things in the wind

On Character Ages

Wanting to rag on a poorly reasoned “significant makeup in S7″ post that the Jonsa gang seems to like without actually engaging is like subtweeting, isn’t it? You know, kind of sneaky?

It is, isn’t it?

Sigh.

OK, look, if you come across the post I’m talking about and the notes on it calling it ~amazing meta~, know that the writer doesn’t even know how old the characters she’s talking about are. I’m trying to stay out of this ship hate business (because it’s a waste of time), but a mutual reblogged the post I’m talking about, and the age mistake bugged me, so here I am. I don’t want to reply to the post itself, because I don’t want to reblog something that I think is so obviously constructed from tinfoil and dreams, and because if I address the ages I’ll wind up addressing some of the other things about the post that bug me.

Jon is eight to nine months older than Daenerys. He was born soon after the sack of King’s Landing. Dany was conceived the night that Lord Chelsted was burned (soon before the Sack of King’s Landing) and born on Dragonstone nine months after the Sack.

Ergo, Jon is older than Dany, not vice-versa, and this would not be different in the show, because the timeline has also been established there.

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No, it’s you.

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cheesy metaphor for freedom aside, look, they have plenty in common and would be adorable friends, dont look at me

“Some people can’t change”

I’m sorry but….you don’t get to decide that. 

More accurate statements:

  • Some people won’t change
  • Some people don’t want to change
  • Some people have done so much damage that they need to be kept from society because there is no reliable evidence that they will ever reform and there is no way to make restitution for past actions

But whether or not they have the capability of change?

Sorry dude, tough break. That’s part of what defines us as human.

We all have that ability to change, for the better and for the worst.

The decision to change for the better is an entirely personal thing, and is within the capability of every person so long as they breathe. No matter how much you were hurt, you do not get to decide for another person whether or not they are capable of or allowed to change for the better.

That being said, no matter how much somebody changes for the better, they cannot demand:

  • Forgiveness
  • Freedom from consequences, both legal and social

If an abuser is demanding forgiveness from their victim, then it is a sign that there was no desire to change in the first place. 

That said, a true apology is not a demand for forgiveness, but an open acknowledgement of wrongs done and a window for the victim to seek restitution and closure if it is desired.


tl;dr: it’s true that some people won’t change, it’s wisdom to learn to differentiate when somebody is sincerely apologizing, and there is no shame in divorcing yourself from people who have harmed you regardless of how much they may change for the better. 

You owe them nothing, and they still must atone for past actions in whatever ways are possible.

It is not true, however, that people can’t change. 

Everybody can change. 

WIP Ask Game
  • 1: Summarize your WIP in 10 words or less.
  • 2: Post a line from your WIP with no context.
  • 3: Does your WIP have a title? If so, explain its significance. If not, what are you calling it for now?
  • 4: Describe the setting of your WIP.
  • 5: Search for the word "knife" in your WIP. If you find it, paste the line and explain the context.
  • 6: Search for the word "dream" in your WIP. If you find it, paste the line and explain the context.
  • 7: What are you most proud of?
  • 8: What is your biggest challenge?
  • 9: How would you describe your writing style?
  • 10: How would you describe your WIP's narrative style? (1st person, 3rd person, multiple POVs, single POV, alternating chapters, etc.)
  • 11: Which character do you have the most in common with?
  • 12: Which character do you have the least in common with?
  • 13: Your characters are stranded on a deserted island. What happens?
  • 14: Have you chosen birthdays for any of your characters? If so, when are they?
  • 15: Do you know your characters' MBTI personalities?
  • 16: What would your characters be for Halloween?
  • 17: Does your WIP have any themes or motifs?
  • 18: What's easier, dialogue or description?
  • 19: Post a picture or gif that describes your WIP.
  • 20: Post a brief excerpt.

Someone once told me to always live for the little things in life. Live for 5am sunrises and 5pm sunsets where you’ll see colours in the sky that don’t usually belong. Live for road trips and bike rides with music in your ears and the wind in your hair.

Live for days when you’re surrounded by your favourite people who make you realise that the world is not a cold, harsh place. Live for the little things because they will make you realise that this is what life is about, this is what it means to be alive.

They’re inseparable 

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“Colors of the Wind” on the harp by @acoustictrench on ig (feat Maple)