this is a poor representation

one of the very obscure loop holes in poor representation, lack of diversity in media and general devaluing of black narratives in films is that because white people suffering is seen as universally relatable and terribly moving…..someone like me, a petty as shit millennial who has no type of attachment to whiteness and loves to see white people suffer, can get my fix in abundance in horror films 

*watches poltergeist snap white woman in half*

me:

Oh My God! I just found out Marvel are releasing an entire novel about Loki, and wait for it they will be presented as both gender fluid and pansexual. And you bet my gay ass is fucking bouncing off the walls at 3:45am after learning this fact.

BUT

It has only reminded me how infuriatingly straight-washed the films are. Whenever LGBT characters in superhero films get’s mentioned fanboys loose their shit over ‘altering the canon’, bitch do you know how many canonically queer characters are portrayed as straight in those films? If y’all can make Black Widow straight then some poor fucking kid starved of representation can head canon Bucky as Bi and want Steve Rodgers to have a boyfriend.

Black Widow, Loki, Wonder Woman, Deadpool, Valkyrie, Iceman (Please tell me if I’ve missed someone) are all canonically queer in their original source material but portrayed as straight in their respective cinematic universes.

They even filmed a scene in Ragnorak that confirmed Valkyrie as Bisexual but cut it in the editing process.

I’m so passed being ready for a queer superhero, Wonder Woman reminded me how much I want proper representation, ‘cause let me tell you I came out of that film ready to smash the patriarchy. 

So it’s now gone 4am and I hope that made sense, honestly don’t think I’ll stop ranting about this until we get a canon queer character in the MCU or DCEU film (*cough* please be Diana *cough* that’s the only reason I’m still here)

My god this is the cyberpunk dystopia the 80s warned us of

Cities so tight on security there are cameras everywhere. Police killing people indiscriminately for their own joy. Giant walls being build across vast deserts. The rich living in their towers of glass. The poor on the streets with nothing. Internet in glasses. Corporate powers rule the White House. Wild roving gangs killing the “outsiders” Legit resistence networks run by punks. Religious groups have their own police forces. The net is being pressured to exclude the poor. Both fictional and literal representations of America are fash. Marketing brands are quite literally called “OBEY”. Corporate interests literally cut across sacred lands and pollute and destroy everything they touch. Hackers have become freedom fighters. Masked “anonymous” groups attempt to rip out criminals yet become the enemy of the state. Marketing is big bright and neon and meant to move your attention somewhere profitable The government said “fuck the planet” and now green energy is looked down on and discouraged. Corporations are treated as people. Weapons have more rights than citizens.

What She Says: I’m fine.

What She Means: Jason Todd was the “Robin Who Died" and when he came back as Red Hood (Under The Red Hood 2004-2006) he was after Bruce for not killing the Joker and revenging his death. Bruce, after Jason’s death just metaphorically shrugged and walked away as he moved on to Tim Drake (No hate towards Tim, love that boy). But when Damian Wayne (Also love that boy), as Robin, died (Issue #8 of Batman, Inc. 2013) Bruce went mental and did nothing but search for a way to bring him back and revenge. Bruce was unwilling to accept the death. The only thing that stopped him from killing Heretic (Damian Wayne’s killer) was his resemblance to Damian. LIKE WHAT THE FUCK. Jason begged his father to revenge him, just once, but Bruce is willing to lose his sanity and entire code of conduct for Damian. Jason, being apart of the batfamily probably watched in absolute horror, as his own father choose his biological son over his adopted son. By now he probably has realized the wrongs in his past concerning trying to force Bruce to kill. Not to deemphasize Jason’s violent story, as he was acting as a sort of villain in the Under The Red Hood arc and forcefully tried to get his father to kill, but in Damian’s case, he would have done it without a second thought. Not only is this a major blow to Jason, but it is a poor representation of families with both biological children and adopted children, or even families with just adopted children, I’m sure. In short, the writers say that Bruce loves his biological son more than his adopted which is UNACCEPTABLE. Despite all of this, the writers did not exhibit how Jason was feeling during said arc which just isn’t fair to the readers OR the actual characters and their dynamic.

i.
“but you don’t look autistic”
i know, it’s shocking
i’m sure you were expecting scaly green skin
or another pair of eyes hidden beneath my bangs
but take a look
two legs, two arms, on pair of eyes
i look just like you
i look like a human
because that’s what i am
autism does not have a costume
our wardrobe isn’t embroidered with puzzle pieces and the color blue
funnily enough
like everyone else on this earth
people with autism are all different
our experiences are not stagnate across the globe 
and just because i can disguise my stims
doesn’t mean i am more or less autistic than someone who cannot
and believe it or not
saying that is not a compliment

ii.
yes
autistic people can have jobs
we can be loved by someone other than our family members
we can drive
and go shopping
not all of us are nonverbal
and while most of us cannot handle the horrors of eye contact
and certain stimuli
  once again
we’re all different
try not to act so surprised when we’re able to appear just as neurotypical as you

iii.
“oh, so you’re like Rain Man?”
if this is your way of implying that you can drop a bunch of toothpicks on the ground and then ask me how many there are
kindly fuck off

iv.
“autism is a disease and i’m sure they’ll find a cure for you”
we are not sick
we are not suffering
illnesses are contagious
you can’t catch autism
it isn’t going to spread if you get too close to me
this isn’t rocket science
it isn’t that hard to understand
you either have autism
or you never will
and more importantly
there is nothing about us that needs to be cured

v.
instead of listening to a fear mongering
hate spreading
poor representation
unsupportive
harmful group that markets itself on our existence and feels the need to “fix” autistic people
why not just listen to autistic people instead?
—  Five Myths / Things You Should Know About People with Autism
(cc, 2017)

anonymous asked:

When writing an asexual character, what can I do to avoid poor representation and harmful tropes?

For good representation I would actually have the character come out or greatly imply they are asexual, subtext works but usually thats all we, and other queer orientations, ever get. 

I would avoid having too many tropes like the cold, distant, heartless asexual, while an asexual person can be like that I think thats usually a negative stereotype.

I wouldn’t write a character as asexual just because you want them to seem innocent, we usually know whats going on we’re just not feeling it.

Asexual people can pick up on flirting or sexual advances, some may not and that can work well as a way to make your character come off as ace. (I know this can also be a trait of autism, but it can work in both cases).

Remember that many aces use the split attraction model but many don’t. Asexual does not mean can’t be in a relationship or even have sex themselves for various reasons though I’d be careful with writing a asexual character like that because it might be confused unless it’s explained well.

things i wanna see in the TRC show

•people. of. color.
•pynch. lots and lots of pynch
•blusey
•a sarchengsey brotp (i can’t even lie i don’t like them as an OT3, but brotp? absolutely)
•Jimi. Orla. Calla. Persephone. Maura. OPAL
•accurate representation of what a raging feminist Blue is
•gansey as everyone’s mom
•accurate portrayal of my poor sweet bby Noah
•PEOPLE. OF. COLOR.
•accurate representation of Blue’s vintage/thrifty/insane sense of style (honestly if i catch her in anything name brand i’ll scream)
•gansey’s terrible boat shoes and polos
•THE PIG (and all of it’s breakdowns)
•the murder squash song because WHAT DOES IT SOUND LIKE?
•PE OPL E OF COL O R
•chainsaw
•Cheng’s amazing hair & ronan’s tattoo

I think it’s so funny that people legitimately believe that somehow their liberal arts university or art school represents the core of what it means to be lgbt, to be queer, and that they legitimately give a decent window into the needs psyche & beliefs of ~the community~ as a whole.

Like, you need to acknowledge that you’re predominately surrounded by other white middle class twenty somethings, and that these isolated pockets, so often cut off from most of our reality, reaaalllyyyy is a poor representation of queer existence as a whole.

anonymous asked:

The fact that you flirt and receive nudes and ass pics from your follows while you have a boyfriend is pathetic. A very poor representation of the gay community.

1. I don’t have a boyfriend; I have a husband.
2. I’m not gay; I’m bisexual.
3. You’re gonna give me shit because of what people take it upon themselves to put in my inbox?
4. If you scroll you’ll see that I never even asked for any nudes. Someone asked me if they could, and I said why not, since people regularly send them to be already and don’t bother asking.
5. My husband is secure enough not to be threatened by a bunch of random ass pics.
6. Our marriage is secure enough not to be threatened by a bunch of ass pics.
7. Who says human bodies can only be viewed in a sexual way?
8. “Pathetic” coming from some chicken shit who doesn’t even have the stones to attach a name to their own message.
9. I don’t answer to you or anyone else (other than maybe my husband, and even then, we arrive at our decisions mutually).
10. It’s no ones job to lead their life the way you think it should be led.
11. Relationships come in all forms and it’s only up to the participants to decide what works, provided that everyone is a legal, consenting adult.
12. Get fucked.
13. Don’t be salty just because I have way more game than you without even trying.
14. Get fucked a second time.
15. No one’s forcing you to look through my blog.
16. Perhaps the reason why no one wants you is because of that piss poor attitude.
17. Get fucked again, preferably by a saguaro cactus.

Me: I have narcolepsy.

Dude I worked with that day: Oh! I have narcolepsy too! *obnoxiously pretends to pass out*

Me: *internally, looking at camera a la The Office*

No, really though, this is why we need better education and awareness about chronic/invisible illnesses and the fact that they are legitimate disabilities. This is why I do what I do.

I didn’t have the energy that day to try to make him aware of how, erm… not so sensitive it is to make fun of a serious, debilitating illness to someone’s face when they were just brave enough to tell you they have it (would you do that to someone with epilepsy, especially considering epilepsy and narcolepsy are kinda considered brain illness cousins? according to my docs and everything I’ve researched the past several years since my diagnosis).

But I was in a good mood still so I just laughed, lightly tapped his knee to get his attention, and said, “Oh, stop that. Actually, it’s a huge misconception and a bit of a stereotype, the idea that all narcoleptics just fall asleep randomly and that’s all the disorder is. It’s a legitimate neurological illness and unfortunately narcoleptics are at a higher risk for suicide because of how hard it is to live with. I mean, can you imagine if your brain lacked the tools necessary to get restorative, regenerative sleep, and it messed up the rest of your body and life as a result?”

I spent some time explaining to him the different kinds of narcolepsy and what my specific symptoms are, and how because of this lack of awareness I lived with the more intense symptoms undiagnosed from age 12-23 and he was blown away! He had no idea, because again thanks to lack of education and poor media representation, he just thought narcolepsy “is when you fall asleep randomly.”

I’m glad I was able to use that opportunity to teach another person. He was super supportive after and wowed by my story.

Support your narcoleptic buddies, yo!

Y'know what I miss?

I miss those dog days of Supergirl in Season 1, when the end of each episode brought a wave of gifsets, ficlets, headcanons and endless theorizing. We dove in head first to take our beautiful ladies and build not only on what we saw on screen but what we didn’t see.

We encouraged each other and were inspired by each other and we took all the gifts the writers and actresses gave us and painted the world with beauty and color and love.

And now, the day after an episode directed by a famous fan and touted as a pivotal one for the season, my dashboard is a mirror of my own despair over the loss of my show.

We’re just not inspired anymore and nothing is more heartbreaking. Even in the past when ships that I don’t ship become canon on my shows, I am still inspired by what I see and able to imagine my characters in a million different worlds. I’ve even been able to do this when my favorite characters left the show (Prentiss anyone?)

But Supergirl is so entirely unrecognizable that I can hardly blame my pals for moving on to greener pastures or doing whatever they can to rail against the injustice of poor representation or, like me, just go radio silent and sigh quietly over what could have been.

I’m sorry we’ve all lost our inspiration, that fire that kept fandom alive in our hearts. I’m sorry that the creators we had such faith in to carry that girl-power we loved so through to future seasons let us down so profoundly. I’m sorry that I’ve had so little time to do so little to contribute myself. So I’ll just throw this out there. Cat’s still out there, somewhere, thinking of Kara and watching from afar. And even if we never see her on our screen again, we can know that if anyone can swoop down to save our heroine, Cat Grant can.

Be brave, my small but mighty fandom! Don’t be afraid to dive into challenges and stay active. There is SO MUCH talent here. Keep creating!

So, let’s pull out a stool at Noonans, order up a steaming hot latte and dump out all those old art supplies and see what we can come up with.
I’ll finally be more available after this weekend and I’ve got months of feels built up.

Whattaya say?

anonymous asked:

How rfa+V react to MC as the dom

HELLLOO EVERYONE MOD SAERAN HERE :D HERE FOR SINFUL SUNDAAAAAAYYYY * HEAVY NSFW* 

Yoosung:
this is for @spankmeyoosung

  • you were tired of vanilla sex… by vanilla I mean the boring missionary style that Yoosung was barely getting use to…. you couldn’t blame the man because he was never inside pussy before and well like he always tell you… your pussy is the ultimate achievement he ever unlocked
  • What yoosung didn’t know about you is that you have tendency to be animalistic…. a tendency to conquer….a need for dominance… you need POOR yoosung to submit his cock and his soul to you… you wants to fuck the life out of him.. you want him to beg for you… to scream your name…. just thinking about it brings chills up your spine… you need to dominate him TONIGHT
  • While he was in class you went to the sex shop and bought the things you needed…. it was going to be his first time being dominated so you didn’t want to scare him off…so you bought handcuffs, vibrators and a gag holder… the night was going to be perfect :’)
  • You went home to set the mood… you cooked his favorite dish and decided to cuddle on the couch… YOU DIDN’T WANT THE MAN TO HAVE A TUMMY ACHE so you waited for him to be ready :) after 3 episodes of YURI on Ice….it was time.. It was TIME TO SHOW YOUR EROS
  • You started to run your hands around his cock…it was soft but not for long “ Yoosung I’m craving you baby…” you continued to rub his cock and you notice his breathing became more heavy… GOOD you love how sensitive he was :’)
  • You moved your body in between his legs and you noticed he was turning red… okay yoosung keep thinking its gonna be a normal blow job :)
  • You unzipped his pants and pulled down his pants with his underwear and his cock sprang open and he was a red mess while you were getting ready to devour your meat…..you slowly went to the tip and started to kiss around the tip and he was getting harder and hard “please baby I can’t handle it no more… please take me” god submitting so easily?? -.- no fun….
  • You told him to sit on the chair and to put his hand behind his back he complied but he was a little worried you handcuffed him and he was like O.O “ Yoosung do you trust me? Do I have your consent of gagging you, near orgasms, whipping and fucking the living brains out of you” he gulped hard but you noticed his cock was growing more… you looked down and smirked cause he was enjoying this “ there will be a safe word…. if you feel uncomfortable or pain just say Stop and I will stop agreed?” He was a blushing mess “ Ye- uh Yes master?” FUCK ME YOOSUNG JESUS CHRIST. YOU SMIRKED AND GOT THE WHIP and glided around his body gently… you noticed he was he was nervous but you tried to go gently at first and then WHIP you whipped his leg and he moaned ????? Okay submissive let’s play
  • You went between his legs and kissed the red area and he shuddered. You then took his cock slowly in his mouth and he was struggling because he wanted to put his hands thru your hair but you wanted to pleasure him because pleasuring him makes your pussy moist.
  • You felt his cock twitch and he was expecting to cum but then you stopped and he was whining while panting “ Baby what the fuck I I need release baby plleeaaasee”
  • You smirked “ SILENCE!! You haven’t earned your release” he was getting impatient he was to pure he was to use to immediate release. “ how do I earn my release master please PLEASE”
  • you straddle his lap and began to grind against his cock….. his cock was being covered in your juices and he was a moaning mess “ you must spank me yoosung. Spank me FUCKING hard. I want your handprint to be on my ass till tomorrow” he wasn’t paying attention so you stopped grinding and BAM another orgasm denial this poor boy was going to cry
  • “FUCK FINE UNCUFF ME AND ILL OBEY MASTER ILL SPANK YOU” and you did just that c: you uncuffed him and you bended over on his lap “ do it not yoosung… SPANK your master” you felt hesitation in his body so you had to yell again “ yoosung SPA-” this boy gave you a little tap…. what kind of spanking is this…. okay time to reassure him “ yoosung I want to feel pain please SPANK me” he gave a little harder tap. You were getting frustrated “ I swear to god I will punish you… you will not come for a whole week enjoy blue balls” you were about to get up and then SLAAAAAPPPP holy fuck that hurt and you loved it “ um more?” “ FUCKING SPANK ME AGAIN YOOSUNG” boy was playing drums with your ass
  • He proceeded to SPANK more and you lived for it. He noticed your juices going down your inner thighs and he had the nerve to wipe it and lick it….you got up and got the vibrator and rubbed it against the side of his cock and you sucked the tip and this man never came so much or so hard in his life
  • He wanted more.

Jaehee

  • you guys had nice sex :’) it was really loving and EVERYTHING. LIKE IT WAS SO FULL OF LOVE AND PASSION. but ….. you wanted to add some spice :’) something to spice up your sex life… you wanted to unleash your inner beast !
  • You told her about how she felt like about her being a submissive and you being a dominant
  • She was a bit hesitant but she was scared because she didn’t know the whole attributions and rules…. JESUS CHRIST her only experience with dominance and submissive is literally 50 shades of grey t-.-t
  • You had to reassure her that it wasn’t going to be like the movie because the movie did a poor representation of BDSM because Christian Grey broke Ana’s trust and everything
  • So you tried to ease her into it. You guys were kissing in the bed and everything and you started to grab her left tit and you caressed her nipple. She let out a small moan because she loved how sensitive you made it. You then left a trail of love bites all the way down to her pants. You looked at her and she gave you a small nod ( consent is always important C: ) you took of her pants and then proceeded to kiss her pussy thru her panties. She was already squirming under your touch. You never done that before and she is fucking living for it.
  • You were thinking….. okay……. slowly but surely dominance…… you pulled her body closer and made her legs rest on your shoulders. Jaehee was like !?!?!?!?. She is waiting for you to take of her panties and get to it. Wtf. I NEED my pussy licked now.
  • But nope. You needed her to NEED you. To feel you. To crave you. You were pushing your face deeper into her panties that you were starting to feel her fat pussy lips spreading. You then start to nibble on the lips and tried to give it a tug. She was growing impatient. She ran her fingers thru your hair and then pushed your head deeper into her pussy. “ Baby…. (y/n) take it OFFFF NOOOOWW”. You were trying to please her but NOOOOOO she wants release right away…. you were gonna teach her a lesson. You removed her legs from your shoulder and got up. She was cussing you out in her mind. You went to the drawer and took two of her toes and a vibrator. You told her if she trust you and she said yes but she was scared. You caressed her head and gave her a forehead kiss. You tied her wrist to the headboard and blindfolded her.
  • You went back to her pussy and continue licking it thru her panties. She was trying to let loose but you tied the tie to tight D:  she was shook. Like what is the pleasure??? What is this??? You then got the vibrator and put it on low and put it around her nipples gently. You put the vibrator on her right nipple and then you started sucking her left one. She was screaming. She was in pure bliss. She was already begging and SCREAMING your name that you had to go quickly to the good part.
  • You went back down and made her get closer to you. You then glided the vibrator down her stomach and you notice her panties was already drenched. You chuckled because you loved how sensitive she was… especially now that her senses are all heighten
  • You then got the vibrator to put it near her pussy. You were going near her thighs and then her inner thighs and you saw her legs ready to shut “ Not today princess “ you made her legs spread even further” you teased her with the vibrator and then you slide the panties to the side and just full force put the vibrator on her clit and you fingered her. She was fucking SCREAMING. SHE WAS SCREAMING that the neighbors were shaking their head. But Jaehee didn’t care. She was about to come
  • You noticed her pussy clenching on your finger and you stopped everything she was furious. But then she felt your fingers touching her lips and she tasted herself. You didn’t let her come for 2 hours. She was dying. When it was about to be the 3rd hour… you finally let her release and she squirted everywhere

SEVEN: *takes place before saving saeran* *quickie*

  • you guys were taking a shower together. It was all romantic and cute because the previous night the both of you had sex. It was full of love and passion. As if he was spilling his heart and soul out to with every stroke and kiss.
  • You guys were suppose to take a quick shower but you thought of why not a quickie. He was washing your back and hair and when he went down to scrub your legs you grabbed his head and forced it to your pussy. He was shook cause this was just suppose to be a quick shower cause y'all had to go. But you didn’t give a fuck. You needed him there and now. You needed to use him to please yourself.
  • You kept grinding on his face and he happily complied because holy shit is she using me as her toy !!?!?!?! You put one of your legs on the shower room wall so he can have better access. You made you come twice and he got up and kissed you. But you weren’t done yet C;
  • He was waiting for you to clean his back and his hair but you had other plans. You grabbed his hand and led him to the bedroom. You pushed him onto the bed and started to suck him off. He was in fucking heaven. He thanked god he sent the alarm WAY earlier than when he was suppose to. Fuck. You saw his hand trying to grab your wett hair but you stopped sucking and then started sucking on his balls. His cock was twitching. You notice his breathing become heavy. You then got ontop of him and he was so confused like why is everything happening so quickly O: “Baby WE WE don’t have to ru-” you interrupted him by sitting on his cock. He wasn’t use to being man handled like this is not even a quickie D: but he didn’t care because he was honestly getting more hard seeing how you used him like a fucking toy ( kink unlocked )
  • You kept riding and rubbing your clit and he was about to cum because you saw him turning red. You weren’t going to let him cum. Not now. You weren’t there yet. You got up and sat on his legs. You got his cock and put the tip a little but inside you. You then started to rub yourself and you were feeling the heat coming “let me leave evidence that I existed on you “ and fuck he couldn’t take it anymore. Right after you squirted on him he picked you up and slapped your ass and fucked you in the shower.

Zen:

  • it’s been a long day D: your boyfriend STILL hasn’t shown up to the restaurant. You decided to wait an hour more hoping… praying… he will show up soon :(. But right when you were about to leave pist, you got a text from him saying to go to the music music building and you went there pist. You were huffing and puffing till you went to the main stage you saw a rose petal trail to the center of the stage. You continue following the path till you saw your handsome boyfriend sitting on the little dinner set up he did. HOW CAN YOU BE MAD AT HIM NOW. you can’t. He is one smooth mother fucker. You enjoyed dinner together and had an amazing meal… and probably to much wine….  
  • He went backstage and turned on music and you two were dancing. The dance was nice and romantic and you two were kissing. You were rubbing your hands all over his chest and you took off his clothes. He was shook. You didn’t give a fuck. You sat him down on the chair and straddle him and continue kissing him. You started to nibble his neck and he was grabbing your ass hard… like your pussy lips was spreading… HOLY FUCK. you were getting wet and then you looked into his gorgeous blood shot eyes and stared into them. He was staring at your beautiful (e/c) and got lost in them. He was smiling… you were horny. You got up and told him to lay down on the floor. He did what he said because he never seen so much lust in your eyes that turned him on because he knew this was gonna be exciting.
  • You took of your dress and revealed that you had lingerie on. He was getting back up and your eyes pierced thru him “ Be good daddy. If not your gonna get punish.”  He chuckled “ cmon princess you really think you can control me” you went and stood over him and you picked up your high heels and gently push them to his chest to make him lay back down. “ Oh baby can’t you see.. *you slid your panties to the side and exposed your pussy* I always been in charge baby I’m the one that makes you moan.. I’m the one that makes you beg for this pussy” you fixed your panties and smirked and left to the dinner table. You grabbed the other wine and unpopped it “ if you know what’s good for you when I turn around and head back to you.. so expect you to be fully naked. “ you heard clothes being thrown to the ground and you loved how obedient he was being.
  • You gave him a few mins to go back to his original position and you walked back and took of your heels and went to sit on his lap. “Are YOU sure you want more wine princess” you let the wine drip slowly off the bottle onto his chest “ yes I’m sure” you went closer and licked the wine off. You loved the sweetness mixed with the sweat of his skin. You sucked a little harder and he was trying to grab you to take over but you moved his hands away and went in for a kiss but stopped “ you’re gonna be punish if you do one more stunt” he just rolled his eyes and you were thinking that he was gonna pay for that eye roll. You proceed to cover him in wine till you reached his abs. The whole wine bottle was almost done and then you scooted down and went to his cock. You drinked the last bite of wine and then you just pushed his cock into your mouth. He felt you swallow the wine. HOLY MOTHER OF GOD WHAT IS THIS. you continue bobbing your head and he was moaning. He was in pure ecstasy. He was thrusting his hips into your mouth and you stopped. You had enough of him trying to take over.  You went to the candles and blew out the fire. You stood over him and sat down next to him. I’m tired of you being naughty ZEN. Time to get punished. You slapped his stomach and then you slowly dripped candle wax onto his abs and V Line. He was screaming but your notice his cock twitching. He was loving this.
  • You then layed down on your stomach and started to suck him off again. He was losing it. His cock was already twitching inside your mouth. You felt the pre cum forming and you let your tongue lick it up and removed his cock slowly me he saw how there was cum connecting his cock to your mouth. He was begging for you. He needed release. You dripped more candle wax and you saw more pre cumming forming. “ Sit on the chair.” He did what he was told and he sat on his cock and started to ride him. You took off his hair tie and tugged it and you went faster and faster while pulling his hair. He came inside you 10 seconds later.

Jumin:  * listen to 50 shades of grey crazy in love by Beyoncé please”

  • you felt his cock going deeper inside you than ever before “ WHOS YOUR DADDY PRINCESS HUH WHO DOES THIS * He thrusted harder* BELONG TO HUH” you were hanging grabbing the wall for dear life. You were scratching it because this man was fucking you till you saw your brain. He noticed you didn’t respond so he pressed his body to yours even more and your felt the coldness of the wall crawl up your spine. He then bite your shoulder and kept thrusting. You let go of your ass and was only holding you with one hand. Holy fuck this man is gonna kill you. “ he grabbed your face “ speak to when your spoken to princess” he trusted even harder and slapped your tit and he put it in your mouth “ YES MASTER HAN FUCK DADDY ITS YOURS MY PUSSY IS YOURS” you were screaming because you were gonna come. He was sucking on your tits and then he nibbled your nipped. He then grabbed your chin again and made you look into his eyes. You swore you were getting more wet. “ come with me Princess come with me” and he thruster harder and faster. Like how the flying fuck. Fuck. You felt your pussy clench. He then grabbed your hair and pulled it to expose your neck. He started to suck and went faster. You guys came at the same time.
  • *2 days later* you were still sore as fuck. Like you could barely walk. He had scratches, bites, hickies, all over his body. Literally his ear had a bruise. 2 nights ago was the roughest and sexiest sex you two ever had. JESUS Christ you needed another nap. When you woke up you notice Jumin was already home. He was naked… looking like the statue of David. One can even dare to say he was created carefully and precisely just for your legs to fit around his waist. JESUS Christ you did not care that you were sore. You were craving his cock to be inside you. You were craving Jumin Han to be SCREAMING your name. To be begging to be inside your pussy and for his cum to enter your way to your womb. You got up and hugged him from behind. “ I’m surprised you are still able to walk my queen” he chucked and turned around and hugged you. You kissed him and sat him on the bed. “ Jumin do you trust me to try… new things….” he started to laugh “ to try new things !!?!? Kitten we are inventing new positions, new pleasures and even new records!!” You laughed and kissed him “ GOD Jumin im FUCKING in love with you “ Don’t say FUCKING around me princess” he hissed while gently tugging a strand of your hair.  You leaned into him and whispered in his ear “ Let’s try something new daddy please” you backed away and got up and told him to lie down. He complied but there was curiosity in his eyes. You went inside the walk in closet and got the hidden key and opened up the toy room…….;)
  • You got handcuffs, whipps , vibrators, and you put them on the bed. “ should you be the one in my spot princess ?” He said with a matter of fact tone. Cocky bastard. You opened the handcuffs and went closer to him “ nope you are right where I want you to be” you handcuffed him to the bed and smirked. You got the whip and you were touching it and memories came back about how he used it on you and how he made you came with just the whip. You exhaled softly and his eyes were staring at you. You were feeling the hint of the moment and you whipped your tits. You inhaled and let out a small moan escape. You heard him grunt. You needed more. You whiped your self on the tits and one on your ass. You were already marked. You forgot Jumin was there and you were losing yourself in pure ecstasy. You started to pinch your nipples and slapping them. You put your fingers in your mouth and then slowly led them to you pussy. You were imaging Jumin with his firm hands all over your body and SHIT SHIT SHIT.  You snapped back into reality but Jumin thought you were teasing him because his eyes were already fucking you over the table. You smirked trying t play it off and whipped him. He didn’t make a sound. He didn’t even move. What the fuck. You decided to slide the whip past your pussy to collect some of your juices and you passed it through his mouth and you saw a little smile forming. You whipped his stomach again and he tilted his head BACK. You thought he was trying to make you feel better so you hit him harder and he finally let out a moan. You saw his cock become a bit harder if you knew that cock was going to be begging for your pussy.
  • You went to the mini fridge and took out the ice cubes. He was just staring at you and then he saw you with a bucket of ice. Holy fuck. “ Princes. I’m going to punish you so fucking hard after this.” “ Good. But this isn’t about me Mr. Han. And refer to me as Master or you will face consequences for defiance” YOOOOO HIS EYES WERE LIKE O_O you were even surprised like where the fuck did this came from.
  • You put 2 ice cube near his cock 2 on each side of the v line and a trail going down his legs. You got on top of him and put a ice cube on your mouth and you glazed it near his neck. He was gasping. You didn’t care. You love seeing him vulernable. You continue to grace the ice against his shoulder and then you went to the other side and did the same. You kissed him and pushed the melting ice cubes in his mouth. You leaned into his ear and whispered “ you got me… you got me…..” and then you got up and whipped hm again. “ Beg for your master Jumin” and bam you whipped him again and he jerked upwards a little. You knew he wasn’t in pain because his face was started to flush in a light shade of pink.
  • You proceeded to go near his cock and you got the finger vibrator and you were stroking him with it. He was going crazy. He was already moaning. When you decided to put your mouth on him and put the vibrator on his balls he was thrusting his hips up “ FUCK PRINCESSS” you stopped. You got in ice cube and rubbed it around the length of his cock. “ what am I Jumin. What I am”. He was a moaning mess. “ YOURE MY MASTER (Y/N) MY MASTER. YOU GOT LOOKING CRAZY RIGHT NOE FUCK STOPPP. GIVE ME THAT PUSSY PLEASE”
  • *the guards outside were shook. Holy shit a change of pace*
  • “ save me master please….. save me…..”
  • you went ontop of him and looked him into his eyes “ your love got the best of me…. you got me…”
  • and you were fucking riding him. Like the bed was rocking. He was screaming. You put the vibrator to your clit and you were screaming.
  • You then woke up from your nap cause Jumin was shaking you. “Princess are you okay !! He then saw your panties wett… were you dreaming of me baby” you then realized what you needed to do ;). Yes it was a sex dream LOL

V:

  • it’s been 4 whole months since he got his eye surgery. It was a very slow and horrific process for him because when he FINALLY agreed to go to the doctor he was almost fully blind. So the process was going really slow for him :(. He was really sensitive so it was four months without sex. He didn’t really have the energy to masterbate and well you went to the shower and used the shower head. 2 WEEKS past of constant masterbation for you and V actually walked on the shower when you were using the shower head. You gasped and you were embarrassed. He smiled and looked at you “ you are truly beautiful….. I’m glad I got to see what you were doing” how can he sound so romantic when you were doing something nasty??? He is to pure. You guys were taking a shower together and he was looking at every single part of your body. As if he remembering every curve and every line you had. You went closer to him and traced the scars he had because OF THAT FUCKING BITCH.
  • “ My love… uh can we go to the bedroom” awww HE WAS FLUSTERED HOW CUTE. YOU nodded and he led you to the bed. He was expecting you to lie down but you brought him closer to you “ let me be in charge my king” you pushed him gently onto the bed and you heard him grunt. ( YOU WERENT GONNA BLIND FOLD HIM CAUSE THAT SHIT IS RUDE AND AND WEIRD MAN HAS BEEN BLINDFOLDED FOR A LONG TIME)!
  • You were scratching your nails around chest and he was literally staring at the marks you left behind. You scratched harder as if you were trying to mark your territory. You got close to his scar and you just gently rubbed them and kissed him. He sensed your uncertainty that he was feeling guilt. Shit. Our first time wasn’t suppose to be like this. He had to find a way for you to feel comfortable. He grabbed your head gently and guided your way to his lips. His tongue asked for permission to dance with yours and you happily accepted. He broke the kiss and stared into your soul “ please… don’t hold back” YAALLL YAAAAL OKAY OKAY FUCK LOVEY DOVEY LETS GET READY TO RUMMMBLLLEEEEEE
  • Your kissed him again but with more hunger your bit his lip and tugged it. You went to his bench and nibbled on the tender skin and then sucked you sucked your own bites. He was breathing heavily because he wanted to touch you but you keep pinning his hands down. Now this giant can easily flip you over and fucked your pussy tilll you were seeing god but he wanted you to HE in charge he wanted you to be you…
  • Then went to where his heart was and you bit his chest so hard blood was coming out and you even licked the small amount of blood. You were making him yours. You were marking your territory in fear someone would try to get him back. You left bite marks till his V line and you yanked his pants down. Aaaaa you saw his bulge. You started to strike his cock gently through his boxers while your other hand was cupping his balls. His was getting firm and you needed to pleasure yourself as well. So you got on top of him and grinded on his bulge.
  • “ fuuuhhhuukk baby fuck” you kept grinding deeper… faster…. and he was getting harder and harder till your finally felt the tip hitting your clit. You rode him like that and when you saw him about to close his eyes your grabbed his chin “ don’t you ever take your eyes off me… I want you to see how hard you got for me…. how my pussy is gonna fuck you”
  • You guys were forehead to forehead and you looked into his eyes while you keep grinding. It was getting harder for you because you were going to release soon. You grinded faster and you leaned back and finished yourself off. His whole stomach was covered with your cum and you cleaned it up for him with your mouth.
  • You took of his boxers and you slowly went down because you were still sensitive. He felt like he was in heaven. He was staring HOW HIS COCK WAS BEING DEVOURED. You finally grabbed his hands and you grabbed your own breast with his hands and you were riding faster. When he came you got up slowly and he saw how his cum was leaking down your pussy onto his cock. He then flipped you over and fucked you. Hard.

Why can’t I kin/id outside my race if I am white?

Because race is an integral part of a person’s identity, especially if they are nonwhite. It influences each and every aspect of their life.

By saying you’re kin with/ID as a character who is a person of color when you are white yourself, you are implying that you can separate characters from their race, that all our lived experiences and struggles that come with being a particular race can be dismissed as immaterial without changing who we are. This is racist. You are erasing our experiences with race and appropriating our identity without ever having to experience all the pain that comes with it.

The “it’s racist to kin outside your race” thing was started by white people pretending to be Japanese.

Believe it or not, we are capable of finding things racist, independent of white influence. Further, this argument is utterly nonsensical - how is white people fucking up while pretending to be Japanese somehow license for more white people to continue to do so?

My friend is a person of color and they told me it’s okay to kin outside my race.

First of all, you need to stop using your nonwhite friends to defend yourself against accusations of racism. You are essentially using a restyled version of the “I have nonwhite friends, I can’t be racist” argument.

Secondly, you have no way of knowing whether your friend actually thinks it’s okay or whether they are merely afraid of calling you out because they worry that you will either not listen to them, accuse them of overreacting or cut them off.

Finally, just because your token friend of color has sanctioned your racism doesn’t make it any less racist.

I’m a person of color and I don’t think it’s bad for white people to kin outside their race.

People of color are not a monolith. You’re entitled to your opinion. That doesn’t change the fact that other nonwhite people are being harmed by this sort of racist behavior.

What if I call them synpaths instead of kins?

No. Doing so is making no change in your racist behavior; it is merely using a change in terms to attempt to placate those who have called you out.

What if I’ve put up a disclaimer on my kin/id page saying that I don’t claim the race of the character I kin with/id as?

That is simply insulting. You are basically saying “you don’t see color”, implying that the race of the character is immaterial and easily separable from the character. It is not.

What about reincarnation kin?

They still claim to be the nonwhite character. This is inexcusable regardless of how you try to explain it away. You cannot claim a character’s experiences as “your past lives” when their past lives have experience with racism you cannot possibly understand.

I am not hurting anyone by being kin/id outside my race, it’s a simple coping mechanism!

You coping mechanisms are not beyond reproach just because you’re mentally ill, especially when they function at the expense of marginalized people.

You are in fact hurting people of color -especially those of us who are mentally ill and use kin to cope. This is compounded by the fact that we are doubly marginalized by racism and ableism and are thus more likely to go undiagnosed/misdiagnosed/have poor access to mental health care. We already have extremely limited representation in media, and it is entitled of you to lay claim to what few characters we have to, when there are countless white characters you have to chose from.

In addition, those of you going by nonwhite names - like white anime kins - add to the racism by claiming names that nonwhite (in this case Asian) people are discriminated for - in education and employment. It is beyond entitled for you as a white person to claim names from cultures when they’ve been stripped from us by white society.

I am delusional/psychotic and I cannot help my kins, asking me to do so is ableist.

Before you call us ableist, consider that white people are not the only ones who deal with mental illness. Then imagine what it is like to live with intersecting marginalization of racism and ableism, especially when there are people like you who blatantly abuse their white privilege.

If your delusions actively harm others, you cannot continue to excuse them. If you are capable of recognizing your behavior as delusional, you have the ability to make efforts towards changing your behavior. We say this as people who are delusional ourselves. It is not easy, but fighting racism was never going to be easy to begin with.

What can I do to change?

Stop going by ethnic kin names. Take the characters off your kin page. Try to distance yourself from the character. Focus on other kins - as a white person, you’re guaranteed to have - or find - plenty of others.

As for the future, you cannot help which characters you get kin feelings for, but you can help what you do with them. You can also educate yourself to rid yourself of the subconscious idea that race is a separable trait from our experiences, so you eventually see nonwhite characters as off limits.

I don’t care about this/I’m going to continue to kin outside my race.

Then please do not pretend to care about racism. It’s extremely exhausting and disheartening for us to broach this subject with white people who claim to be allies, only to have them continue with their behavior and shut us out because they care about maintaining their image as Good Whites than they do about actually changing their racist behavior. You cannot claim to be an ally when you are only anti-racist as long as it’s convenient/doesn’t require you to change your behavior.

4

Representation: Make Your Own, Vote with Your Wallet

Here’s a comic that I drew up to explain my grievances with these counter-arguements I’ve seen popping up. I’ll write more in text here.

I don’t want to stop anyone from making their own games. Making games is a hard, incredibly rewarding creative task, and you should never stop making games, ever. You want to see a game that is totally your thing, your own brainchild go out into the world for people to enjoy? Do it. Make that game, and share with the world more culture than ever before. There is nothing stopping you from making your own game except time and effort.

But one person’s games, that’s just one voice in a million. As a gay person (and I cannot speak for anyone else but my own gay self), I grew up without any gay protagonists, with the constant background radiation of “Straight Is Normal”. Every romance, every love interest, every single character who wasn’t a joke or a villain, straight. I couldn’t share a part of me that was vitally important to me, and nobody knew what being gay meant, since there were no positive gay characters in the media we were consuming. If I made a game with a gay main character, that would still be one game in tens of thousands. It wouldn’t reach a wide audience, and there wouldn’t be the presence in media that is sorely required. I would need to have a marketing campaign, and millions of dollars I don’t have to reach the audience who really needs this representation.

Because this isn’t about one game, this isn’t about any particular game. This is about culture in general. Children will grow up playing straight leads and create straight leads in their own games. They won’t think “Hey, maybe I should make this lead gay” because that’s not what they grew up playing. We imitate what we’ve learnt, and we create building blocks with which we craft stories. The gun toting veteran soldier is always male, the princess who needs saving is always female, the hero is always straight and always gets the girl.

But what if we made sure that wasn’t the case? What if the hero had a gay love interest, what if the princess was a dude, what if the gun toting vet was a lady? What if we explore these avenues, construct a more complex narrative and not just rehash the same narratives we ourselves played as children?

We shout loudly for this to happen, decry wasted opportunities because we need to. Because if we don’t bring it to the attention of the people making the games, nobody will. We cannot remain passive consumers - “only play the games you like” only counts if there are games that represent us - and if there are parts of those games we find hurt us, we can still love those games and recognise the hurtful bits. I do not want to boycott games with problematic elements - that will ensure only bad games get made. How do you make money speak the necessary things we have to say?

(As a footnote, I will explain how money talks. Money is a language all of it’s own, and it is a very simple language. If you give someone money for doing something, you are saying “I support the thing you are doing”. If you do not give them money, you aren’t really saying anything, as it could be anything from “I don’t support this at all!” to “Eh, I wasn’t invested enough to lay down money” to “I wanted to support you, but I couldn’t.”. Now, if someone made a really really good game, but it had an insulting or degrading depiction of your group inside it, and you really liked the game, would you buy it? Would you not buy it? If you bought it, you are supporting the status quo - they will continue to do anyway. If you didn’t buy it, they might think “Wow, we need to not do a game like this ever again” and not even consider that the problematic elements were the problem. Money is too crude of a language to get this across.)

So, we are left with the only avenue that is viable for us: Actual Dialogue and Critique. Where we are free to say “I really liked this game, but it had problematic elements in it”, and discuss the things that went wrong in the game. Now, critique is not the same as censorship. With censorship, you remove the media from the public’s eye as soon as possible, so that their eyes are not offended by it. I do not want this. I cannot stress enough that I do not want this. Censorship is a regressive and counterproductive tactic, which does not help us learn from our mistakes and missteps. If we censored every piece of art that had mistakes, we would stagnate.

Critique, on the other hand, is the honing of skills and behaviour through discussion of the implementation of such behaviour. Just like an artist can recieve critique on anatomy,a writer can recieve critique on representation. A poor artist draws what they think something looks like, a poor writer writes what they think something acts like. And just like a poor artist can avoid drawing body parts they have no skill in drawing, a poor writer can avoid including people they know nothing about. Representation is simply another way we can improve the quality of our games - with proper representation comes richer, more varied casts.

I want to stress again that critique is forward thinking, not backward thinking. When we say, say, that Assassin’s Creed: Unity has four identical white males and that’s boring and samey - it is a critique of the game itself. It is a flaw that perhaps Ubisoft can learn from, and if we didn’t point it out, they would be none the wiser about it. Ignoring flaws is just as bad as censorship - both ways we learn nothing about it. Would you like to see a game industry filled with nothing but grizzly Doom Marines? If nobody pointed that out, the industry would blindly make more Doom Marines, because that’s what would sell. But once we’ve pointed out the samey Doom marines, or the four white lads, future games can be made that have an eye to this critique, and it can only benefit everyone. Sure, there will still be problematic games, but we are only human, and we are still allowed to enjoy those games. But I think the game industry can be better, and it needs to be told where it is going wrong. Those games that it creates, they will still exist for you to enjoy. They will always exist, and they will be fun.

I know you want creative freedom, and I do too, but the industry makes a profit from creating games geared with marketing and not just a little cynicism. By having better representation, we open up avenues for more voices, more varied creators to have their say, not just the ones that “sell at the moment”, as executives, the ones that are really in charge of the creative decisions, are a frightened and conservative lot. If we show them that no, we won’t stand for this lack of representation, they will have to reconsider their cynical and conservative marketing avenues. And we can’t do this by money alone. Money can only take us part of the way there, and for the rest of it, the vast majority, we need…

REAL FUCKING DIALOGUE.

I bet even some of you out there are still skeptical, like, why do we even need better representation, games are fine as they are. I’m not here to tell you that you can’t enjoy games. I’m not here to tell you that games aren’t important, or aren’t art, or should be a lame minority rainbow, or that all games should be Captain Planet and the Planeteers, where social consciousness is the deal of the day, all day, every day. I think that would be terrible. But what I do want? I want gay heroes to be just as normal and ordinary as straight heroes. I want black heroes to be unnotable and accepted. I want female heroes, I want trans heroes. I want characters that stick in people’s minds as normal. There is no “Special Snowflake Patrol” wanting to make every hero be an intersection with every marginalised group.

I just… want to be normal. I don’t want to have to shout, or campaign, or point out Straight White Male Protagonist #6753 as being yet another wasted opportunity.

I want to be normal. I want to be able to walk down the street with my boyfriend, holding hands, without people recalling all the regressive stereotypes that they have seen in the media and informed themselves about my sexuality.

I want to be normal. I want to be the hero sometimes, I want to be the villain sometimes. I want great gay romance, I want terrible gay romance.  I want to pick up a straight-to-DVD animated movie and sometimes see gay characters just existing, being gay, without it being notable or anything.

But that will never happen if I just make my own media and just passively consume the media that most closely fits me. Not existing in media I enjoy is not good enough for me. I refuse to be a passive consumer. This solution needs

DIALOGUE.

And if we need to get a little loud to be heard over the roar, well, that’s just what we’ll have to do. Why not join in, so that we can fix this problem sooner, and we can all rest and enjoy making our own games, while enjoying games made by teams of people with far more money than we’ll ever see in our lifetimes? After all, it must be great to see a big budget game with a romance that you can connect with. I wish I could play one!

And even though I’m gay, and not a person of colour, female, or transgender, I still want them to feel the same thing I’m striving for. That’s what equality is all about. I’ll help them, they’ll help me, and if you help as well, to strike up dialogue, to critique, to discuss and deconstruct, we’ll get there.

We’ll get nowhere just passively consuming. Let us

TALK.

UPDATE: My good friend Samael inked the comic for me! It looks much better now!

lgbtq representation in the raven cycle

Scrolling through the ‘pynch’ tag I’ve seen a lot of posts saying that Adam and Ronan aren’t good lgbtq representation because the word ‘gay’ or ‘bisexual’ are never used in the series, that pynch felt rushed, and that it was like Maggie decided they were queer halfway through the series in order to jump on the diversity bandwagon. 

If you are queer, you are more than entitled to think that them not actually labelling their sexuality is poor representation or isn’t good enough (if you are straight, I don’t care about your opinion). Personally, I don’t think it matters that the words are never shown because their sexualities are so explicitly depicted over the course of the novels. I read something that Maggie posted on her blog where she talked about not wanting to have to write that coming out narrative, that she wanted to show them being queer without having to them go through this narrative of coming out that draws such a clear line between straight characters and queer characters. Which I very much appreciate, as a queer person who is sick of coming out narratives being one of the few ones queer characters are allowed. I also think that the lack of labelling is perfectly okay because it is so clear that the characters are not only queer, but that Ronan is gay and Adam is bi, that the words don’t need to be used. And this from someone who normally has fits whenever writers refuse to call bisexual characters bisexual. 

It’s so clear Adam is bisexual because neither his relationship with Blue or his relationship with Ronan is prioritized over the other, or written to be lesser. Maggie describes Adams attraction to Blue and Ronan in the same terms and in the same way. His relationship with Blue is never given the treatment of ‘once I was with a guy, I realized how much I hadn’t been complete being with a woman’. Even when he’s beginning to realize that he returns Ronan’s feelings, he still acknowledged that he thinks Blue is attractive, even if he no longer has feelings for her. He also doesn’t have any ‘gay panic’ when Ronan kisses him, or at any point while he begins to realize that he returns Ronan’s feelings, which speaks pretty clearly, in my opinion, to him knowing he’s bi and being totally fine with it, even if he’s not out to his friends. Which I don’t think he was, partially because of the contrast with how his friends interact with Ronan. 

Reading the series, it was so obvious from book one that Ronan was queer. To be honest if you thought that was a change made halfway through, it’s because you were approaching it from a heteronormative view point, not because Maggie suddenly decided he was queer. One of my favourite lines is in the first book: ‘I’m always straight’ ‘That’s the biggest lie you’ve ever told’. This joke is exactly the kind of joke me and my friends would make with each other. That’s such a queer joke! It’s great! It makes it clear that not only is Ronan queer but both he and his friends are totally accepting of it! Ronan being gay is there in Maggie’s descriptions of how he thinks of Blue (and Orla) versus the other guys, in his interactions with Kavinsky (who is also obviously queer, but unlike Ronan hasn’t come to terms with it). It’s there in the small lines between him and his friends that acknowledge that he isn’t attracted to women. It’s VERY there in how he thinks of Adam. 

In terms of their relationship being rushed, I think that’s just another example of reading through a heteronormative lens versus reading and being open to the possibility of queer characters and relationships. In both the way Adam talks about Ronan and Ronan talks about Adam, their attraction to each other is clear. Adam might have developed feelings for Ronan after Ronan had already developed and accepted his feelings for Adam, but that doesn’t make them forced or rushed. A slow build relationship like theirs can’t by it’s very nature be forced or rushed to be honest, not when you can see Adam slowly beginning to return Ronan’s feelings. 

tl;dr if you think that it wasn’t obvious that Ronan and/or Adam were queer before they kissed, I recommend you reread the series with the fact of their queerness in mind. 

About him-
He’s more sensitive than you may ever realize. Be cautious what you say to him. If you insult him, he will never forget that and it will eat away at him.
He needs constant reassurance. He needs to be told everyday how much you love him and how much he means to you. And when you think you’ve said it enough for one day, say it again.
There are two polar opposite sides to him. One he puts on when he is in a social setting, that’s the boy who is influenced and wild, the poor representation of his true self. The other one he’ll put on when you’re alone. That’s the real him, stripped down and raw. Vulnerable. He’s so afraid to show that side to the world, but I’m still not sure why.
If he starts to drift, let him. Sometimes he needs to wander to see what else is out there, but don’t worry he’ll come back to you, he always does.
He gets sensitive when he drinks, the alcohol brings out all the feelings his tough guy side is afraid to let go. He might sob in your arms, he might throw a punch at the wall, or he might spill all of his secrets. No matter what happens, just hug him. Wrap your arms around him as tightly as you can and don’t let him go until morning. Let him know your there for him, there with him, that he’s never alone.
He is insecure about his appearance and the way he presents himself. Girls drool over him and even though he knows that, he doesn’t always see what everyone else does. So compliment him. Everyday. And if he asks for advice on his outfit, which he will everytime you go out, give your opinion. He will treasure your honesty, most people don’t give that to him.
He is afraid of the future, you can see it in his eyes and hear it in his voice. He sees his friends have plans and goals and it terrifies him because he doesn’t have a clue, but has too much pride to admit it. So help him, tell him he’s going to do great things over and over until he believes it. Hell, believe it yourself because he will, he already does.
When he drunk dials you at 2 in the morning and can’t get home, go pick him up. No matter how mad he made you or how tired you are, go pick him up. He needs you or he’ll drive himself home because he doesn’t think he has anyone else who cares enough. 
He will always be a child and you’ll have to let him be. And when others criticize him, which I promise you they will, stick up for him. Tell them to shove it because they don’t know the half of him. Tell them they’re wrong because he is worth it. 
He is going to make mistakes, a lot of them, but he will own up to them everytime. Not always right away, sometimes he’ll run back months later and cry in your arms cause he didn’t say sorry sooner. Know he means it.
And last, love him. Open your heart to him and just love him with all you have. He deserves that much.
—  If you love him next

I fucking hate it when people excuse Betty trying to drown a man because “she has a mental illness” and they’re referring to ADHD or Anxiety. It’s a piss poor representation of people that have ADHD and anxiety. We’d never attempt kill someone. ADHD is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. And a general anxiety disorder is the constant feeling of fear or worry. Betty Cooper has shown signs of fucking sociopathy. I will not forgive RAS for writing this character telling us she has anxiety and ADHD only to have the representation paint people who have ADHD and anxiety as some sort of psychopaths. It’s wrong.

Although, really, I think the amount of LGBT people freaking out at this episode is very revealing of just how shit representation at large is for us.

Like, in a perfect world, nobody would bat an eyelid at the cliffhanger, people would just go “oh okay that’s interesting, gonna see how it unfolds”. But we live in a context where there’s so many precedents than even someone with the track record of Moffat (and please don’t start sending the “but he’s a homophobe!” posts my way) can’t escape a knee-jerk reactions from many, many that were hurt by poor representation in the past.

I mean, “World Enough and Time” was a story worth telling. And I love how it uses Bill’s status as a gay woman of colour to deliver a devastating statement on class wars. And I don’t expect for a second that it will stick. But we just shouldn’t live in a world where that kind of narrative is immediately associated with old wounds and past betrayals.

It’s just really shit. I hope next week episode brings plenty of positivity to all the people that felt hurt or disappointed by tonight’s episode. I mean, I’m 99% it will, but even I have this little, irrational, nagging doubt at the back of my skull.