Some Tips for Being a Better Conversationalist
1. Be bold. For example, don’t be afraid to tell someone what you like about their work, or to comment on something they do well. We usually like people who pay us compliments!
2. Remember that we always have something in common –even if it is just the weather, or a class we are taking. It is better to say something than nothing at all. Hopefully, the other person will respond to your lead.
3. Ask people about their interests or hobbies … and when they respond ask some open questions to keep the conversation going.
4. If you are introverted and find talking to others very difficult, try and prepare a bit in advance. For example, think of some things that might interest others (popular movies, groups or singers, the latest games etc.) Think about how you could use these in a conversation with someone you don’t know.
5. Do your best to act relaxed (even if you feel uncomfortable inside.)
6. Try to sound confident when you talk to other people. For example, don’t mumble, maintain steady but comfortable eye contact, and smile a lot.
7. Make a mental note of some amusing things that you saw or heard. For example, something funny someone said, a fun activity you did with your friends … or anything you think might be of interest to that person.
8. Watch other people who are confident and seem to find chatting with others very easy. Notice what they do – and then learn from them.