ok this has been bothering me for a while. it mostly came up with the first highlight reel coming out and most of it happened on twitter though it’s been happening here too. the issue here is that a lot of people who are not straight - but who are not gay - have been using that to okay homophobia. and if it was just a few individuals - okay, but i’ve gotten anons from well-meaning people who probably didn’t realize they were doing something harmful.
i get that being bisexual/pansexual is a different experience from being gay. so it may be hard to empathize with us on some issues. but lately i’ve been seeing a lot of people defend homophobic stuff in the fandom by saying “anyways i’m not straight”. and it’s 99% of the time not gay people but bi people saying that. which shows we have a lot of progress to make still, understanding each other. just as gay people often don’t understand bisexual issues, there’s a lack of understanding here as well.
when we complain about queerbaiting and your answer is “i’m not straight but i don’t mind it, you’re overreacting” - you’re using your bisexuality to excuse homophobia.
when bts added all the girls and made us believe they were all going to be romantic subplots and we were rightfully upset - and your answer is “but they could be bi”, you’re wholly missing the point.
it’s not even that a majority of all bisexual people are doing this, rather it’s mostly bisexual people who do this. for those who do this: stop using the fact that you’re not straight against gay people, to invalidate our concerns. try and think about how it must feel to be gay. empathize more please.