this is accurate on the most of the cases

Sugar bowl facts

After couple of years sugaring this is what I’ve observed regarding SD/SB sites

-what I’ve recently read and which is 100% accurate, anyone worth of knowing won’t be in such sites. Full. Stop.

-most of men that have profiles are in best case upper middle class guys. You won’t find a multimillionaire sitting behind his computer chasing girls online. Would you? I wouldn’t. Reality is all of true rich men have access to upscale bars, clubs, restaurants, country clubs, lounges where they can meet dozens of beautiful women, DAILY. In worst case he will book a girl trough established agency (his assistant will) if he is more of an introvert or has no time for socializing.

-top income on these site is NOT above 200k after taxes. And majority of those men are MARRIED, which means his wife has access to his cards/accounts and has knowledge of his financial behavior, do you think she won’t be suspicious if all of a sudden large amounts start missing from his account? Of course she will. Other are divorced with couple of kids, which means ALIMONY. So don’t expect mind blowing amounts spent on you.

-if he offers out of the blue 10k + apartment + car, most likely it is a SCAM. In order a man to be eligible for such spending on someone else his income should be at least 700-800k after taxes. In average, a man won’t spend more than 20% of his income on you. How do y'all think a man who earns 200k-300k will just drop half of his money on you? He also has daily/monthly/yearly expenses of his own. He’ll just go broke because of you? NO. Be realistic.

-there probably is one who is able to spend such amounts on you as mentioned above but finding him on these sites would be a pure luck. Like jackpot once in a blue moon.

-if he doesn’t discuss your allowance and what exactly he can offer in first few messages, he is probably not a legitimate SD, or just a Splenda most likely salt. A real SD knows the game. Don’t fall for that “make me a proposal/offer”. That’s BS.

-if he only offers to communicate via Skype he is almost sure a SCAM. Never settle for this type of communication, either he can video call via Viber or FaceTime. Say you don’t use Skype. Not negotiable.

-if he isn’t ready to provide his photos in first few exchanged texts, DROP him. There is no valid excuse for this. Unless he is on Forbes 100. Or running a Fortune 500 company. Which isn’t close to impossible. Always choose video call over exchanging photos. (What i recently witnessed was a man who sent me photos of a dead US businessman, he probably thought if we are from Europe I won’t know this) -luckily there is google image search

-ALWAYS and I repeat always try with google reverse image search. Also look up his number.

-if he refuses to tell you his full name there is a good reason behind it, a BAD one. Leave him.

-Under NO circumstances negotiate the sexual part of an arrangement, he exactly knows what he will be getting. You get the “dos and donts ” question, block him, real SD never asks such questions over the phone.

-make sure you discuss about his stated budget. Ask if those are his spending habits or he would be actually willing to spend that on you. Does that include only your allowance or it includes all of the monthly expenses he would have regarding you (e.g. Trips, dinners, gifts, shopping sprees etc)

-don’t be shy to ask anything you want to know prior to your meet, if you have any doubts or unclear stuff, ASK.

-if you are traveling/flying out to meet him make sure all of your transportation/flight tickets/hotel room is paid in full, IN ADVANCE, with email confirmation of the receipts which are NON REFUNDABLE. He can always cancel your hotel booking for example.

-if he asks you to fly out but to buy your own tickets and he’ll reimburse you when you meet, NEVER do this!!! Real SD would never ever propose such situation, or he will send you money prior to your meet so you can purchase it, if he doesn’t want it to be shown on his credit card.

-always bring your own money to a pot date, no matter if it’s just a coffee date or dinner or flying over to other city/country. Remember, he can walk out on you any time and leave you out to dry. Imagine if you don’t like him really and need to for example take another room, take your ticket earlier, take a taxi home etc, possibilities are endless. Make sure you are SAFE regarding funds.

-NEVER send more than 4 photos (2 showing your face and upper body and two showing your body from different angles/poses) any of these men asking for more are pic collectors. Whenever you can choose a video call over exchanging photos.

-if you meet him and he looks different than his photos LEAVE immediately. EVACUATE. Code RED. You think he is providing something substantial if he can’t even provide a proper photo of himself? NO.

-Never ever agree to unprotected sex. No excuses are valid enough. Even though you are in a long term arrangement he probably is seeing other women too. Unless he’ll provide you a STD check (HIV, HPV, HEP a, b, c too) not older than 48h prior to your rendezvous, from a clinic you personally chose. Medical checks, reports can be forged.

-make sure that you first get your end before giving him his part of the bargain. FIRST THE MONEY THEN THE HONEY. No peep shows, no trial periods, no compatibility checks. You see a meal you never tried in a restaurant, decided to order from the menu, you didn’t really like it, yet you still have to pay for it? YES.

-Do not fall for the first man that texts you, sugaring REQUIRES patience and practice.

-Do not settle for exclusivity unless all of your monthly expenses are fully covered plus there is spending money left, and enough for at least a month if he drops you out of the blue. Don’t think you will ever be his one and only.

-When he says NO DRAMA in his profile text that means no drama from you, not from him. No PROs or ESCORTs means he can’t afford one or he can’t afford to be screened, because he has something to hide - something BAD.

-if he is not able to meet in few days after your initial conversation he is most likely a TIME WASTER, or if he books you a ticket and not confirm two three days before the actual meet do not go, unless you want a free trip and have an interest of your own visiting that place.

-if he offers less than a 5* hotel accommodation, drop that cheap ass, he probably is just a SALT.

-when he states most important things for him are connection and affection he has no intention of compensating for your time.

-there is no UPPER age limits for being a sugar baby, you think he wouldn’t date J-Lo ? Yes he would but he can’t afford it! When guy says he prefers very young girls it’s because he knows they are easier to trick and have lack of experience.

-REMEMBER: if something is too good to be true it’s because it usually is. Don’t fall for words, SEEING is BELIEVING.

-if he somehow gets uncomfortable when getting a bill in the restaurant or makes comments on prices or starts making a face, never see him again, no real SD will make a comment over couple of bucks. If possible, check how much he tipped the waiter.

-if he says along the way he isn’t into luxury and prefers something more humble/down to earth, leave that mofo, YOU ARE a LUXURY.

-if he is too demanding compared to what he is providing, he is actually using you, do not fall for that (ask for way to many photos/text exchange etc)

Always keep this small reminder in your head.

Happy sugaring!!!

Star Trek Character Ages

Over the past few days my sister and I have been doing very important research; we looked up the ages of all of the Star Trek characters. Quite possibly one of the most nerdy things I have spent my time doing, but, the results are quite interesting in some cases. So here you go tumblr.

*note: all of these ages were calculated using either birth years found on memory alpha or memory beta, so they may not be 100% correct, but I tried to be as accurate as possible.*

——At the start of their time on the series—–

TOS:
Kirk-32
Spock-34
Bones-38
Uhura-26
Sulu-28
Checkov-22
Scotty-43

TNG:
Picard-59
Riker-30
Data-26 (based on activation date)
Troi-28
Geordi-29
Beverley Crusher-40
Wesley Crusher-16
Yar-27
Worf-24

DS9:
Sisko-37
Kira-26
Jadzia-28
Ezri-21
Dax (symbiont)- 351(born in 2018!!! Guys that is pretty soon)
Bashir-28
O’Brien-41
Odo- 32 (based on date he was first found)
Quark- unknown (no recorded DOB)
Jake-14
Worf-32

Voyager:
Janeway-36
Chakotay-42
Tuvok-107
Tom-25
B’Elanna-25
Harry-22
The Doctor-0 (Activation date)
Kes-1
Neelix-34
7 of 9-21 (however she spent time in a Borg maturation chamber)

Enterprise:
Archer-39
T’Pol-63
Trip-30
Phlox-Unknown
Reed-29
Hoshi-22
Travis-25
Porthos-Unknown, but at least 2 years old

Go forth with the newfound knowledge you have gained! 

Mark Rothko, Saffron, 1957, Oil on canvas, © VBK Wien, 2007, Albertina, Vienna, permanent loan of Batliner Collection

This is a very interesting new scan of Saffron. It’s certainly more resolved than our previous scan here. Followers of this blog know I like to replace posts with the best, most accurate scan i can so the posts evolve with the most realism. However, in this case I am not quite ready to replaces the old scan and say this is more accurate. I realize the old scan is pushed a lot on the contrast end and certainly there’s more brush detail here. However, this scan may be on the red/orange side and the old one may be closer to the actual color. We’ve seen this painting bright yellow to dark red. Am I being overly cautious not replacing something I know is better resolution? Perhaps, but the ability to have both for a while may also be of value. I’m going to leave them both up for now and be happy for this high quality new version and hope someone in Vienna can tell us what we’re missing.

How to Adult: Cover Letter Edition

So I have several followers who are working on applying to jobs right now, and by far the most common concern is “what even is a cover letter??”  Now, while this post is funny and accurate, it’s not super helpful if you’re looking for specifics.  So I figured I should show you mine.  Now, without further ado, allow me to provide to you:

~*~ The Cover Letter of Destiny ~*~

[Name]
[Address Line 1]
[Address Line 2, etc]
[Phone]
[email]

[Right Justified - Date]  (This is just standard business letter stuff)

To Whom it May Concern, [Or Mr/Ms. Hiring Person’s name, if you can find it.] 

I’m delighted to submit an application for the [Job you’re applying to] position at [Company/Institution/etc].  After reading the job description I’m certain I would bring a solid combination of  [Skill 1], analytical thinking [or whatever Skill 2 is], and communication skills [This is always my Skill 3] to this position.  I’m particularly attracted to this position because I believe it will utilize the skills I have gained through my industry [or research or whatever] experience, and allow me to apply those skills in new areas. 

In my role with [Company] as a [Most Relevant Position Here], I managed a project [to do some stuff - flesh out your most important/relevant job responsibilities here].  I specifically focused on [a thing that is the most explicitly relevant to the job posting.  In fact, I creatively copy/pasted some of the job posting into this sentence, that’s how relevant it is.].  I was also responsible for [A couple of things that maybe were mentioned in the job posting, or at least show increased responsibility over time].  This gave me the opportunity to collaborate with a variety of different team members [to achieve a goal]. Through these and other job duties, I have gained excellent listening skills and the ability to carry out self-directed tasks in the context of a larger team. [i’m not joking. use this phrasing it’s so great just copy it idgaf]

 In my current role as a [Current Title] with [Company], I have continued to build strong skills in project management [or whatever] as well as clear oral and written communication. [Maybe this sentence describes the types of communication (or whatever skill) you do.]   [This sentence describes briefly the less-relevant work you do].  [This sentence ties in your less-relevant job to the job you are seeking].  These experiences have prepared me well to succeed in a role as [Name of Position you’re applying to].

Thank you for taking the time to review my materials and consider my application. I am excited at the prospect of applying my skills to a [Name or category of position] with [Company], and I feel that the knowledge and skills I have gained through my experience will be a great benefit to the team. Please do not hesitate to contact me with questions as I would welcome a chance to discuss this opportunity more. [After all, they want to hire you after reading this]

Regards,

 [First Name Last Name]

I hope you find this helpful in your job search!  Just remember to focus on skills you learned rather than specific experiences or titles you’ve had.  Don’t be afraid of inflating it too far, either.  There are real useful skills underlying every job task if you look hard & get creative with your phrasing. 

Feel free to send me an ask if you want any specific advice on how to spin your education/work history into the job you want, or if you want a proofreader or cheerleader or whatever.  Job hunting is a bad game designed by and for a certain type of person.  It’s dehumanizing and horrible even at the best of times, so I’m more than happy to help anyone find a way to beat the system.  <3 <3 

Logical fallacies

I was going to post the second “Thinkbox” today but I noticed that this might be more important. So I will list logical fallacies that most people fall into all the time. It is really important that these fallacies don’t cloud your mind when you try to make accurate deductions. If you, the reader notice that you may be a victim of any of these fallacies try to change your way of thinking.

Formal logical fallacies

- Anecdotal fallacy - To use personal experience as proof instead of statistics.
Example: “All women have long hair” because I’ve only met women with long hair.
A way to avoid: Realize that personal experience isn’t as accurate as statistics that have been done on many more people than you can meet.

- Appeal to probability - To think that because something is probable it’s also always the case.
Example: “You must be right handed” because most people are.
A way to avoid: The probability of something does never grantee you that it is correct.

- Conjunction fallacy - Assumption that an outcome simultaneously satisfying multiple conditions is more probable than an outcome satisfying a single one of them.
Example: “Linda is 31 years old, single, outspoken, and very bright. She majored in philosophy. As a student, she was deeply concerned with issues of discrimination and social justice, and also participated in anti-nuclear demonstrations.
Which is more probable?
1. Linda is a bank teller.
2. Linda is a bank teller and is active in the feminist movement.”
Most people chose 2. But the probability of the two occurring together is less or equal to the probability of them occurring alone.
Pr(Linda is a bank teller) = 0.05
Pr(Linda is a feminist) = 0.95
Pr(Linda is a bank teller and a feminist) = 0.05 x 0.95 = 0.0475.
So the probability of her being both are lower than the lowest.
A way to avoid: Just because something seems to fit well together doesn’t mean it does. Try to think critically.

Informal logical fallacies

- Argumentum ad lapidem - Dismissing a claim as false without proof of its absurdity.
Example: “A: Atoms does not exist.
B: Why do you say that?
A: It’s ridiculous.”
A way to avoid: Don’t dismiss anything at first until you have researched the subject you think may be false.

- Argumentum ad ignorantiam - Assuming that a claim is true because it hasn’t been disproven.
Example: “A: Spirits exist.
B: No.
A: Prove that they aren’t real.”
A way to avoid: Don’t think that a hypothesis you have come up it true just because someone else can’t prove it wrong. Extraordinary claims require exceptional proof.

- Divine fallacy - You can’t imagine it to be true so it must be false.
Example: “A: Murder only happen in films
B: Why do you think that?
A: I can’t imagine anyone doing something so wrong.”
A way to avoid: Stop thinking that improbable is the same as false. Like the great Sherlock Holmes once said “When you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth”.

- Argumentum ad nauseam, argumentum ad infinitum - A topic has been discussed so much that is is seen as true or people don’t care anymore.
Example: “You have the left thumb over your right when your fingers are intervened. That means that you are right handed.”
A way to avoid: Stop accepting statements as true, conduct som research. Even if it’s on a small scale it might give you som pointers.

- Argumentum ex silentio - Conclusion is based on the absence of evidence instead of proper evidence.
Example: “A: Ah you are quiet so you did kill him.
B: But I didn’t say anything?
A: That’s why I know!”
A way to avoid: Try not to assume anything without evidence.

- Argumentum ad hominem - To attack a person instead of their argument.
Example: “A: I like ice cream.
B: Well you’re stupid.”
A way to avoid: You likely know that you’re doing this to some extent, so try to be a good debater and come up with a good counter argument. Or maybe just try to understand the other persons point of view.

- Onus probandi - To make a claim and think that other people must accept it or disprove it themselves.
Example: “A: Dogs always lick their owner when greeting them.
B: Not always.
A: Prove that they don’t.”
A way to avoid: Always try to prove your claims, it is your responsibility.

- Circulus in demonstrando - When you begin with the conclusion you’ll end up with.
Example: “A: I think he is right handed.
B: Why?
A: Emm.. Maybe because he has his watch on the left arm?
B: That doesn’t necessarily mean that.
A: It must mean that!”
A way to avoid: Try to observe first and make a conclusion based on the facts. Like Sherlock said “It is a capital mistake to theorize before one has data. Insensibly one begins to twist facts to suit theories, instead of theories to suit facts”.

- Post hoc ergo propter hoc - Assumption that correlation is the same as causation.
Example: “He had an heart attack when riding a roller coaster, so that means I will have one on the roller coaster too.”
A way to avoid: Think about the problem you have, does the correlation really equals causation?

- Fallacy of composition - To assume that the whole is true because a part of it is true.
Example: “All cells are aquatic. Therefore all organisms (which are composed of cells) are aquatic.”
A way to avoid: Like earlier, try to be critical and don’t accept something as true without research.

- Black or white fallacy - Two statements are held to be the only possible option, when in reality there is more.
Example: “The coin can only land heads up or tails up”.
A way to avoid: If you are used to problem solving this shouldn’t be to much of a problem. Try to keep an open mind when solving a problem.

- Fallacy of the single cause - Assumption that there is one simple cause of an outcome when in reality it may have been caused by multiple events.
Example: “She has a fear of spiders because she had one in her hair when she was young” When it may have been more that contributed to the phobia.
A way to avoid: Don’t assume that everything is caused by one event, try seeing the whole picture.

- Psychologist’s fallacy - Presumes you can be objective in your judgement.
Example: “A: Something will happen to you if you go out this late.
B: You only say that because I’m your daughter.”
A way to avoid: This is something that is hard to avoid, we as humans will always be biased when it comes to things we care about, so try breathing and think calmly about the problem you wish to solve if you can’t ignore it.

Even though you know these fallacies they will still affect you. No human can get rid of them all, “errare humanum est” (to err is human). But being aware of them hopefully helps you think about the problem you face a bit more.
The ones you should be most aware of is:

Anecdotal fallacy.
This I see all the time. People think that their own experiences must be what everybody else is experiencing too. This is a problem when reading studies and the results of the studies doesn’t correlate with your own experience, so you don’t believe it as much.

Appeal to probability.
Something that people new to deduction often seem to think is that it’s always foolproof. That even though most things in deduction is statistically based it must come true all the time. This isn’t the case, and new people discard deduction as something they cannot learn or something that is false and that’s tragic.

Argumentum ad lapidem.
If you as a deductionist disregard a fact as false without proper evidence you may have trouble learning the art of deduction. Being critical is good but to disregard it entirely isn’t.

Argumentum ad ignorantiam.
Likewise assuming that a fact is true because it can’t be disproven seems to be a trend in the world of deduction. I am still baffled by how many people think that long fingers is connected to piano playing (it’s the fingers flexibility that is connected to it.)

Divine fallacy.
This falls into the same category as the two above.

Onus probandi.
If you have come up with something then it’s also your responsibility to prove it to be right, if you care about it being proven to be correct.

Circulus in demonstrando.
My students in deduction have all done this mistake at least one time each. Try to observe then make deductions.

Post hoc ergo propter hoc.
Correlation does not equal causation.

Fallacy of composition.
If a deductionist have some parts of deduction figured out, well that doesn’t mean they know everything.

Black or white fallacy.
Most of the time it exists more than two options, your job as a deductionist is to figure out which of the options is more likely.

Psychologist’s fallacy.
Don’t ever believe yourself to be completely objective.

And with that, I’ll see you my irregulars.

why you should be reading the long way to a small, angry planet by becky chambers right now:

  • a really great sci-fi! it was described as a cross between guardians of the galaxy and firefly, and honestly, that’s the most accurate description of it.
  • very similar to firefly in the dynamics of the spaceship, but also completely different
  • so many type of aliens that aren’t just humanoid !! with cultures and customs and actually well formulated stories.
  • the use of xe/xyr as a gender neutral pronoun
  • space lesbians
  • such a good book tbh why are you not reading it yet

also the sequel, a closed and common orbit:

  • a gender-fluid alien
  • holy shit though it’s such a good book 
  • multiple storylines that are actually both equally compelling and interesting
  • just a really well thought out culture
AsaKiku Headcanons

-Comfortable silences are golden and sweet to both of them.

-They are both hesitant and slow in the relationship.

-On a date, you can usually find them at the back of the restaurant, sitting close and leaning towards each other and giggling.

-They always watch and laugh at terrible, B-rated horror films together.

-Because Kiku is more hesitant than him, Arthur sometimes worries that he doesn’t express his love enough, so he says “I love you” the most.

-America likes to call them the “Not-So-Scared-of-Russia” couple. Kiku had to show Arthur “The History of Japan” video for him to get the joke.

-They always keep the others’ feelings in mind. Kiku is pretty accurate about predicting Arthur’s reactions, but Arthur tends to overthink and mull over the worst case scenario. 

-Arthur rarely calls Kiku by his name. Usually it’s “Love” or “Sweetie”. If Arthur does call him “Kiku” then it’s a serious matter or argument.

-Arthur makes a conscious effort not to raise his voice in an argument because he has seen Kiku visibly flinch at the volume in the past.

-Kiku hates it when Arthur is really pessimistic. For one, the negativity irritates him, but the worst part is that he is very awkward when comforting, so his reassuring and positive words tend to come off as insincere.

-“Don’t be silly. You’re the nicest, sweetest person I have ever met. Sometimes I think that I don’t deserve you.” This is what Arthur tells him when Kiku says something too self-critical. It’s ironic because Arthur criticizes himself in the process.

-They like to read a book together. They’ll switch off a turn every night before bed. They also like to switch the language between English and Japanese so they both get some good practice. The only rule: No horrors.

-Kiku likes to doddle little chibi versions of him and Arthur with hearts around them. Kiku is embarrassed by them and doesn’t show them to his boyfriend, but Arthur does occasionally stumble across them, and they always make him smile.

Percy’s relationship with Gabe is really important to me because its one of the only accurate representations of abuse I’ve seen. A lot of people think abuse is just being hit a lot and you live in fear of the abuser but that’s not it at all in most cases. It’s normally just general neglect and mistreatment. And you don’t live in fear of the abuser, instead you live in resentment of them. You hate them but you aren’t scared of them. I also like that Percy really shows what an abuse survivor is like. His personality is what it should be. He’s loyal, he would never hurt someone he cares about, both physically and emotionally. And he’s sarcastic, which is a trait many abuse survivors pick up from standing up to the abusers. And most importantly, he has a fear of himself. He is so terrified of what he’s capable of. He’s worried he is going to hurt the people he loves. When you are abused, you live in so much fear of one day becoming like your abuser. Percy is just generally terrified of hurting people. You see that he is hesitant to kill anyone, even enemies. And when he scared Annabeth in House of Hades with his powers, he was more upset about that than anything else in the book. He saw what he was capable of and it terrified him. I just really love how Percy really demonstrates what abuse is and what it’s like to survive abuse.

RWBY Vol 4. Ep. 6 Thoughts

- I see everyone’s favorite psycho will be prominently featured
- MY CHILD
- Also Nora, anyone ever tell you your eye shadow is on point? Cuz it is. 
- It’s okay Ruby, I also have the time estimation skills of a small child
- JAUNE YOU DROPPED THE MAP
- Ruby must have started to lift
- In Japanese that would probably be “Demon Lily”. Or “Demon Lesbian”. Either is accurate
- SPEAKING OF JAPANESE, IS THAT KATAKANA AND KANJI I SEE IN THE BACKGROUND?
- HOLY FUCK WE’RE GETTING LIE REN BACKGROUND STORY THIS IS NOT A FUCKING DRILL
- Wait, so Ren and Nora didn’t grow up together/weren’t from the same village? There goes all those headcanons we had. 
- Seeing Weiss and hearing Casey is literally the most disturbing/disconcerting thing I have ever experienced
- This is not helping Whitley’s case
- Oh my God it’s like being the only Moderate/Liberal at your ultra Conservative family gatherings
- YOU TAKE YOUR HANDS OFF HER RIGHT NOW YOU BASTARD
- Well hellooooo potential love interest I’m shipping garbage just ignore me
- Why does Weiss seem to always attract the dorky nerds who try to act cool?
- Changed my mind, Henry’s an asshole
- GET ‘EM WEISS
- To anyone that says Jacques isn’t abusive: Clearly Weiss learned SOMEWHERE to be afraid of her father, otherwise she wouldn’t have summoned a boar
- Daddy Ironwood to the rescue
- Okay so will this convince Jacques to let Weiss go to Atlas so that she can learn to control her powers?
- Ruby’s aura was depleted already? Really? I find that hard to believe
- Hi yes, my name is bingbong and my sexuality is Nora fucking wrecking Tyrian
- HE’S A SCORPION FAUNUS??!?!?!?!
- Look I know it’s not time for shipping but look at my children being near each other
- WELL IF IT AIN’T UNCLE QROW MAKING A BIG DAMN DYNAMIC ENTRANCE

Overall: I feel cheated out of Ren’s background story. Gipped I tells ya. The only way to apologize would be to give me the next episode now. 

Yo

For reference to people who I keep seeing drawing Breath of the Wild Zelda with blue eyes. 

I know past Zeldas have had blue eyes, but BotW Zelda has in between forest and emerald green eyes. I know it really doesn’t matter, but if you are looking to be accurate to her character, these are her eye color

I have just seen most fanart of her done with her w/ blue eyes and it’s not accurate to BotW Zelda

Edit: I understand some people are color blind and in that case, yes, it would make sense as to why her eye color is wrong. That I do understand, and I also understand people can color her however they want. This is just for people to use as reference who actually want to draw her with her accurate BotW eye color.

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Seiji Yagiri was a man who lived only for love.
He was the kind of man who would face a tank, bare-handed, for the sake of the girl he loved. […]
The smiling girl clinging to his arm, innocent, yet with some sort of dark side, was not the one who he loved like that.
To put it more accurately, it was her ‘face’. […]
Now, is something like that really love?
There are likely some people who would be able to say they only love girls for their face, of course.
But, […] Seiji’s case could be said to be slightly different than just loving a girl for her exterior looks.
He wasn’t judging her on her entire body’s exterior.
For example, if a girl much more beautiful than Mika appeared before him, Seiji would most likely not be taken in by her.
Seiji, after having his entire life turned upside down for a single girl’s head, and through many twists and turns, was currently dating Mika Harima as her partner and lover.
That is, until he could find the actual owner of that face that he had been searching for.
Seiji Yagiri continued to act out this false love.
So that every time he looked at Mika Harima, he could remember the actual woman that he loved.
He wholly believed that this was his own love.


Mika Harima was a girl who lived only for love.
What she loved the most, was being in love with somebody.
This meant she didn’t really think about the circumstances of her partner.
For the sake of her own passion, she could easily sneak into the house of her partner, and would even consider setting up bugs in the room of her dearly beloved.
Even if Seiji was to fall in love with another girl, she would probably not hold a grudge.
Even if Seiji was to throw violent verbal abuse at her, she would probably not hate him.
Even under those circumstances, she would continue to love, as if the most important thing to her was to be in love.
Far, far more important than the feelings of the object of her love, Seiji Yagiri.
And so, she would continue to love him. From the bottom of her heart, with endless purity, to an alarming extent.
[…]
She had faith.
She had faith that those feelings, that any ordinary person would believe to be abnormal, were truly love.

[Durarara!! Volume 7 Everyday Life A]

Don’t mind me just trying these two dorks in different styles


Little Seiji bonus:

darknesshadows  asked:

Fic authors self rec! When you get this, reply with your favorite five fics that you've written, then pass on to at least five other writers (◠‿◠✿) (well, 'RP threads' would probably more accurate in your case :P)

Haha, I’ll do a mix of fic and threads. Thanks for the tag, luv! <3

“Asset, Agent, Hunter, Spy”- Jalec. NC-17.
I think that out of everything I’ve written, this was the one I had the most fun with. I wrote it right after season 1 ended and the season 2 promo stuff hadn’t come out yet, so all of this was kind of my “dream” scenario for what I hoped s2 would be about. It’s season 1 canon-compliant war!fic, with Jace playing double agent with Valentine whilst feeding the Clave information through Alec, and was pretty much how I envisioned a romance unfolding in the middle of a war would be. It’s messy and violent and features a Jace fraying at the edges more and more with each chapter, and is mostly told from Alec’s POV.

“Where Art Thou” / “The Art of Drowning”- Jace. Gen. Angst.
Two drabbles that I wrote about Jace in season 1 and 2, respectively. They’re book-ends to the same paternal theme and they hold a special place in my heart because writing them helped me encapsulate my understanding of Jace’s character. Whenever I feel myself drifting out of his head, I go back to these and find his headspace again.

“The Light of Other Days”- Jalec. NC-17.
I hate myself for rec'ing a WIP, but TBH I really am quite happy with this one. It was my take on what would have happened if Jace had felt the same way about Alec while they were still teens, and how their relationship might have played out if Alec had been forced to leave because of this. It’s a story about young love, old lovers, and how sometimes what we need is not necessarily what we want. The third chapter has been in this 90% state of completion for a while now, and hopefully with some free time coming up, I’ll be able to finally put this story to rest. -_-

“Original Sin” / “Sin City!Verse”- Jalec. NC-17.
Original Sin started off as just a dark, messed-up shortfic that I wrote to go with this manip I’d created of mob!Jalec, but it garnered a bit of ire because some people felt like dark!Alec shouldn’t exist. Naturally, my parabatai @dnteverdoubtme jumped at the chance to write an even more fucked up version of Alec than I’d originally dreamed up, so we expanded Sin City as an RP verse and just went to town. (Not for the faint of heart; trigger warnings are listed in the chapters in which they appear. Please tread carefully.)

“No Matter the Cost” - Jalec. NC-17. Game of Thrones AU.
Probably the most fucked-up RP that @dnteverdoubtme and I have ever published. I think that GOT fans wouldn’t be very surprised at any of this, but it definitely pushes the boundaries of what we’ve written. I personally love it because we’ve managed to spin these two incredibly deplorable characters whose only redeeming quality is loving each other, and there are quite considerable shades of Jaime and Cersei interwoven with how we’ve chosen to portray Jace and Alec in this verse. There’s a good mix of humor and romance here in spite of everything as well, which amuses me to no end. (This verse has more trigger warnings than I can shake a stick at, so please make sure you check the notes/tags before reading.)

“But you haven’t officially been diagnosed with Celiac disease, so, you should be fine eating gluten.”

Okay, gather ‘round, kids.
First of all, regardless of what the media tells you, SOME PEOPLE EVEN WITHOUT CELIAC CANNOT EAT GLUTEN.
You know how some people have reactions to things like peanuts, or strawberries, or apples?
Sensitivities, intolerances, and allergies can happen with LITERALLY ANYTHING.

Secondly, and this isn’t the case for everyone, IT WAS MY PERSONAL CHOICE NOT TO BE TESTED FOR CELIAC.
“WTF, STYNA, WHY?! WHY NOT JUST GET THE TEST AND BE DONE WITH IT?!”
Here’s why.
There are two main ways to test for Celiac Disease.
The first, and most accurate, is a biopsy of the small intestine.
My anxiety goes through the roof even just thinking about it, and I probably couldn’t bring myself to do a thing like this unless my life literally depended on it (like if they thought I had cancer, or something. And even then, somebody better fucking give me something to calm my ass down, which I would also be anxious over, because the thought of having an allergic reaction to meds also scares the shit out of me.)
The second is a specific blood test.
Which would be fine.
Seriously, poke me with as many needles as you want, I’m used to it.
The catch, aside from the fact that it’s not super accurate, is that you have to have gluten in your system for the test to work.
It would have been lovely if my doctor had suggested doing this test BEFORE he suggested removing gluten from my diet… but he didn’t.
By the time I’d been gluten-free for two months, so many of my complaints were SO MUCH BETTER that I didn’t want to put myself through the agony of introducing it into my diet again, just for clarification of how serious my reaction to gluten is.
I know that it affects me negatively.
Very negatively.
So it doesn’t really matter to me whether it’s because of Celiac, or if it’s just an intolerance.
Either way, I wouldn’t start eating it again, so WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE?!
I haven’t purposely consumed gluten in 2.5 years, now. It’s happened on accident a few times, and it was HELL.

Last but not least… why the FUCK is everyone so obsessed with what other people are or are not eating?
Why is it that people feel the need to try to persuade me to eat gluten foods?
Seriously… FUCKING WHY?!
It has absolutely ZERO affect on them.
It’s not like we (people with special diets) expect you to cater to us.
We 100% do not expect that, I promise.
If we want to be sure we can eat something, we will take the proper actions.
We will call ahead to the restaurant, or we will bring our own food to your party.
(And on that note, don’t get pissy with us when we do that. We’re not doing it to be offensive, or “make a scene.” Literally the only reason we’re doing it is so that we can feel safe eating something. Making a scene is the opposite of what we want to do, which is WHY WE TAKE THESE ACTIONS.)

TL;DR:

If someone tells you they can’t eat something, accept it and move the fuck on.

anonymous asked:

Okay I've been puzzling over this for a few days so I'll just ask, I don't understand what you mean when you say it's disrespectful to write about John's actual death in fic. why/how is it disrespectful?

why wouldn’t it be disrespectful? 

you have to consider that fanfic, for the most part, is just a bunch of thirsty fans writing wish fulfillment. very very few set out to write accurate, biographical retellings of the events that took place during the beatles’ lives, mostly because those things already exist, and there’s like… no need for anyone to rehash it unless they’re like conducting their own interviews or something. but in that case, you’re no longer writing a fanfic. what i’m getting at here is that fic is kind of a frivolous medium, in the grand scheme of things, which makes it unfit for certain topics (the most extreme example being using the holocaust as a backdrop for some shitty love story with a nazi guard and a jewish person as your otp. the argument here isn’t that holocaust stories should never be told; in mature, respectful hands, holocaust stories can be told in a poignant, informative way–see schindler’s list or the boy in the striped pajamas, to name a couple–but it should never be reduced to like a porno fantasy sequence).

there is a gray area when it comes to writing fic, though. a lot of people use writing as a way to cope with their own experiences, so while one could argue that topics such as abuse and rape are too complex to be used as a backdrop for a love story (because, let’s face it, the majority of fics are love stories), we don’t know what the author has experienced. in my opinion, it’s not unreasonable for a young writer (say 12 or 13 years old) who has experienced abuse to write a story in which the hot next door neighbor swoops in and saves them from their circumstances and gives them a better life. on the surface, this is a “problematic” story, but a young writer wouldn’t know that or care, they just wish it would happen. which brings us back to my first point: fanfiction is wish fulfillment. 

so my question is: why on earth would a fan wish for john to be dead? why would you wish to see paul grieving? why would you want to give his murderer any more attention than he already has? that’s the real kicker here, for me. writing about john’s death is different because he was actually murdered. to make his murderer as a character in your fic is like… so gross. to be fair, i think there’s a difference between telling a fic where john and/or paul just happen to die in a fictional way that makes sense with the plot of your story. i just don’t think john’s real death should be taken lightly. 

the fics i’ve stumbled upon that touch on his death (i’ve never read one that was about his death specifically, but it’s been thrown into other fics without reason or warning) use it solely evoke “feels” or make you cry or whatever. if an author can’t make you feel something without bringing up a real life tragedy and reminding you that someone you love is literally dead, i have to question if they’re a good writer at all. it’s an easy, guaranteed way to upset your audience. 

there’s a fic i’ve read (i won’t mention it by name, but i’m sure most of us have read it) that is literally a get together fic starting when john and paul first met. it’s a sweet little story about them falling in love, all pre-fame, but throughout the fic paul has these random premonitions which make him push john away or whatever. so that right there is like just a forced, random conflict and the fic would have honestly been more enjoyable without it. but at the end of the fic, when they finally get together and all is well, the author ends it with something like “but we all know they can’t live happily ever after as john’s life ended on december 8th, 1980 as paul had predicted…” like?? okay?? that literally had nothing to do with the story. it was just supposed to be one last punch in the gut, i guess, and that’s what i find disrespectful. a real person’s actual murder shouldn’t be used for shock value. the fic i mentioned is like 200k; it should be able to make the audience feel something without ending it with “lmao but they’ll never be happy because john is dead.” do you understand? 

again, i’ve never read a fic that is focused specifically on the day john died and paul’s reaction to it, and i imagine that some of them must exist as a coping mechanism. i would never contact any of these authors directly or like try to tell them they’re wrong, because it’s impossible to know their motivation; maybe they had a loved one who died, or was murdered, and they’re using writing as a way to understand their own feelings. that’s totally fine. i would encourage it, even. that being said, i can’t help but side-eye some of the people i’ve seen planning fics like this, when they’re like “i’m writing a 1980 fic and you guys are going to cry your eyes out paul is going to suffer >:))))” 

like. what is wrong with you. why would you do that. these are real people, paul did suffer, and that pain is not our playground. god there’s even a gifset that goes around which shows paul in the 80s tearing up while listening to one of john’s songs, and someone added a caption like “he’s so hot while he’s grieving.” like that is so fucked up?? 

writing about john’s death because you think paul is hot while he grieves, or because you like “paul in pain” stories, or because, for some fucked up reason, you want to write about death in graphic detail, then you’re being disrespectful. i don’t see any way around this. unless you’re very young or very fortunate, someone in your life has died. how would you feel if people were exploiting that and using it as a backdrop for some quasi-love story? 

like, true, it’s very unlikely that paul would ever see our fanfiction (though there are fucked up kids who tweeted images and links to fucking red hall during his twitter q&a and got their asses blocked–good riddance), but i think if we respect him as a person, and respect his feelings and realize that this is something he actually lived through and has to deal with to this day, not some quick little story that you can read for “feels” and will be over in 30 minutes, it becomes unimaginable to use that for entertainment. 

like i mentioned earlier, i’m sure it’s totally possible to write an informative and respectful retelling of john’s death. i just don’t think it could ever happen in fanfiction. it’s not the right medium. 

fanfic is a great, safe way to explore all kinds of topics and kinks, but when real people are involved, that changes things a little. if you want to expand on someone’s murder and tell a story about it, then you should probably write about fictional characters instead imo. 

Tips for online shopping

1. Learn to read the descriptions thoroughly. Just because the picture looks good does not necessarily mean that the item is going to be all that you imagine it to be and vice versa. 

2. Know your materials. For example, there’s a difference between PVC and PU leather. You’ll have a much better idea of what to expect when you have this knowledge. 

3. Know your body size and measurements. Most sites have a size chart which makes it a lot easier to order your accurate size. 

4. Always read the reviews. It seems like it’s either an extremely happy or super pissed off customer who writes the reviews, so keep that in mind. Reviews can help you find out if the sizes run a bit small, in which case you will want to order a size bigger than you usually would. 

5. For sites like Amazon and Ebay, look at the amount of items sold and the number of stars a seller has. From my experience, when those numbers were high I always got what I expected from the seller. 

6. The beautiful thing about shopping on the Internet is that you can compare prices and reviews for an item easily. There’s no harm in doing a little research to make sure you’re spending your money on what you really want. 

7. Pay with Paypal. 

8. Trust your gut. If a seller/transaction seems shady, move on. You’ll always be able to find what you’re looking for somewhere else. 

9. Just go for it! If you’ve never purchased online then I must say that you are totally missing out on a life changing experience.

I hope my tips can be of some use to you when doing your online shopping! xx

Feel free to add to the list ;)

hello, i wish to share with you all the height chart of the characters in gv

so this might not be too accurate, but i tried my best and found the most instances that would work out. i believe i got most characters?

starting from TALLEST to SHORTEST, not counting hair or hats, we have-!

  • 1; queen virga
  • 2; prince cirrus(up to around virga’s shoulder like holy hecky she’s tall)
  • 3; the judge(same height as yma)
  • 3; yma(an inch or two taller than madam president)
  • 3; cocos nucifera(a few inches taller than nim, a bit shorter than cirrus)
  • 4; professor purple(just below cirrus’ eyes
  • 4; mooching hobo(appears to be just as tall as purple compared to wallis
  • 4; madam president(just as tall as indigo(wearing boots))
  • 4; blue(like a head taller than red holy heck?
  • 4; indigo(WEARING BOOTS)(a few inches taller than harold, however just as tall as blue
  • 4; pi(same height as indigo(wearing boots))
  • 5; wallis gloom(looks to be just around a few inches shorter than purple
  • 5; evets 
  • 5; seaweed 
  • 6; red(just a little taller than cakegirl)
  • 6; nim(just below cirrus’ shoulder, up to virga’s hip. a few inches above purple’s chin.
  • 7; harold gloom(one or two inches shorter than wallis
  • 7; cakegirl 
  • 8; assistant(probably an inch shorter than harold. before hired, was just up to harold’s chin
  • 9; indigo(a few inches shorter than harold)
  • 10; petunia(is up to around wallis and harold’s elbows)

if i missed anybody, please tell me! i’d be more than grateful to try and add them in!

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Gorgeous fan art shows what Harry Potter characters would look like with dark skin 

Whiteness is usually the default in most of the literature we read in the West. That’s especially the case in children’s literature. When representation of other races isn’t prevalent, it’s usually up to readers to create them. And in the case of this art and Hermione, it may be more accurate than we think.

Yes! Finally someone saying this:

INTJs are actually more playful with deep emotions than an INFJ. So, when they decide to turn them on, you can get into a nice intellectual discussion with them about why their parents might have fucked them up or into something of a psychological nature. They treat it rather impersonally though, more as an intellectual exercise or a mental stimulation. INTJs can actually be deeply in touch with their pain but their pain is more related to archetypal abstractions of their emotional encounters rather than as a real felt personal feeling.

From:  http://www.stellarmaze.com/infj-vs-intj/

This is amazingly accurate in my opinion.  I do not know anything about the ‘more than an INFJ part’ but I have always wondered about my ability to talk about feelings. I’ve read so many places that most INTJs are not good with feelings, and that many INTJs have difficulties understanding their emotions. In my case I actually wondered if I might be an INFJ just because of this. I have no problem at all solving emotionally charged conflicts between people, or between someone else and myself - I actually like it because I get to study behavior ( I do feel guilty about that sometimes…)
I love to use myself and my past as an example, and I find it of great importance to analyze my behavior and my emotions. It is fascinating to see how I work in different situations, and I think this is the best way to control my emotions - and not being controlled my them! I’ve often noticed that I am quite scrupulous in doing this though, nothing is sacred - if you get it across the table without offending someone deeply, that is (because it mostly is not really effective to make someone defensive).  I’m always very detached when I analyze myself and others, and this sometimes puts me in jeopardy. I’m quite the private person, who does not really want to tell a lot about myself on one hand, and on the other I’m analyzing and handing out factsheets about all the patterns I see in my personal life and how this might or might not affect others. I’m not saying I’m blabbing to strangers without reason, but if the situation is right and I might be able to give insight to someone else by sharing personal analysis, I do so gladly and in a totally ‘official’ manner. It is about the theory, the connections, the effect, reality and impact of circumstances and events, not about me personally. I failed to see this before. I never understood why people were mostly fascinated, but sometimes uncomfortable with my way of talking about emotions. I am actually one of my most loved objects to study, like my martial arts or science books, and the more detached I am able to be, the more satisfied I am.
Actually most of the stuff I dump on Tumblr is like this, too honest to be a conversation between friends, but still very compelling to analyze. I’ve always found there is such fascination about truth, no matter what truth turns out to be.
One of my biggest fears is being biased by my own feelings, unable to escape, unable to even notice. I always check myself trice, and I distrust myself until I have proof of what I feel. This is both good and bad, like most other things, but mainly it makes me able to search for truth, clearly and honestly without any need for manipulation - I hope ;)

Indeed this is all a paradox, for one can never really be detached… ? Which in turn might imply that I live in the illusion of hope that I am able to be objective, or do I? Haha, I give up! It did ring true to me though :)

Reliability of Age Progression

In most cases, missing children either die or are killed during the first 24 hours after their disappearance. However, there are a small handful of cases where years, if not decades, pass before they are ever found. To get an idea of what the missing person may look like, Age Progression is used to develop an accurate image. 

Above is Jaycee Lee Dugard, who was kidnapped when she was 11 years old. She was held captive and repeatedly raped for 18 years. After such a long time, the case went cold and detectives assumed she was dead. The Age Progression photo here is fairly accurate, and it’s the principal reason why someone recognised Dugard after she and her captor were seen acting suspiciously in public.