In an ideal world I would have written this post yesterday, but I’m afraid my schedule just didn’t allow it.
I’ve continued to receive a lot of asks about the drama from the other day, so I’ve complied a bit of a FAQ under the cut.
The blogger you were attacking never said any of what you’re claiming she said!
Hello friends, I would invite you to improve your reading comprehension, because I literally never made ANY claim about any blog saying anything at all.
I responded to an anon I got, asking my opinion about a terrible TERRIBLE idea and went on a rant about it. I said phrase that went on to cause a tremendous shitstorm (though frankly I still don’t know why), “don’t be a cunt”. I made a few other posts, because I was ANGRY at the fucking entitlement and stupidity of an idea like that, and answered another ask, making it clear I was talking about the anons doing the rounds, and that I had no idea which blog was supposedly saying what. Then I went and had a highly ineffective rage-shower.
During my rage-shower, I was inundated with messages claiming that a particular blog, the one you’re referring to, was the source of the boycott, and was encouraging other people not to buy Harry’s album. I went to her blog and found absolutely nothing of the sort. What I saw was her answering a series of anons saying about people saying they weren’t going to buy the album, and her answering that people should do what they’re comfortable with.
What I ALSO saw was saw her flipping her shit at me in response to my posts, about my anger, my choice of word, and the way I was apparently telling people how to spend their money, and ~enforcing consumerism~. What I don’t particularly understand is why, knowing that she wasn’t encouraging a boycott, she thought my posts about people who were planning a boycott were about her, when obviously they weren’t. She was particularly upset that I was apparently personally calling her a cunt. Which again, I wasn’t. I was raging at a terrible idea, not at an individual, and anyone who actually read my blog as this was happening would have seen that.
I continued to get anons saying that I was targetting her, and telling me to apologise, because she hadn’t said what I said they were saying - I even replied to another ask saying again that it wasn’t about her, and that I had been responding to the barrage of anons that I was seeing across multiple blogs, but that having seen her response to me, now I was pretty annoyed at her.
My inbox continued to explode, it was 3:30am, I went to bed. Things continued to get messy.
It’s a real pity she now has me blocked, because I went to write her a chat message yesterday clarifying that that I absolutely was not calling her a cunt in those posts, and to say that I could see that she was dealing with as many idiots with failing reading comprehension as I was, and to apologise that some arseholes had been taking on themselves to send her anon hate on my behalf. It’s a shame I can’t do that now, especially because we used to be mutuals.
There wasn’t even a boycott planned, it was just anons running from blog to blog, causing chaos. You overreacted to something that doesn’t exist!
Firstly a reminder that I was very clear that I was specifically replying about the anons that were going around. Secondly, we’ve all seen the way that ideas, both good and bad, spread very VERY quickly through this fandom. In a very sad way, it doesn’t actually matter what the original message was, or was intended to be, because it’s the way it’s interpreted and the way that interpretation echoes through the fandom that really makes an impact.
No, it wasn’t a formal boycott with an official blog and a twitter hashtag… because it was still only a new idea. If left unaddressed, I’m pretty certain it wouldn’t have taken long for the “Support Louis and End Babygate by Boycotting Harry Styles’ Album" bullshit to snowball into actual fandom chaos. (Granted, I didn’t think opposing it would have caused the fucking meltdown that followed, but still.)
I think it’s important to take a loud stance against an outrageously terrible formative idea, the second it rears its ugly head, because prevention is better than cure, and I’m going to keep doing that. If you don’t like that about me, or have a completely different view of what is or isn’t a bad idea that deserves shouting down, then you’re more than welcome to unfollow, I’m not holding anyone here against their will.
You shouldn’t have used a misogynistic slur!
Some of you are spectacularly upset by my use of the word “cunt.” To you, I say “whatever man, it’s just a word.” It’s a swear word NOT a slur. It’s a fucking BODY PART, it can’t be a slur. I have one, some of you have one, whatever. I could have used literally any other swear word and it would have had the same meaning and purpose. I might have said “fucking idiot”, or “ridiculous twat”, or “tremendous dickhead”, or “unstoppable moron”, or “sad waste of carbon”, or literally any other word or phrase designed to make the point of “terrible idea is terrible and anyone who encourages this terrible idea is also terrible.”
If you’re fixated on the word “cunt” more than you are upset at the idea that some people (and again, by that I mean some anons) were trying to peddle around the idea that we should punish Harry for a situation that he’s already suffering through, then quite frankly, you’re just cherry-picking shit to be offended about and WILDLY missing the point, and I don’t have any wish to associate with you.
You can’t tell people what do to with their money!
You’re right. You’re welcome to do whatever you want with your own money, I can’t spend it for you. But here’s the thing:
If you weren’t ever planning on buying Harry’s album because his music isn’t to your taste, or he’s never been one of your favourites, that’s completely fine. You do you, I probs won’t buy Niall or Liam’s albums and I definitely didn’t buy Zayn’s. You are not obligated to support all of the members of One Direction equally, that’s not what being a fan is about.
If you weren’t planning on buying Harry’s album because you’ve been disengaged with the fandom and it doesn’t bring you any joy any more, that’s completely fine. You don’t have to stay at the party if you’re not having fun, and no one is asking you to.
If you weren’t planning on buying Harry’s album because your financial situation doesn’t allow it, that’s completely fine. Obviously real world stuff like food and rent are more important that paying for music that you can’t afford right now, and if you want to support the album, there are still ways you can be involved that don’t cost money, like streaming, tweeting radio stations, and spreading awareness on your blog.
If you weren’t planning on buying Harry’s album because you want to boycott Sony because of the historically shit things that they’ve done then that’s fine… as long as you’re legitimately boycotting EVERY SINGLE Sony artist (and there are a lot of them), and not just Harry. I also hope you then start doing your research, because all music labels have been and will continue to be, terrible to their artists in favour of profit margins. There’s no such thing as a Fairtrade music record label, so if this is your stance, then I hope you’re prepared to almost exclusively listen to unsigned artists for the duration of your niche stubborness.
If you like Harry and his music, but you’re not going to buy his album in order to somehow ~force~ the people running babygate to end it, then I’m sorry, but you’re a fucking idiot. Harry is more affected by babygate than you, as a fan and an outsider, ever will be. Louis is his partner of nearly 7 years, and they go through everything together. Babygate might have targetted Louis, but because they are support system, they’re BOTH suffering through it.
To shun Harry’s creative imput, the album he’s said he’s worked really hard on, that he’s immensely proud of, that he feels represents himself and the things he’s never said before, because babygate hasn’t ended yet is to punish Harry for the specifics of his and his partner’s forcible closeting. Boycotting Harry to end babygate is like fucking to support abstinence and if this is your plan then you’re an dipshit. Don’t be a fucking dipshit.
You’re right, I sent that blogger an ask telling them they’re being a cunt.
Don’t. Fucking. Do that.
Aside from the topics covered in “The blogger you were attacking never said any of what you’re claiming she said!”, never EVER send bullying messages to someone on my behalf. NEVER use my words to attack someone and actually read what someone has actually said before you accuse them of a thing.
If you don’t like what someone is saying on their blog, unfollow. If you don’t follow someone, then why are you bothered by what they’re saying? Don’t @ people, and don’t send poisonous anon messages to people. Literally what the fuck is wrong with you?
You’re not a nice person
Things I claim to be: outspoken, passionate, sometimes generous, loud, intelligent, obnoxious, witty (but significantly too pleased with myself about it), unbearable
Things I have never once in my life claimed to be: nice
You’re a cunt
You’re welcome to dislike me, but again, you’re not going to offend me by your use of that word, because it’s just a word. I mean, I’m still going to block you, for being the sort of person who sends anon hate, but please be aware that you don’t have the capacity to hurt my feelings.