We literally get together to chew.
We consider it socially beneficial to participate in chewing together. It has been a frequent topic of scientific investigation and is suggested that it not only help us form bonds but can increase our intellectual success? In fact, we like getting together and chewing so much we consider it an important, romantic, and high form of friendship and courting? Like going out on a date is taking someone to go chew some nice food with you.
Why is this so important to us? Why is it socially acceptable, and beneficial even, to sit together in groups, large or small, and chew?
Would other species consider it rude, disgusting even, to eat, chew, or take in necessary living substances in whichever way they do, in the company of others?
Alien: ugh, how can your species suffer the immense noises you make?
Human: we don’t really think about it, it’s more of like a ‘communal chewing’ thing which nobody really cares about
Alien: but isn’t it…rude?
Human: What? No, only if you do it with your mouth open.
Alien: but…you must open your mouth to eat, mustn’t you?
Human: Well, yeah, but-
Alien: Then is not eating in front of others rude?
Human: No, no! We’re encouraged to do it!
Alien: but you just said-
Human: I know, but it’s a popular form of social activity! People are more likely to come along to things if there’s food. You know, it’s the only way I could ever convince my friend to come out with me hahah
Also if like, for one species it’s actually similar to torture to be forced to consume things in front of or with others, so they make their humans a huge feast and they all have to eat it together, assuming they would be horrified, but then…
EveryONE IN THE ROOM TEARS INTO THE FOOD WITH RECKLESS ABANDON. THE ALIENS LOOK ON WITH HORROR.
look at how max glances downwards before he hugs david. wonder why he does that? he should be happy he has friends, right? my guess?
max has clearly never really been shown any consistent kindness or love from any adults, specifically his parents. he’s used to avoiding them and them avoiding him. he’s used to being all on his own with everything he does, because nobody cares about him, and that’s just how things work.
now he has david. max finally sees that david clearly cares for him, and he’s absolutely horrified that he’s putting his trust in a real adult. for the first time in his life, he’s putting his trust in someone who, he hopes, wants him to be happy. he’s letting his guard down completely.
he’s terrified because this is the first thing he’s ever had that he doesn’t want to lose.
this is the first thing he’s ever had that he wanted to keep.
I don’t think writers should go at each other and humiliate each other for the stories they write. Tearing someone else down to elevate yourself isn’t really something to be proud of, in my opinion.
I write smut. I write angst. I feel like those are the genres that suit me and my writing style. I am aware of the fact that I’m not that good at other genres and if I wrote fluff, it would probably suck. That’s why I stick to what I think works best for me and my writing style. I don’t write smut because it gets more attention or whatever else is being said. I write angst and smut because I feel like that’s what I’m somewhat good at. There are people who write other genres whose stories are addicting to me and I can’t get enough of them. I’m just aware that my writing isn’t like that.
I know a lot of people feel pressured into writing smut and I’m sorry about that. People should be able to write what they want to write when they want to write it without others pressuring them about it. I don’t think a story needs to contain smut to be good or interesting, not at all. I’ve read a lot of smut that was written just for the sake of writing smut because that’s “what the audience wants”, and I feel like readers can always tell when smut is forced or when it’s a logical part of the story.
What I’m trying to say is, smut writers get a lot of shit for writing smut. Non-smut writers get a lot of shit for not writing smut. There’s no point in tearing each other down and diminishing other people’s hard work.
At the end of the day, whenever you write, whatever you write, you’re giving a bit of yourself in your story. Not to mention that you’re investing a lot of time into planning, let alone the whole writing process. You’re posting a story of yours online for everyone to see and judge. There’s always going to be negative comments. People think they have the right to say whatever they want to others because this is the internet. That’s why I see no point in shaming people for what they write or trying to say that a certain genre is better than another. We’re all working hard on our stories and dealing with hate and negative comments, I don’t think we should start this smut vs. non-smut bashing thing. If it’s already a thing, I’m not a part of it and I don’t even want to be mentioned in it. I support every writer here, even if I still haven’t read their stories because I know how hard it is to write and post your work online for everyone to judge. If I like your writing, I like it, regardless of the genre, popularity, or even personal disagreements. It’s as simple as that.
Writing is writing. Write what you want to write. Read what you want to read.
I mean, my top priority in GoT / ASOIAF is the story, shipping comes second but … I frankly don’t understand what would be bad about “caring mostly about the ships” anyway. If you’re a show-only fan who cares mostly about the ships, like yeah, go on and be excited about something that makes you happy. You do you, dude.
Other people will only watch the show for the action, the boobs and THA DRAAAGOOOONS!!!!, which I also don’t understand… but I don’t really have to, do I? And if you’re interested in the politics, the metas, all the “deep stuff” you go and create a blog to talk about all that.
I just don’t understand this weird complex of having to feel superior to other people, telling folks why they should enjoy the things they enjoy. Just let people waste their precious free time however they like.