things that should be posted every day

There should be a support group for lonely people.

Not like an actual support group where you go to a meeting every Thursday at 5pm and you sit in a circle asking each other, “how are you.”

But, a support group where you’re supported to make friends and to take trips with each other.

Where some days you mingle and read books and grab coffee, and other days you go on rollercoaster rides or bounce on trampolines.

A once a week field trip for lonely people, with other lonely people. For the young and the old.

Yet, I worry that maybe it’ll make them feel more lonely once they go home and lay in bed by themselves…

—  excerpt from a book I’ll never write #25 // @loveactivist

Small tips that make a (healthier) difference

Hey you! I dare you to try your best to follow this checklist tomorrow! But hey! Not so fast. Why not try it again the next day (and every day after that)? Sometimes it’s the smaller changes that can in fact help improve our health and wellbeing, especially when we think we’re short of time. School stressing you out? Everything is going to be ok. Try a few little things here. Tick everything off that you completed! Tell me how it goes for you!

This was a spontaneous post and I’ve found that I’ve been making errors in my posts recently! Plz correct me bc I am an egg. Hope u like it anyway.


Morning:

  • Wake up as soon as you do naturally or when your alarm goes off. Make your bed! Open the blinds!
  • Get out of bed and s t r e t c h – all the way from the very tips of your fingers to the tips of your toes. (Trust me, this feels good)
  • Set your intention for the day. This might be weird for some, but try it. Example: Today I will be productive. I will be focused on my tasks and I will take the time to relax when needed. It doesn’t have to be as complicated – Example 2: I can do this. Remind yourself again.
  • Eat breakfast. A MUST. Try my favourite: eggs (poached, scrambled or fried) on toast with avocado or baked beans. Yes. We are on a roll today.
  • Drink one full glass of water within the hour of waking (don’t down it all in one go though!).
    • Add 1/8 of a lemon to this. Lemon is great to alkalise the body and getting that digestive system of yours goin! This will flush out toxins in the body and support your immune system too!
      • Side note: Wait half an hour before brushing your teeth after this (or maybe do it before) because lemons are acidic after all and can probably do some damage to your shiny whites.
  • Try having a water bottle by your bedside and beside you throughout the day as a constant reminder to drink water as you see it. Trust me, this has helped improve my water intake a lot.
  • Organise your day. What are your plans? What are of priority and what are not? Try brain dumping this, and then organising each task/item into a list, categorised in importance. This will help decrease stress throughout the day and easy referral back to this list.
  • Dress in some lovely clothes! Your fave sweater and some cool black tights? 100%!! What about that pretty skirt you like with a nice top? HECK YEAH!!!

Midday:

  • Lunchtime! Eat again. Wholesome foods are an absolute must whenever you can.
  • Aim for 3-4 cups of water by lunchtime (inclusive of the glass of lemon water you had this morning).
  • Remember that intention you set this morning? Say it again.
  • Throw a compliment at someone. Be genuine. This will have a butterfly effect. If someone throws one at you to – don’t disagree! Say thank you. You rock, don’t doubt that.
  • Are there any ticks beside those tasks on your checklist from this morning? I hope so!
  • Throw in a random burst of exercise! In public too – who cares! Pick one of these: 50 starjumps! 3 sets of 10 squats! A quick walk around outdoors!

Arvo (/Afternoon… Straya):

  • Hit that 3pm slump? Same. Here are a few ideas to get you going, especially coming home from a long day:
    • NAP! 15-20 mins. No longer. No less. Be strict here or your sleep pattern might go funny and we don’t want that. (And groggy headaches are gross)
    • Exercise! This is so fundamental to our health and wellbeing. Try out short pilates videos (no equipment) here (that as living proof, work) or some really cool yoga videos here, here, and here. Yoga is great. Try this daily. Or take a brisk walk for 30 minutes  = wake up your brain, pick up your mood AND burn some fat. C’mon, go get your shoes!
    • Have a healthy snack, such as those listed in this great post by @tbhstudying. Get your brain and bod going, my friends!
  • Write down your to do list for any work, study or event related things that you need to complete this afternoon. Set out all your equipment, sort out your papers from the day and get organised!
  • Clear your (bedroom/bed/desk/floor/work/closet) space for 5 minutes every day. I’m guessing that you’ve started to pile a few things here like I do. This will save you time and help maintain cleanliness, staving away from the complicated stress that comes from having to reorganise just about everything which we all know to hate when we’re busy with other things.
  • Have you had your 5th and 6th cups of water of the day yet? Get to it!
  • Sit up straighter and you’ll look more confident and feel more confident. Your back will also be very grateful for this.

Night:

  • Continue all your extra to-dos. Get this done. You can do it!
  • Make sure to put something in your body guys. I’m talking food here by the way… don’t let that sentence mislead you! This is especially important for those of you probably thinking “I’ll just eat later” or “I’m not hungry”.  Eat. EAT NOW. PleASE.
  • Spend some quality time with your family. How’s their day been? Tell them about yours too.
  • Glasses of water No. 7, 8 and beyond should be here.
  • Prep your meals, lists, notes, outfits, etc. for the next day. Getting these things sorted now will help you get it out of the way and save you time!
  • Settle down a little. It’s time to wiiiind doooooooownnn. Read a book. Scroll through Tumblr (aaayeee!) – but not too deep into the pits okay guys. Watch a little TV.
  • I know a lot of posts say to switch off 1-2 hours before bed. If you’re literally glued to your electronics, try switching off 5 minutes earlier every day and replace that with something else. What about doing your prep items for the next day (listed two points back!!)? Or, do get those pesky chores out the way.
    • Side note: Cleaning your room often will help freshen it, get rid of itchy dust and decrease the chances of bugs and other smol random things to crawl around your room. (If that’s not a little motivation then I’m not sure what is…). It’ll also keep your space maintained so you don’t have to do it all at once. *Shudders* Plus the likelihood of those gross germs from the world hanging around and building up in there is a no-no.
  • Sleep! 7-8 hours. Your body will thank you for it. CRUCIAL for healthy brain and body function. Plus your mood and skin will improve (i.e. gOODBYE EYEBAGS and hELLO GLOWING SKIN).
    • Side note: I see you reading this at 12am when you should be sleeping. I see you.

I hope this has helped you guys a little or at least inspired you to make a small change to your daily routine! Try doing a few items here (e.g. glass of lemon water, sitting up straighter, 8+ cups of water) and record this on a habit tracker! The smallest changes often have the greatest effects!

Don’t forget to let me know how you go.

Kalyisah (@studywithkal)

agatha, video chatting penelope after long months spent apart: lmao so baz is part of your gang now?? how crAzY!!!1!!1! guess that makes him the third wheel now!!

penelope, thinking back to every gross coupley thing she has been subjected to since the start of snowbaz: … about that 

Been thinking and writing a lot about real experiences I’ve had at university, through the lens of ‘maybe my school has some Fair Folk hanging around.’ Tbh, makes some stuff make a lot more sense. Enjoy: the adventures of the students at Elsewhere University who have no idea about the fae, but just notice that sometimes stuff is weird: In the corner of the dining hall, someone is always almost done a paper they never seem to finish. They are there every time you walk in, no matter what hour of day or night. You wonder when they sleep. It doesn’t occur to you to wonder if they sleep.  The basement tunnels wind under your dorm. You were just looking for the laundry room, but you have been walking an awfully long time. The motion-detecting lights keep flickering ahead of you though. Maybe if you keep following them, you’ll find your way.  At the end of the party, there are a half dozen half empty beer cans sitting around. You plan to clean up in the morning, and by the time you do so they are already empty.  You put “free pizza!” on the flyer for his event. When it rolls around, far more people show up than you expect. Some are strangely dressed, or look somehow both too old and too young to be students. Do they even go here? Where were they summoned from?  Your professor’s apparent annoyance at students showing up to their clearly scheduled and openly publicized office hours confuses you at first. At a certain point though, it begins to look like fear. They always gesture to the bowl of candy on their desk.

Feel free to take some!

 they say every time, as though you might have forgotten, as though you might have been forbidden otherwise, as a pacifying gesture.  You plan to take a five minute break from work. When you look up from your phone again, an hour has passed. You pause to quickly reply to an email, and realize that everyone has left the library. You think, I’ll just check Facebook to see if I have any notifications, and notice that the sun has already risen.  You’ve been protesting the university’s investments for years, but don’t know the names of the people who make the decisions. There is the school president, but it’s past her, even past the management company. Perhaps it’s a guy in a cubicle with a laptop, diversifying portfolios and calculating returns. Then again, maybe it’s something else that controls the endowment’s hoard. Maybe that’s why it likes feeding on such darkness – war, apartheid, prisons, oil.  When you go to a party at a frat house, don’t accept their food or drink. Don’t drink anything you haven’t poured yourself. Otherwise, you don’t know where or when you’ll wake up. You don’t know how long it will take to escape this night.  You wonder sometimes if there are passageways in the library – closets and bookshelves and bathroom stalls that lead somewhere else. You see people walking in to the library with sleeping bags and boxes of groceries, especially during finals week. You sometimes see them wandering around in their socks, looking lost. You see them leave, occasionally, and when the sun hits them they look as though they have been away for a while.  You’re supposed to drop your paperwork off in the registrars office. You search online for it, but only come up with a website that hasn’t been redesigned since 2004. It lists the building name, which you’ve never heard of, and no address. You search the building name and find two “halls” and one “house” with the name. When you go to each of them, they tell you that the registrar has never been there, but it’s up the main street, head north away from campus, you can’t miss it. You discover a building that though you’ve walked this way hundreds of times, you never noticed before. It’s open and they give you candy and more paperwork to get filled out. Every time you go back afterwards, it’s locked and dark, although the hours posted on the door say it should be open. You decide not to drop that class after all.  You and your friend decide to room together, and for the first few months get along great. You decorate together, you buy house plants, she gives you a necklace shaped like a silver feather that she found doing end of year clean up. You’re not sure when things start to get weird, but the day after Halloween you notice she seems mad and when you ask what’s up she says she doesn’t consider you a friend she doesn’t like you and would you just go away. For the rest of the year, things continue with pretty much that tone, and you’re never quite sure what happened. You survive the year, painfully, and leave campus for the summer. You run in to her in New York at a friend’s birthday party. After avoiding her most of the night, she catches you on your way out. She says she is so excited to see you, she’s missed you so much, and gives you a huge hug. A few years later, you take a four person class together, and she’ll reminisce about when you were roomies. She only ever tells stories from before Halloween. You wonder if she only remembers those. You wonder if she was only there for those.

[x]

Love is not posting pictures online and sending long messages every night so you know I appreciate you. Love is not talking every day just so we are not going to forget we both care. Yes, it is great to do those things when you love someone, but it should not be something that you need. Love is, not talking all day and knowing you still love someone and nothing will change it. Love is, when you go out late and call me when you get home even though I am asleep because you know how much I worry. Love is, when you stop making up excuses and admit you did something wrong and apologizing for your mistakes and try not to do them again. Love is, “please get your homework done so you can get the job you want and be happy in the future”. That is love. Love is, “let’s go to bed we both need rest and I don’t want to go without you”. Love is, “I know you’re out watching the sunset because you’re upset, and I’m really sorry. But I’m upset too and would like you to go home so you can FaceTime me.” And then leaving my favorite thing because you will always be a priority to me. Love is not always the big things that everyone else will notice, but the small things that are not going to be noticed by anyone except each other. I do not need extravagant to mean love. I need you.
—  For you

anonymous asked:

I very much approve of the teenage inquisitor tag! Companions reacting to teenage inquisitor having some serious trouble getting over some very traumatizing things they experienced in the fade in Adamant, please!

Cassandra: She notices that they’ve been acting off since their journey into the Fade, and she worries for their mental state. Eventually, she will pull them aside, sit them down, and ask them how they’re feeling, what they’re thinking, and will either ask if (or tell them, depending on their behavior) that they need help. “No one should ever have to do what you did, especially not someone as young as you.” she says quietly. “We are here for you, and we’re going to work through this with you.”

Blackwall: He notices their change in behavior and knows they’re traumatized. He’s not really sure how to go about it, other than “I’m here to listen if you need it.” The Herald expresses guilt over the one who sacrificed themselves for their escape, and he does his best to reassure them that it’s not their fault. “I know this is painful, but sometimes things happen that are outside our control. It doesn’t make it any less painful.” He sighs. “I would know.”

Iron Bull: He sees what’s going on very quickly. He also knows how to go about it, and notices every tic and behavioral change, if any. Like the others, he offers to listen, and if they need it, a shoulder (well, chest, more like) to cry on. Vivienne hires a therapist, which he’ll pass pertinent information onto if needed. He’s looking out for them.

Sera: She’s having trouble getting over what happened in Adamant, too, especially if she went into the Fade as well. She swats at the Herald when they come to check on her, and when she starts telling them “never again,” she stops as she sees they’re clearly distraught, as much as she is. She stops short and asks how they are, and the two commiserate on the Fade.

Varric: (If Hawke Didn’t Die) He tries to get them to talk to him, walk with him, anything– he believes talking it out will help. He’ll also bluntly tell them that he can tell they’re having trouble recuperating, and that he’s there to help. (If Hawke Dies) He wants to comfort the Herald. He really does. He knows they’re in pain, too, but the grief is choking him too much. He gently pushes them away as he goes to write letters, and asks one of the companions closest to the Herald to talk to them.

Cole: He feels it. It’s a sick, looming, darkness creeping over their soul, mocking and taunting them with failure and death and loss– and to his dismay, it’s not a pain he can just get rid of with ease. “They aren’t mad at you,” he reassures, “and you didn’t fail. Sometimes people have to die. You’re hurting. You hurt so much, but I don’t know how to help. How can I heal this hurt?”

Solas: He’s actually quite exhilarated by the whole trip, and after finishing up several stacks of parchment with notes, he seeks out the Inquisitor, intending to chat them up about what he’s discovered. He stops halfway through the first sentence at their dead-eyed expression, and he frowns. “Oh. My apologies, I should have known that you would be affected like this, going through the realm of a powerful fear demon. Would you like to discuss your thoughts, da’len?”

Dorian: He’s quick to check on them and ask if they’re okay. He already knows the answer is no, but he wants to establish that he’s there for them. The Inquisitor is trying not to cry, but eventually they’re in his arms, sobbing freely. Dorian strokes their back, trying to gently shush and soothe them as best he can. He checks on them repeatedly every day for the next few weeks– no one should ever have to go through the realm of a fear demon, especially not someone their age. The poor thing…

Vivienne: She figures out they’re struggling with coping after trying to ask them about their experience in the Fade. Suddenly, she’s gentle with them, trying not to exacerbate their stress more than it already is. Depending on how long or how hard they’re having a time of recovering, she may actually have Josephine hire a therapist to come work with them– untreated post traumatic stress can be debilitating, and she wants to ensure they have the best care possible.

Josephine: She frets over the Herald, frequently checking on them and trying to talk to them; she can’t imagine the horror the poor kid had to go through. The ambassador quickly agrees to Vivienne’s request and sits down with the Inquisitor, telling them what’s going to happen, and worries incessantly for them. Her heart feels heavy with pity.

Leliana: She’s cool about it, briefly asking if they’re alright and then not pressing further. She does, however, have a few agents keep a closer eye on the Herald, to ensure they’re safe and attended to properly. She also asks for updates from some of the others on how they’re feeling and recovering.

Cullen: He knows what it’s like to be through a traumatic experience, and he relates and understands their pain perhaps the best out of all of the inner circle. He offers to listen, and the Inquisitor finds talking to him the most reassuring, because they know he really understands what it’s like. 

Misfit Appreciation Day 2017

Tomorrow is Misfit Appreciation day. A fun little day, created by my favorite Happy Sorceress where we have some fun and draw up fanart and the like for the DC character Charlie Gage-Radcliff, AKA Misfit, the fun and happy teleporting girl created by Gail Simone. Every year, I’ve been posting era-themed covers for it, starting in the 1940s and working my way up to modern day.

It’s kinda funny really. I’ve drawn Misfit so much these last few years that I feel I should have done a comic with her or something. LIke a fan comic thing or something.

I mentioned this last year, but I think I’ll just repeat it here. The idea here is that when the Flashpoint happened, and the DC Universe was shifting into it’s current incarnation, Misfit was teleporting (or bouncing) at the exact same time, and ended up getting hurtled through space and time, as seen in Cover #1. So she’s been attempting to bounce her way back home, decade by decade.

But for now, here’s the previous six covers I did for it.

The kickoff with MIsfit in Time

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The Golden Age of the 1940s

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The EC Comics era of the 1950s

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A Jim Steranko inspired cover from the 1960s

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Returning to a darker era with the Bronze Age of the 1970s

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And lastly, the surreal of the 1980s British Invasion of the 1980s

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For this year, we’re at the 1990s, which is pretty important to me, because it’s the year where I started drawing comics and decided that this comic book thing is what I wanted to do with my life. So I themed the cover based on the most influential comic series ever on my art.

More on that tomorrow.

*cue Shirley Walker music*

Things that I want to scream at the assholes in the cancer crew fandom
  • Anisa is a great person who does no wrong and should be respected as such. Stop leaving mean comments on her Instagram just because she is dating Ian. 
  • Don’t harass Joji on Instagram or Twitter. He is a human being who clearly wants his life to be at least semi private, and he deserves a break every once in a while.
  • Also I noticed a couple of days ago Joji posted a pic on his Instagram of an ash tray full of cigarette buts, and people were having a goddamn war in the comments because of it. Idk why yall are all of the sudden furious over him smoking (he’s been doing it for years) but do you honestly think that he gives a fuck?
  • If you got angry over Idubbbz’ new video on fan edits, but love it when he roasts everyone else, you’re a massive hypocrite. This video was meant to be taken as a joke with a grain of salt, like when he says the word faggot or the n word.
  • Did I mention be nice to Anisa
  • PLEASE DON’T FORCE YOUR SHIPS ON THEM. It clearly makes them uncomfortable, and they have said this before.
  • Please don’t try and find out where they live. The reasons for this should be obvious.
  • ANISA IS A WONDERFULLY KIND AND FUNNY PERSON WHO CARES ABOUT HER FANS AND JUST BECAUSE SHE IS DATING IAN DOES NOT MEAN YOU CAN GET YOUR PANTIES IN A BUNCH AND LEAVE A BUNCH OF RUDE COMMENTS ON HER SOCIAL MEDIA OK THANK YOU.
Sims blogs to follow/shoutouts/faves PART 1

I want to say this out loud but it really annoys me when people complain their dash is empty. There’s so many simblrs out there to follow who post every day! Not everyone posts edited photos, some put up content, do streams/videos, tutorials, have projects, every day story telling and so on. This post will be divided in many parts because i cannot put too many links on a tumblr post. If you don’t want to see this post simply block the tag #simfollow

Don’t forget something! You all start from the bottom so (picture) quality isn’t always what should define your simblr :P

This is why i’ll be doing a kind of follow forever thing with so so many blogs you can follow! This list is not in order by any way and if i miss out anyone i will simply update it. Also to mention, these categories are made up by me and criteria does not certainly define the person’t blog. It’s just a small organization plan i made for them so you can browse them easier.

These people are supposedly active as i see while browsing through my follower list. Also they are mixed between sims 2 3 and 4 but mostly s3 simmers. They usually post sims related stuff as i barely see personal/inspo stuff on my dash :p There will be multiple parts since i follow about 1k people so!

I really hope after making these type of posts that i won’t see people complaining about their dash being empty as i am going to make as many parts of these as i can ^_^

Also please feel free to check out ALL of my masterposts HERE and if you feel like i’m missing out on any feel free to suggest me ideas for new masterposts!

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the little study/organization guide for lazy students

I decided to write this post for those people who don’t have that much motivation to study all day. Even though you’re not that motivated, here you’ll find a minimun of things you can do every day/week/month/trimester/semester that will help you keep organized!

So, the least you should do…

EVERY DAY

  • Do your homework!

I don’t think that’s a secret, but doing your homework helps you knowing if you understood the subject or not, and it’s also a way of revising what you did in class.

  • Clean your workspace!

Even if you don’t have a lot to organize. A clean workspace often makes you feel more at ease, and this way you can actually find your things.

  • Organize your notes!

You should organize every note you took on class when you arrive at home, so later, when you need them to revise, they’ll already be there. Usually I take notes in messily because my teachers speak so fast, so when I arrive at home I rewrite them so I can understand easily later on when I need them.

EVERY WEEK

  • Organize your binders/folders!

Throw away papers you don’t need anymore and add important ones you’ve placed somewhere else. It’ll help you keep organized!

  • Revise!

You can do this twice a week as well, if you feel you need it. Even if you’re not studying for any kind of exam, once a week you should choose a subject and do a big revision: study the most recent arguments making flashcards, summaries, quizzes or any other technique you usually use when you study.

EVERY MONTH

  • Buy new pens/pencils!

Of course, only if you need it. Usually I need more black/blue pens and pencils, but it’s all up to you.

  • Update your calendar!

Write the new important dates: exams, appointments, goals…

EVERY SEMESTER/TRIMESTER

  • New stationery!

When there’s a new semester or trimester I need to buy a few things so I don’t need to ask people to borrow everything once school starts again. Most people need new notebooks for subjects like maths and physics, which make the notebooks end faster.

  • Do a big revision!

Revise every subject so you can remember all the things your forgot while on vacation! Usually I only do this with chemistry, physics and maths but again, it’s up to you!

+ bonus tip:

  • Buy a planner!

That is, if you don’t have one. A planner helps you knowing the work you need to get done for a certain day and it’s where you’ll write important dates.

xx

I hope this post can help! Please tell me if there’s anything you find important that I didn’t write so I can add it :)

anonymous asked:

You do realize nosleep is fiction? Quit making an ass of yourself and stick to posting true stories

Lol, some people get so outraged by the most nonsensical things.

I don’t think your inability to read tags before raging at a stranger online constitutes as me making an ass out of myself. Is it my fault you assume every single thing you read on a blogging website should be taken as fact? Nope. If this is how irate you get over somebody posting creepypasta and hoaxes (which I do frequently - I have pages upon pages in those tags) please unfollow cause damn, that’s asinine and really not normal. Maybe get off the internet and go outside or even read a book. Make sure you clarify whether or not it’s fiction or non-fiction first, though… That’s just a disaster waiting to happen. Anyway, have a great day nevertheless! Hopefully tomorrow is better for you.

A HO'S GUIDE TO NOT CATCHIN FEELINGS

Okay so as of right now i’m playing a VERY dangerous game of casually hooking up with an ex, and girl you already know i CANNOT afford to catch feelings! So it got me thinkin, i’m sure my fellow thotties out there would appreciate a post on how to avoid catching feelings for someone who should be nothing more than a casual hook up.

First things first, you’re with this person to get laid, not to get emotionally involved with. You have to go into this with the mindset that you want nothing to do with this person other than sex. Don’t spend too much time together. You shouldnt be hooking up every day or even every other day. Try seeing the person you’re hooking up with maybe 2-3 times a week. If you’re constantly hanging out, feelings are hard not to develop. That being said, dont text the person or wait for a call from them. Youve GOT to make yourself less available. Distract yourself and stay busy, maybe even get a second hook up buddy (But please! If youre going to have multiple sex partners (even if its just one), please please please get tested, use protection, and stay safe)

Secondly, if you’re biologically ‘female’ (meaning you have a vagina) keep in mind the chances of getting attached increase if you’re engaging in sexual intercourse. During sex, the female brain releases a hormone called oxytocin. Sometimes known as the attachment hormone, oxytocin can induce feelings of love and closeness, so even if you had no romantic interest in your hook-up, your body might trick you into thinking that you do. If you start feeling somethin romantic for this person, the only thing you can really do is avoid talking to them/talking about them for a couple of days, and dont even DARE stalk their social media accounts.

Lastly, keep your expectations low. The person you’re fucking is not yours and you are not theirs. Dont get pissed when they forget your birthday or how much creamer you like in your coffee. They owe you nothing but good sex, just like how you owe them nothing but the same. This is about having fun and shamelessly enjoying yourself, dont make it complicated by getting feelings involved. Easier said than done, I know. But if you cant casually hook up without feelings developing, maybe hooking up just isnt for you, and thats okay. It isnt for everyone.

I hope y'all got a kick out of this and learned a thing or two! Remember, never doubt the power of the pussy. Know your worth and know how fucking kick ass and beautiful you are.

anonymous asked:

I know other people are giving their opinion on this whole Gemma situation but I wanted to know yours? Among other problematic things about it - the language and target group, it just gave me a lot of anxiety and I was really upset by it. I like Gem a lot but honestly it gave me some doubt because I just don't understand why she constantly speaks out to debunk 'theories' as she said. She's kind of an extension of Harry in some ways and I guess I'm just wondering why she would.


2. (please no one attack me for me an anti or troll - I’m not. I’m a larry. I do my best to stay firm in what I believe but I struggle when there’s constant stuff thrown at us to make us doubt and I find it really upsetting.


First of all, she doesn’t “constantly” debunk theories, she responds to Larry-related comments about once a year, the fandom has a fit, then everything goes back to normal.

Second, I keep seeing all these posts about what she said, but no one seems to be talking about what the original trigger for all of this was. I haven’t seen it myself, but there was ONE post that crossed my dash that said that her reply “Are you mental?!” was in response to someone commenting that an IG post of hers “proves Larry.” Since I can’t confirm that’s the fact, I’m hesitant to report it as one, but it’s also the ONLY thing I ever saw talking about what she was responding to, so my answer assumes that’s true.

So did anyone, even once, think that she specifically meant that as a response to someone claiming an entirely unrelated IG post “proves Larry”?  That it wasn’t an attack on Larries or Larry, but on that one particular thing? That thing that she just last month wrote an article about saying how annoying it was?

And then people went on the attack, as they do, and she tried - and failed - to defend herself without actually talking about Larry.

I get why people are mad and I agree that she should have just eyerolled out of there, blocked or deleted the comment and moved on. But I also get that she is fucking tired of all of those responses on every one of her posts.  The “LARRY IS REEEALLL!!!” commenters are extremely annoying. I want to block them all too.  That said, they’re also harmless and should be ignored, but all of us have days when little things seem much bigger than they are.

Gemma is human, she got annoyed and responded to an unnecessary comment using a common, if inappropriate, UK phrase.

I think it’s much ado over a big ball of nothing. Sorry.

Adulting 110

This post marks my tenth Weekly Adulting Blog! Woot woot. I’ve amassed a lot of new followers since first starting this weekly post, and more of you wonderful and supportive people join me every day. Because of this, I have decided to recycle some of my favorite suggestions from the past nine posts for today’s blog.

Shoutout this week to @piratejenna and @squeakyrainbowsocks. Please give them lots of love!

1. Important documents. One of the first things you should do before you move out is get all your important documents from your parents/guardians. I’m talking your Social Security Card, Birth Certificate, high school or college transcripts, banking information, etc. Trust me.

2. Baking Soda and vinegar are your one-stop cleaning solution for everything. Clogged drains, shower heads, cat pee stains, etc. 

3. Automatic payments. Don’t enroll in automatic bill payments unless you’re extremely comfortable with the company. This will prevent companies from charing your bank account or credit card extra without your consent. For example, I’m confident that Birchbox won’t overcharge me, but have less faith in Verizon. 

4. Scented trash bags. Are literally the same price as regular trash bags, but help keep your trash smelling manageable. 

5. Food hygiene. Rewrap/repackage your deli meats and cheeses a few days after purchasing them. Wrapping paper has a shorter shelf life than the products themselves and will cause them to spoil early.

7. Keep paper bills. Bills such as internet, rent, and utility for up to five months. These help prove residency, which will be useful when applying for Medicaid, in-state tuition, and for some jobs. If you’re not receiving any sort of paper bills, keep pay stubs with your address on them instead.

8. Reuse containers. Get takeout often? Takeout containers are microwave and dishwasher safe, and are often durable enough to substitute as tupperware. Wash and reuse them!

9. Folding chairs. These are the answer to limited seating space in a small apartment. In my first apartment I threw a “Bring Your Own Chair” party because I literally had three chairs and a couch. Now I store my folding chairs in the closet during the winter, and leave them outside all summer long. 

10. Airborne. Flu season is upon us! Go immediately to your local pharmacy and pick up a pack of this magical tablets. When your throat starts to feel scratchy in that characteristic pre-sickness way, pop one in a glass of water. If you catch your cold early on, these will effectively prevent your from getting sick. Satisfaction guaranteed. 

just enj things™

- enjolras has super uncooperative hair when he wakes up (read: highkey hot as fuck)
- he sings under his breath while making coffee and often gets carried away and does this silly dancing thing that once combeferre walked in on with the most smug amused grin and enj just stopped dead in his tracks and then said “i still have that 2008 disco tape ;)) sweaty” yes in verbal convo fight me and ferre went almost pale and he’s got rlly dark skin so u can imagine what happened in 2008
- enjolras once got carpal tunnel from writing too much angry poetry
- enjolras won the literary award at his school every year and he actually went to the same hs as jehan and they weren’t friends yet, so once a desperate and raging jehan convinced montparnasse to climb into enj’s room and take a pic of the certificate bc they wanted to know what it looked like omfg
- they’re so pure they keep saying sorry for that
- enjolras plays the bass
- grantaire plays the lovestruck fool
- bahorel and enjolras deadass have an annulled marriage (viva las vegas)
- enjolras once cried mid-lecture because he was orating as vp of student council and he got SO EMO that he literally shook his head and kept apologising and asked ferre to take over
- ferre was shook
- enjolras hugs better than anyone it’s so warm in those gay arms
- enjolras can do a one-armed cartwheel and he and courf used to make cheerleading choreographies in their spare time in 6th grade
- jehan and courf dated in 6th grade oh my god enjolras kept their Special Love Notebook (™) (no seriously that’s what they called it) (it was a notebook they passed to each other during class & enj wasn’t allowed to look and he never did bc my baby’s honest n loyal) it’s still in his desk
- enjolras got arrested for stealing a frozen pizza once (maybe not SO honest)
- it was for the good of the people
- enjolras is a hoe for sam wilson he’s his fave mcu character
- enjolras once left late after school was dismissed and he started chatting w the janitor, phil, and managed to convince him to go after his dream and now Phil opened his first photography gallery if u don’t think enj has always been an angel ur wrong
- enj broke his ribs in a fist fight, he wasn’t very good at that kinda stuff so after he healed he legit took 4 different self defense classes because “i cannot cope with not being good at this” and ferre literally had a fit bc “enj whaT The Fucj you work a job and u have class every day are u srsly pulling this 9 hrs a week punching shit crap”
- “yes.”
- no worries lols that’s where he met grantaire :)) he was his boxing instructor :)) need i say more
- ok sweaty shirtless r 👏👏👏👏👏👏👌👌👌👌 ya enj thinks so too
- enjolras is the BEST at naming things. courf once rolled out of bed at 4am just to text him: “mil dollar job idea: u should b professional gelato shop consultant and help them name their flavours i dk what m sayin” [sic]

I want to make a post about this because it’s relevant to a good friend of mine right now, and it’s important.

Maybe not all the time, but at least most of the time, your partner should be a source of happiness and comfort. If you’re spending every day walking on eggshells trying to avoid upsetting them, or if they’re consistently getting upset with your or guilt-tripping you over minor things, there is a problem. Everyone makes mistakes, and they have a right to be upset if you really mess up, but you shouldn’t have to feel like you need to go out of your way to avoid upsetting them. Furthermore, the degree to which they are upset with you should be appropriate: if you do something little, they should be a little upset, especially if it was an accident or out of your control.

anonymous asked:

Do you update this blog anymore?

Rarely, it seems, and I’m honestly sorry about that. Every day I check this blog, think that I should post but then I don’t.

I’m having a difficult time in my life right now and even the littlest things feel overwhelming, so this blog is not in the top priorities.

I will be back, I promise.

My last night in Shanghai and I’ve finally found a reliable VPN that I think is reasonably secure. (Incidentally, in the time I’ve been gone, the US Congress has overturned Internet Privacy Regulations approved during Obama’s waning days. Everyone should now consider investing in a good VPN to keep the ISPs from selling your online habits, curiosities and secrets.) 

I hope you’ve enjoyed the peaceful Oregon landscapes I had in the queue. These locations are now, of course, endangered due to Trump erasing environmental regulations which affect every single one of us. (His days are numbered.)

Sorry for the editorial. Anyway, ANYWAY, I’m looking forward to catching up on all the great things everyone has posted. Don’t be alarmed by the flurry of flying hearts… let the love flow.

New photos soon…