For me, it is these people who is always portraying Nagisa like the super thug seme of all times who perpetuates the heteronormativity, because they are all like "ah! We never see little Nagisa as the 'uke' " but them procced to write him 100% different of the show: horrendously manipulative, gross, abusive, unable to care if he is making Rei uncomfortable (you know, "characteristics" of a "true dominant" person)... to show how much Nagisa is dominant... (cont)
(cont) honestly, it is as awful as writing him as the whimpering, silly and two dimensional uke (which I’m yet to find, I don’t even remember seeing a fanfic where he is showed like this, thank you god).
Oh my gosh yes! I can’t stand this, either.
I find it so funny that so many people have found like one or the other: super-dominant Nagisa and super-submissive Nagisa. Like, why are these a thing? (And it’s a weird coincidence that people are only seeing one or the other!)
I’ve seen some of this but I usually don’t make it past the fanfic description. You’re compeltely right saying this is just as bad. There’s this misconception that Nagisa, because he is so pushy and loud and teasing, is manipulative, selfish, and demanding. When in all actuality, he is the “innocent mood maker” and a cheerful person who genuinely just wants to have fun and is so innocent that he doesn’t always see how his fun might hurt/bother others. Which is why Rei has to yell at him sometimes. But at the end of the day, he is always the person constantly asking Rei if he is okay.
He is so sensitive to other people’s emotions and picks up on them quickly because he is so empathetic.
And also, he can get shy and flustered. He is not entirely shameless. Yes, I am still talking about the same character who leaped naked into the pool in episode 1. He gets shy around Rei sometimes:
I think the main issue is that some fans of “yaoi” or m/m relationships don’t want to acknowledge the complexities of character/human relationships because it’s not as easy as the cookie cutter dom/sub dynamic and it doesn’t fulfill the male female sexist binary that people don’t want to admit they’re attracted to, therefore using m/m in order to say it’s not sexist.