IRIS WEST: THE MOST SELFLESS.
Remember when Iris didn’t want to tell Joe about her potential future because it would crush him? Or that time when she didn’t want to tell Joe about a potential son - Wally - just yet because she wanted to know all of the facts, and that she didn’t want to get his hopes up? Because she knew it would crush him if he found out he had a son he didn’t get a chance to raise? Nevermind the fact that he lied to her for 20 years about her mother being dead? Selfless.
Remember when Iris repeatedly reminded the team that her future wasn’t the only one that was going to to change, alluding to Caitlin? Remember when she reminded Barry that Caitlin as Killer Frost was out there still lurking, even when time was running out and her fate is near? Selfless.
Remember when Iris didn’t want to compromise Barry’s humanity by killing a Gorilla to save her? Or that time she didn’t want to let Plunder go, a villain to walk free, even if it meant she dies? She constantly reminds Barry that he doesn’t have to hurt people or go to extreme lengths to save her, even if Barry is 100% willing to do whatever it takes. Selfless.
Now? Iris didn’t want Barry to regain his memories. Why? Because she wants Barry to be happy. She didn’t want Barry to still feel like he needed to carry the world on his shoulders. She loved seeing Barry happy without the pain and suffering that he’s endured in his life. She was willing to sacrifice every single memory and moment they have shared, if it meant Barry got to be happy. Would Barry remember his speech when he first told her he loved her? Or her speech when she told him she loved him back? Or the moments they have fought, especially about him being The Flash? Their date nights? Their first time, etc? No, he wouldn’t. But to Iris? If it meant Barry got to be blissfully happy, it will have been worth it.
Now I never understood the Iris hate, and never will. Especially time after time, she proves that she is the most selfless person on this show. Don’t dare call Iris West selfish. Don’t.