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anonymous asked:

Ok I HATE Billy’s character but like... he’s so hot and I know it’s gonna be hard for his redemption and character growth but I want it so bad

you can feel free to think he’s hot. dacre is extremely hot but the character he plays is shit. i don’t even think a character growth will make me like him. maybe if he really steps up and starts caring for max and actually acts like a supportive big brother and is generally nice to people i’ll maybe reconsider liking him

Timothee and Armie writings

Hey people of tumblr! I have been thinking about writing for Timothee Chalamet or Armie Hammer! I am a part of many fandoms but right now they have caught my interest! I don’t feel comfortable writing for Elio x Oliver because I have not read the book Call Me By Your Name I have only seen the movie 4 times! So I don’t feel super knowledgeable in that area!! So let me know what you guys think!! Feel free to send in your opinion or something that you have thought of and I can continue to elaborate!! Thanks so much!! I think that this post will flop but who knows?

tea recipes for witches

I tried to cover most types of witches I can think of but feel free to request some if I missed them! Im gonna make a second post with the ones I missed

Green witch tea🌿

-1 teaspoon green tea leaves

-1 teaspoon sage leaves

-1 teaspoon basil leaves

Air witch tea💨

- 1 teaspoon of roasted dandelion or white tea

-1 teaspoon of lemongrass

-1teaspoon of lavender

Sea witch tea🌊

-1 teaspoon of Jasmine buds

-1 teaspoon of hibiscus flower

-1 teaspoon of dried berries or 1 teaspoon of vanilla extract

Fire witch tea 🔥

- 1 teaspoon of black tea leaves

-1 teaspoon of cinnamon bark

-5-10 cloves

Divination witch tea🌟

- 1 teaspoon of sage leaves

-1 teaspoon of lavender buds

-1 teaspoon of rosemary

Dream witch tea💤

-1 teaspoon of Valerian

-1 teaspoon of chammomile

-1 teaspoon of lavender

Solar witch tea☀️

-1 teaspoon of dried orange or orange peel

-1 teaspoon of lemon balm

-1 teaspoon of lemon juice

Lunar witch tea🌙

- 1 teaspoon of Jasmine buds

-1 teaspoon of lemon juice

-1 teaspoon of violet or chamomile

Floral witch tea🌹

-1 teaspoon of rose petals

-1 teaspoon of Jasmine

-1 teaspoon of lavender

Ice Witch tea❄

-1 teaspoon of mint

-1 teaspoon of vanilla extract

-1 teaspoon of jasmine

Spirit witch tea👻

-1 teaspoon of black pepper

-1 teaspoon of rosemary

-1 teaspoon of lavender or mint

list of a-spec identities & info!

this is meant to be a comprehensive list (to the best of my limited abilities) of aro-spectrum and ace-spectrum identities. all the posts I saw had like 3 choices or a hundred, and I wanted something that was accurate and had a lot of research behind it…so I made it myself. I wrote the definitions, based on preexisting ones, for additional clarity and context.

anyone a-spec, questioning, or simply wanting to know more about our community is free & encouraged to reblog!

*”romantic/sexual” is in the definitions because the labels apply to both spectrums unless -romantic or -sexual is in the name


Asexual : not feeling sexual attraction to any gender(s)

Things that are completely separate from being asexual (but can be related): libido, sex drive, being a virgin, having/had sex, being sex positive/neutral/repulsed, and platonic, romantic, & familial love

Apothisexual : asexual that is sex repulsed

Aromantic : not feeling romantic attraction to any gender(s)

Things that are completely separate from being aromantic (but can be related): shipping, fantasizing about relationships and love, wanting a close relationship, been/being in relationships, being romance positive/neutral/repulsed, and platonic, sexual, & familial love

Apothiromantic : aromantic that is romance repulsed

Apath- : romance/sex neutral, regardless of orientation or attraction felt

Cupio- : not feeling romantic/sexual attraction but still desiring a relationship of that nature

Gray- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction weakly, rarely, only under certain conditions, or all of those. also an umbrella term for between allo and asexual/aromantic. may or may not desire a relationship.

Demi- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction only after an emotional bond is formed. the bond strength and time before attraction can vary between the demi person and the person they’re attracted to.

-Flux : (aroflux or aceflux) their orientation fluctuates, but always stays on the aromantic/asexual spectrum

Lithro-/Akoi-/Akoine-/Apo- : feels romantic/sexual attraction and enjoys relationships in theory, but don’t need/want those feelings reciprocated or to be in a relationship. (there are several labels because the original, from litho, is argued to be appropriated from lesbian butch culture, so wouldn’t recommend using it.)

Recipro- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction only to people who feel it for them, they reciprocate the type of the attraction

Fray- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction when less familiar with a person, but it fades as they get to know them better (sometimes described as the opposite of demi)

Aego- : enjoys the idea of romance/sex, but doesn’t wish to participate in it or related activities (based off autochoris- : a disconnection between the person and a romantic/sexual target or fantasy)

Quoi/WTF- : feeling unsure if romantic/sexual attraction is being felt and/or if they experience it. feeling as if the concept of that type of attraction is inaccessible, inapplicable, and/or nonsensical. (Another commonly used definition that isn’t correct is for the term below, so use that instead.)

Platoniromantic : feels no distinction between platonic and romantic attraction

Idemromantic : feels romantic and platonic attraction similarly so they are not particularly distinguishable from each other. categorizes platonic and romantic relationships based on external factors such as age, compatibility, closeness, etc. they mean different things and can be categorized, but feel the same.

Requies- : little to no romantic/sexual attraction due to trauma, possibly caused by bad past experiences with the type of attraction, or mental/emotional exhaustion

Caed- : used to feel romantic/sexual attraction, but doesn’t anymore due to trauma

Apres- : feels romantic/sexual attraction after another form of attraction is felt, and the original may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction

-Vague : (arovague or acevague) their a-spec status is uncertain or affected by mood

Burst- : romantic/sexual attraction comes and goes, may or may not have a reason

Nebularomantic : difficult or impossible to tell romantic and platonic attraction apart because of their neurodivergency or they’re platoniromantic

Novi- : feels complicated romantic/sexual attraction so it can’t be described in a single label

Quasiromantic : “someone who identifies as quasiromantic may see their attraction as non-traditional or may feel it differs from crushes, perhaps a mix between platonic, romantic, aesthetic, or somewhere completely different and/or it involves other non-traditional aspects, such as rare attraction, or attraction but non-physical, non-platonic but romantic, etc.” -general def


Vocab

S.A.M : split attraction model. most used in the a-spec community, it means that romantic and sexual orientations are different and separate. for example, someone could be homoromantic asexual, or aromantic bisexual. in the case of someone who is, for example, panromantic and pansexual, they can just state their orientation as pansexual, as there is no need for the SAM. however, it’s totally optional! if you feel, for example, asexual is your orientation and doesn’t need other labels, that’s fine!

Q.P.R. : queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic if the participants are not LGBT+) relationship. this is a type of relationship created by aro people for aro people, but anyone of any sexuality can be in one if they wish! it is defined as “a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. It may include any romantic or sexual elements the people in the relationship feel they want, or none at all.” -Aven Wiki

Peach Fuzz : qpr partners (known as zucchinis) pretending their relationship is romantic to avoid questions and explanations

Positive/Neutral/Repulsed : labels used to describe how someone feels about sex or romance in relation to them. positive: willing to be in that kind of relationship and/or do related things; neutral: indifferent, almost apathetic to the idea of sex/romance, doesn’t care too much if they give and/or receive it; negative/repulsed: actively disgusted by the idea of sex/romance. can also describe a person’s attitude about sex in general (not used in this post).

Amatonormativity : society treating romantic relationships as more valuable/better than non-romantic ones, and generally that a romantic and sexual relationship is the end goal and necessary (it’s really not)

Nonamory : doesn’t want to be in a romantic relationship, regardless of orientation

Aromate : a platonic soulmate, aka an aromantic partner

Lush : sensual attraction crush

Plush : queerplatonic crush

Smush : sexual attraction crush (can be considered lust if applicable)

Swish : aesthetic attraction crush

Squish : platonic attraction crush, usually more intense than “want to be friends”

Soft Romo : subdued romantic attraction

Post Rubor : gets quick crushes (of any type of attraction), but once the initial excitement fades, their feelings do too

Aplatonic : as platonic attraction is on a spectrum just like every other type of attraction, this is being on the lack-of end. not experiencing platonic attraction

Placio- : little/no desire to receive sexual/romantic acts, but wants to perform them on someone else. not specifically an a-spec term but is used more in the community

Alterous : attraction that isn’t completely platonic or romantic, somewhere in between, but still a desire for emotional closeness. used as -alterous, like -sexual or -romantic. can also experience romantic and/or platonic attraction, but feel some level of discomfort by categorizing it as fitting in those labels.


*remember, even for people who use the same label, it’s different for everyone, as are most things here! if you’re questioning and looking at this list to try and see where you fit, there’s no rush. take it slow and think about it.


feel free to add on! I’m sure I’ve missed some key terms or amazing identities because there’s so many out there and I’d love to see this post grow!!

Little Astro Things You May Not Have Heard Before

PART 1

Geminis have sharply angled jaws from the side view with a little cleft in their chin. Their arms are long and the back of their skull is kinda flat.

Cancers have really defined lips, whether big or small

Scorpios have gummy smiles and baby looking teeth

Earth signs and water signs have really round and sturdy looking skulls , unless influenced heavily by an air or fire sign (through dominants and aspects).

The Midheaven at its most natural state is meant to be in a square from the Ascendant and descendant. The Ascendant and midheaven should never be more than or less than a square away from the midheaven. This is because the Natal Chart is settled on a perfect 360 axis where it has 4 major angles setting its basic shape up; 360 divided by 4 would give us 4 perfectly aligned 90 degree angled points (MC, IC, ASC, DSC) but of course no chart can be “perfectly perfect” so many people will have interceptions: where the midheaven is sometimes more or less than a square away from the Ascendant. This is why we see some people having their Ascendant and midheaven only being 2 signs apart or even as far as 5 signs apart.

earth signs often have very small and flat foreheads with a slope

Air signs usually have very high foreheads (the hairline is far from the eyebrows)

Water signs typically have high and flat foreheads

Fire signs have small but round foreheads

Aries rules the ears and the facial features (natural resonators) so they are often at the peak of being just as good with music and instruments like Venusian ruled Taurus and Libra

Many performers have their 10th house ruler (Midheaven ruler) in the 7th house

Actors have the 10th house ruler in the 12th house

Mutable signs’ calves lots of times have a curve to them, like a bowl-legged or bow-legged however you call it lol

Earth signs have really long necks and very long natural hair

Libras (and other cardinal signs) often have a softened rectangular or oval face shape

Leos have defined canine teeth

In Esoteric astrology, Uranus Neptune and Pluto are associated with Zeus Poseidon and Hades respectively and are considered the Big Three because they hold an intense amount of staying power in a person’s life when aspected greatly.

North Node in the 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 4th indicates minimal fame but fame nonetheless

North Node in the 9th, 10th, 11th, or 12th indicates more widespread fame

Having a water house Stellium (4th, 8th, 12th) makes you more likely to accumulate wealth in this lifetime

Jupiter in the 9th, 10th, 11th , 12th makes you more likely to be recognized for your talents in this lifetime

Having Mars or Neptune on an angle makes you more inclined to being a good dancer/take dancing seriously

Technically, Capricorn rising is the Ascendant in exaltation. Libra rising is the Ascendant in detriment. Cancer rising is the Ascendant in fall. Many wealthy and renowned people have a cardinal rising because they are able to overcome more mentally than the rest of us.

The asteroid conjunct your sun at birth can indicate any health issues you can develop in this lifetime

Gemini is Mercury as a child, excitable and willing to know more of the surrounding world. Virgo is Mercury as an adult, deep in thought and not so open to new ideas but still free thinking and willing to research until their wisdom dies out.

Uranus-MC = long term success after climbing

Inconjunct/quincunx couples stand the test of time when they work through their differences moreso than semi-sextile couples. When the semi-sextile couple works through their differences, there is so much frustration because they can see clearly the many similarities they share but even the slightest difference btw them just makes them lost all over. The quincunx couples see some similarities but many differences which allows them a broader space to map newly shared interests INTO the relationship as time progresses.

Sign placements are of least importance in examining a synastry chart. First look at house placements, then secondly look at Aspects, then look at sign placements lastly.

Juno in Earth signs love to dance with their partners

A harmonic chart is a detailed examination of the minor aspects in your chart. A conjunction in the 5th harmonic chart is actually a quintile in the regular natal chart. A conjunction in the 7th harmonic chart is actually a septile in the regular natal chart. 8th harmonic conjunctions are octiles. 9th harmonic conjunctions are noviles. 10th harmonic conjunctions are deciles. And so on so forth with other harmonics. Reasonably, you should only go up to the 36th harmonic but some go as far the 100s but I honestly don’t even know what they’d be looking at at that point.

You should take fixed stars into account for a karmic stellium, conjunctions only of course.

A sesquiquadrate is basically a softened (really weak) mixture of a trine and a quincunx. It’s not good or bad and, in that sense, has a 50/50 deal to it like a conjunction, though it does resemble the trine and quincunx more in aspect. However, if you can’t find information on a sesquiquadrate aspect, it would be wise to examine the conjunction of that aspect first then look at the the trine. Make a watered down hypothesis of the sesquiquadrate aspect after this.

Earth and Fire signs are personal, Air and Water signs are interpersonal

In Vedic astrology, Rahu is the North Node, Ketu is the South Node, Lagna is the Ascendant, and D1, D2, D3, etc are simply referring to your different harmonic charts. So D7 would be the 7th harmonic chart, which shows septiles in the Natal Chart. Rashi refers to the houses.

In Vedic astrology, the natal Navamsa Chart is the indicator of soulmates and marriage. They say to check it to find out more about your future marriage. In Western astrology, we call the Navamsa Chart the 9th harmonic chart.

In your Navamsa Chart, a planet (or planets) that is in the SAME house as it is in your Lagna (Natal Ascendant) Chart is considered to be the most powerful in your chart. Similar to a dominant planet, it is called the vargottma and your destiny is tied to this planet (or planets). This is even more powerful and significant if the planet(s) are with Rahu (North Node).

Realistically, Aspects between venus and mars are NOT indicators of marriage/lifetime commitment. In western astrology, the idealistic views of Venus and Mars have become too inflated; even in Ancient Greek and Rome, many did not correlate marriage with the two frivolous entities of Venus and Mars. They are related more to general love and lust than the more specified love and lust that is present in marriage. You would look to the Moon, Jupiter, Saturn, and Juno for marriage between two people. All four are the basis for stability and compromising in relationships, albeit in different mannerisms. Venus and Mars are secondary to them in all aspects.

The ruler of the 1st and the ruler of the 10th are typically in the same house in the charts of celebrities.

Saturn and Jupiter both in the 1st house people are often very lean and slender

In Vedic astrology, Nakshatras (using sidereal measurements) take up the entire zodiac in 27 divisions. For example, I am Mrigasira Nakshatra Ascendant bc I was born from 23-20’ Taurus to 6-40’ Gemini in Vedic. I am Revati moon because I was born from 16-40’ Pisces to 30 Pisces. It’s confusing at first but super easy to understand if you just google it lol.

*I do not condone using sigils or any form of witchcraft in place of psychiatric or medical/professional help. 

If you want your sigil added (or just one you think is cool), feel free to ask!

ACADEMIC/SCHOOL:

ASTROLOGY:

ASTRAL:

ANIMALS/PETS:

BINDING:

CLEANSING:

DREAMS:

GRIMOIRE/BOS:

GLAMOUR:

HELP/EMOTIONS:

LUCK:

LOVE:

LGBTQ+

MISC: 

MONEY:

PROTECTION: 

STRENGTH:

SPIRITS: 

SPOONIE/DISABLED/MENTAL ILLNESS: 

TECH:

TRAVEL:

Nerdtiem crash-course on Mollymauk symbolism btw

-A Mollymawk (with a ‘w’) is a kind of albatross. Apparently the root words mal- and mok mean “foolish gull”

-Mollymauk (with a ‘u’) is also the name of a sea shanty, which tells a story of how sailors who drown become mollymawks. They’re directionless, but they’re also free. I think the telling line is probably “he’s got no haven and he’s got no home / he’s bound evermore to wheel and roam”. well that’s what happens when u join the circus I guess

-Albatrosses are also more generally symbolic of a psychological burden, sometimes caused by great sins in one’s past. It’s most famously from Coleridge’s Rime of the Ancient Mariner, where the sailor in the poem shoots an albatross and ‘curses’ his ship, condemning his entire crew to death in the process.

What this means:

Mollymauk is, whether by accident or design, a name of Epic Marine Romantic-Era Bird symbolism, and further proof that Taliesin Jaffe has my goddamn number.

on-screen chemistry.

Originally posted by dacremontgomery

(dacre montgomery x reader) 

request: What about a dacre fic where he and the reader both work on Stranger Things (reader is an actor as well) and dacre is doing an interview and they ask about the reader and the relationship between their characters (whether it’s friendly, unfriendly, intimate or whatever is up to you) and if there’s any chemistry or feelings off set and dacre accidentally admits to liking the reader.

summary: turns out, dacre gets a little nervous when asked about you in interviews. and when he gets nervous, he word vomits. a lot.

word count: 2,144


“So, Dacre, how would you describe filming season three, compared to season two?”

You glanced up from your spot against the wall, watching as Dacre gave the interviewer a charming grin. You just let out the softest of snorts, earning a glare from the head of PR, Allison Hendrix. You just gave her a small shrug. They were using lav mics, for crying out loud. No lav mic was going to pick up a sound that quiet from across the room.

“Well, I, uh, I’d have to say that it’s been just as fun, if not more fun. I’m much more relaxed this time around, since I’m not the newest person on set.” He chuckled softly, hands flexing against his leg. He did that often, you’d noticed, whenever he’d want to look off camera. The entire cast had been sat down just after filming, everyone having to go through yet another meeting on interview tips and what you weren’t supposed to do. Everybody else had already been coached on such things, but you were the new one. Since you were the only one, and they didn’t want to single you out, they’d made everyone do mock interviews, and then pointed out each others flaws.

It had been a long day.

“Right, of course. Y/N Y/L/N is playing a new character this season, right? Anything you can give us on the character, or how she interacts with Billy?” With that question, Dacre did look off camera, a sly grin on his face as he cocked a brow to Allison.

“What exactly am I allowed to say?” He called back, gaze flickering to you and lingering for a moment. You knew exactly how this would play off on camera. The cheeky Australian wanting to spill the beans on season three. It had been all the rage in the media recently to pretend to leak things about upcoming projects. Dacre wasn’t stupid. It’d be easier to play along with that angle and actually not get in trouble for once on accidentally spoiling things.

“When is this being released?”

“Uh, lemme check,” the interviewer said, grabbing her phone and flicking through whatever apps to find the answer. Dacre looked to the interview for a moment, who was obviously having a little trouble finding the date, and looked back to you. He shot you a crooked grin, the sight making your heart do a little tap dance in your chest. “Two weeks after the season premiere.”

“Say whatever the hell you want that won’t give away anything for season four.”

Dacre gave a quick nod of his head, then winked in your general direction. It was easier for you to roll your eyes than read anything into it. The two of you had been flirting back and forth the entire time you’d been on set, and it was that that had made the PR department decide that you two would be paired up for interviews, despite the fact that the man had yet to make a single move on you. As far as you were concerned, he was just flirtatious.

“Right, so season three, me and Y/C/N, absolutely hate each other. Like, burning, passionate hate. It’s great. It’s a lot of fun to play around with, and she’s just, she’s incredible to work with. She’s absolutely brilliant.” Dacre wasn’t looking at you while he said those things, but then again, he didn’t have to be for your cheeks to burn red. The interviewer nodded her head slowly, most likely picking up on the almost - dare you say it - reverent  tone that he’d adopted.

“So you’d say that she’s great to work with?”

“Absolutely. I really believe that it’s going to translate so well onto the screen.”

“Well, from the trailer and few scenes that have been released, the chemistry between you two is palpable. How was it working on set?” The interviewer was speaking a little faster now, in a way that made you perk up. Maybe you were just being paranoid, but it seemed as though she was leading him somewhere.

“It’s the most fun that I’ve had in a long time. It’s waking up every day and going to work with your best g- friend.” He stumbled over the word friend, making you frown. In all the days that you’d been doing the interview circuit with him, you couldn’t remember once him stumbling over a word. And even if he had, his cheeks had never reddened like that before.

“I could see that. It’s like living the dream, right?” Dacre gave a nod of his head, hands clenching in his lap. He looked a little nervous now, his smile a little tense as he regarded the interviewer. You glanced over to the woman beside you, who probably should have suggested a short break for him to collect himself. But she seemed to be waiting for something, like she knew precisely where this was going. “Would you say that the chemistry between the two of you is the same off camera?”

“I’d say so, yeah,” he gave in and glanced towards the head of PR, just a brief little distraction, but a big show for his nerves. He looked back to the interviewer in the middle of her next question.

“Why would you say that is?”

He answered so fast it was obvious that his words were quicker than his brain in that moment.

“Probably because I really like her.”

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cuddlemonsterdean  asked:

1) just made myself laugh thinking about 13x08 "the nineties called. they'd like their shoes back" and how dean probably has a running fashion commentary in his head at all times. i mean 9x06 and "you gonna wear that? on a /date/?" that whole shopping thing with charlie in 8x20? plus every time he's gotta wear something he disapproves of (like in 11x08) he's real grumpy about it? (i mean i headcanon that dean takes forever to style his hair, secretly loves to color-coordinate his outfits, and

2) cares deeply about whether the jeans he’s wearing make his butt look good). what do you think? :) feel free to answer publicly if you want! (sorry if this ask is a bit silly but dean fashion police winchester is so precious i can’t stop thinking about it xD)

The disapproval is strong in this one. 

His face. And Charlie’s so frustrated with him. I love it. 

And I love it even more becuase Sam’s face and hands. I can almost hear him saying, who doesn’t look good in Mr. Rogers’ sweater, Dean, come on. 

I mean, you’re right on the money, cuddles (can I call you cuddles?). I love this about Dean, especially because started out hating being in a suit. Remember 1.04 when he’ all I look like one of the Blue Brothers, not to mention the adorable pout

And then he becomes this guy

And yep, I think it’s fair to say Dean spends a good amount of time on his hair. Look at his hair in all its perfectly I don’t give a fuck I just rolled out bed this way tousle

Nope, Dean, we know you spent twenty minutes sculpting each strand to perfection. Dean Fashionista Winchester, we see you. And we love you for it. 

Some real passing tips from a pre-T trans guy

I’m gonna preface this with a few things.
First, no, passing is not a social construct its something trans people need for comfort and safety. If you have the luxury of not wanting to pass, don’t comment on my shit with “UwU you don’t have to pass to be trans” of course you don’t but we fucking want to.
Second, I am pre T and pass well enough to be stealth with a cis male roommate, but I am incredibly lucky in that I am naturally masculine. What works for me may not work for you. I’m sorry if it doesn’t. This advice is all subjective and if you find that the opposite works better for you, more power to you.
Third, some people cannot pass without hormones no matter what they do and I’m also sorry about that.

So here goes.

Clothes:

- Ditch the super baggy clothes. They may hide your curves but they only accentuate lack of muscle. You may pass but as a young boy. If this is your thing ok but I know most of us hate that.
- I personally prefer neutral or earth tones. I don’t like to wear super bright colours, as they just tend to be more feminine. This is a super subjective one but it all plays into style. I have the style of a 90s teenage boy (and sometimes a skater boy) and it works, I pass. If you have the style of a little boy, you’re gonna look like a little boy. If you have the style of a butch lesbian, you will probably look like a butch lesbian (unless you’re on hormones).
- I am small. And being so small I find that mens shirts don’t fit me well, especially button ups. It’s ok to shop in the boys section if you need to, there are some ok looking clothes.
- You can pass in womens clothes if need be. It’s a little harder but it can be done. Avoid womens button ups because they accentuate the tiddy. Avoid V Necks.
- Avoid tight clothes. Wear slightly loose pants and generally wear them on your hips.
- Men’s button ups can be tricky. Some people pass in them, some don’t. I prefer short sleeved ones, but if you do wear them, rolling the sleeves to the elbow and keeping them unbuttoned with a t underneath is ok. This can look butchy if you aren’t careful. If you can afford it, get one tailored to you so you can wear it to things like job interveiws without looking like your shirt is too big and wrinkly. Sweaters over button ups is nerdy but actually looks ok.
- Target and Old Navy can be good size wise, they tend to sell smaller pants (only down to like a 28 tho). Goodwills mens section is smaller than their womens section, and their pants are usually not in smaller sizes. However its a good place to get shirts. If you have thrift shops targerted at teens, those are some of the best. Here they’re called Platos Closet.
- Shoes are P easy. I prefer my knock off vans, but yours should go with your style. If your style is casual and chill, knockoff vans work. If your style is classy or somth, a pair of boots or dress shoes might be better.
- Shoe lifts. You can get them on amazon for a few bucks. They don’t change your height super drastically but if your self conscious about it, they can be confidence boosters af.
- Wearing a belt can help disguise curves.
- Looking nice can go a long way to boost confidence. I’m not saying you can’t wear sweats or basketball shorts all the time, but I am saying that looking good feels good. Confidence can go a long way in passing.
-Socks. For some reason the style for guys rn is long socks, usually with a design on them, with cuffed pant legs. This actually looks p good if it goes with your personal style. But otherwise, your socks are up to you, most people aren’t paying attention to them.
- Following the modern mens style for your age also can help you pass.
- “But Oliver, what about individualism? If we’re all following these tips or the modern style, how can we be ourselves?”. Individualism is v important and can aid in passing too, because when you’re being yourself you’re more confident. So if you want, throw all these tips in the trash and do whatever you want. Or you can add in bits of individualism, a loud belt buckle, cute socks, some pins, a nice hat. Whatever floats your goat.
- Jewelry. This is also part of individualism. Generally don’t wear dainty jewelry. I personally often wear thick rings, mens rings. Hoop earrings are feminine unless they’re the really small thick kind. Gauges are unisex. Piercings actually tend to be feminine if not done in a way that accentuates masculine features. Maybe thats just a personal opinion.

Hair:

- Short hair is not the end all be all of passing.
- You can pass with long hair, but guys with long hair don’t style it like women do. Look up long hair styles if you want.
- For those who do prefer short hair, barbers can be scary, especially pre T. I go to unisex places. They don’t have to be super expensive either. But not super duper cheap because messing up your hair can wreck your confidence.
- When getting your hair done, ask for square shapes. Don’t be afraid to ask for a masculine cut, sometimes you have to speak up. Avoid the flippy undercut honestly, unless you really like it, you know the one trender haircut they all have. I prefer skater boy hair or 90s rebel.
- I have cycled through every colour possible for hair and I’ve always found that I pass better with darker hair. And especially natural colours. Bright unnatural colours are more feminine and again, trendery.

Binding and packing:

- Binding and packing don’t guarantee that you’re gonna pass.
- But yes some people are gonna look at your boobs and think woman.
- Packing is less about passing and more about comfort, unless you’re wearing super tight pants or tights. They can make you more confident and less dysphoric but most people don’t pay attention to yo dick.
- Don’t pack super big. Just no.
- Bind safely or ruin your chances of top surgery later on.
- Don’t buy cheap binders. You will fucking regret it. Underworks, GC2B, Flavnt are the main ones that I know to be safe.
- You can get a soft packer on amazing for like 12 dollars.
- You can also use a sock if you only care about having something there and not about how real the dick itself looks.
- STP packers can be amazing, but expensive. I prefer the ezp but fat guys usually have trouble with that one (not in a mean way its just made for smaller guys). Do a good deal of research before buying an STP and practice in the shower and at home until you can do it perfectly every time. Or else you risk pissing yourself in public.

Behavior:

- This is completely, 100% subjective but some behaviors are gonna get you written off as either female or gay.
- Manspread. Don’t take up like 6 seats but spread its ok. Try to keep your body squarish. When crossing your legs, try to do it with your ankle on your knee. Idk how to describe that sitting position lmao.
- I naturally walk masculinely, I always have. Don’t sway your hips. You can move your shoulders a little tho. But unless your going for wanna be gangster, don’t want like it.
- Be more monotone and talk a little slower.
- Don’t force your voice to be super low but do practice talking in lower registers.
- Mimic the kind of guy you wanna be. You wanna be a rebellious type? Mimic the bodily behavior of one. Wanna be a gentleman? Mimic one.

Some general tips:

- Don’t wear makeup. I shouldn’t have to say this but… Seriously the most you should do is darken your eyebrows subtly. Makeup beards don’t work. Masculine contour is obviously makeup.
- Shave. It just feels good and gets rid of peach fuzz. Also.good practice for T.
- Excersize regularly. I don’t care if you start at once a month. It makes you feel good, endorphins and such, and it makes you feel more masculine. It also helps you be healthier and is just good practice.
- Don’t force it. If you’re not comfortable, people are gonna notice.
- Remember that the real world isn’t like tumblr. Most people aren’t gonna call you he if you’re wearing a dress with your tiddies out. Maybe when you’re on T, but seriously why would you even want to.
- Find what works for you. Experiment. Its ok to go through 100 different styles before you find yours.
- One person calling you she doesn’t actually mean you’re not passing. People are weird, sometimes they mess up even with cis people. It happens. Don’t freak. You don’t even always have to correct them, just give them a confused look like “who?”.
- Don’t be upset when you correct somebody. Just be like “I’m a dude”. If they keep calling you she after you say that, and they don’t know you’re trans, you might have to out yourself to correct them. If they do know, ditch them.
- If possible, keep transphobes outta your life. I know its not allways possible but it does certainly help your mood to not have to deal with them.
- I personally don’t hang with most openly trans people and especially not trenders because I don’t wanna be associated with them. Yes. People will judge you by your friends.
- Dont clench your jaw to make it more masculine. All that will do is make your jaw sore.

That’s all I can think of, feel free to add on.

I think now that being free is not being powerful or rich or well regarded or without obligation but being able to love. To love someone else enough to forget about yourself even for one moment is to be free. The mystics and the churchmen talk about throwing off this body and its desires, being no longer a slave to the flesh. They don’t say that through the flesh we are set free. That our desire for another will lift us out of ourselves more cleanly than anything divine.
—  Jeanette Winterson, The Passion
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Summary:

When he was with you, he was just your childhood best friend. However, when he was alone… well that was a different story.

Genre: Fluff, comedy, SMUT

Pairing: Camboy!Jungkook X Reader (Y/N), (Feat. Mentions of Camboy!Jungkook x Members)

Warnings: Swearing, voyeurism (technically), masturbation, toys, dirty talk, slight S&M, exhibitionism, oral. Probably some other things that I can’t remember.

EXTRA WARNING: I wouldn’t recommend this fic to member x member shippers. If you do decide to read this, it talks about the fetishisation of male x male relationships.

Word Count:  8373

Originally posted by yourpinkpill

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