Hi! If you had to define the more dominant and submissive in bagginshield (not necessarily sex, more relationship-wise), who would be what and for what reason?
well I mean those are two VASTLY different topics, I think we have to remember. dynamics in the bedroom don’t necessarily translate into everyday relationship dynamics. I’m firmly on board the SS sub!thorin when it comes to bedroom shenanigans, though I believe they enjoy switching every now and then, and when it comes to their relationship, I think it’s as balanced as it can be. they support one another fiercely, and bicker and butt heads, and know how to make one another relax, cheer one another up when it’s most needed, bilbo’s calm presence and occasional mollycoddling making thorin braver and setting his mind at ease, while thorin’s propensity for effusive declarations of adoration make bilbo blush and sputter and call him ridiculous, but also remind him that he’s loved, and much braver and more important than he tends to give himself credit for. in a relationship like that, balance is way more important than submitting to one another or dominating over one another. that’s not how it works.
do I think bilbo has a hundred different ways of wrapping thorin around his finger, and forcing him to relax when needed, and confirming his decisions in court with just the slightest nod of his head? hell yea. do I think thorin does everything in his power to show his love to bilbo every single day, be it by building him gardens or crafting him rings or bringing his hand to his mouth to kiss his knuckles, dozen different foreign dignitaries be damned? do I think sometimes bilbo gets all fussy and angry and scolds thorin who ends up looking like an ashamed puppy? do I think thorin sometimes like to just fall asleep with his arms wrapped around bilbo’s middle after a particularly difficult, his head resting on his tummy as bilbo reads and strokes his hair absentmindedly? yea yea hell yea, but they’re still in a balanced relationship :’)