things that make life easier

the type of person i imagine the signs in a relationship with
  • Aries: someone soft and gentle, but not a pushover. they are exciting and enjoy going places and going along for the ride. they listen to the 1 a.m. passionate rants and is always understanding.
  • Taurus: someone patient and kind. someone who pushes and motivates, but knows and accepts limits and boundaries. very cuddly and affectionate, enjoys PDA.
  • Gemini: someone good at communication and listening. very accepting and understanding, empathetic and compassionate. has similar interests and likes what they like. very witty and has a similar sense of humor.
  • Cancer: someone confident and self assured, but not cocky or arrogant. humble and kind. knows who they are and what they like. seems unemotional and hard, but has a soft side. responsible and values hard work.
  • Leo: someone who adores them and notices the small things. someone considerate and who will do small, yet kind things for them. someone who will make their life easier and better.
  • Virgo: someone who appreciates them and the things they do. tells them they love small details about them everyday. understands and calms them down when they feel anxious and stressed.
  • Libra: someone intelligent and well respected. has a lot of energy and likes to go out, but can be chill. someone fun and uplifting and has a silly side, but knows when to be serious.
  • Scorpio: someone patient and empathetic. likes to have deep conversations and talk about interesting topics. someone loyal and devoted and will always be by their side. passionate and loving.
  • Sagittarius: someone original and talented. likes to have fun and is lighthearted and optimistic, yet realistic. someone to have deep and philosophical conversations with late at night. someone that appreciates small moments and things in life.
  • Capricorn: someone witty and sarcastic, and has a good sense of humor. someone who takes things seriously, but can have a good time and has a fun side to them. very caring and doting, loves very deeply.
  • Aquarius: someone original and isn't afraid to be themselves. understanding and accepting. has similar opinions and outlook on life. someone who likes to have debates and discussions. someone who likes to have fun and is adventurous, but grounded.
  • Pisces: someone grounded and responsible, and balances them out. doesn't try to change who they are and celebrates all of the differences and quirks of them. affectionate and likes to show them off. very sweet and has an emotional side.

How to be a secret witch tips

If you are practising witchcraft and you’d prefer to keep it a secret there are a few things you can do to make life easier!

• keep your semi-permanent altar in a shoe box

• have your BOS (book of shadows) in any notebook it doesn’t have to be black or have anything witchy on the cover

• Make a storage pocket in the back of your BOS for your sigils so no one else will find them laying around and ask about them

• if someone asks about incense tell them you were meditating

• wear jewellery underneath clothes

• if people see you writing in your BOS tell them it’s your diary

• take your altar and leave the house and go somewhere private when doing spells or practicing magick

Thanks hope this gave you a few tips! Happy Enchanting ! 🌙✨

He was great. We shared many great moments. Our physical connection was never in question. He kissed me within an hour of meeting me and I let him. I thought that it could be a great story that we tell other people one day, not knowing that maybe moving too fast doomed us from the start. Our emotional connection, on the other hand, is something that I always questioned. The only time he allowed me a glimpse into his heart is at three in the morning, when we would talk all night, not needing sleep, only each other, even though he has to be up at eight for work. I feel him smiling against my face. His heart beating against my chest. His thumbs caressing my fingers. His hand rubbing my bare back. These are the little moments that I will keep close to me. These are the moments before everything good about us slipped away.


He was charming and confident and he created an environment where I felt safe to grow. He taught me many things about life and I will always care for him in that sense. And although my relationship with him was exhilarating, there was a dark and twisted side that was always lurking.He was able to flash a smile at me and charmed me into changing my morals for him. To the point where I slid down the door, holding onto my chest, the part where the heart is, and questioned if I am still me. He was able to use his confidence to make me feel small and less than him, to the point where I made excuses to my friends for the ways he treated me. He used my need to feel alive to suck the innocence and what little naivety I had left.


And the more nights we spent together, the colder I felt. The more he withdraw, the more I needed his warmth. It was a sick relationship based on my fear of spending my nights alone and his fear of commitment and missing out on everything life has to offer did not make things easier. 


Of course it hurts to see things changed. Of course it hurts to remember all of the tender moments we had. And of course, my heart breaks every time I compare the beginning to now. I will never understand how someone wakes up one day and decides that they don’t care anymore. He used to pull me closer to him during the middle of the night to kiss my forehead. Now all he does is cowered me into the corner and throw words at me, that he claims he does not mean the next day. And I hate myself for never having the strength to leave him in that moment. So I lay down in the same bed next to him, facing the opposite direction, leaving inches between us. And I hate myself for still wanting his arms around me.

—  He trapped me in the environment he created and it took me a while to find my way out of the maze. And sometimes, I wonder if I am really out.

A rare snake-related post by me-

I have had Vision, a dwarf BCI and my youngest snake, for roughly 9 months now. He will be a year old in July, so by snake standards he is still very much a baby. In the past 9 months, he’s gone from, for lack of better words, a bitey defensive asshole to a relatively passive and trusting creature who simply has Rules ™ on how, where, and when he can be touched. I used the same method to produce these results as I do with all of my reptiles, including my young snake of a notoriously aggressive and defensive species (Amazon Tree Boas) and have frequently been asked how I manage to get these animals that instinctively bite first and ask questions never to allow handling and pictures without drawing blood.

On my dog blog I’ve mentioned the concept of body autonomy a few times in relation to training dogs, and how it crosses over into husbandry in other species. In these posts I’ve detailed how I tame the larger birds at my job, how I teach my snakes not to bite me when I take them out, how I can successfully convince a thrashing dog to accept grooming without a fuss, how I teach cats to not turn into screaming demons for nail trims, and more. I also cover this in many of my dog training lectures at work as my students teach their dogs to allow grooming, nail trims, and medically related handling to prevent injuries and incidents when interacting with these animals. All of this relates back to body autonomy, and how we as humans have consistently ignored other species’ instinctive need to be autonomous.

I am no master animal trainer and do not play one on TV. I train pet dogs and service dogs and have begun to venture into competition, at one point I specialized in rehabbing aggressive and reactive dogs. I have trained various common pet animals in occasionally unconventional ways to do things that make life easier for the both of us, but I don’t claim to be anything special, because what I’m doing is not all that special. It is, however, uncommon for people to make these considerations with their pets and then they call in someone like me to fix a problem that didn’t need to start in the first place.

An example being: frequently on this website and others, the solution for convincing a biting snake not to bite you is to hold it still until it stops biting you. The snake will learn that biting you does not produce the desired result (you letting the snake go or putting it back in its cage) and thus will eventually stop biting you when you pick it up.

In the dog training world, we call this flooding and learned helplessness. It “works” because it produces what we wanted it to. The snake no longer bites when you pick it up. But it failed to address the root of the problem, and frequently if regular handling is not maintained the snake will return to biting you every time you touch it. The snake had learned that there was nothing it could do in order to make you stop doing what it didn’t like, and so had learned that it was helpless against the much larger human. The snake in this situation still doesn’t really want to be handled, it is merely tolerating it because it sees no other option.

While snakes have a much more primitive brain than dogs and thus a much more limited scope of emotions, aggression and violence are always expensive measures to use and thus are frequently considered last resort measures to make an unpleasant situation stop. They are costly in body resources- they take large amounts of energy, stress, and time to resolve, and wounds obtained from violence can become deadly with infection or severity. As a result, a bite should always indicate that whatever you are doing is so unpleasant to the animal you’re doing it to that they’re willing to risk their life in order to make you stop. The common pet snake knows it cannot win against an animal as large as a human. It is hoping you have not come to the same realization, and will not call its bluff.

This creates a problem. Like with dogs, backing off from a situation that is required after a bite will teach the snake that all they have to do to get you to leave them alone is to bite you. If I need to trim my dog’s nails, give him a bath, brush him, or have him examined by a vet, sure I could put him in a muzzle and force him to do it anyway, but it is counter-intuitive to teach him that all he has to do is bite me in order to get out of doing those things he may consider unpleasant. I need to be able to handle my snakes. This is not negotiable, just like the above things I do with my dogs are not negotiable. If I cannot handle them, I cannot check them for injury, disease, or distress. Backing off because my snake, or dog, has threatened to bite me is thus not a viable option. I must be able to complete the task, and the animal in question must let me.

Dogs, by comparison, are relatively easy to convince in this problem. I need to be able to do my dog’s nails. If I give him amazing treats on a good reward schedule, shower him with praise, listen to his body language to give him a chance to calm down and destress before pressing on, and remove my own negative emotions from the equation, he will learn to let me do his nails and even offer the position required for the task within a relatively short amount of time. He does not have to like having his nails done, but I can convince him to like he benefits he gets out of it. Cats and birds and small mammal pets like ferrets, rabbits, and rodents may be slower, but follow much the same way.

I can’t give a snake a treat. That’s not really how snake digestive systems work. I can’t give them a toy. I can’t give them praise. The subtleties of snake body language are much harder to read due to a lack of eyelids, ears, and limbs. Dogs, cats, birds, ferrets, all of these are social creatures that practice social bonding and feel an emotion similar to love (in the dog’s case, actually do feel love). Snakes are not social creatures and their brain is not capable of producing the chemicals involved in the emotion we call love. I cannot convince a snake to love me or to like being handled. That is not something their biology is able to do. Does that mean I have to rely on flooding and learned helplessness in order to get them to let me handle them?

I keep stressy species. While all reptiles are more than capable of stressing themselves to death, my current list of exotic pets includes a special needs ball python with a severe neurological condition, a brazilian rainbow boa specifically purchased from someone who breeds minimally stressy snakes because he got tired of the species’ reputation for being bitey assholes, and a dwarf bci locality (read: like a subspecies, but not different enough to get their own scientific name) known for being defensive bitey assholes. Previously, I had a special needs corn snake that was a defensive bitey asshole, an amazon tree boa that was remarkably handleable despite the species’ reputation for being aggressive and defensive bitey angry assholes, and a few foster ball pythons that came from neglect situations and had never been handled before leading to them being defensive bitey assholes. Stress is common in situations where aggression or violence is utilized, even if it is being utilized by the animal and not the human. If the stress from moving can kill my beloved ATB Hydra, why would I intentionally expose him to situations where he would feel required to use violence again and again until he learned that that was not a way out of the situation?

I did not flood my snakes. I hold them. They do not bite me. It has been a long time since any of them have even struck at me, and the majority of the bites and strikes I have received have been from when I was learning the snake in front of me or from me intentionally ignoring their body language and handling them a way I knew they didn’t like for whatever reason. Snakes do not bite without cause. Whether you, a human, can see that cause or not, snakes do not bite because they are vindictive or mean. As said, their brains are far too primitive to feel such complex emotions. Even wild snakes do not bite without provocation- whether you intentionally provoked them or not does not matter, simply whether they felt provoked enough to need to defend themselves possibly with their lives.

Vision came to me unsure of my intentions and of whether I could be considered safe. He certainly didn’t believe I should be picking him up. At two months old, the world is a scary place to a baby snake where nearly everything is bigger than you and nearly everything wants to kill or eat you. I do not blame him for doubting the warm giant cooing over him with grabby hands. To him, I’m sure I am some baffling mixture of hawk, bear, and wild canine. All of these things readily kill and eat snakes, all of these things may be persuaded to not kill and eat this particular snake if he bites them.

Instead of picking him up and allowing him to spend precious resources stressing himself to the point of repeatedly biting me- which hurts, by the way, so I don’t really want to be bitten any more than I need to be- I allowed him to show me things about him. I let him show me what he does when he’s nervous, when he doesn’t want to be bothered. I let him show me what he does when he’s curious and feels like investigating what’s in front of him. I let him show me how he does and does not like to be touched. Like many snakes, he seems to enjoy being scratched lightly under the chin. Like many snakes, he doesn’t seem to appreciate being tickled on the stomach. He prefers to create a “foot” about 2/3 down his body and use it as an anchored perch when exploring my hands. He does not want his tail to be touched. When he is nervous or unsure of potential danger, he will retract and coil himself into a loose ball. If pressed before he recovers, he will “expand” the “ball” quickly and vocalize. If he continues to be pressured, he will threaten to bite and will begin to try. If he is allowed to relax, he will recreate his “foot” and resume quietly investigating his surroundings.

Today, I took the lid off of his enclosure and lifted him out without a fuss. While this is not a first- we accomplished this task about 4 weeks in- only in the past few weeks has he not immediately retracted into his loose ball and required me to wait a few minutes for him to relax before touching him. Instead, he immediately made his “foot” and began to investigate, leaned against my finger as I scratched his chin, and maintained his confidence throughout the time I handled him. Sure, I could possibly get a similar result through the first method of flooding and teaching him that he is helpless against me, but I don’t need to. I can get a confident content snake that is not only tolerating my handling but also showing curiosity and intelligence without forcing him to accept my hands as things he has to deal with in his life.

The people espousing these methods always ask me how I managed to take such nice, interesting pictures of Hydra without bleeding- or joke about how much blood they think I lost inbetween shots- and are always surprised when I tell them that I don’t get bit because I understand a snake’s need for autonomy and allow the snake to tell me their “rules” for being touched and then follow those rules or understand if I break them I will get bit. As a result, I don’t break their rules unless I have to, and thus I don’t get bit unless I have to. This allows me to handle and investigate my snakes, look in their mouths, check their vents and between their scales, touch their heads, and rescue them from fluke accidents such as Quetzal’s injury with his decor without the snake taking their frustrations out on me. It also allows me to take some pretty pictures of them outside or on props without worrying how I will retrieve them without being bitten when I’m done. 

the signs as best friends

aries: best at inside jokes, tries to embarrass you a lot, doesn’t give the best advice but listens to yours, lots of surprise attack hugs
taurus: listens to your problems and always has an answer to them, wants to make you feel comfortable, a shoulder to cry on, laughs at your jokes even if they’re not funny
cancer: treats you like family, feels what you feel, has no physical boundaries and it’s very likely they will literally just lay on you
gemini: always tells you what you want to hear, interrupts your story if they think theirs is better, always wants to do the weirdest shit
leo: supportive of whatever you want but will tell you their opinion even if you don’t ask for it, makes every moment a party moment, appreciates you for putting up with them
virgo: will goof around with you, helps you with little things to make your life easier, tells you if you look bad
libra: judges other people with you, helps you pick out cute outfits, gives the best hugs ever, reminds you why they love you
scorpio: makes you laugh at the worst times, keeps all of your secrets, remembers little things about you, brightens your day
sagittarius: tries to relate to all of your problems, steals all your stuff and never gives it back, always keeps a protective eye on you
capricorn: gives the best advice ever, cares about your happiness as much as their own, treasures your memories and is always down to make more
aquarius: says things that make you question their sanity, puts you in a lot of awkward situations, hates seeing you upset
pisces: gives you zero personal space, always knows when something’s wrong and wants to be there for you,  also probably wants a secret handshake

My birthday is May 26th and the thing about getting older is you stop wanting pointless material possessions like “toys” and “candy” for your birthday instead you just want some of the simple things that make young adult life easier like “a consistent and fulfilling life passion” and “a plan to deal with the vague and menacing uncertainty of the future”

and “socks”

1. It’ll get tough. Really fucking tough. You already knew that. But that’s life, accept it. Put away the books for an hour, drink some tea, cuddle your pets, stare at the ceiling, watch some Youtube videos, and then finish your homework.

2. There will be a lot of days where you wanna quit or can’t get out of bed. Don’t call in sick and don’t drop out. You can do this, you can survive this year like all the others.

3. Enjoy learning new things. Knowledge is power, knowledge is sexy.

4. Don’t pay attention to others, you are here for you, nobody really pays attention to others anyway.

5. Be nice to teachers and help fellow students. Kindness makes life so much easier.

6. ASK THINGS. Ask the most stupid questions and ask the hardest. Just ask anything you want to know. Teachers think you’re dumb? Fuck them. Students laugh at you? Fuck them. YOU need to pass that class and YOU need that degree.

7. Make your lunch the evening before if you have trouble getting out of bed in the morning. Breakfast helps you start up your day. If you don’t have time to eat at home, make some for in class.

8. Go to bed early. A good night’s rest is everything. It’ll make getting out of bed a lot easier.

9. Always carry a water bottle with you. ALWAYS.

10. Take a deep fucking breath. It’s all going to be okay. Take a few steps back and look at your situation with a clear view. Realize how far you’ve come already. Be proud of yourself. Celebrate small victories. You are doing okay.

—  10 steps on how to survive another year of school. // pt. 2
Stress Relief part 2 - Wolverine x Reader (NSFW SMUT)

So many people asked for more Wolverine smut…So, here we go. Very NSFW. Really. Shameless smut (with some gif, which do not belong to me by the way). Because self-control is for weak people…wait…hum…Whatever. 

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Summary : Last time, you helped your Wolverine relax…this time, he helps YOU. And you couldn’t be happier. 

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It had been a while since you had a week as bad as the one you just had. 

Your students, maybe because they felt like the summer vacations were very close, were just being so difficult, so much that at each end of the class you were just exhausted both mentally and physically. 

If that wasn’t enough, you had tons of paperworks to take care of because you promised Storm you’d help her with it. You probably made at least 100 new student files, as the school really started to grow and more kids came in every day. You fucking hated paperworks…You cursed yourself for even asking Ororo if she needed help. She was your best friend, and was co-headmaster with Logan…You saw what being headmaster did to Logan, how it took a toll on his mind, mood etc etc, and just had to try to help them. Still. Fuck paperworks. 

You also were in charge of recruiting new teachers, and that was another pain in the ass, because damn some of them were perfect idiots. You had to throw some out of the school once you realized they were just journalists, looking for a new scandal article to make about a “school full of dangerous mutants”. Assholes. 

Oh, and of course, you also asked Kurt and Hank if they needed help, and of course…They did. 

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Some Tips on Managing Research Projects

As some of you may know, I’ve been working on two research projects for this year - some astronomy undergrad research, and my physics final-year project. Although I’ve been struggling to manage these projects alongside my coursework, I decided to compile a list of things that make life easier. These tips are for big projects that typically last over a couple of months, rather than smaller assignments.

1) Get a notebook for your project. It doesn’t have to be fancy (though if that’s what you prefer, go for it by all means), it just has to be functional. Whenever you’re working on your project, write down the date and whatever you’re doing that day. It helps a LOT to be organised in this way, especially if you have to write up a report of some sort later.  

2) Set up a plan. Often, with big projects, it’s difficult to see where you’re headed with the project and what you need to do. Having an action plan or an outline of your project helps get you focused and breaks the Big, Overwhelming Project into smaller tasks and steps that can be accomplished. This plan may require adaptions and refinement as you go along, but that’s okay. 

3) Timelines. This is easier if you have a looming deadline can the universe slow down so that I have enough time to finish everything before 9 September pls but, if you don’t, try and set up some kind of long-term schedule. Maybe you want to have all your background research done by the end of the week, have your first draft written in a month’s time. Having mini-deadlines is a great way to convince yourself to make progress and stop procrastinating.

4) Google sh*t! Seriously. If you don’t know how to do something, Google it. You’ll find a lot of answers out there. And you’ll figure out how to do a LOT of things on your own. 

5) Ask for help. If you’re stuck on something and just can’t make any more progress, even after tip no. 4, ask someone for help. If you have a project supervisor, they’re your first port of call. If not, find someone doing a similar type of project and ask them. 

6) Have the right software/equipment. If you have your own laptop, and can get the software you need for your project, get it! I did this for my astro project and it’s so easy to work on it now that I have ALADIN on my own computer and don’t have to work from uni. I’m stuck using the computers at my uni for my physics project and it is very inconvenient. If your project requires equipment, try to get the equipment ASAP.

7) Schedule time to work on your project. When I set up my week in my bullet journal, I make sure to schedule in project time. I’m also trying to work in my “down time” when I have a cancelled tutorial or something similar that leads to unexpected free time.  

8) Dowload Mendeley if you’re doing a lot of research. It autocites your papers for you (you literally just drag and drop and BOOM - all the references), generates a bibliography in whatever form you prefer. It makes it so easy to organise research papers. Use it. It’s free. 

9) Accept that it’s going to be tough and that you will mess up. Maybe you procrastinate a little more than necessary. Maybe you delete an article or forget to name your files something sensible. It happens, it wastes time, but it’s okay. You’ll get everything done properly eventually. Take a break if you need to. You’ll get back on track.

I hope these help! I am in no way, an expert in this. I’m still figuring things out for myself. Projects can be overwhelming, but they are also one of my favourite things to do. There’s so much that you can learn from doing a research project - far more than what you learn in class - and I highly recommend it as something that Science undergrads in particular should do.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask! I also have a study instagram @ munirastudies if you’re keen on following me there. Happy studying!

xx Munira

Breaks

Author: kpopfanfictrash

Pairing: You / Jackson

Rating: R (mentions of smut)

Word Count: 3,176

Summary:  In the world of Lore, there are no soulmates. Not anymore. But what happens when you start to dream of yours? - Soulmates!AU

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101 Thought Provoking Questions

1. Do you like who you are?

2. What would people say about you at your funeral?

3. What would you regret not doing in your life?

4. What’s the wisest thing you have ever heard someone say?

5. What lessons in life did you learn to hard way?

6. How often do your biggest worries and fears come true?

7. If you had one year left to live, what would you try to achieve?

8. Do you serve money or does money serve you?

9. Are you afraid of being your true self around others? Why?

10. What are you grateful for?

11. Have you done anything you are proud of lately?

12. Have you made any recent acts of kindness?

13. If you knew that you would die tomorrow, what questions would you ask yourself?

14. If your biggest fears came true, would it matter in five years from now?

15. How would you describe yourself?

16. Do you take people’s advice?

17. Do you get quickly offended?

18. Do you consider yourself to be a likable person?

19. ‘We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give’ – What does this mean to you?

20. Are you enriching the lives of others?

21. Are you living a meaningful life?

22. What makes a meaningful life?

23. Would you ever give up your life to save another?

24. How much would you be willing to sacrifice for people in poverty?

25. If you could live one day over and over again, what would you choose to do?

26. Do you think you are important and worthy of affection and love?

27. What would make you feel more worthy? What do you believe needs to be different about you?

28. What brings you down the most often?

29. Would you rather work less (and do the things you enjoy) and have less money?

30. Where do you find peace?

31. What is the most important quality you look for in another person?

32. What is your biggest dream in life?

33. What is your biggest fear?

34. How would the world be different if you had never been born?

35. What life lessons do you wish you knew 10 years ago?

36. If you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?

37. If your life was a movie, what would the title be?

38. If your life was a movie, would you enjoy watching it?

39. What does success mean to you?

40. If you could be a different person, who would you be?

41. What was the best day of your life? Why?

42. What do you look forward to most in life?

43. What bad habits do you want to ditch?

44. Who do you look up to and why?

45. Do you know your partners love language?

46. Do the people you love most know how much you love them?

47. Are you satisfied with the depth of your relationships?

48. What do you owe yourself?

49. Based on your current day-to-day life, what do you expect to achieve in 5 years from now?

50. Do you say ‘yes’ too often when you really want to say ‘no’? Why?

51. What did you learn yesterday?

52. What do you like about yourself?

53. Would you consider yourself to be a generous person?

54. Do you really listen when people talk to you?

55. What is the number one change you need to make in your life this year?

56. How many hours per week do you spend on the internet?

57. What are your most common negative thoughts? Are they logical?

58. Do you think it’s too late to do certain things in your life? Why?

59. If you could be the most influential person in the world, what would you change?

60. How much time do you spend with your family and friends?

61. Where do you want to be in 5 years from now?

62. Is your life complicated by unnecessary things?

63. How can you simplify your life and focus on the most important things to you?

64. What stresses you out?

65. What makes life easier?

66. How often do you give without expecting anything in return?

67. What is your greatest challenge?

68. What is most important to you in life? Are you giving it the time it deserves?

69. If you could send a message to the world, what would you say in 30 seconds?

70. What do you most regret never telling someone?

71. When was the last time you tried something new?

72. Are you afraid to speak your own opinion?

73. Do you give into others too often and feel resentful because of it?

74. Are you holding onto something that you need to put behind you?

75. How often do you let your fears hold you back?

76. Do the people in your life bring the best out of you?

77. How often do you make excuses?

78. What is one mistake that you will never do again?

79. Which is worse, failing or never giving it a shot?

80. What has grown you the most as a person – your challenges and trials or the comfortable yet enjoyable moments in life?

81. If you could choose to have no more challenges or obstacles in life, would you?

82. In one word, what is standing between you and your biggest goal?

83. How often do you go to bed feeling angry?

84. Would it be wrong to steal in order to feed a starving child?

85. If you paid more attention to the sad things in this world, would you feel more conflicted about it?

86. If we learn from our failures, then why is it so bad to fail?

87. What could you pay more attention to in life?

88. Why do we think of others the most when they’re no longer around?

89. What does it look like to make the most of your life?

90. What have you given up on?

91. How many people do you truly love and what are you doing for them?

92. Do you ask enough questions, or are you happy to settle for what you already know?

93. What were you doing when you last lost track of time?

94. Do you think you would be happy if you never had to work again?

95. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

96. If you could ask for one wish, what would it be?

97. What inspires you in life?

98. What can you not live without the most?

99. What do you enjoy doing over and over again?

100. When did you last laugh so much it hurt?

101. What is stopping you from living the life you want to live?

the-chiweenie  asked:

What are some things that you adore about each of the signs? I'm curious to know!

this is such a cute question!

I love Aries energy, it’s always so noticeable and largely felt. Their vibes are intense but they are so fun to be with, they definitely light up whatever room they walk into. They always make me smile!

Taurus are so patient and stable, I feel so safe and assured around them. They know what they’re doing, and even if they don’t, they still remain calm and figure it out. They are so comfortable to be with

Gemini are naturally funny and friendly, I always feel so welcomed by them. They love to make you laugh and smile, and are always fun to talk to. They are just so effortless, they are so warm and natural

Cancers are always such sweethearts, oh my god. Every one that I’ve met is so understanding and sweet, and they love to listen to you talk about your problems or your day. They have such a gentle way with words as well, everything about them seems soft, but raw

Leo is always so noticeable, you can pick them out of a crowd. They are so warm and radiant, their smile and laughter is contagious. They are real and raw, they aren’t afraid to speak up or tell you what they mean or want

Virgos are very subtle, but their actions are always helpful. They’ll do small things for you to make your life easier or help you in any way they can. They are compassionate and calming, but are also naturally funny and have a good sense of humor

Libras are really good at making you feel like you’re special and important. They listen intently and engage completely in the conversation. They’re also good at story telling, every Libra I’ve met has weird stories they love to tell, and they tell it in such a unique way

Scorpio has such passion and strength in their voice and interests, you can tell when they truly love something. Their thoughts are so insightful, I just want to ask them questions all day long. They are so strong and real, and their intensity and passion does not go unnoticed

Sagittarius are funny and lighthearted, but once you get to know them, they’ll open up with their deeper thoughts. They always make me think, and say things in such an honest and perfect way. They leave me in awe, it’s hard not to have a good time with a Sagittarius

Capricorns are honest and blunt. They tell you what they think and what they want, and it can seem cold, but I admire how they can do that. They know what they want and how to get it. But they are also so caring and have kind hearts. They do small favors or do secret things for you, it’s very sweet

Aquarius are just naturally goofy and hilarious, their minds are intricate and fascinating. The things they come up with or think just amaze me, they are so intelligent and observant. They notice little details about you and remember them, and appreciate the small things

Pisces are polite and gentle, but also silly and weird. Their sense of humor is usually strange or different, but they still make you laugh like no one else can. They are empathetic and kind, their hearts are big. They are sensitive, but aren’t afraid to admit it, which I really admire.

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I feel… at peace.

Foldin’ Clothes : Mark Lee

→ mark lee x reader

→ fluffy fluff fluff ; 1.4k words

→ based on “foldin clothes” by j.cole {listen here}, doing laundry at NCT’s dorm so mark doesn’t have to cause youre like, the best girlfriend ever.

→ **AN; i dont usually write scenarios but ive had this idea in my head for the longest time… i did used to enjoy writing a couple years ago tho so maybe i’ll start getting into it again**


It never ceased to amaze you how even with his busy idol life, your boyfriend still made time to show you how much he loves you. Any spare moment he had was filled with an “I love you, you mean the world to me” text, a phone call or a visit to your home to cuddle and watch an episode of your favorite Netflix series before he was whisked away to another schedule. If you admired anyone in this world, it would be Mark Lee. You would never understand how he managed to balance his work, his sleep, his meals and his girlfriend but somehow he did it.

He wasn’t a half-assed boyfriend either. He always found a way to make you feel unconditionally loved and adored, even if it was just for a brief moment. If there was one thing everyone knew about Mark, it was that he was passionate in anything that he did, including his relationships. He’s been there for you since your first year of middle school, through some of the toughest times in your life and still everyday with him is better than the last. It was hard for anyone in a “normal” relationship to believe, but he made your life easier. Yeah you may go a week without seeing each other, but you always had someone to rely on and put your love and trust into. Besides, Mark “didn’t have time to do anything else besides work and love you,” as he would say.

It seemed that Mark was always busy. Even being home at the dorms, he never had down time. He had texted you earlier that day to bring over any clothes he may have left at your house, as he was stuck on laundry duty since he lost to Haechan, the other 127 maknae, in a game of rock, paper, scissors. As you arrived, you knocked on the front door with a special pattern, one you and Mark made up years ago when you went to a summer music camp. There was no answer for a minute, so you tried again. Eventually you heard the click of the lock, and you can’t help but smile knowing your boyfriend was on the other side. You look up to the face of an older boy, one that was definitely not Mark. “Oh, hi, Jaehyun!” You greeted.

“Hey pipsqueak, what’cha doin’?” He asked, a dimpled grin appearing.

“I was just here to drop off some clothes, I heard Mark’s on laundry duty this week,” you offered a smile in return.

Jaehyun laughed, “yeah, poor guy never gets a break, huh? Come on in, munchkin, I’m sure he’d be happy to see you.” He opened the door wide, allowing you to step in after ducking under his arm.

“When are you going to stop calling me names, Jaehyun?” You laughed as you took a look at him over your shoulder.

“When are you going to grow taller, Y/N?” He smirked. Fair enough. “Mark should be in the living room, that’s where he was when I last saw him at least.” You thanked him and watched as he turned a corner, probably going back to his room. You wondered if the other members were here, and how come none of them were near the door to let you in. You wandered into the living room, following the noise of the television.

“Markiepoooooo…” you drawled in a sing-song voice, “I have your clothes!” There was no answer. You made your way to the couch, where you saw your boyfriend sound asleep with a baskets of laundry on the ground next to him. Your little heart bursted at the sight, half because he just looked so cute, you couldn’t even handle it, and half because you felt that maybe it was unfair of his hyungs to make him do laundry, I mean they had a million members, why did Mark have to become the victim of laundry day? You walked to the laundry room and set the pile of dirty clothes on top of the washing machine for now, then opened the dryer to see if there were clothes that needed to be folded. It was empty, so you assumed that maybe Mark had taken all the dry clothes to the living room where he could sit and watch TV as he folded them, but was so exhausted that he just passed out on the couch.  You couldn’t just set the dirty clothes down and leave. One, you wanted to see your boyfriend, and two, you felt as though Mark needed his rest, and the least you could do was help him with his chores. The members shouldn’t mind, it’s not like that one time you and Mark took over the TV and played Mario Kart for 5 hours in the middle of the night when everyone was sleeping, the game causing you two to argue at very high volumes, waking up pretty much the entire dorm which ended in you two being sent to your house where you could “make as much noise as you want, but not in the weird way,” Johnny clarified. “What’s the weird way? Nevermind. Forget I said anything.”

So that’s how you arrived at your current state, sitting on the ground with your back against the couch with 3 baskets of laundry (another load in the washing machine,) and your sleeping boyfriend behind you. The TV was playing reruns of Friends, a show you and Mark used to binge watch during summers before he started training to become an idol. You dumped out a basket and got started, separating the jeans from the shorts, the t-shirts from the sweatshirts, and decided to throw all the socks and underwear into their own pile, and let the NCT members figure that out for themselves.

Almost an hour and a half later, Mark woke up to the sound of a door slamming, maybe Yuta had just come back from the gym. “Y/N?” Mark’s low, raspy sleepy voice came from behind you.

You couldn’t help but smile. “Good morning sleepyhead! You want some cereal?” You held the bowl up to him, but he shook his head and flattened his hair down, shutting his eyes since he hadn’t gotten adjusted to the lights yet.

“What are you doing here, babe?” he said after a minute.

“Laundry.”

“Why are you doing your laundry at the dorms?” He laughed, rubbing the tiredness from his eyes.

“I’m not doing my laundry, you goose. I’m doing your laundry.” You set the empty bowl of cereal to the side, somewhere where it wouldn’t get knocked over. Mark looked at you, then looked at the piles of folded clothes spread across the living room floor, then back to you.

“You did laundry for me?” He said in a quiet voice, sounding almost astonished.

“Well, yeah. At first I just came over to drop off your clothes from my house, but then I saw you sleeping on the couch with mountains of laundry in front of you and  I just thought of how you’re always constantly busy and if I could do just one little thing to make your life easier I probably should,” you shrugged, turning to face him.

“Y/N…you are such an angel. I don’t deserve you,” he reached to hold your face in his hand, caressing your cheekbone with soft strokes of his thumb.

“Shut up, Mark. If anything I don’t deserve you. You do so much for me without even realizing it, so it’s only fair for me to return the favor every once in awhile. Besides, what kind of monster would I be to show up with even more clothes for you to wash and not even try to help?”

Mark responded with a smile, a kiss, and a soft “I love you.”

“I love you more,” you taunted.

“You guys are disgusting,” Jaehyun laughed from the doorway.

I love you!” Doyoung mocked.

No no, I love you more!!” Jaehyun returned with a girlish tone and some kissing sounds. “Get a room you two little lovebirds.” And with that, they left you alone.

“Thank you, Y/N. I appreciate everything you do for me.”

“It’s the least I can do. Now you have some free time right? Let’s play Mario Kart!”

anonymous asked:

Can you tell us your insight on what problems might be present in the relationship with the mother depending on moon sign? Thanks! Xx

remember that aspects can also add to this (to a lesser extent) and also the house of your moon! so read up on them as well

** sort of a long post lol**

aries moon- you feel like your mom is always trying to wreck your plans but really is just looking out for you. you keep pushing against her and doing what you want anyways, not seeing the danger in it. you wonder why she gets angry at you after you push her to her limits. shes also always on her feet and sometimes you wonder if you’ll ever catch her sitting down, but that’s just who your mom is and you know that

taurus moon- when your mom can provide you things you call her sweet and the perfect mom but when she doesn’t, you say she’s too frugal and stubborn with her money. you dont push her that hard when you do try to convince her into things, so she never really gets mad at you but you might find yourself rolling your eyes at her when she’s not looking

gemini moon- you show your mom with your actions that you want freedom and want to be detached from her, but then when she gives up on trying to reach you, you say she’s too disconnected from you. there’s probably a lot of arguing, but remember that when she barks at you its only because you bit her first (geminis and their sharp tongue lol)

cancer moon- you’re very focused on her emotionally so you tend to go through all the pain she goes through with her. also if you feel like she isn’t giving you enough love you might flame up in emotion pretty quick but are also quick to blame her for it because you never want to admit you might be unstable without her affection

leo moon- your relationship with your mom is very upfront and honest. just like any leo in general, you find that you and your mom always say what you want to say to each other. this might cause some problems since you will immediately call her out and then she will bounce back with a “lion roar”. her overwhelming presence might be too big at times for you

virgo moon- your mom is under your magnifying glass at all times. youre verryy aware of just how well she cares for your needs. you find sometimes that she doesn’t live up to your expectations and when this comes up, you view her as too flighty and not around enough. you do accept that this is just how she is because.. at the end of the day this is honestly just how you want your relationship with her to be

libra moon- it might be surprising to some, but people with libra moon tend to have a pretty strict relationship with their moms. it seems that you subconsciously have a way of doing things so you can keep the peace between you. the rules that are set can seem too formal at times and there is a facade that says “i cared so much for you”, when you might feel she was actually very cold underneath. that’s the saturn aspect to libra

scorpio moon- your mother stirs many emotions in you but doesn’t seem to be there when you want her to be. other times she’s suffocatingly close when you want her to go away, but this tends to be your own internal clock that tends to go crazy at times. she never really knows when it’s a good time to be there or keep her distance so when she finally shows her frustration you feel shes being aggressive and controlling.

sagittarius moon- sort of like virgo moon in the way that you see all your mom’s faults but the difference is that you see her this way because of your “know it all, above it all” nature. you want to break free of her which made it pretty hard to raise you. you think she has a lot to learn and that you should be in charge of your life, not her

capricorn moon- this moon sign gives you a feeling of guilt in relation to your mom. it seems you can never enjoy life because of her very apparent, difficult problems. you empathize with her and always want to help her because you feel she always does her best but you do think that she could do things for herself that would make her life easier if she tried. she might’ve always relied on you more than you relied on her, but she really respects your ability to be mature

aquarius moon- you might of noticed that your mom didn’t really emotionally support you but it’s because she never really had to. you were very mature since you were young, so your relationship with your mom was pretty detached in the way that you didn’t need her emotionally. she was more of an equal rather than a mother and even though you prefer this intellectually, it can seem like a numb relationship at times

pisces moon- your mom undergoes a lot of difficulties in her life, and you two have a subconscious understanding that you have to be emotionally strong because of this. you want to be able to rely on her at times but you know you shouldn’t because she has enough on her plate. you feel really bad for her since she seems to be lost in her world of problems, but thats exactly what leads you into your own world of confusion and feeling lost