things that should be posted every day

Small tips that make a (healthier) difference

Hey you! I dare you to try your best to follow this checklist tomorrow! But hey! Not so fast. Why not try it again the next day (and every day after that)? Sometimes it’s the smaller changes that can in fact help improve our health and wellbeing, especially when we think we’re short of time. School stressing you out? Everything is going to be ok. Try a few little things here. Tick everything off that you completed! Tell me how it goes for you!

This was a spontaneous post and I’ve found that I’ve been making errors in my posts recently! Plz correct me bc I am an egg. Hope u like it anyway.


Morning:

  • Wake up as soon as you do naturally or when your alarm goes off. Make your bed! Open the blinds!
  • Get out of bed and s t r e t c h – all the way from the very tips of your fingers to the tips of your toes. (Trust me, this feels good)
  • Set your intention for the day. This might be weird for some, but try it. Example: Today I will be productive. I will be focused on my tasks and I will take the time to relax when needed. It doesn’t have to be as complicated – Example 2: I can do this. Remind yourself again.
  • Eat breakfast. A MUST. Try my favourite: eggs (poached, scrambled or fried) on toast with avocado or baked beans. Yes. We are on a roll today.
  • Drink one full glass of water within the hour of waking (don’t down it all in one go though!).
    • Add 1/8 of a lemon to this. Lemon is great to alkalise the body and getting that digestive system of yours goin! This will flush out toxins in the body and support your immune system too!
      • Side note: Wait half an hour before brushing your teeth after this (or maybe do it before) because lemons are acidic after all and can probably do some damage to your shiny whites.
  • Try having a water bottle by your bedside and beside you throughout the day as a constant reminder to drink water as you see it. Trust me, this has helped improve my water intake a lot.
  • Organise your day. What are your plans? What are of priority and what are not? Try brain dumping this, and then organising each task/item into a list, categorised in importance. This will help decrease stress throughout the day and easy referral back to this list.
  • Dress in some lovely clothes! Your fave sweater and some cool black tights? 100%!! What about that pretty skirt you like with a nice top? HECK YEAH!!!

Midday:

  • Lunchtime! Eat again. Wholesome foods are an absolute must whenever you can.
  • Aim for 3-4 cups of water by lunchtime (inclusive of the glass of lemon water you had this morning).
  • Remember that intention you set this morning? Say it again.
  • Throw a compliment at someone. Be genuine. This will have a butterfly effect. If someone throws one at you to – don’t disagree! Say thank you. You rock, don’t doubt that.
  • Are there any ticks beside those tasks on your checklist from this morning? I hope so!
  • Throw in a random burst of exercise! In public too – who cares! Pick one of these: 50 starjumps! 3 sets of 10 squats! A quick walk around outdoors!

Arvo (/Afternoon… Straya):

  • Hit that 3pm slump? Same. Here are a few ideas to get you going, especially coming home from a long day:
    • NAP! 15-20 mins. No longer. No less. Be strict here or your sleep pattern might go funny and we don’t want that. (And groggy headaches are gross)
    • Exercise! This is so fundamental to our health and wellbeing. Try out short pilates videos (no equipment) here (that as living proof, work) or some really cool yoga videos here, here, and here. Yoga is great. Try this daily. Or take a brisk walk for 30 minutes  = wake up your brain, pick up your mood AND burn some fat. C’mon, go get your shoes!
    • Have a healthy snack, such as those listed in this great post by @tbhstudying. Get your brain and bod going, my friends!
  • Write down your to do list for any work, study or event related things that you need to complete this afternoon. Set out all your equipment, sort out your papers from the day and get organised!
  • Clear your (bedroom/bed/desk/floor/work/closet) space for 5 minutes every day. I’m guessing that you’ve started to pile a few things here like I do. This will save you time and help maintain cleanliness, staving away from the complicated stress that comes from having to reorganise just about everything which we all know to hate when we’re busy with other things.
  • Have you had your 5th and 6th cups of water of the day yet? Get to it!
  • Sit up straighter and you’ll look more confident and feel more confident. Your back will also be very grateful for this.

Night:

  • Continue all your extra to-dos. Get this done. You can do it!
  • Make sure to put something in your body guys. I’m talking food here by the way… don’t let that sentence mislead you! This is especially important for those of you probably thinking “I’ll just eat later” or “I’m not hungry”.  Eat. EAT NOW. PleASE.
  • Spend some quality time with your family. How’s their day been? Tell them about yours too.
  • Glasses of water No. 7, 8 and beyond should be here.
  • Prep your meals, lists, notes, outfits, etc. for the next day. Getting these things sorted now will help you get it out of the way and save you time!
  • Settle down a little. It’s time to wiiiind doooooooownnn. Read a book. Scroll through Tumblr (aaayeee!) – but not too deep into the pits okay guys. Watch a little TV.
  • I know a lot of posts say to switch off 1-2 hours before bed. If you’re literally glued to your electronics, try switching off 5 minutes earlier every day and replace that with something else. What about doing your prep items for the next day (listed two points back!!)? Or, do get those pesky chores out the way.
    • Side note: Cleaning your room often will help freshen it, get rid of itchy dust and decrease the chances of bugs and other smol random things to crawl around your room. (If that’s not a little motivation then I’m not sure what is…). It’ll also keep your space maintained so you don’t have to do it all at once. *Shudders* Plus the likelihood of those gross germs from the world hanging around and building up in there is a no-no.
  • Sleep! 7-8 hours. Your body will thank you for it. CRUCIAL for healthy brain and body function. Plus your mood and skin will improve (i.e. gOODBYE EYEBAGS and hELLO GLOWING SKIN).
    • Side note: I see you reading this at 12am when you should be sleeping. I see you.

I hope this has helped you guys a little or at least inspired you to make a small change to your daily routine! Try doing a few items here (e.g. glass of lemon water, sitting up straighter, 8+ cups of water) and record this on a habit tracker! The smallest changes often have the greatest effects!

Don’t forget to let me know how you go.

Kalyisah (@studywithkal)

breaking the cycle: gotg2 and the theme of toxic masculinity

It’s taken me, oh, about a month to organize my thoughts on this and they’re still a mess, but I have all these snippets in my head about how GOTG2 deconstructs toxic masculinity, and hey! you’re gonna get them now

Toxic masculinity is basically the concept that socializing men and boys to be a certain ‘masculine’ way, and criticizing them or ridiculing them when they fail to live up to these (often impossible or even abusive) standards, is ultimately harmful to everyone, men and women alike. Ever wonder why you flinch at dudes yelling “man up!” to their crying young sons instead of comforting them? Yeah, that’s why.

Anyway, regarding GOTG: a lot of this stuff revolves around Yondu and the Yondu-Peter relationship, but also (I totally love this) a large portion of it also revolves around a white, straight, able-bodied man who is quite literally called ‘Ego’. spoilers follow, naturally-

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posted by a zookeeper friend on facebook

As someone in the zoo/aquarium field, I want to say something to everyone who is not…

It is not appropriate or respectful for you to publicly question the death of any animal under the care of zoo professionals. It is also not appropriate to say things that suggest you are more heartbroken than the people who cared for that animal. In case you weren’t aware, all living things must die. Sometimes it’s unexpected, sometimes it’s tragic, and sometimes it’s peaceful and planned for in a humane way.

When a human dies, the health care professionals who took care of that person are not typically questioned or accused of wrong doing. The same should be true for animal care professionals. I can assure you, with all my heart, that no one is more upset about the death than the people who personally knew that animal.

Wild animals die, captive animals die, and human beings die. It’s the natural order of things. I promise you, zoo animals have teams of caring, educated people looking after their well being from day 1 until the very end (and beyond, since every zoo animal gets a full post-mortem examination).

So please, next time you read a press release about the death of a zoo animal, think twice before you assume the worst and make any comments that imply something could have been done to avoid the situation. Zoos don’t intend to cover up the truth. But sometimes it takes weeks or even months to learn the whole story. Feel free to express your condolences and support. Send flowers or cards to the staff if you’d like. But please be patient and respectful. If the health care staff can figure out the cause of death, have faith that they will tell the public… But also understand that sometimes there are questions that may never be answered, due to the great amounts of unknown when caring for wild animals.

Thanks for listening.

It’s time once again for Ectober Week!

For those of you just joining the Phandom, Ectober Week is a seven-day event dedicated to the spooky, creepy, and otherwise darker themes of the source material.  Your task is to create something - be it a piece of writing, a drawing, a cosplay, a video, an edit, etc - that contains elements from Danny Phantom and the theme of the day.  The themes are as follows:

            October 25th :: Plague

            October 26th :: Teeth / Eclipse

            October 27th :: Abandoned

            October 28th :: Curse

            October 29th :: Spiders / Cobwebs

            October 30th :: Storm / Shipwreck

            October 31st :: Purgatory / Crossing Over

As with every year, please be mindful of trigger warnings if your submission contains anything that may be harmful to others!  Things such as gore, body horror, and specifically arachnophobia should be tagged accordingly.  

Be sure to use the tags #Ectober Week 2017 and #Danny Phantom to share your work!  Try to avoid tagging casual text posts or WIP pieces with the main tag, as it is meant to be an archive of completed pieces for easy viewing.

Thank you, and have fun!

Special thanks to @shinobicyrus @rainosa @alterego9114 and @sarapsys 

[TRANS] LOVE YOURSELF 承: Her - Jin Thanks To

Ah, the album has come out well.

Thank you so much so our Bang Shihyuk PD-nim who looks like a deer and worked like crazy to bring us wonderful songs, I love you. Thank you so much to our poducers and staff who worked hard and wrote wonderful songs for us together with Bang PD-nim. Bighit’s mother Vice President Choi Yoojung, thank you so so much for taking care of my mental health. My soul friend, Director Yoon Seokjoon, thank you for welcoming me warmly whenever I come visit. Director Shinkyu, thank you for making my dream of having a drink with you come true. Director Chaeeun, thank you so much for your long messages full of kind words every time we have good news. Director Lee Hyuk, arigatou gozaimasu for welcoming us energetically every time we come to Japan. To our Bighit staff who are always working hard and full of energy, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thanks to our company staff - our family members - I’m living a good life like this. I’ll support for only good things to happen to our staff.

Ah, our family, fighting.
Thank you so so much to our hair & make up family. Truthfully I do look handsome in the mirror, but with styled hair and makeup I shine. Kya. Thank you so much. Jjanggu, live long ㅠㅠ

And our ARMYs
Every day I pray. Pray that only good things will happen to our ARMYs and you will always be happy. Thank you so much, for letting me live a happy life. Thank you ARMYs so much, I support and adore you guys so much, ARMYs are seriously the best.
To our ARMYs who suit every beautiful modifier. I love you ARMYs.

agatha, video chatting penelope after long months spent apart: lmao so baz is part of your gang now?? how crAzY!!!1!!1! guess that makes him the third wheel now!!

penelope, thinking back to every gross coupley thing she has been subjected to since the start of snowbaz: … about that 

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Love is not posting pictures online and sending long messages every night so you know I appreciate you. Love is not talking every day just so we are not going to forget we both care. Yes, it is great to do those things when you love someone, but it should not be something that you need. Love is, not talking all day and knowing you still love someone and nothing will change it. Love is, when you go out late and call me when you get home even though I am asleep because you know how much I worry. Love is, when you stop making up excuses and admit you did something wrong and apologizing for your mistakes and try not to do them again. Love is, “please get your homework done so you can get the job you want and be happy in the future”. That is love. Love is, “let’s go to bed we both need rest and I don’t want to go without you”. Love is, “I know you’re out watching the sunset because you’re upset, and I’m really sorry. But I’m upset too and would like you to go home so you can FaceTime me.” And then leaving my favorite thing because you will always be a priority to me. Love is not always the big things that everyone else will notice, but the small things that are not going to be noticed by anyone except each other. I do not need extravagant to mean love. I need you.
—  For you
Read This: The Definitive Ouija Board FAQ

I get a lot of questions every day on my Ouija board advice blog, and usually they’re the same questions over and over. So instead of answering each one, I usually post a link to a post that answers their question while stating Read This. Apparently it’s become my iconic catchphrase. So here is a long post of all things I typically tell people to read.

-Ouija boards are incredibly dangerous and you should not mess with them!

~Ouija boards are very safe as long as you’re playing in the right frame of mind. Read this.

-Ouija boards are not games.

~By definition, they are. Read this.

-Can Ouija boards summon demons?

~No, read this.

-Is Zozo or Mama a dangerous spirit or demon?

~No, they are just names spirits use to scare people. Read this.

-What if I talk to Zozo and they refuse to go away?

~Keep refusing. Read this.

-Can you get possessed while playing the Ouija board?

~No, read this.

-Can Ouija boards open portals?

~Not even a little bit. Read this.

-Is it important to say Goodbye?

~Yes, but it’s not a life or death thing, it’s just polite. Read this and this.

-Can spirits escape the board and follow you home?

~Ouija boards are pieces of cardboard, therefore there is nothing “inside” of them. The spirits are already in your home. Read this.

-What happens if the planchette moves in figure-8’s, off the board, counts down the numbers, or moves to all four corners of the board?

~Nothing, the spirit is trying to scare you for their amusement. Read this.

-How do you play the Ouija board?

~Read this.

-Can I play the Ouija board by myself?

~Some people can. Read this.

-Who are spirits and where are they?

~Spirits are the souls of people who have passed on. Read this, then read this to learn about the spirit realm.

-Are shadow people dangerous?

~Shadow people are just spirits that have half-materialized, and therefore not dangerous. Read more here.

-What’s the difference between a spirit and a ghost?

~Ghosts don’t know they are dead. Read this.

-I saw spirits when I was little, but I don’t anymore. What happened?

~You got older. Read this.

-How do you make a Ouija board?

~Get a pen and paper and write one. Read this.

-How do you get rid of a Ouija board?

~However you want. Read this.

-I want to play, but I’m not allowed to, or I don’t have anyone who wants to play.

~Then you can pendulum dowse. Read this.

-Aren’t Ouija boards divination tools, and sacred to Wicca and other pagan beliefs?

~First, there’s a big difference between spirit communication and divination. And there is no belief or religion that incorporates the Ouija board. Read more here.

-Ouija boards aren’t real and are caused by Ideomotor movement.

~I bet you’ve never played before. Read this.

-Are Ouija boards safe for children?

~Sure. Read this.

-What do I do if a spirit says I’m going to die tomorrow?

~They’re lying, I assure you. Read this.

-What does it mean when the board sells out gibberish?

~Lots of things. Read this.

-Can I use the Ouija board to contact a specific person?

~I do not recommend it. Read this.

-Is it safe to play the Ouija board in my house, my friend’s house, a haunted location, or a graveyard?

~Play it wherever you want. Read this.

-Can you talk to animal spirits on the Ouija board?

~No. Read this.

-Are spirit guides real?

~Yes. Read this.

-What can I ask the Ouija board?

~Whatever you want. Read this.

-I’m scared of Ouija boards, but I want to play.

~Read this.

-I had a very bad experience while playing and therefore I want everyone to know that all Ouija boards are very bad.

~If I ate shellfish and had an allergic reaction, I wouldn’t make a blog post about how all shellfish is bad and nobody should ever eat it. Read more here.

-I have sleep paralysis and see scary things when it’s happening, is it caused by spirits?

~No, read this.

-I played the Ouija board and I woke up with a bruise, am I possessed?

~Obviously not. Read this.

-I feel like I’m being watched after I play.

~That’s you feeling adrenaline pumping in your brain. Read this*.

-The Ouija board didn’t work at all.

~There are a lot of reasons why it wouldn’t. Read this.

-Do online Ouija boards work?

~Online Ouija boards and Ouija board apps are programs that act like real Ouija boards, and will not get you in contact with a spirit. Read this.

-I saw a scary YouTube video of a Ouija board game and I believe them.

~It’s fake, I guarantee it. Read this.

-Is it safe to wear Ouija board clothes and accessories?

~Very much so. Read this.

-How do you pronounce Ouija?

-Wee-gee in America, Wee-juh in other English speaking countries. Read this.

This is just for Ouija board related asks. In a few months, I’ll post an FAQ for more pagan and spirit related stuff. In the meantime, you can check out a mini FAQ here. And hey, if you didn’t see the answer to a question you have, ask away.

*this post is currently being edited and will be added to this post presently

Rihanna Talks Dressing for Her 'Fluctuating Body Type' & Being Body Conscious

10/16/2017 by Yasmine Gray

Rihanna attends the 2017 Diamond Ball at Cipriani Wall Street on Sept. 14, 2017 in New York City.   


Rihanna just became even more relatable (if that’s possible), as she spoke to The Cut about dressing for her constantly fluctuating body type. The “Love on the Brain” singer encouraged catering to your specific shape and shared her own daily closet experience.

“I actually have had the pleasure of a fluctuating body type, where one day I can literally fit into something that is bodycon, and then the next day - the next week - I need something oversized,” the Bajan songstress said.

After experiencing body shaming in June due to noticeable new curves, the 29-year-old took to Instagram to let haters know exactly how she felt. Her classy clapback response — a Gucci Mane meme with the caption “If you can’t handle me at my 2007 Gucci Mane you don’t deserve me at my 2017 Gucci Mane” — garnered over 850,000 likes and countless fans’ supportive comments.

A post shared by badgalriri (@badgalriri) on Jun 5, 2017 at 11:02am PDT

Because her fashion choices are dictated by her current shape, she picks outfits on a case by case basis depending on how she feels about her body every morning. “I really pay attention every day when I go into the closet about what’s working for my body that morning. I feel like that’s how everyone should go after fashion, because it’s an individual thing,” Rihanna expressed. “Then if you take it further, it’s like, ‘What week are you having?’ You having a skinny week? You having a fat week? Are we doing arms this week? We doing legs this week?”

One thing her fluctuating size definitely doesn’t stop her from doing is rocking styles “fresh out the runway,” and she encourages girls to wear what works for them. “I love to play with silhouettes as well, but I think it’s important to make sure that you wear the thing that works for your body the best, and that’s flattering.” Right on, Rih.

(source: Billboard.com)

White History Month

A Caucasian co-worker and I(Yup! The same one from the last post. Go figure.) were discussing why there should or shouldn’t be a “White History Month”. Nevermind the fact that EVERY MONTH is White History month. But I decided to humor him and play along…

“There should be White History Month” so we can expose all the evil things white folks have done in history and present that still affect the victims and their descendants till this very day like:

1 Cherokee Trail of Tears
2 Japanese American internment
3 Philippine-American War
4 Jim Crow
5 The genocide of Native Americans
6 Transatlantic slave trade, and the lies that Africans sold other Africans into slavery
7 The Middle Passage
8 The history of White American racism
9 Black Codes
10 Slave patrols
11 Ku Klux Klan
12 The War on Drugs
13 Treaty of Guadalupe Hidalgo
14 How white racism grew out of slavery and genocide
15 How whites still benefit from slavery and genocide
16 White anti-racism
17 The Southern strategy
18 The rape of enslaved women
19 Madison Grant
20 The Indian Wars
21 Human zoos
22 How the Jews became white
23 White flight
24 Redlining
25 Proposition 14
26 Homestead Act
27 Tulsa Riots
28 Rosewood massacre
29 Tuskegee Experiment
30 Lynching
31 Hollywood stereotypes
32 Indian Appropriations Acts
33 Immigration Act of 1924
34 Sundown towns
35 Chinese Exclusion Act
36 Emmett Till
37 Vincent Chin
38 Islamophobia
39 Indian boarding schools
40 King Philip’s War
41 Bacon’s Rebellion
42 American slavery compared to Arab, Roman and Latin American slavery
43 History of the gun
44 History of the police
45 History of prisons
46 History of white suburbia
47 Lincoln’s racism and anti-racism
48 George Wallace Governor of Alabama
49 Cointelpro
50 Real estate steering
51 School tracking
52 Mass incarceration of black men
53 Boston school busing riots
54 Man made Ebola and A.I.D.S.
55 Church Bombings and fires in deep south to Blacks
56 Church Shootings
57 How the Irish and Italians became white
58 The Perpetuation of the idea of the “model minority”
59 Housing discrimination
60 Systematic placement of highways and building projects to create ghettos
61. Medical experimentation on poor poc especially Blacks including surgical and gynecological experimentation
62 History of Planned Parenthood
63 Forced Sterilization
64 Cutting children out of pregnant Black mothers as part of lynchings
65 Eurocentric beauty standard falsification
66 Erasure and eradication of all achievements of Ancient Africa and Kemet
67 White washing of history and cultural practices of poc’s
68 Media manipulation and bias
69 Perpetuation of the myth of reverse racism
70 The history of white cannibalism
71 White fragility
72 White on white crime and white on everybody else crime
73 Irish slavery, Jewish slavery, African slavery, Native American slavery
74 White police officers murdering unarmed men, women, and children and not being convicted for it
75 Population control warfares worldwide
76 Chemtrails
77 Oil spills and chemical dumping in oceans worldwide
78 Water fracking
79 Gmo foods worldwide
80 Monsanto
81 World Wars 1 and 2
82 Wars on indigenous peoples throughout the world
83 Stolen inventions and blueprints from African people and other indigenous people worldwide
84 Steal concepts from cultures worldwide and then corrupt it
85 Mass murders and massacres worldwide
86 Eugenics and the history of sterilization of poc and history of fetal abortions worldwide
87. Flint Michigan water poisoning crisis

and too much more….

Yet you all have convinced the world and your delusional selves that melanated human beings “black” people are perceived as dangerous, unruly, racist, uncivilized, thugs, gangsters etc… Yeah ok not according to historical and present day facts.

Needless to say… We don’t have these types of discussions anymore. 😎😉😂

A little rambling on the workings of PR

I don’t usually post about things like this.  In my opinion, celebrity’s private lives and just that “private”, but there comes a point where a person gets tired of all the games…and especially of seeing people played.

 Do I think Sam/Cait are a couple?  I don’t know for sure, the only ones that do aren’t saying, but what I will say is that I think the two of them are a hell of a lot closer than normal co-stars.

 Do I think Sam/MM are a couple?   I don’t know that either, but I do know there’s something off about that relationship. I’m by way of being kind of an expert in body language and Sam is always too stiff and guarded in proximity to MM. Until I see Sam act and look at MM like he does Cait, then I’m far from convinced.

 Do I think there are PR games being played?   You better believe it!!  And I hate to tell you all this but the fans and even Sam are being played like a fiddle by a gal that doesn’t even know the proper attire for a birthday party.  

 So, what can we – as fans – do about it?

 Let me tell you a little story.  Once upon a time in the land of daytime TV there was a show called Days of Our Lives and a couple named EJ and Sami, dubbed with the portmanteau of “Ejami” by their fans.   Ejami had Sam/Cait level chemistry and the characters had danced around each other for 8 years, finally coming together in 2013.  Fans were happy and while Days was not the highest rated soap, it had the largest social media presence of all the soaps thanks to happy viewers who had and posted and tweeted and campaigned for years to get their couple together.    However, in 2014, their love story took a nose dive when EJ began a sexual relationship with a much younger girl to keep her from telling on Sami for murder.  At least that’s how it looked on the surface.

 The truth was, Days producer Ken Corday had concocted a rather devious plan.   In 2014, the Nielson ratings group began incorporating social medial statistics into their overall ratings and on January 13, 2014, Corday was scheduled to present these social media statistics to advertisers to help set the advertising rates for the upcoming year.   Days was already the highest rated soap in social media, but Corday was greedy, so on January 10, 2013, he had EJ fall into bed with a young blonde twit thinking that Ejami fans would react like always and blow up social media over the weekend with their displeasure, with making Days social media numbers even higher for the meeting on Monday.

 Thankfully though, this time the fanbase realized what Corday was up too and decided to take a different approach – they went silent.  From January 10, 2014 to January 13, 2014, Days of Our Lives went from being the highest rated soap on social media to not even ranking…something they have NEVER recovered from.    Simply from the actions or lack of actions by fans, Days slipped heavily in the overall ratings to the point of cancellation and in a last-ditch effort are now bringing back the two actors for an upcoming sweeps period to give fans what they should have given them in the first place!

 What’s my point in all this?   My point is that MM is taking PR lessons from Corday.   That picture she posted with the rainbow wasn’t some innocent thing, she KNEW using a rainbow would rile fans up.  You see in Hollywood, there’s one simple and very true rule “There’s no such thing as bad publicity!”  Every time you interact on MM’s Twitter or Instagram, whether to say yay or nay, whether you call her a saint or a slut -she benefits from it.  Every single time!   Don’t think social media is that important?   I have a friend that’s an actor – a relatively well-known soap opera actor at that -  who was just turned down for a role because his social media presence wasn’t that strong. No joke!

 Which brings me to ask if you’ve ever heard of a Q-score?   Quite simply a Q-score is a measurement of the familiarity and appeal of a brand, celebrity, company, or entertainment product.   Used to be, Q-scores were measured by a celebrity’s appearances on TV/film, talk shows and in entertainment magazines.  Nowadays, the score is figured almost solely from social medial statistics.  To put the score in perspective, right now Johnny Depp has the highest Q-score at 92. Trump’s Q-score is 98.  Sam and Cait’s Q-scores range from 38-42 which is a very respectable range for actors in their genre. The interesting thing is that this time last year, MM had a Q-score of 18, which has risen to over 30 as of today and why?  Because of Sam.   Here is a girl that has chased fame since she was 12 years old and she’s finally got her hands on something that can help her achieve that.  She’s going to continue to use him and us unless we do one thing.  

 Ignore her.

 Just like we did to Days of our Lives that fateful January.  Block little Miss M on every facet of social medial.  Don’t follow, don’t comment, pretend she doesn’t exist. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior and MM has shown herself by her past behavior.  When she’s no longer getting any attention from being Sam’s perceived girlfriend, the truth will out and at the very least, she’ll stop posting those “in your face” pics of hers.            

 Sometimes the adage of “Ignore something and it will go away” just works.

anonymous asked:

What is your opinion on the whole "Taylor is missing" thing? Do you think she's using us? I personally think she's doing just fine, there's no need for high fan or public involvement two months before the album, people will just get sick of her before it actually comes out

she’s not missing, lol she’s just not living a public life now (like she hasnt been for almost a year, idk why this is surprising) bc even living a semi public life during the last era brought her constant shit and bashing. 

and this is gonna get lonnnnng but let me just use this one anon to answer the pile of similar ones i have in one post. 

 I am completely stunned if people can not see that by not being public about her life - and i dont just mean her bf, i mean the entire thing -  she is diminishing a significant majority of the reasons she got hate. is it at the expense of not being able to ‘see’ her? yes. but it’s … her life, she’s not some character in a tv show that people should be able to tune in to every other day or week and see what she’s doing and know all the details of who she is with or what she is wearing. She’s an amazing talented artist who i love but she is also a person, and she - like all famous people - deserve the chance and choice to live a life outside her career w/o everyone butting in and knowing about it. And bc of the paps and the fact everyone has a camera nowadays in their pocket, the only way to achieve that is to live as privately as possible, avoiding photographing situations and avoiding situations where walking out of a door becomes a news story. 

she’s about 10x more involved w/her fans than any other artist that i follow bc the other artists are involved 0%, so um, to that end i think anyone complaining about the level of fan involvement being disappointing or not good enough or fake or using fans is just complaining because they want more from her and to that end i would ask, aside from the fact it is rather demanding of someone to always want more, what ‘more’ do they want of her … that she can reasonably do w/o backlash for it? let’s run throught the options. first off…  interviews about her personal life ( i thought it was ‘all about the music…’?) .. interviews where even if her personal life were off-limits, and she wanted to only talk about making her music, there is no way that any interviewer would not take the opportunity to ask her about the backlash of last year, trump, kk, feminism, being hated, all that was a part of the album’s coming-together and process, and why the fuck would taylor want to sit there and be asked about all that? sounds fun, haha, not? that would all only lead to more criticism and spur the news cycle even more?  does she want another feminism 2.0? or maybe talk about her friendships which brought along the whole squad nonsense? if people can’t quite frankly see that interviews right now would inevitably or immediately be turned against her i think they were not paying attention the last 3 years and watching what happened. she’s obviously saying what she wants to say to the public via her music / mv and the way in which she is presenting her music thus far in lieu of any sit-down interview. . now that said if she decides to do interviews then fantastic, i would love them too, i’ll be the first to read them,  but i have to say if she doesnt, then i can 150% understand why not. Why set yourself up to be attacked and have your own words used against you later?

maybe these folks want candids? missing taylor is fine and valid and that is okay, and you can want candids, there is nothing wrong with wanting to see her, but to be actually upset with her not wanting / allowing the paparazzi, who are the actual impetus to so many of the rumors about her and a significant majority of the bullshit she  has faced (not to mention the stalking), and ½ the reason for the overexposure,  to make money off unsolicited pictures of her? who can blame her? what good would those pictures have for her …. so that she can be plastered across the news, making the public sick of her again at a faster rate than she would be otherwise? or to lead to stories made up about her about being pregnant/having a boob job / about to b/u with her bf/ or just simply having her picture taken when she doesnt want it taken?  Look at the pics of her and joe running into her apt from the other day. they were picked up by a lot of sites. and those were blurry, shitty, no-face pictures. imagine what would happen if she casually walked from the car to the door and smiled for everyone? 

are people upset bc of things she experimented with during the 1989 era… like the secret listening sessions… so that the fandom can fight again about who got picked and who didnt? it was a wonderful idea she had to do that and generous and kind, and i’m happy for the fans who got to be a part of those types of things, but it also caused a lot of sour feelings. Same with swiftmas and other fan-specific things. you just can’t please everyone or people feel like there is favoritism and hurt feelings,… maybe it is better to treat the whole class equally… than only have a small group over for your birthday party, hmm?

 maybe people are upset of the lack of replies and reblogs on tumblr .. sure those were fun!! even tho it led to people thirsting for her attention harder which maybe made the experience for her on tumblr disingenuous? maybe if that expectation of getting involved in posts or fans’ personal lives is gone then that expectation will subside, and she can stay focused on liking things that pertain primarily to her music - and occasionally a few about her? her likes so far have been 99.9% pertaining to her and her music. not to mention the replies/rb’s let to buzzfeed and bustle etc running articles picking apart her replies? 

 or perhaps people are upset about the lack of  instagram posts so that those can also be dissected and mocked for whatever content? her insta was constantly regarded by the media as a bragger, ‘look at me, my life is so great, but also im a cat lady with a lot of famous friends’.  Trust me i loved seeing her ig pictures too, i love her sense of humor and that came through in some of her posts, but i have never seen someone’s instagram more attacked than hers in the last 3 years no matter what she posted unless it was a direct relation to her work … and even some of those were the source of negativity. her friend ships were attacked so hard, it became a topic of discussing and mockery in other artists’ interviews “are you a part of ‘the squad.’ Then there was the whole craze if she didnt wish someone a hbd, suddenly that friendship was in turmoil and there go the tabs again. So she’s using her ig like most businesses use theirs: to promote their brand. Seems reasonable to me. Why set yourself up for attacks. And back to tumblr, look at what happened last time she reblogged a certain blog playfully, it led to a story running across every outlet mocking her when she was just trying to have fun and being goofy re: the og blog’s sassy post? who can blame her for going, ‘guess i cant do that anymore’? even her ‘likes’ are being reported by the news now!! there is no ability to have a semiprivate fan-artist relationship because the media. gets. ahold. of. everything. and. they. ruin it. 

and since we are a society who loves to blame, if people want to blame someone for the way things are, blame the press, blame the paps, but don’t blame taylor. she’s simply reacting and adapting to the culture around her.

and i do expect she will do performances around the album launch, bc those are generally well regarded and not torn apart… 

and as for ‘using us’ .. .thats just an insult wow. first and foremost no one is holding a gun to anyone’s head. the door is right there. use it if her current approach is so bothersome, but to sit here and whine about it? If you hate your job, find a new one? if your friends suck, stop hanging out with them? but to sit there and bitch? come on. if you’re that unhappy and think taylor is some changed person you dont like/relate to anymore.. then go! the ongoing complainy judgmental negativity is puerile and rooted in underlying selfishness … and we are only three weeks into this era.  

i have heard people feel ‘disconnected’.. i thought the whole reason people liked taylor swift was to connect and relate to her through her music? isnt that what ultimately, every reviewer has said since the beginning of time: Great music, Great lyrics, Very Relatable. love story, fifteen, white horse, trouble, enchanted, all too well, sio, 22, clean, i could keep going but arent those all songs people have really related to, got them through good and bad times? was it not the music people related to with taylor from the beginning, to her experiences, growing up, love, love lost, coming of age, that she shared in lyric? that’s how i have since ages ago? it was always music first. The rest was gravy? but if some connected to her primarily through her personal life - interviews, instagram, baking, cats, boyfriends, friends, clothing, outfits -  was really where it was at…… and the music is just a footnote… if people are truly disconnected now bc the above don’t exist .. then maybe it is the very right choice of taylor to remove them… remove the ‘other’ way people felt connected .. .because maybe she really only wants people to *feel* connected to her through her art, not her private life?  i respect her choice to try to keep something to herself. 

idk if people were simply not paying attention, but taylor seems to have cut everything out of her life that people ragged on her for in the past. like, wouldn’t you? isn’t that basically self-preservation and protecting yourself? if someone is going to use something against you, why would you continue to do it anymore? wouldnt that be rather masochistic? i mean really give that a solid five minutes of thought. if you are taylor swift and you are doing something that you are repeatedly and vigorously torn down for - like all the things i have mentioned above - why on God’s green earth would you continue to do them? honestly, why? is pleasing some fans by doing A, B, and C above really worth the expense of allowing your life to be one where you are trashed daily by literally the entire media? what kind of life is that? 

good for her for putting herself first.

Warding, a PSA

Due to some problems we’ve come across with this shop, we are adding a new requirement that you must meet before adopting a companion:

Knowledge of warding and protection both physically and astrally

The knowledge of these two subjects are imperative to have in order to keep both you and your companion safe. Diving into spirit work head first without any protections set up is basically telling everything around you,”HEY! OVER HERE! FRESH MEAT!” This is how you attract malicious spirits. 

A malicious spirit can not only harm you, but potentially your companion as well. Just because your companion is a spirit, doesnt mean they are immune to other spirits. Inviting them over without any wards puts them at risk, which is unfair. It is like calling over a friend to your ‘house,’ but not having any walls set up to protect them from the elements. 

Here is a post that gives a little info on wards and gives some examples on what you can do to ward

You must set up physical AND astral wards. 
“But J! I don’t know how to astral travel yet! I can’t set up astral wards if I can’t astr-”
Yes you can. There are plenty of ways to set up astral wards without astral traveling. Visualization is your friend. If you can think of it, you can use it. Go all out with your camouflage, anti teleportation, invisibility, etc when you’re setting up your wards. As long as you have a strong intent, the wards will be strong. Granted, some wards don’t prevent some spirits, so you will have to tweak them sometimes. 

Do not forget to maintain your wards !!!!! Check up on them weekly at least so they are at their strongest. Make them super mega thick with super mega layers. Make them rubbery so nothing can crack it. Do anything you want.

The way I set up astral wards without astral traveling is super simple.
Look at your physical room (or wherever you spend the most time/feel the most comfortable). Follow the lines of where each wall meets another and visualize white light trailing in the wake of your vision. Follow the lines of one wall first, and once you make a square with your white light (or whatever shape your wall is), visualize the square being colored or filled in with your wards of choice. Continue this procedure until all of the walls, floor, and ceiling is warded. Then, expand your wards out to the rest of your house to keep every room and everyone inside safe. Use your intent to make sure it is impenetrable. 

If this method doesnt resonate with you, make up your own! There are no rules, really. Be creative. There are plenty of warding methods that you can find on tumblr as well. Try looking here if you want

Physical wards are another layer of protection to keep you safe. For physical wards, I use:
- witchy jars
- plants
- salt
- sage
- incense
- sigils
All of these are filled with my intent to keep me mega safe, because lord knows i don’t need any more trouble. 

“But J! I am a closeted witch! I can’t do any of those thi-”
Yes you can. There are hundreds of tips out there that are for discreet witches. Sigils are easy to hide. Use an oil diffuser with essential oils that correspond with protection. Light candles with corresponding intent. Plants are inconspicuous. So is salt. I carry a salt packet in my phone case. Hoard all of those salt packets from restaurants. No shame. 

You can do anything if it makes you feel safe. Does hopping around on one leg in circles make you feel lighter and the room clearer? Then do that. Does making snow angels in the carpet make your room feel safe? Then do that. There aren’t any rules. Do whatever if it makes you feel safe, no matter how silly it may seem. Does that necklace that you found at the playground when you were younger just seem to hum with protective energy? Bam, use that. 

As long as you have measures set up that are supposed to keep you and your companion safe, you should be okay at first. Of course, you will have to renew them and tweak them every once in a while to keep them in their best shape. My dedicated day to ward strengthening is every Sunday on cleansing day (which is also an important thing to have, but that post is for another time), but if need be, I fix them through the week as well. No protection is too much protection. 

Stay safe, my friends.

-J

It’s cool, we’re just

I should really be doing some requests but this was one of the things I had written while I was bored in class so I simply wanted to share this with everyone! Don’t worry, guys! Your requests will be filled and posted as soon as I can! 

I can’t promise to always post a lot every day but I am going to try my hardest because I have a lot of commitments going on right now! So updates might be really scarce and sometimes, I might only even post one or two requests but no worries, I am going to try harder to fill in the requests! Anyways, that aside, hope you enjoy this!

MASTERLIST


Originally posted by tomhollandhollaatme

Peter drags you in to the living room, his hand entwined with yours as he pulls the both of you towards the sofa before flopping on it, pulling you to him so that he can wrap his arms around you. Ned rolls his eyes, nudging MJ who is sitting beside him. MJ scoffs, shooting Peter a knowing look that he gladly ignores.

You lean back when Peter tightens his hold on you, giggling quietly to yourself as you made yourself comfortable in his arms. The sound of MJ pretending to gag and Ned clicking his tongue causes the two of you to look at the other two who are sitting across of you. Peter raises one of his eyebrows while you tilt your head to the side.

“Just friends.” MJ scoffs, giving the both of you a pointed look, causing you to flush at the implication and the sudden realization of how misleading your actions with Peter can be. Ned nods his head in agreement as he pauses his game, turning to stare at the both of you.

“I don’t do any of those with my friends.” Ned points out and Peter furrows his eyebrows as he stares at his two friends, wiling them to shut up. He tightens his arms around you, pressing his nose to your hair. Now that Ned and MJ have made you very well aware of how close Peter and you are sitting together, you are starting to feel rather embarrassed.

“Jealous?” Peter shoots back, narrowing his eyes at his two friends. Ned shrugs his shoulders, pretending to zip his mouth and throwing away the zipper. He turns back to continue playing his game. Just as Peter is about to talk to you, MJ speaks up.

“That’s rich, Parker; aren’t you the one that wouldn’t tell a certain someone that he is hopelessly in love with her?” MJ shoots, challenging Peter but her words cause the both of you to tense. Peter’s sharp intake of breath overlaps with your gasp. Ned stares at MJ in shock and nudges her slightly, catching MJ by surprise and she finally realizes what she had just said to the both of you. She stares at the two of you in shock, almost looking apologetic.

“I don’t know what you’re talking about,” Peter grits out as he pulls away from your hair. You quickly pull yourself from his hold and get up from the sofa. Your face feels very warm and you know even without looking in the mirror that your entire face is probably red. Your ears are warm too.

“Y-yeah, Peter’s right.” You sputter as you made your way through the living room towards the door. “We are just friends.” You pull the door open, ignoring the panicked looks all three of them have exchanged and close the door behind you. You stand in the corridor, letting out a huge sigh. You didn’t think your feelings for Peter had been that transparent; you have always made sure to keep a tight lid on your feelings. You let out a small dissatisfied goran as you lean back against the wall. Things are going to be so awkward; “Why did you leave the room, Y/N?” You grumble to yourself.

“Y/N, WAIT – oh.” Peter bursts through the door, stopping abruptly when he realizes that you are right beside the door. He stumbles forward when the door hits his back and he stares at you. “Hi.” He says sheepishly, closing the door behind him.

You can’t help but smile despite what had happened in the room. “Hi.” You tuck your hair behind your ear.

“So, um, I just – I don’t want you to – you know,” Peter trails off, combing his fingers through his hair. He drops his hand and takes a step forward, trapping you between the wall and him. “I am so sorry that my friends are idiots?” He looks at you, willing for you to look at him and tell him that everything’s fine – that the two of you are fine.

You finally look at Peter to give him a small smile that quickly drops when you realize just how close Peter is standing. “Lovable idiots though.” You murmur and Peter chuckles as he nods his head. There really is no denying that; as much as Ned and MJ love to pick on him, Peter still loves them and his life would probably be dull without their constant teasing.

“MJ wasn’t supposed to say that.” Peter wraps his fingers around your wrist causing you to glance at your joined hands. Peter steps closer and by the time you look up, Peter is almost an inch away from your face and your breath hitches as you stare directly in his beautiful, brown eyes.

“What wasn’t?” You ask him absently – his eyes are just too mesmerizing and you have always known deep down that Peter has really beautiful eyes and despite always being close to Peter; this is actually the first time you have ever had the chance to really look at him in the eyes.

Peter shrugs his shoulders as he leans in closer and you can feel your heart beat in your throat. You wet your lips and Peter’s eyes seem to linger a little bit too long. “I’m in love with you.” He says softly and just as Peter is about to lean forward to press his lips against yours, the door slams open and MJ and Ned are standing there looking at the two of you smugly.

Peter groans and drops his head to your shoulder, causing you to laugh despite being embarrassed yet again – this time for all the right reasons. “Guys, seriously?”

“Just friends, huh.”

I’m so fucking angry and sad, but more than anything I’m so scared. I’m scared for my venezuelan friends who haven’t been able to contact their families for the past 24 hours, I’m scared for my neighbor who had to leave her sick mother and sister in venezuela and hasn’t been able to send them medicine or money for the past two months, I’m scared for the future of my venezuelan brothers and sisters who are dying every single day fighting for their rights and their future. 17 people have died since yesterday during elections, two of them were children. They were 13 and 17 years old, they should be playing with friends and living their youth but instead they were fighting for their rights and they were killed for it. I feel so hopeless, because there’s nothing I can do, the only thing I can do is inform y'all of this, since I havent seen many posts about it and since nobody seems to care. Even in my country, a south american country which should be doing everything in it’s power to protect our latinx sibilings, people are clueless. They know shit is going down, they know venezuela is currently hell, yet they do nothing to help or inform themselves more than the little our news channels or the goverment tell us. Please don’t turn your back to Venezuela, whatever country or continent you are from, they need our help, they need us to be informed so no one forgets about them, so no one gives them their back just as their goverment did

Corner Shop Part 1 (Routines)

Summary: Peter Parker visited the popular corner shop in Queens everday. Little did he know the owner had a cute daughter.

Word Count:1389

Pairing: Peter Parker x reader

Warnings: none

A/N: This series will have 12 or so parts! Most of it is written and I should be posting a part every day. Thank you for reading!

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Originally posted by hardyness

Routines made people comfortable. People liked to be in control of their lives and they felt secure when the same sequence of events happened daily. That’s why a person gets frustrated when they’ve ran out of coffee, someone took their usual parking spot (or for students, their seat in class or at lunch), or even when there’s unexpected traffic. So, when things were out of order, people had the propensity to fix the issue so that their schedule was the way it’s supposed to be.

For instance, Peter Parker attended high school every day. Sometimes he would skip class, sometimes he’d forget to do his homework, yet it didn’t make a major change in his routine. On the other hand, when he was stuck in detention, such as days like today, it messed up his routine. Right after school, he usually headed towards Y/L/N’S Deli and Groceries, the popular corner store in Queens that sold sandwiches, snacks, and other things. The place attracted many Midtown students, especially around 3 in the afternoon; they go there to eat afterschool.

In order for Peter to feel that he had fulfilled his plan for the day, he skipped detention. Coach Wilson, the educator who watched the students during the tortuous confinement, was distracted by whatever was displayed on his computer screen. Right after he took attendance, he gave his attention to the internet. The only movement Coach Wilson made was his eyes scanning the bright computer screen or moving the computer mouse around. Peter took light steps towards the door, then made a run for it the moment his foot touched the ground outside of the classroom. Wilson was aware he left, but he didn’t care enough to stop him. Peter was in the detention for no more than ten minutes since he ditched.

Jumping over fences and taking other shortcuts, Peter still made it to his favorite store before the other Midtown students got there, and they even had a head start. He always wanted to get there before them because people like Flash bothered him every chance they got, and the owner didn’t like the fuss.

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People talk about hiding book purchases from their parents

…and my parents are just like:

  • “Wow. I know you have this book, but you should get this cover. It’s glorious. Look at it. Buy it. Have two, they’re small.”
  • “Wanna go to the bookstore? I know we went to one two days ago but, it’s a bookstore. And we should go.”
  • “You’ve read a lot recently. You need to buy more books before you run out of things to read!”
  • “My TBR is bigger than yours. You’re slacking.”
  • “So, I know you want books for your birthday/Christmas. You need to get me a list so I can get you plenty.”
  • “I PRINTED COUPONS!”
  • “Aw, I’m sorry you’re having a bad day… wanna go to a bookstore?”
the little study/organization guide for lazy students

I decided to write this post for those people who don’t have that much motivation to study all day. Even though you’re not that motivated, here you’ll find a minimun of things you can do every day/week/month/trimester/semester that will help you keep organized!

So, the least you should do…

EVERY DAY

  • Do your homework!

I don’t think that’s a secret, but doing your homework helps you knowing if you understood the subject or not, and it’s also a way of revising what you did in class.

  • Clean your workspace!

Even if you don’t have a lot to organize. A clean workspace often makes you feel more at ease, and this way you can actually find your things.

  • Organize your notes!

You should organize every note you took on class when you arrive at home, so later, when you need them to revise, they’ll already be there. Usually I take notes in messily because my teachers speak so fast, so when I arrive at home I rewrite them so I can understand easily later on when I need them.

EVERY WEEK

  • Organize your binders/folders!

Throw away papers you don’t need anymore and add important ones you’ve placed somewhere else. It’ll help you keep organized!

  • Revise!

You can do this twice a week as well, if you feel you need it. Even if you’re not studying for any kind of exam, once a week you should choose a subject and do a big revision: study the most recent arguments making flashcards, summaries, quizzes or any other technique you usually use when you study.

EVERY MONTH

  • Buy new pens/pencils!

Of course, only if you need it. Usually I need more black/blue pens and pencils, but it’s all up to you.

  • Update your calendar!

Write the new important dates: exams, appointments, goals…

EVERY SEMESTER/TRIMESTER

  • New stationery!

When there’s a new semester or trimester I need to buy a few things so I don’t need to ask people to borrow everything once school starts again. Most people need new notebooks for subjects like maths and physics, which make the notebooks end faster.

  • Do a big revision!

Revise every subject so you can remember all the things your forgot while on vacation! Usually I only do this with chemistry, physics and maths but again, it’s up to you!

+ bonus tip:

  • Buy a planner!

That is, if you don’t have one. A planner helps you knowing the work you need to get done for a certain day and it’s where you’ll write important dates.

xx

I hope this post can help! Please tell me if there’s anything you find important that I didn’t write so I can add it :)

anonymous asked:

I very much approve of the teenage inquisitor tag! Companions reacting to teenage inquisitor having some serious trouble getting over some very traumatizing things they experienced in the fade in Adamant, please!

Cassandra: She notices that they’ve been acting off since their journey into the Fade, and she worries for their mental state. Eventually, she will pull them aside, sit them down, and ask them how they’re feeling, what they’re thinking, and will either ask if (or tell them, depending on their behavior) that they need help. “No one should ever have to do what you did, especially not someone as young as you.” she says quietly. “We are here for you, and we’re going to work through this with you.”

Blackwall: He notices their change in behavior and knows they’re traumatized. He’s not really sure how to go about it, other than “I’m here to listen if you need it.” The Herald expresses guilt over the one who sacrificed themselves for their escape, and he does his best to reassure them that it’s not their fault. “I know this is painful, but sometimes things happen that are outside our control. It doesn’t make it any less painful.” He sighs. “I would know.”

Iron Bull: He sees what’s going on very quickly. He also knows how to go about it, and notices every tic and behavioral change, if any. Like the others, he offers to listen, and if they need it, a shoulder (well, chest, more like) to cry on. Vivienne hires a therapist, which he’ll pass pertinent information onto if needed. He’s looking out for them.

Sera: She’s having trouble getting over what happened in Adamant, too, especially if she went into the Fade as well. She swats at the Herald when they come to check on her, and when she starts telling them “never again,” she stops as she sees they’re clearly distraught, as much as she is. She stops short and asks how they are, and the two commiserate on the Fade.

Varric: (If Hawke Didn’t Die) He tries to get them to talk to him, walk with him, anything– he believes talking it out will help. He’ll also bluntly tell them that he can tell they’re having trouble recuperating, and that he’s there to help. (If Hawke Dies) He wants to comfort the Herald. He really does. He knows they’re in pain, too, but the grief is choking him too much. He gently pushes them away as he goes to write letters, and asks one of the companions closest to the Herald to talk to them.

Cole: He feels it. It’s a sick, looming, darkness creeping over their soul, mocking and taunting them with failure and death and loss– and to his dismay, it’s not a pain he can just get rid of with ease. “They aren’t mad at you,” he reassures, “and you didn’t fail. Sometimes people have to die. You’re hurting. You hurt so much, but I don’t know how to help. How can I heal this hurt?”

Solas: He’s actually quite exhilarated by the whole trip, and after finishing up several stacks of parchment with notes, he seeks out the Inquisitor, intending to chat them up about what he’s discovered. He stops halfway through the first sentence at their dead-eyed expression, and he frowns. “Oh. My apologies, I should have known that you would be affected like this, going through the realm of a powerful fear demon. Would you like to discuss your thoughts, da’len?”

Dorian: He’s quick to check on them and ask if they’re okay. He already knows the answer is no, but he wants to establish that he’s there for them. The Inquisitor is trying not to cry, but eventually they’re in his arms, sobbing freely. Dorian strokes their back, trying to gently shush and soothe them as best he can. He checks on them repeatedly every day for the next few weeks– no one should ever have to go through the realm of a fear demon, especially not someone their age. The poor thing…

Vivienne: She figures out they’re struggling with coping after trying to ask them about their experience in the Fade. Suddenly, she’s gentle with them, trying not to exacerbate their stress more than it already is. Depending on how long or how hard they’re having a time of recovering, she may actually have Josephine hire a therapist to come work with them– untreated post traumatic stress can be debilitating, and she wants to ensure they have the best care possible.

Josephine: She frets over the Herald, frequently checking on them and trying to talk to them; she can’t imagine the horror the poor kid had to go through. The ambassador quickly agrees to Vivienne’s request and sits down with the Inquisitor, telling them what’s going to happen, and worries incessantly for them. Her heart feels heavy with pity.

Leliana: She’s cool about it, briefly asking if they’re alright and then not pressing further. She does, however, have a few agents keep a closer eye on the Herald, to ensure they’re safe and attended to properly. She also asks for updates from some of the others on how they’re feeling and recovering.

Cullen: He knows what it’s like to be through a traumatic experience, and he relates and understands their pain perhaps the best out of all of the inner circle. He offers to listen, and the Inquisitor finds talking to him the most reassuring, because they know he really understands what it’s like.