: if I am likely to give someone work and that person is ABUSIVE, it would be useful for me to know so that I can shut down work streams and protect my community.

But this other shit??? Fuck this.

This is censorship, and I ain’t having it, kids.

Rexoka aside, which we will get into later, let’s put this into some pretty explicit terms.

I’m a rape survivor.

I do not like content that involves noncon or dubcon. It’s highly triggering for me. There are other things that are highly triggering for me due to these circumstances. People still make this content. People still make this content with my favorite characters.

I DO NOT think this makes them bad people.

I don’t think about the people who make the content much at all.

If I were to think about them, I’d acknowledge that a non-insignificant number of nonhet-cismen are sexually abused, and many folks work things out in fiction spaces. There will be others in there who are figuring out what to do with feelings of sexual sadism. And there are lots of people on either side of the equation who have rape fantasies.

Fiction is a safe space for people to work out their stuff.

SO LONG AS PEOPLE TAG THEIR CONTENT, I have no reason to ever think about them.

Why would I? That presumes so much about their lives. That’s fucked up of me. I’m NEVER going to tell someone else, especially someone who isn’t a cishet white dude, that they can’t create a piece of fiction for their own piece of mind.

Back to tags briefly! Here’s why they’re important. Tags let me avoid things I don’t want to see. Using tools like xkit, I can block rape and noncon, and have those posts flagged and minimized in my feed. I can have power over what I see.

I hear there are ways to blacklist tags for mobile stuff too now.

I suspect the hoops Tumblr has made y'all go through to opt-out of things that trigger and squick you is in part responsible for this fan culture where ya pile onto folks who do a thing you dislike. But friends, this is an ugly look. It looks like you hating other women and non-binary folks.

Look. Back in the days of livejournal, we had this term squick. That thing squicks me. It basically means “I don’t like it and don’t want to see it” without the moralizing hoops Tumblr for some reason seems to need to go through these days. It’s OK for something to squick you. Things squick me without me having a like trauma related trigger reason.

I am squicked hard by razors. I have them blacklisted.

A notp can be a squick.

Let’s talk about Rexoka.

Some people ship this thing that you don’t like.

Your reasonings are usually two fold.

1. During a portion of Rex and Ashoka’s lives, Rex is an adult and Ashoka is a teen, so it is possible that people ship a pedo ship.

2. It takes away from queer ships.

Guys. You can blacklist the ship and not harass folks.

To the first point, it’s possible for a young Snips to have an unrequited crush on Rex. Teens have feelings 

They’re also adults during rebels. I don’t know if y'all have a problem with that, but it’d be odd and ageist to me if ya did.

I’m sure there ARE gross people out there. You can block them. But that doesn’t mean the whole ship HAS to be hands down terrible.

In that one Travis book, Snips went on about how overwhelmed w/ love she was for Rex. I read that as SUPER platonic. But like. We have so much textual support for how much these people matter to each other. They matter the most. And emotions can shift in wartime. *shrugs* I don’t like telling people they can’t ship close friends.

As to point two, Holy Bi-Erasure, Batman!! 

*shrugs* I love Barrissoka and Herasoka as much as the next girl. AND I hate Lux and wish none of that ever happened what terrible writing die in a fire Bonteri. But like… Hi? Bi people exist?

I guess I just don’t see how some folks doing their thing takes away from other folks doing their thing. It also confuses me as plenty do both.

You can’t know someone else’s experiences. If they tag their content, that’s all that they owe you. You now are empowered to not see what they create that has the power to harm you. Please, don’t further seek to harm them. That sort of ill wishing is drinking a poison and waiting for the other person to die.

Stop hating other noncishet white men. We need to love each other and understand each other better.

The best and worst quotes from @straightcharactersoftheday

Today i took it upon myself to quote my favorite source of entertainment!
The fantastic blog @straightcharactersoftheday
I reeeaaallyyyy love that blog and i 10000000% think that straight characters need more representation??? like they are so right????????? straight characters are practically NON-EXISTENT NOW!
all vry fantastic vry good statements are bolded

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anonymous asked:

Hi!! This might sound wierd but I wanna be like you when I grow up (I'm twelve ok?) sooooooo.. post more R-18 scenes will ya?

I’m honored to be your role model, thank you so much for talking to me ^ ^

But as your role model, I’m also going to very clearly say that as an adult, I am very uncomfortable with minors looking at any of my nsfw content (of which there is very little to begin with), and I will bluntly state that I don’t want you to do it. Please understand that it’s called “R-18″ for a reason. You are responsible for consuming your own content, and no doubt some of that will unfortunately be mature content. However, I do not want that mature content to be from me, and please understand that my request is not only to keep you safe, but to keep me safe as well.

All of what little nsfw content I have is marked as such, and if Tumblr’s safety filter actually worked, those should be blocked. I want them to be blocked. Other than those, almost all of my work should be safe for all audiences. Please, do me a favor and enjoy just those, yeah?

I’ll do my best to continue keeping this a mostly sfw blog, and this ask reaffirms my current train of thought that i should no longer post any even vaguely nsfw content in public, and that I should keep anything more suggestive to patreon.

Thank you for understanding.

anonymous asked:

Hey, so I just found your blog and I think it's fantastic! I'm a huge Ryden shipper since their beginning but I kinda got lost in their history a while ago and so, seeing your blog and your amazing knowledge of this ship, I was wondering if you could maybe write a Ryden history from the beginning? Like, you can write as little or as much as possible with details and links and sources or not? Up to you,but I'd kinda really wanna know what happened and expecially understand why the split happened?

*cracks knuckles*

*cracks wrists*

*cracks arms*

*cracks spine*

*drinks some whiskey*

Yeah, why the hell not?

Buckle up kids: this is gonna be a long ride

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Dear haters I wanna tell you one thing - fuck off! I don’t understand you! What’s wrong with you? You create million blogs about hating someone ship. How old are you? 12 or 45? You’re bored or just troll? Or maybe u so lonely that this hate shit it’s just the way you can talk with people? If this is just a troll I can understand, but if it’s not…well. Do you really think that I’m a pedophile? Do I repost the picture’s of children’s? No. This ship’s is just ship’s. This is not a real person!!! And why just ship’s? Look for hentai! This guys got a hole area full of lolli and other wierd shit) Blame them) O don’t blame. Because this is stupid anyway. I wrote this because this is my soul scream. I really tired of your shit. I just wanna have a place when I can just be dirty and crazy, but you guys are so fucking annoying…This is my last word. I’m not gonna write you again, I’m just gonna ignore you all, because I know you ain’t gonna stop anyway, because it’s all you got, your way to get pleasure, so go on little bastards. (and as always sorry for my horrible English :D)

anonymous asked:

what's your favorite fic?

Alright so there are multiple mods on this blog so it took a few days for all the currently active ones to get to this post and add in some personal faves. We all had some trouble picking just one favourite so theres not just one favourite. These fics are beloved to us and I hope you love them half as much as we do! 

All the Angels and All the Saints

In which Steve Rogers loses God and finds God and loses God, and also: Bucky.

Critical Feline Mass

Adjusting to civilian life is hard for any military veteran — especially for one ex-sniper with a cybernetic arm, a classic Harley, and friends who keep trying to ‘help.’ When Sam Wilson at the VA sends Sergeant Barnes to rent a room from the hottest guy in the DC area, Bucky thinks maybe civilian life is worth it after all. And then he finds out Captain Rogers is everything Bucky’s not: a real hero, a Medal of Honor recipient, and an all-around nice guy. Bucky doesn’t have a chance in hell with him.

Sam was a huge help to Steve Rogers when he left the military. In the spirit of ‘pay it forward,’ Steve decides to rent out his basement room to a vet in need. But when Sergeant Barnes shows up on his doorstep, he knows he’s in for a world of trouble. Barnes is exactly what Steve never knew he wanted, from his bedroom eyes to his wicked innuendos. And he’s Steve’s tenant.

A love story in twelve chapters, including two Harley-Davidsons, a guardian angel, multiple snipers, the only woman who can scare them into behaving themselves, spontaneous kittens, and one attacking sheep.

Kiss Me Hello

Bucky and Steve take to kissing each other hello, goodbye, goodnight. It’s all very platonic until it isn’t.

Mutually satisfying wierdness

“I’m lost,” Stark admits. “Are you secretly marrying Steve without telling him?”

Not Easily Conquered (Series)

In 1945, Steve Rogers jumps from a nosediving plane and swims through miles of Arctic Ocean to a frozen shore.

In 1947, Steve Rogers marries Peggy Carter.

In 1966, the New York Times finds the lost letters of Sergeant James Buchanan Barnes.

To Be Vulnerable Is Needed Most of All

Steve is a shy comic book artist and meets his new neighbour, Bucky Barnes.

In which there are awkward longings, meddling best friends, comic conventions, heartache, lemons, video games, dorkiness,dancing and two cute boys.

The Man On The Wall

Bucky Barnes was a member of Ares 3.  

Now he’s the lone man on Mars, with no communications, not enough food and no way to get home.

He’s a little fucked off about it.

Not Another Supersoldier Fantasy

Bucky finds a popular sex toy modeled on Captain America’s own anatomy. Well, isn’t this just perfect? Because even after all this time, he still hasn’t seen Steve’s supersoldier cock. But apparently in this day and age anyone with $29.95 can get a decent replica. The unfairness of this is of galactic proportions.

Signed, Sealed, Delivered

Steve Rogers was content with his life. He loved his shop, loved creating works of art for people to display on their bodies, had a tight knit group of friends who cared about him, and had finally paid off his student loans and the loan he’d taken out to start his business. But it still feels like there’s something, or someone, missing from his life.

Everything’s going to change when he decides to take Natasha’s advice and sign up for a military penpal program.

anonymous asked:

Hey from your blog I think you live on your own???(that sounds wierd but hold on) do you have any advice on moving/ living on your own? Like I'm turning 18 soon and I really need to get out of where I am and I just want to up and leave but I don't want to leave important documents and have to go back home. What do you suggesting knowing/taking when leaving home? (And also if it helps im pre transition)

This is going to get long so you might want to grab a drink

You’re going to want a certified copy of your birth certificate. It’s a major piece of identification documents and is often used to get a host of other documents later, like driver’s licenses, passports, etc.

If you have a license or a permit, bring that. If you have a passport definitely bring that. Any insurance cards, bring that. Bring your social security card, the other super important document.

Make sure you have something reasonably secure to store them in, like a file box. (You’re going to need most of this stuff and the practice that comes with obtaining them anyways when you do a name change)

You will probably need a bank account. Cash is easy to misplace and people love to steal it. You can trust roommates and friends all you want, the moment you let the wrong person in with a vulnerability like having all your savings as a pile of cash in a box, is the moment you’re up shit creek with no paddles, no boat and lead shoes. Atm cards that have check card functionality work like a credit card without getting you into actual debt. They don’t help your credit rating much but they’re good practice for appropriate and wise spending habits. You’ll want to build those habits so you don’t rack up intense debts or empty your accounts.

Make sure you have a phone. A cell is probably your best bet, a smart phone isn’t bad either, esp if you don’t have a computer (net is really helpful these days). If it has a calculator even better, math becomes really important in adult life from things like taxes to “do I have enough money for rent and food today?” (unfortunately)

Learn familiarity with public transit. I’m betting you don’t have a car, even if you do somehow have a car, it can always break down or get totaled in a crash, so make sure you have a good idea of how bus systems work so that it’s not scary unfamiliar territory when you have to go on the move.

There are two major concerns you’ll need to hit first. Job aka source of income and shelter aka a home.

Being familiar with public transit helps you get to that job (and hit the streets to search for openings, the net is good for that too). Many jobs set up direct deposit. This is really useful because it gets your money to you quickly and reliably. You can start to plan bill payments around when your paycheck hits your bank and figure out if you can risk a bill issuing earlier than payday because it will hit your bank after payday. Really useful skill when you’re poor.

Thrift shops are your friend. So are coupons. A lot of them come in spam mail. Hand me downs are great too.

Especially as someone trans, let me tell you, replacing a whole wardrobe sucks ass, so having hand me down capabilities from friends really helps things along. Half of my bras in the past have come from friends of mine. A lot of pajamas and jeans and t-shirts do too. Trans people often have clothing exchanges online, take a look at that when you get a chance.

Plan to keep track of your expenses for a while. No one’s really born with an innate ability to understand the Bill And Needs And Wants to Income Ratio on an instinctive level and it’s the sort of thing that drops really painful scarring lessons on you when you strike out on your own. So be wary and cautious, tally up where your money goes and where it comes in and figure out what you can do to get a little breathing room.

If you have a job now or any income (even an allowance) practicing the math with purchases you make now is a great way to get that familiarity.

Must haves:

A flashlight (I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve been caught in the dark either from power outages or just being outside in slippery conditions near zero street lamps, a cell phone can provide some light but a flashlight is so much better. Headlamp flashlights are fantastic if weird looking)

A good coat or several good coats to layer (cold climate must have. You may end up having to walk a lot esp if you use buses. You will freeze your ass off in the north east, northern mid west and northwest USA and parts of Canada will mess you up good too)

Some sort of multitool thing or if not that, a screwdriver and a pair of pliers. It’s come in handy a lot and fixing stuff yourself means you don’t need to buy new ones or go without.

A knife: Often in the multitool if you get it, but it’s actually not for self defense purposes, it’s really nice to be able to cut things like rope and packages and boxes and even food if you wash it often. (don’t use a knife for self defense unless you actually know how to fight with a knife. You’re basically just handing an assailant a weapon if you do. So learn those skills if you plan to use a knife as a deterrent to assholes like drunk men)

A first aid kit. You WILL need this. I guarantee it. Minor injuries are a normal thing for everyone and minor can become much worse without first aid. You will not have a good time without some rubbing alcohol to clean a wound (wound infections fucking suck believe me), bandages and medical tape (both bandaid style bandages and actual gauze pads because some cuts are big and bleed a little) to cover a wound, ace bandage to help with a sprain, tweezers to take out slivers and splinters, painkillers for pain, ointment for rashes and ointment for burns (second degree burns are easy to get in an apartment kitchen as my unfortunate clumsy ass knows) and similar. Populate that first aid kit with a wide assortment of stuff, learn on the net how to properly use it. You may even decide to throw stuff like anti dirrehea meds and migraine meds in there just in case. Make sure the number to a local poison control center is on there. It doesn’t hurt to have the emergency number for ambulances on there too just in case. Sometimes a crisis can rattle you badly enough that you forget what 911 even is.

Make friends and build trust slowly and get people around you so that it’s a little less lonely being on your own and yeah, with that stuff, you should do fine. There might be a few things I’m forgetting so I’m sure people can add on

Missilemage's Player Corner: Character Concept

Hey folks, Missilemage here. Decided I would switch things up and speak from the player’s perspective for today and see how it goes.

Today we will be discussing Character Concept, which is something I hold very dear to heart. It determines a lot about character build, actions in game, alignment, interactions with other people, and battle tactics. So let’s get into it.

I’m going to add a disclaimer on this one and say there is no right or wrong way to create a character concept. Some people do it completely differently than I am about to show, and that’s awesome. I am merely putting together a toolset for players who want to use it. I’m now going to walk through a character creation process as I do it.

Step 1: General Idea
This one sounds like the whole process, but what do you want to play? What role do you want to fill?
Martial, Technical, Arcane, Divine.
These words, or combinations of them, describe just about every character class in the game. Martial pretty well covers your fighters and barbarians. Technical are Rogues and other skilled classed. An example of combined types would be Arcane Technical, the Bard. Or Martial Divine, the Paladin or Warpriest.
I want to play an Arcane Martial character, because magic and melee is awesome. Magus is the class that fits that best, so we go from there.

Step 2: Racial Considerations
What species is this Magus? Well, we can sit and talk about optimum stats, racial boons, etc. But I like story. More specifically, I like an odd story. Elves are stereotypically magical and swordy. Humans can do anything, they’re known for it. Gnomes? Also known for wierd. But Dwarves… dwarven cultures shun the unusual. Dwarven Magus it is. Stat-wise, its not impossible to work. Gives good Con and Wis to supplement areas your stats wont focus on.

Step 3: WHY
Now you know what you are playing. Let’s figure out why. We have a Dwarf. Who has been trained in wizardry to some extent. But also martial combat. How did this happen? Well, In my head, his parents sent him off to a reputable wizard tower in a nearby surface city, to train as an apprentice. Spending several years there, he learned the arcane arts from this wizard and gree to respect his power and teaching methods. Eventually, the gruff old wizard and the gruff young dwarf became good friends. Until one day, the apprentice was sent out for components. And when he returned, his master was dead, knife wound in his back.

He took what notes he could and fled, getting the local guards to investigate. But they would not give chase, citing too much danger in going after known assassins without the proper funding. So the young dwarf sought out a new teacher… a combat master within the city. One who could teach him the spear, an easy to master weapon, so he could hunt down his master’s killer himself. Combining this with his magic, he became a deadly Magus. And sought out adventuring work to work up the coin for the investigation.

Step 4: Alignment
The class we picked has no restrictions, so looking at his backstory, we can safely say he’s not evil. He doesn’t have a reason do be, and even his master’s death isn’t going to break a dwarfs willpower that far. Dwarves have a tendency towards Lawful, and he showed that by first going to the proper authorities of the land. But, he’s not neccessarily Good. He’s never shown a penchant for doing the morally superior thing, especially when it’s the harder thing to do. He’s trained by a wizard, who have stereotypically neutralist views of the universe.
I’m gonna call him out at Lawful Neutral.

Step 5: Final Considerations
The Dwarven Magus should select early level spells based on his training with the wizard, and all others based on finding, protection from and combating assasin types and humanoids. Skill selections should reflect information gathering and survival, perception being key. Feats are likely spent on things like arcane strike and other melee augments.

Well, that got out of hand. I was hoping to show you guys my creative process for making a character when I have no idea what to play. I came up with this character as I was writing this post, feel free to steal him for your own use either as a player character or as a hardened older NPC still trying to find the killer. However you see fit.

I hope you all enjoyed this foray into the Player side of things, if you liked it, leave a comment below and tell me if there’s something you’d like to see next week. Depending on how well this does I might do some more Player Corners in the future. Thnaks again for reading and as always, Happy Gaming!