this guy is a

anonymous asked:

Here's a good Dan fact: Dan casually jokes about saying a racial slur and should be stopped!

Hey, actual cool fact! That moment that you’re upset about (I’m assuming it’s the one in the best-of for March) is actually a wonderful moment. And not as much of a joke as you think it is. This culture of “EVERYONE IS A GARBAGE PERSON BECAUSE OF ONE THING” is really horrendous and you guys need to stop it. Allow me to explain.

First of all, Dan is the least garbage of garbage people, so extra knock it off. Second, that moment is a good thing. Not a joke about a slur. It’s Dan’s actual progress in unlearning saying it. Because he grew up in a time and place where it was more usual to hear it, and then grew up further around friends who dropped that word all the time. It was entered into his lexicon as something funny. He himself has even dropped that word, although it’s censored, in a couple early Grumps.

But now almost five years later, Dan merely ALMOST drops the word. And his immediate reaction is realization, not saying it, and fear. He literally says “that scared me”. That’s progress. That’s something to be celebrated. Through five years of being on the Grumps and hearing fans tell him what hurts and what’s not cool to say, he is slowly unlearning gross behavior. That is all you can ask of a human being. That they unlearn things that are not okay and that they understand that they hurt people. Dan is a very bright example of that.

So instead of “hey guess who’s garbage” or “guess who we should be mad at forever today”, let’s instead go “oh Dan had a bad moment but he self-corrected and is obviously learning from past bad behavior”. Because I saw that moment as nothing but good and proof of Dan’s willingness to change beyond behavior that some of you think makes a person “forever garbage”. Which is usually almost never the case. So knock it off. Thanks.

anonymous asked:

Being Married to Shawn

  • “I love you.”
  • Shawn still taking you out on dates even thought you’re already married
  • Shawn taking you along on tour with him
  • Not having to be apart as much as you did when you were still dating
  • Waking up next to him every morning
  • Good morning kisses
  • Goodnight kisses
  • Shawn getting along with your family
  • And treating your siblings like they’re his own siblings
  • His family loving you
  • Whenever Aaliyah had a break from school
  • You’d convince Shawn to fly her out to wherever you both were
  • And you’d hang out with her and make sure she was safe
  • Shawn having meetings early on a Saturday morning
  • And you being disappointed because you like to cuddle on weekends
  • But he makes up for it by coming home at 11am with Starbucks
  • Spending long nights in the studio with him
  • Shawn surprising you with weekend getaways
  • “I love that you’re my forever.” 
  • Always being Shawn’s plus one to events
  • Getting a cat together shortly after you’re married
  • Buying Shawn clothes
  • Cooking together
  • Him knowing everything about you 
  • All the scary, hard to love, messed up stuff
  • And still loving you anyway
  • Knowing what he’s like at two am when he’s worked hard all day
  • And what he’s like at two pm on a lazy Sunday
  • Knowing everything about him
  • Choosing to love each other daily
  • Choosing to love each other through all the gritty and hard stuff
  • Knowing that ring on his ring finger is for you
  • And that whenever he sees it he thinks of you
  • Having a sign that was a wedding gift: “The Mendes Family, est. 20__”
  • Wedding pictures in your living room
  • Pictures of the two of you and your families all over your house
  • Your house full of cute decorations that Shawn let you be in charge of 
  • Playfully arguing about who’s turn it was to clean the cat’s litter box
  • Sitting on your kitchen floor eating ice cream at 2am just because
  • Literally just getting to do life with your best friend