this is dedicated to a certain person

When I have a daughter, and if she has a special dedication to a certain band, artist, and if by any chance, they live miles away from us, I will legit buy plane tickets and take my kid to wherever the fuck her future husband lives. I will take her to meetings. Buy her merch. Fangirl with her. Because I know what it feels like to have your world falling apart when you can’t meet the person you’d die for. And my daughter won’t feel that way. I won’t let her feel that way. Nope.

What Makes A Witch?

Witch: (noun) a person who practices magic for non-theatrical purposes; a person who identifies their magical practices as witchcraft.

The dictionary may define it differently, but these days, a witch is anyone who practices witchcraft or magic and is comfortable identifying themselves by the term.

For readers who are cringing at the historical connotations of the word, the modern usage of “witch” IS gender neutral, and there are other terms you can use if you like the idea of magic, but don’t like that particular moniker. Certain practices have dedicated terms which are used to describe magic users of that particular tradition. There are also culture-specific terms which are attached to certain ethnic or culture-derived magical traditions. “Practitioner” is the most neutral of neutral terms and can be applied to anyone in any practice, but it is important to respect whichever title a person has chosen or earned for themselves.

There is no specific gender, sexual or romantic preference, race, ethnicity, economic status, level of physical ability, mental aptitude, geographical location, religious affiliation, political alignment, living situation, fashion preference, or amount of public visibility required to identify oneself as a witch.

And don’t let anyone tell you that there’s only One Correct Way of being a witch or practicing your craft. A large part of witchcraft is personal accountability and personal empowerment. You have every right to decide for yourself which path you’re going to follow.

You don’t need to belong to a coven. You don’t need to be part of a specific religion. You don’t need to identify as pagan. You don’t need to dress a certain way. You don’t need to be naked for rituals if you don’t want to be. You don’t need to live in the woods. You don’t need a massive library. You don’t need shelves upon shelves of strange, unidentifiable things in jars. You don’t even need to tell anyone that you’re a witch, if you’d prefer to keep that private.

You just have to be comfortable self-identifying a witch and practicing some form of magic. That’s it. In short, a witch is a witch is a witch (if they so choose).

- Foreword from Grovedaughter Witchery: Practical Spellcraft, by Bree NicGarran

Exciting news!

@princessdan and I have decided to work together to create a new blog dedicated to appreciation and unity within the Phandom!

How it works:

Every day we make a post that shines a spotlight on a different Phan-blog.
The post includes a summary of what content they post, and personal reviews written by each of us.
Requests for certain blogs are always welcome - that way, more blogs can get the attention they deserve!

What are the requirements to have a shot in the spotlight?

You need to feature Phan on your blog (obviously!).
That’s pretty much it!
We plan to feature all kinds of content creators - whether you make phanart, write phanfictions, produce gifs or even just reblog stuff, each and every one of you deserves a shot!
It doesn’t matter how many or how few followers you have, every blog deserves some love!
It is preferable that the main focus of your blog is DnP or Phan, but of course this isn’t necessary.

Why are we doing this?

There are so many creators out there who pour their hearts and souls into their blogs, but don’t necessarily get all the attention they deserve.
The main purpose of this blog is to support those creators and help them get their content noticed!
In general, this blog is a way of celebrating creativity and unity throughout the entire Phandom!
It is dedicated to each and every blog out there who shares the common interest - DnP/Phan - and feels like they have something to contribute!
This is so that a stronger sense of integrity, appreciation and harmony can be created. 

The Phandom is a wonderful place, filled with brilliant and diverse and creative minds, and that fact should be celebrated! We are our own society, in many ways, and that is quite a remarkable feat. Sure, not all of us get along and sometimes it can be tiring or unrewarding, but we believe that this doesn’t have to be the case.

More details to come soon! Contact us if you have any more questions:

Mo: @princessdan
Emily: @kiwicheekychica

Our new blog: @phandomblogappreciation

Here’s to a period of increased unity, publicity and creativity! Remember: every blog has something different to offer, whether it be content or personality or anything really, and that is a wonderful thing that should not be ignored.

Over Again. (Jeon Jungkook.)

Requested – No.

Prompt – Jungkook is at an all time high point in his career and nothing can possibly bring him down, but a girl from his past stumbles upon his life that he never wanted to see again.

Warning – Angst, quite a bit of cursing. By the way, bear with me about the Korean names. I kind of just looked a couple ones up.

Words – 2,008. 


Part 2. 


There are certain moments in a person’s life that makes someone stronger. It could be an act of love that keeps them going, but it also can be an act of hatred that motivates them to do better. Each instant in a person’s life is significant because it can always lead to an event or an occurrence that can change a person’s life. Every word and every action said to a person can be held onto forever.

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It's rant time.

If you ever DARE to call yourself a fan of a group and you single out one or two members and call them names, pick on them for physical features, try and make them insecure or try and make them feel like they should not be in the group in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM….you are NOT a fan. You’re a real shitty person. There are whole twitter pages right now dedicated to hating on members from certain groups. Taehyung from BTS is one I saw today. Saying he can’t sing or dance and picking on his physical features, saying he isn’t a visual and saying quote “ot6 will rise without Taehyung because he’s ugly.” And people are actually agreeing with this awful human being. And she stans Seokjin. Literally tweets about how she loves the other 6 but singles out Taehyung and gives him disgusting hate for NO REASON.

It’s sad that people are so fucking unhappy with themselves and their lives that they have to make someone else feel like shit. Especially someone like him. He has so much love to give and so much warmth in his heart and soul. He loves armies and he loves children, he looks at them with such adoration. He cares for his group members and he is sensitive. He’s such an amazing human being. If you hurt him and insult him, you have no fucking right to call yourself an ARMY. None at all. Armies don’t consider you an army. And you can be damn well sure that bangtan wouldn’t either. As the other 6 absolutely adore Taehyung. He’s one of the most gentle and loving people I’ve ever seen. How dare you insult him and then call yourself an army.

This goes for every other group too. I’ve also seen twitter pages insulting Taeyong from NCT because of mistakes he made when he was what? 12? He’s a GROWN MAN NOW. Are you seriously saying such disgusting and nasty things to him because of mistakes he made when he was a child? I have seen videos of him talking about it and I’ve seen him cry over it. He is absolutely genuine and he is sorry. That’s all he can do. That’s what human beings do. They make mistakes and they apologize and learn from them. He takes care of all of the members and he is a genuinely good person. I really believe that. Wholeheartedly. And if you insult him and then call yourself a fan of NCT, you got some real nerve.

Now I’ll move on to Vernon of Seventeen. Picking on him because he’s half Korean and half white? Really? I’ve heard people say he’s lying about being Korean at all. This is so dumb on every level possible. I’ve seen people pick on him also for his physical features and even his personality like??? Don’t you have better shit to do than pick on this precious fucking gift to the world?

This goes for any group. These are just a few I’ve seen floating around. You can’t bash one member of a group and bully them and then call yourself a fan of the rest. You can’t. It’s all or nothing.

Anyway I’ll never understand why people are such pieces of shit goodnight.

Witchy Terminology

Here’s a list of terminology that has really helped me in my practice.

Altar – sacred space dedicated for a specific purpose such as spell-working or worshiping deities

Amulet – a charm usually worn for protection, to repel evil, and to absorb/banish negative energy

Astral Projection – the act of separating your astral body or your consciousness from your physical self; a voluntary out of body experience 

Astrology – the art and science of predicting certain events and patterns based on the observation of planetary movements and relationships and the study of how these movements and relationships affect terrestrial world events and the health, moods, relationships and personalities of individuals

Aura – a subtle luminescence that surrounds all objects hinting at the energy contained within

Banish – to forcefully remove something; to put an end to something

Bibliomancy/Stichomancy – divination using random pages and passages from books

Bind – to restrict the actions/behavior of someone or to tie them to another object, place, or situation

Book of Shadows – a book used to document spells, rituals, other magickal workings, and personal experiences

Cartomancy – divination using a deck of cards, i.e. tarot cards

Centering – to calm your emotions and focus on the task ahead; usually done after grounding

Ceromancy – divination using a candle/the flame of a candle

Channeling – also called “drawing;” to gather energy from an external source i.e. the sun or moon

Charged Water non-consumable water that has been infused with oils, herbs, or energy from another source; used for cleansing, anointing, ritual work, etc.

Charging – to infuse an item with energy from either yourself or another source

Charm – an item that has been enchanted with a spell

Cleanse – to rid an object or space of negative energy

Consecrate – to “bless” an object, usually for a specific magickal purpose 

Curse – the act of causing misfortune to a victim; directing negative energy towards the target 

Deosil/Deocil – clockwise; generally used to invoke/evoke something, bring about positive energies, or to cast a circle

Divination – the practice of seeking knowledge of the future or the unknown by supernatural means

Dowsing – a type of divination employed in attempts to locate hidden items by using a dowsing rod or pendulum

Dream Work – any magickal or mystical work done in dream space, or while sleeping

Elixir – a potion made for medicinal purposes 

Enchanting – to infuse an object with magickal intent

Energy Work – any work that involves changes to the human energy field or subtle body

Evoke – to call a spirit or entity, to summon it forth, and to bring it into the place where you are, particularly in hopes of gaining its favor

Gem Elixir – an elixir infused with the energy of a crystal or mineral 

Grimoire – a kind of textbook used by magickal practitioners for reference; sometimes used interchangeably with “book of shadows”

Grounding – to release negative and excess energy

Hex – commonly used synonymously with “curse” to describe baneful spell work, but can also be used in reference to general spell work and those who practice it 

Incantation – the words used when casting a spell

Intent – your goal or purpose for spell work 

Invoke – to draw a spirit being or entity into your own body 

Meditation - a method of calming the mind, either by emptying it of thought or by focusing on one thing in order to reach a state of relaxation or an altered state of consciousness

Numerology – divination using the interpretation of numbers, dates, and the number value of letters

Palmistry – a form of divination that relies on the interpretation of the lines and structure of the hand

Pantheon – historically, a temple in Rome dedicated to all the Gods of the Roman people; in modern usage the word Pantheon has come to describe the family of Gods itself

Philter – a potion used specifically in love spells; love potion 

Poppet – a doll used to represent a target in spell work 

Potion – a consumable liquid that has been enchanted to produce magickal effects 

Psychometry – divination by touching an object and gaining impressions from it

Ritual – a series of actions performed in a pre-defined order

Runes – written symbols which represent sounds or ideas; can be used for divination 

Sachet – a small bag of herbs, crystals, or other objects that is meant to bring about a desired effect; essentially acts as a charm 

Sacred Space – any space that has been designated for a specific sacred purpose

Scrying – a method of divination that involves gazing into a reflective surface such as water, mirrors, or a crystal ball 

Shield – a personal protective barrier, similar to a ward

Sorcerer/Sorceress – used to describe someone who practices magick

Sorcery – the use of rituals, symbols, actions, gestures and language that are believed to exploit supernatural forces

Spell – a combination of words, actions and/or objects used in a symbolic way to bring about a magickal result

Talisman – an object used to attract or gain power or energy; can be worn

Tasseography – divination using tea leaves 

Uncrossing – the removal of a type of curse or “cross” that has been laid upon an individual that makes a certain area of their lives difficult because of negative energy that is attached to them causing them to see and experience only difficulties in that area

Ward – a protective barrier; may be maintained by a spell, a talisman, a symbol or some other physical or energy object

Widdershins – counter-clockwise; used to banish negative energy or take down a circle 

Witch/Wizard – used to describe someone who practices magick 

Witchcraft – the use of sorcery or magick to alter the physical world around you; used interchangeably with sorcery 

Zodiac – refers to the constellations that ring the apparent path the sun takes throughout the year

(Last edited on: 9-10-2016)

Virgo Decans

~ Virgo Decan 1 (August 24th - September 3rd)

I am ruled by the planet Mercury. My personality is characterised by a disciplined nature, trustworthiness and generosity. I have a tendency to be very methodical and ordered in specific areas of my life, while incredibly scatty and messy in other areas. The order and neatness I give to certain areas of my life, border on the obsessive. As an Earth element sign, I work hard to achieve all that I want for myself. And with my highly disciplined and logical mind I work best in careers that require dedication, attention to detail and practicality. I am entirely honest and trustworthy and If I believe a job Is worth doing, I will do it very well. I make an excellent employee because of my work ethic and I am respected for it. In relationships I am extremely loyal, dependable and faithful. I have a very generous nature and like to spoil those that I hold dear. I often put the needs of others before myself and I am seen as extremely caring and considerate.

~ Virgo Decan 2 (September 4th - September 13th)

I am ruled by the planet Saturn. My personality is characterised by brilliant organization skills, a strong will and tactfulness. I have a natural ability to bring order to even the most chaotic of situations. I am unflappable, practical and disciplined and wont stop until I get the job done. I have tremendous organizational skills and can direct others very well with motivation, delegation and assertiveness. This makes for me being a great boss and superb manager. I am strong willed and determined to improve and better everything and everyone -including myself. I simply do not like things that are less than perfect. All Virgos are perfectionists but me particularly so. I also expect and demand perfection in others and so become disappointed when others let me down. I am very diplomatic and tactful and I am the sole of discretion. Secrets and confidences given to me are kept.

~ Virgo Decan 3 (September 14th - September 22)

I am ruled by the planet Venus. My personality is characterised by a reserved nature, an artistic sense and sensitivity. I am shy, reserved and timid. I quietly go about my business without disturbing others. I prefer the known to the unknown and feel most comfortable with habit, repetition and routine. I do not like to be centre of attention but prefer instead a background role. I am reluctant to share my thoughts and feelings with others but once I get to know people and become relaxed with them then I feel I can be myself and open up a little. I have an artistic flair and apply this to my appearance and home décor. I like to feel comfortable but also stylish. My artistic flair can be turned to my advantage when seeking a career path as an artist, musician, designer or architect. I am very sensitive and can be moved easily by my strong emotions. I love easily but can be hurt easily too. I care deeply about what others think of me. My sensitivity extends to my love of beauty too as I have a keen eye for artistic merit.

anonymous asked:

Hi there I'm a nature Sea witch and I was wondering if you could tell me what are the basic things you need in your grimoire?

As with most things in witchcraft, there are no set rules or requirements. I’ll outline some things you personally might want to concider, but in the end it is up to you.

This is your book of learning, and possibly your legacy if you so choose. It can be clean and organized for ease of reference, or simply a place to jot down ideas and practices in whatever order. Think about what is important to you in your craft. Maybe dedicate a page to what your personal beliefs are, or why you chose to pursue nature and sea witchcraft.

Your grimoire can be your cookbook, as it were, where you record the components of spells, charms, potions, or even actual food recipes that inspire you.

It can be a journal of sorts, a place to log your dreams, note experiences with certain events and draw corrispondenses (moon phases, sabbats, etc.), or just to mention something extrodinary that happened to you.

It can be your textbook. If you stumble across a complicated idea or practice, you don’t have to commit is all to memory. Write down important dates, corrispondenses (herb uses, crystal uses, color uses, etc.), why things happen the way they do, and much more. Number the pages, make an index, or quick reference pages by marking them with pits of ribbon. The world is your oyster!

It can be your scrapbook. Paste dried flowers in your favorite entries. Print something out you find online and stick it in with the rest. Add bits of brightly colored paper, use glitter, watercolor, try your hand at calligraphy or font variation, decorate with stickers or washi tape. Make you grimoire imbued with you energy, make it a window to your soul. Make it your own.

Hope this inspired you a little, best wishes!

- Bird🌹

The fear of getting hurt again has only led you to hurt yourself. Come out now. Come out while there’s still some living left to be done. This person who hurt you doesn’t deserve to still dictate your life decisions. Your discipline and dedication to structure is an illusion. You’re still powerless because you’re letting certain incidents define your life. If you really want to be in control again, you have to learn to let go again. It’s the only way.
—  Ryan O'Connell, “The Fear Of Getting Hurt Again”
Shade Comes From Mind Reading, Darling | Pearlet/Jalaska/Trixya/Biadore | Ramona


-holy fucking shit this took so long to write i started in like february lmao

-i made an author blog bc thts what the cool kids are doing so hmu on artificialramona

-someone called kenny pops up in this fic a bit, he’s jinkx’s best friend/tour manager/general tiny bean. he’s the one who keeps appearing on courtney and adore’s snapchat n arm wrestled violet

-god bless kiwi for beta-ing this fic n being me pearlet data base ilu bb

-this is dedicated to cheshire because i am a horrible person n they wanted to collab on my witchcraft idea but then i just wrote it on my own n i will literally die feeling bad about it

-i worked bloody hard on this i deserve a ridiculously long author’s note


“It was just a general psychic thing, nothing specific. I don’t understand why it’s only certain thoughts,” Jerick explains, “it’s like my narrator got sloppy with their plotline or something.”

warnings: drug/smoking mentions in the chapters “oops” and “shit gets weird.” i tried to do the most tasteful pearlet smut i could in the chapter “accidental voyeurism isn’t as funny as it sounds.” alcohol consumption in the chapters “american horror story: brian mccook” and “another layer on the crazy cake” and mentions throughout.

fic drinking game: take a shot every time jinkx is referred to as “the redhead.“ word count: 13.4k

•song inspo for the pairings•

Pearl and Violet // Me vs Maradonna vs Elvis by Brand New

Adore and Bianca // Somebody Else by The 1975

Trixie and Katya // Wicked Little Town and its reprise from Hedwig and The Angry Inch

Jinkx and Pearl friendship // Comfort by Basement

Jinkx and Alaska // The Only Exception by Paramore

“i hate the wittiness and ability to evoke distress in me ramona withholds and i am planning on sabotaging both in the future. i hate ramona. god, i hope ramona dies. i hope i die.” -kiwi


Right At The Very Beginning (A Very Good Place To Start).

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anonymous asked:

Wait I'm confused, do you think you're Eva Braun or am I just misinterpreting everything rn

Yes, I am and was in my past life. I’ve had memories since age five and have seen a specialist who has verified my memories and worked through numerous sessions of past life regressions with me. I have also seen numerous psychics who have performed trance work and several past life readings. I have a page on here dedicated to a few of my past life memories, the rest remain in my journal untranslated as they’re in German. Everyone who I’ve come across has spoken about my similarity both in facial features and overall personality as a direct comparison. My grandmother would speak to me about the war at a very young age, she worked at Hoffmann’s the same time around Eva did. When I was young she would often speak about the certain aura I had and energy and would say I was just like the Eva she once knew. When my mother was 7 months pregnant with me my grandmother had a precognition - and told my mother to call me Eva. My Past Life is central to my core and overall identity. It effects my daily happenings and several aspects of my life.

Klaine Advent Drabble - “Amenities and Perks” (Rated T)

Kurt despises using the communal laundry room in the basement of his apartment building … but after meeting a charming young man (who’s not afraid to show a little skin), Kurt might just change his mind. (1899 words)

Meet cute AU. Written for the Klaine Advent Drabble prompt ‘charm’ and dedicated to my husband - he should know why ;) 

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Communal laundry room.

Those three words strung together make Kurt’s skin crawl.

He may be a little “high maintenance” when it comes to certain things, but he doesn’t consider himself a snob. However, there are two spaces he hates sharing (with people he doesn’t know) more than anything in the world – bathrooms and laundry rooms. Too much personal, intimate stuff happens in those two rooms, much of which surrounds underwear, so he’d rather not get too many strangers involved.

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Fixing Mad Things

There’s a long sigh from an old bones. A crimson glow staring at the tatters of one shoulder of his coat. 

Seems he has no choice. He’s going to have to call for help from Sprinkles and Shy.

One thing is for certain, he’s not letting this coat go for the world. There’s only one person he knows that might be able to help him with his coat, and one other Fragment that he knows that is a dedicated healer.

He could use both right now. Best to bite the bullet and get it over with. His coat lands with a rush of fabric onto the back of his chair, right on top of a still battered vest.

Picking up his phone and sending a text to both brothers requesting their assistance.

anonymous asked:

I don't get why you dedicate your updates to people. Especially when they don't have anything to do with your writing. They didn't have the decency to even comment on it

it’s like… you don’t know what a mobile phone is

Okay, sarkiness aside, I don’t see why it’s bothering anyone? It’s my story, they’re my chapters, I’ll dedicate them if I want to? Especially if a certain person has encouraged me to write when I’ve been blocked, or been there for me recently, or I just feel like making one of my friends smile if I have the power to, like… It’s just a nice thing to do?

Which, generally speaking, doesn’t require recognition, but 99.999999% of the time, I get profuse thank yous and smiles and emojis and reactions… Just because they’re not public doesn’t mean they’re not there?

Mehak gave me almost 5 solid minutes of thorough SnapChat reactions to the CB update, I’ll take that over a half-assed public ‘thank you’ on Tumblr any day tbh

Saw Inside Out Today

and it got me thinking what would it be like in an autistic persons head?

imagine the control panel over heating and shutting down until it cools down (shutdowns)

imagine the screen into the outside world glitching because there’s too much to process, so the emotions don’t know what to do and one of them (usually anger, though not always) slamming a red button causing a meltdown

imagine certain emotion buttons being for stims. Joy makes them flap, sadness makes them stroke their favourite fabric, fear makes them rock e.t.c 

imagine disgust constantly over reacting due to SPD 

imagine a personality island being dedicated to special interests 

imagine joy almost completely taking over when they do anything relating to their special interest (the others barely get a look in)

imagine the emotions button mashing so body language, tone of voice, facial expression don’t match/reflect what the person actually feels. 

imagine the jellybean workers (dunno what to call them) sending up a memory of a movie/tv show quote or song and the emotions keeping it there for hours whilst the person echolalis/vocal stims with it because it makes them happy

I’m sorry but this concept makes me very happy

Then, Sasuke was desperately trying to break his ties of friendship with Uzumaki Naruto, but now Sasuke was grateful to him, and he is relieved that he did not let go of their friendship back then, many thanks to him, now that he still never lets go of their friendship, back then Naruto was the only one that has faith in him.

But that was not all, even though he have abandoned, ditched, and many times cold to this certain person,

Haruno Sakura has dedicated her love for me

And always tries to give the spring sunshine in his own dark life.

And also, the frozen colored hair shinobi, Hatake Kakashi, Sasuke’s teacher, he always continued to watch Sasuke, and treat him like he is still a member of Team 7, even now during these past-conflict days, he still trusts Sasuke, even Kakashi gave him the freedom to see the world like a scarecrow.

—  akatsuki hiden prologue
My weightloss journey.

This is my story, my journey. This is not a fairy tale, but it does finish with a happy ending. I was overweight my whole life, and at a certain point I hit obesity. I was unhappy, unhealthy and my self esteem was on the ground. I had no friends and very few goals in life, until I decided to make a change: love myself, treat me with respect and dedicate to be the person I wanted to be. So I did. Fortunately I had the support of my sister who was a very important part in this process, without her, all this would’ve been harder or nearly impossible. I started on my heaviest when I was around 90 kg and today I’m a healthy woman of 54.5 kg. It was hard, it took me awhile but I finally reached the top of the moon. 

Esta es mi historia, mi viaje. Esto no es un cuento de hadas, pero sí tiene un final feliz. Yo tuve sobrepeso toda mi vida y en un cierto punto alcancé la obesidad. Era infeliz, nada saludable y mi autoestima estaba por los suelos. No tenía amigos y muy pocas metas en la vida hasta que decidí cambiar: amarme a mi misma, tratarme con respeto y dedicarme a ser la persona que siempre quise ser. Así que lo hice. Afortunadamente contaba con el apoyo de mi hermana, quien fue una importante pieza en este proceso, sin ella, todo esto hubiera sido mucho más difícil e incluso imposible. Lo más que llegué a pesar fueron alrededor de 90 kg y hoy, soy una mujer saludable de 54.5 kg. Fue difícil, me tomó algo de tiempo pero finalmente alcancé los cuernos de la luna. 

There comes a point in the final book where each House has the choice whether or not to rise to a certain challenge, and that’s everyone in the House. The Slytherins, for reasons that are understandable, decide they’d rather not play. The Ravenclaws, some decide they will, some decide they won’t. The Hufflepuffs, virtually to a person, stay, as do the Gryffindors. Now, the Gryffindors comprise a lot of foolhardy and show-offy people, that’s just the way it is, I’m a Gryffindor, I’m allowed to say it. You know, there’s bravery, and there’s also showboating, and sometimes the two go together. The Hufflepuffs stayed for a different reason; they weren’t trying to show off, they weren’t being reckless, that’s the essence of Hufflepuff House. Now my oldest child (my daughter, Jessica) said something very profound to me, not very many days ago, actually, she said to me –and she, by the way, was not sorted into Hufflepuff House– but, she said to me, ‘I think we should all want to be Hufflepuffs.’ I can only say to you, that I would not be at all disappointed to be sorted into Hufflepuff House.
—  JK Rowling’s “Harry Potter: Beyond the Page”

i don’t think it’s any more fair to call victor a bad coach than it is to call him a bad boyfriend. both are wrong. victor is an inexperienced coach–there’s a difference here.

i’ve said before that who your coach is can be just as important as your own time and dedication to a sport, because people’s personalities and work habits can be very different, and some coaches are just better for certain people than they are for others (partly why i imagine celestino’s not bothered at all by yuuri’s coach change–he probably has athletes change coaches all the time, and honestly, he was probably struggling with yuuri from his perspective too). i’ve said that these coach-athlete relationships are deep and powerful and meaningful and go hand in hand with success. this is obviously where victor excels from his unique relationship with yuuri, but let’s also look at some more technical aspects of this!

  1. victor said he wasn’t going to hold back in his coaching. this is important. he’s not going easy on yuuri: he’s going to push him when he sees fit. in coaching, this is important.
  2. yuuri has exceeded his personal best score in his short program (and maybe even his free program, though i don’t remember as well) multiple times. the first time we saw him receive a score on “eros” it was in the 90s, and i think they said it was about 10 points higher than his previous best? so by the time yuuri hits a 109 in his SP score, he is scoring over twenty points higher in his short program than he did a season ago. he was given tougher choreography and the coaching to master that choreography. victor played the choreography to yuuri’s strengths.
  3. victor gives yuuri sound advice: get enough sleep. don’t jump during your warm-up, because it might shake your confidence. you can nail that during the performance. let’s go somewhere else away from people don’t get too much in your head. don’t overthink it. inspire your competitors. remember that i am with you and just enjoy your skating. yuuri just doesn’t actually listen.
  4. that’s a communication issue–but it’s not necessarily victor’s fault! that’s an issue of experience, and it’s something they’d need to work on improving together.
  5. “my job is to make you feel more confident” –> “yuuri doesn’t doubt his decisions any more”
  6. yuuri starts with one, maybe two quad jumps in his artillery–rarely ever landing that second jump, the salchow, in practice. by the time a few months pass, he is reliably and consistently landing the quad salchow in competition. in fact, he’s even fully rotating and landing a quadruple flip in the latter half of his programs with only a small touch down on the ice with a hand. this is huge. victor has done more than enough work with yuuri in practice to help him learn how to do these jumps that he could not do before.
  7. victor lectures him after his performances if they weren’t perfect, even if yuuri did a pretty good job. this!! is!!! good!!!!!! this is GOOD!!! he never says these performances were bad–he says here’s how they could have been better. every time i swam, especially if i didn’t get a best time, i immediately spoke to my coach on how i could have been better. the best time to go over your performance/competition is immediately following, when it is still fresh. victor praises yuuri when he should be praised (yuuri doesn’t skate a perfect free in ep7, does he? but does victor lecture him there or after ep9? i don’t think so). 
  8. he’s shown clearly trying to help get yuuri in a performance mindset before his programs, particularly eros, trying to pump him up. (includes trying to make sure yuuri is able to enjoy himself) when yuuri failed in ep11, victor didn’t say anything about his score and just sat with him because he knew how that felt and that was not the time to say anything.

victor’s inexperienced and has some mistakes in communication with yuuri, but for a green coach, he’s actually doing extremely well.