“1. you don’t ever need to write in cursive, no matter what your third grade teacher told you.
2. no matter how many times your health teacher tells you about the kid in the town over who died in a drunk driving accident, some of your friends will still get trashed off nips at one in the morning.
3. everyone has a story and everyone is fighting a battle that you know nothing about. remember that when you come across someone you don’t get along with.
4. it is possible for a boy to break your heart even when you aren’t together.
5. you are allowed to put your own needs first. forget pulling an all-nighter to try to finish that essay. watch an episode of your favorite TV show on netflix then go to bed early. it’s okay to put your mental health before school.
6. your friends will fuck up really bad one day and the most you can do is be there for them. they dug their own graves, it’s not your job to get them out.
7. people change, and that includes you.
8. people will hurt you, and you will hurt people. learn to apologize, and learn to forgive.
9. no one can save you but yourself.
10. do what you can about your mistakes, make peace with them, but don’t dwell on them. you can’t change the past, but you can determine what it makes of you.
11. prince charming doesn’t come riding in on a white horse. he’ll be wearing unfitted jeans and an old t shirt, and he won’t give you the happily ever after that you dreamed about when you were 11 years old.
12. you will go into your freshman year with certain friends, but by the start of your junior year, you’ll have totally different people in your life. and that’s perfectly okay. people are meant to grow apart.
13. have faith in the fact that everything happens for a reason. you’ll look back over the last few years and realize how everything happened in order to get you to where you needed to be.
14. people aren’t just black and white. there are always shades of grey.
15. always doesn’t mean forever.
16. you deserve so much more than someone who doesn’t know how to respect you.
17. make as many mistakes as you can, it’s how you learn. but be careful, some mistakes are unforgivable and more importantly, irreversible.
18. some of your best memories will be made with people you barely knew 3 months prior.
19. all it takes is being at the wrong place at the wrong time for your whole life to be flipped upside down.
20. you’ll graduate sooner than you think. you will never see most of your classmates or teachers ever again, and that is both a good and bad thing. so enjoy it. cherish your youth. cherish every damn minute of it, because once that graduation cap comes off, you’re in the real world, and there’s no turning back.”
A few of you ladies asked me to talk about some of the things I learned when I lived with Sugar Babies. Of course at the time I wasn’t really aware of what they were doing I did learn somethings from watching them.
First thing I learned. Always, I mean always look your best. The first SB I lived with had a membership to LA Sports Club and she would take my mom and I with her. She was very fit and would work out 4 times a week. Now this club had a lot of amenities and was always packed with Celebs and the rich. Now, I’m not saying you have to be thin to make it as a SB, just always be presentable.
Anyways, she would take us shopping and tell my mom (and me) how to dress and what to wear for certain occasions. Her number one go to outfit for a casual day was a nice, fitted tank top, designer jeans and cute shoes. I remember she gave me a pair of True Religion jeans and bought me a really cute tank top and she, my mom and I went to Robertson BLVD to go shopping and for lunch. While at lunch a guy at the bar ended up paying for our food ;-)
Her Fashion Tip: Black, White or Gray fitted tank tops are always good for a casual day, paired with good jeans/ pants not necessarily designer but make sure they fit you well and have a nice look and cute shoes.
Keep a nice leather or jean jacket in your car or a nice black blazer encase it gets a little nippy.
Match your bra and panties. Ever since the day we went to VS and she told me that, I’ve always “tried” to keep my undies matching. Personally I feel sexy and grown up when I know my bra and panties match.
Having a good bra makes a big difference. She had a boob job but she still would get the good bra and cute panties that matched. Sometimes she would wear a sports bra over her bra to help lift her breast up.
Posture makes a big difference! At home she would wear a girdle (I use a waist cincher only 10$ on amazon) it keeps your stomach flat while forcing you to sit up straight.
Keep your makeup natural during the day. Only wear a full face if you have a date or event to go to. If a SD sees you without a full face and you like a different person, it’s kind of a turn-off.
Invest in yourself. She had a nose job and her breast done. She’d make sure she ate healthy foods so that what she put into her body would reflect to the outside.
She was lived for weave and even gave me and my mom some old (only used once) hair she didn’t use anymore. She wasn’t one who had the long, hair down your back kind of weave, she kept it simple so that it looked natural. A cute curly, blonde highlighted full head weave with a bang that looked very cute when straightened (being able to switch it up is always a plus).
Find a look that works best for you. You might not need a weave but make sure your hair is always done even if it’s in a ponytail (which men love) make sure it slicked back and your edges are smoothed down with edge control or gel (white people use hairspray)
She made sure that whomever she talked to was doing something for her. One guy helped her pay her car off, a few guys paying her 4K a month rent and bills (idk how many guys she had but they all thought they were paying her rent) Her son’s private schooling was paid for and she studied scientology which is expensive (no it’s not a cult) and she met a lot of her sponsors at the scientology center in LA.
Smile! ALWAYS FUCKING SMILE!!! Her NUMBER ONE RULE was that, no matter what the situation was, when she was around her sponsors she always had a smile on her face. Even if she was cussing him out about something she would do it with a smile (literally I saw her do it) and especially smile when you have your hand out!
Practice smiling in the mirror so that it doesn’t seem forced or fake. Try to make your eye’s wrinkle a little bit (that’s a sign of a real smile)
I don’t want this post to be super long so I will make other parts to it because I’ve lived with a few SB/escorts
1. It’s ok to cry. Letting it out sometimes can make you feel ten times better.
2. Write. Write often. Write your thoughts or ideas or song lyrics you like, anything. Just write.
3. If someone makes you upset, tell them. By playing games, you accomplish nothing and sometimes they’re so oblivious they don’t even notice you’re mad. Tell them and try to solve the issue.
4. If someone makes you happy, tell them. We don’t have as much time as we think. Say it while you can.
5. If you love someone, tell them. It takes a weight off your shoulders you never even knew was there. And maybe they might even love you back.
6. Watch as much TV as you want. Read as much as you want. Do anything you love as much as you want. You may not be able to do it much longer.
7. Go to concerts, lose yourself in the music. Let loose. It’s good for you. And music is better live.
8. Crank your music up loud and have a dance party by yourself. Make a fool out of yourself. It’ll make you smile.
9. Text someone first. Who knows, they might be waiting for you to talk to them.
10. Go to parties. Let your hair down. Dance. You’re only young for so long, enjoy it while you can.
11. Stay home. Sometimes you need to be alone, embrace it. Connect with yourself.
12. Talk to your mom. She’s there to help you and guide you. Sometimes she may even give good advice.
13. Spend time with friends who aren’t so popular. Chances are they’re hilarious and much more fun. They’ll probably end up showing you more than the cool kids ever could.
14. Dress in sweats every once in a while. Stop trying to impress everyone. It helps to go to school feeling cozy and lazy.
15. Go for long walks. Look around you, the world is always changing. Learn from nature.
16. Eat as much as you want. Who cares about calories and whether or not you look fat. If you want some of that cake, eat it. You’ll enjoy it and it won’t kill you, trust me.
17. It’s ok to be a nerd. Study. Ask questions. If something interests you, learn more about it. You’re helping yourself more.
18. Take lots of pictures. Post them too. Who cares what everyone thinks, if you look cute or are having an awesome time, post it. You can look back and laugh over it in a few years then.
19. Go on adventures. Drive somewhere random late at night with friends. Explore the world. There’s a lot out there.
20. Don’t shut people out. They care. They can help. Someone out there wants to hear your story.
21. Play with your dog. Get on the floor and roll around with them. Pets don’t live forever and they would do the same for you in an instant.
22. Try new things. Don’t be afraid of the unknown. The unknown is usually better than what you do know and you might like what you try.
23. Go stargazing a lot. It will remind you of how big the world is. There’s more out there. Never forget.
24. Sing at the top of your lungs whenever your favorite song comes on. You’re not embarrassing yourself. You’re having fun. Be yourself.
25. Take a deep breath and let it all go. You only are young once and have one chance to make it count. Get out there and live. Do what makes you happy. Be yourself. Stop worrying over that boy or those fake friends. They won’t matter in ten years. For now, let loose and try to make the most out of what you have.
If you're not ready for something, don't force yourself to be for sake of missing out on the opportunity. It'll just lead to an unfortunate situation in the end. Just wait til you are actually ready mentally, physically, and spiritually.
45 Things I’ve learned while studying for the MCAT
Study like you have a final. Every day.
Facebook is NOT your friend.
Do not even think about stumbleupon.com.
Your social life is officially non-existent.
Sleep at least 6 hours a night.
Coffee is your friend.
Do not get annoyed when someone asks, “how’s studying going?” Please note, that asking someone how their studying is going is one of THE MOST annoying questions to ask them.
Alcohol: minimal at best, none preferred. Think of the MCAT as the second coming of prohibition.
Try your best to eat healthy. With all the studying you’re doing, you should at least not get fat.
Pick up a hobby, or go to the gym. You need stress relief, and for me it’s doing pushups.
Naps should only be 30 minutes. Any longer, and you’re a goner.
The later you wake up in the morning, the more sluggish you are for the rest of the day.
Full length practice tests not only assess your competence but aid in your stamina. Everyone loves long staying power.
Once again, coffee is your friend. Your best friend.
Sex life? Better yet, what sex life? Your only partner should be the MCAT. Who should be continually raping you every day. That’s the only action you’ll need/get.
Enjoy the little things. Times are stressful.
Study in an environment you know that you will study in. Location, location, location.
Tell your loved ones you will be cranky. If you don’t love them, you don’t need to tell them.
Sleep before midnight if possible.
Music or no music? No music. Use earplugs instead.
Imitate testing environment as much/as often as possible. See #21. Use blank scratch paper, use only wooden pencils. Stick to the 10 minute break between sections and DO the writing samples.
Stretch. 5 hours of sitting down is not an easy feat. You will get knots in your muscles. This is a marathon, not a leisurely walk.
Expect the unexpected. No matter how prepared you think you are… no one goes into this test with 100% confidence. Control what you can to lessen the stress.
Take things one step at a time. The pyramids weren’t built overnight. Thinking about how you don’t have clinical experience/letters of recommendation for medical admissions won’t help you when you’re studying for the MCAT. Focus strictly on the MCAT. Baby steps.
Only talk to people you like. You aren’t going to be social while you study, so when you make time for others make them count. People who want to tell you how they’ve been ‘hurt’ or about their 'problems’ are excess drama. Just this once, be selfish. Talk to your friends who will support you.
Cherish break time. During break time, do not watch a movie or go on Facebook. Be active and happy! Walk outside, and feel the warmth of the sun.
Stick to a schedule. Don’t take a 'break’ whenever you feel like. Don’t just study 'ochem’ because you have a feeling. Organization will save you time and boost efficiency.
Have patience. Your parents will badger you. All the time. Your friends will do things that annoy you. Please be patient with them. You only have a 'he’s taking the MCAT’ free pass for so much. Use them only when they matter.
Set your music player to shuffle. The 7th song is your 'official MCAT theme song’. I hope you like it. If you don’t, cheat until you do.
Rest. One day a week, do not study at all. Don’t even think about the MCAT. Even God rested 1 day.
Know your limits/cycles. I’m talking about your excretory system here. There is nothing more distracting while taking a test, then holding a bladder full of fluid. Know that drinking coffee now might mean a bathroom break in 1 hour. You have 10 minutes between sections on the real test. You should aim at going to the bathroom during those times.
Distance. Try your best not to talk to other pre-meds taking the MCAT. They will make you feel inadequate about your own progress. A low spike in your self-confidence cannot be afforded.
Understand progress. Don’t focus on how you’re stuck at a certain score. Realize that from the beginning, you’ve improved A LOT and focus on how that’s still happening. You will improve.
'Don’t complain, just work harder’ -Randy Pausch.
Stay calm. You know a lot more than you think you do. If you stay calm, you can figure out what the question is asking and how to apply your knowledge. You’ll be surprised.
Everything is there for a reason. Every piece of information in a passage is there to tell you something. Especially in the Verbal Section. Read carefully and always ask yourself, "why is this here?”.
Find some inspiration. When you feel blue, a good source of inspiration is Nike commercials. You might not like their shoes, but you can’t deny that Nike commercials are awe inspiring. Try finding some on YouTube. ONLY use YouTube for finding Nike commercials.
Have good posture. 5 hours of test taking is made more difficult with bad posture. Sitting up straight will improve your attentiveness. Also, slouching is unattractive.
Menstrual Cycle. A great mnemonic device is 'Men, F Our Lives’. Menstruation, Follicular phase, Ovulation, and Luteal Phase.
Using the internet is a double-edged sword. You can be really productive using it, or spiral into procrastination. I hope you have self control, because the practice tests on the AAMC website are very helpful.
Take vitamins. A healthy body is the house to a healthy mind. Studying while you’re sick is not going to be pretty. Try your best to maintain good health.
Be minimalistic. Guys, don’t take an hour to get your hair in the right 'messy look’ and girls, don’t take a strenuous amount of time applying make-up. You are studying and aren’t trying to impress anyone. All your energy should be to studying for this test. However, please change your clothes/underwear daily, and also shower every 24 hours. Most of the days I study, it’s a 'hat day’ because my hair is just crazy. That’s fine though, I’m studying.
Utilize small time. Waiting for your cup of coffee (see #7 and #15), or waiting for your ramen water to boil is time you could spend with flashcards or listening to Audio Osmosis. Ten minutes may seem like nothing, but you can get a surprisingly large amount of things done.
Have faith. Tomorrow is a brighter day, and the possibilities are endless. You decide your fate. Accept responsibility for your actions and study!
Here are 45 things I personally learned while studying for the MCAT. I hope it’s helpful for those who haven’t taken it, and I hope it’s funny to those that have. I have 1 more week until I’m done. I hope I can do it! Let’s all get 45’s!
You’re going to get homesick, no matter how ready you think you are. That’s okay. It doesn’t make you less mature or independent
You’re probably not going to have friends right away, and that’s normal, and you have time to get good ones
Your sleep schedule is going to get screwed but some times it’s for the right reasons
You’re going to start getting confused about the word “home”
Everyone else in your class is going through similar awkward transitions, and everyone older has gone through them already. Don’t be embarrassed. They want to talk about it too.
No one is ever going to force you to party or drink or do drugs, no matter where you are. They might suggest it, say no if you aren’t comfortable. 99% of people will be fine with that.
Having this much control over your life is probably going to be kind of scary, but you’ll figure it out
Your professors know you’re new, they want to help
You don’t have to try to be more mature for people, they have stuffies and crayons and kids things too- and if they don’t, they wish they did
Getting to know yourself is uncomfortable if you’ve never done it before and you feel forced into it, but it makes your life so much easier to understand. Don’t be afraid to be alone. Don’t be afraid to change
You might not come back radically different, and that doesn’t mean you didn’t have a good college experience. Confirming your beliefs and ideas is as valid as changing them.
You might come back pretty different, and that’s perfectly okay. You don’t need to try to be who you were months ago for your family and home town friends. Allow yourself to evolve and be open.
You’re probably going to miss campus on breaks and you don’t need to feel bad about wanting to leave your family. You’re at a different part of your life, it’s naturally to want to resume it.
If you hate your college, you can leave. Transferring is not failure.
It doesn’t matter if the “freshman 15″ exists, don’t spend your whole first semester worrying about food. Have fun, let it drop.
You’re going to get much more excited whenever you see a dog.
“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
I heard this thing once that said that difficult conversations were like hand grenades with the pin pulled out, once you’re there, someone is going to get hurt.
You can hold onto it yourself, and take the blow, or you can lob it over at someone else, and in both cases no amount of sugar coating is going to ease the blast.
I think it’s a good reminder that you shouldn’t spend your life jumping on other people’s grenades, and to be fair and honest when you are the one doing the throwing. The blast is going to hurt regardless, and giving false hope and making impossible promises might make you feel better in the short term, but they do a disservice to the person you are hurting.
Don’t judge others, and don’t judge yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others, rather compare yourself to who you were before, and make improvements, and change for the better. But don’t change to be like someone else; only make changes to be a better version of you. I’ve spent too many years being envious and jealous of other people; enough is enough. I am me, and all I can do is try to become a better version who I am every single day. Don’t be angry with others for no reason, and don’t be angry with yourself for no reason, anger is pointless, and draining. Don’t hate others, and don’t hate yourself. Learn to love. That’s the greatest lesson I’ve ever learned. Love others, and most importantly, love yourself. Love. Even when it’s difficult. Just love.
Someone just messaged me about getting into derby and here was my response.
Ooh yess. I actually tried out for my first league when I was 17 and here’s what I wish someone had told me.
Derby is expensive both in money and time. Between skates, gear, and dues. Expect to pay quite a bit at first, and always buy the better gear even if it’s a bit pricey. It’ll pay off in the long run. Don’t cheap out you only have one body. Keep it safe.
When skating alway always wear some form of padding. I generally at the least go with knee pads and wrist guards.
Wear a damn mouth guard. Not for your teeth but to prevent concussions. Well for your teeth too.
As for actual skating. Never compare yourself to others as hard as that will be. You’ll never be the best blocker, jammer, backward skater, blah blah blah. Just do your best. Skating comes more naturally to some and some girls take years to work up to even making a team let alone a travel or competing team. If your league has that.
Always give your all. Even on days when you don’t want to go to practice. Go. You will feel better. No matter the root of wanting to stay home.
Find an experienced skater and watch them. At practices and games. Maybe change each time. Look at their stance, control, the skills they’re good at. Ask them for help. Always ask. If you don’t know ask. If you’re unsure ask. If you think you’re good ask for tips to be better. Everyone can improve even the girls you think are he best.
Never feel down on yourself. So you fell. If you fall you’re learning and pushing your limits. I fall all the time trying new shit and seeing how far I can push myself. So you had a bad practice. You showed up. You were there and you learned from it. People will notice your effort and attendance more than you falling or failing. Always ask if you can help out. Do merch at the bouts. Lay track. Set up cones for drills. Be eager. And listen to what people tell you.
Make friends in your league. Go out of your way to talk to people even if you have social anxiety like me. It will make you more confident and people are generally always nice and willing to help.
There will be bitches. There will be girls you don’t get along with or who for some reason or another don’t like you. Don’t play into it. Do you and stay out of the drama. Always be nice and courteous. People will notice if you come in with an attitude or act like an asshole. They will also notice if you’re friendly and make an effort. First rule of derby is Don’t be a Dick. Take note of that. Always remember it. People will remember if you’re a douche. Also don’t get shitfaced especially if you’re underage. People remember that too. On that note never drink or take drugs while you’re skating as much fun as it is. It’s super dangerous and no one wants to be that girl who broke her ankle drunk skating.
All in all. Enjoy it. Derby will be one of the hardest, most challenging, most rewarding things you will ever do in your life. Savor every moment. Even the hard ones.
If you don’t make it in your first try out, don’t take it to heart but rather let it fuel you. Work out outside of derby. Skate everywhere. Skate at parks, rinks, and wear your skates at home it will help so much. If you can dodge a child at the open skate you can dodge a block from a giant blocker. If you can shut the car door with your ass you can block that super fast jammer.
General skating tips.
Always move your feet. Work on your footwork more than anything else. It will pay off. Look behind you. Derby happens in the back even if you’re at the back of the pack. Track awareness is key and your eyes should always be moving. Always know where both jammers are or you’ll have no idea what’s happening. Watch ore recorded bouts. The better the teams the better you’ll learn. Know the fucking rules. Study your ruleset front to back. When you think you know it. Read it again. Read it on the bus. Read it between classes. Read it when you’re bored and watching Netflix. It will pay off. Always get low. Think you’re low? Squat lower. It’s harder to hit and easier to take a hit. You’ll feel more stable on your skates. Think you’re gonna fall? Do a deep squat. You will probably recover. If you do fall get up quickly without your hands if you can. Always tuck your fingers. They will be rolled over, caught in the rail, or broke. If you don’t. Always find a buddy. Derby is about walls. If you’re alone and you’re not a jammer out of the pack you shouldn’t be alone. You’re not helping anyone. As a blocker find someone and wall up. Two blockers are generally a ton more effective than one. As a jammer look for your walls they will help you. They are your friends and you love them for it, but don’t rely on them.
I know that was a ton but I love derby and these are some of what I’ve learned skating with three leagues and trying out for four.
Lastly Skate Hard. Skate Fast. Turn Left. Hit a Bitch.
I wrote something over on the Specialized Blog today about fitness. About how after 300 hours and 4,600 miles of riding this year, I finally am starting to feel fit. I wrote about how ridiculous it is that I have spent what amounts to nearly 2 full weeks of my life THIS year sitting on a bike and I only just feel like I am moving decently well.
Then I thought about the 2.5 years I have been CEO of Fohr Card and how for the vast majority of it I felt unqualified and unfit to run the company. This is something people don’t really talk about in the startup community but it’s a pervasive and probably well founded feeling. Being a CEO is an insanely hard job that is almost impossible to prepare for, and like cycling the only road to feeling as if you know what you’re doing is the simple act of survival.
This community fetishizes failure, and I find it ridiculous. I have had a lot of failure in my life, but I honestly have learned more from surviving than I have failing. The mornings when I don’t want to go outside and ride, but do. Or the races where I have no chance of winning, but I stick it out to the end because it’s the only way to improve. The times when the business doesn’t have the traction to raise money or revenue to pay the bills, but you somehow keep it going.
In the end, it feels important to go down in a blaze of glory, but for me, as a cyclist and a CEO, survival is just as important. Because when everything hurts, and you have to keep going, or you have -$11,000 in the bank account and no idea how to fix it, failure is actually the cowards way out.
1. Everyone is going to want to know “your secret”. And when you tell them the truth (move more, eat less) they’re going to think you’re lying.
2. It’s a lifestyle, not a diet. Diets take the weight off but unless you’re prepared to stay on it forever (and know that the chances of this happening aren’t high) it likely won’t help you. Change things you can live with.
3. Be honest with yourself. Make choices, not cheats.
4. What makes people successful is that they kept going even when they didn’t see results, had a bad day or their weight went back up. Accept that set-backs will happen and know that you will work past them.
5. There will be days when eating [insert food of choice] means more than losing weight and days when [insert activity of choice] will be more important than exercising. It happens.
6. Every day is a new day. Forget about yesterday. Focus on what you can do today.
7. A watched pot never boils. Similarly, stepping on the scale at every opportunity will drive you insane. Find a happy medium (I personally try not to weight myself more than three times a week).
8. Learn moderation. If you love chocolate then you don’t need to do away with it completely.
9. Be realistic and healthy. Starving yourself or binging and purging are not healthy. Your mental outlook is half the battle. Keep it positive!