things i judge myself for making

the beauty of living by myself (or away from parents anyway)

lol, @artistefish, i don’t think it’s like she judges and shames me for it… i think she’s just really confused. like out of all the things to be obsessed over i chose a dog-boy with a giant red outfit

i remember how in middle school she’d react the same way when we went to Barnes & Noble:
“you heading to the manga section?”

and i would end up walking back with a 3 in 1 volume of inuyasha and she’d just be all: “why am i not surprised smh”

The Full Potential Challenge

Ever wonder what your life would be like if you lived up to your full potential? Would your body be healthier? Your skin clearer? Bank account bigger? I think about these things all the time, and, judging my a previous post, you guys do to. Below is a chart designed to help all of us live up to our full potential. I’ve broken it down into time frames to help keep you from getting overwhelmed. Write the chart down and hang it someplace where you can see it all the time. I will be starting this challenge tomorrow, 9/8. I’ll check in with you guys every Sunday to track my progress. I have specific goals in mind for myself, and you guys should make some too! I really want to know how you guys are doing. Tag your progress posts with #sbfpc so I can track it and take a look. Let’s get to it!


  • Stretch. First thing. Really give your body enough time to wake up. Touch your toes. Roll out your shoulders. Do not hit snooze!
  • Do your full skincare routine. I have mine detailed here, but do whatever works for you and your complexion. Be gentle and consistent. 
  • Brush your teeth and floss. I used to be a big floss-skipper too, but you’d be amazed at how dig of a difference it makes. Rinse with a whitening mouthwash. I use one by Crest, and I notice a major difference in my teeth’s overall whiteness in just a few days.
  • Give yourself enough time to get ready. Whether you’re a wash-and-go kind of girl, or someone who spends an hour doing a full contouring routine before class (and either one is fine!), make sure you aren’t rushing. If you need to wake up a few minutes earlier than normal, so be it. Rushing sets an awful, stressed-out tone for the rest of the day. Allow yourself to be relaxed before taking on the day.
  • Eat something. I’m not going to say eat a big breakfast, because some people (myself included) just can’t eat in the morning. But you should eat, or at least bring a little something with you to work or school. If you can’t eat a full breakfast, grab a fruit! You won’t be as hungry come lunch time, making you less likely to gorge yourself.
  • Shower. You can do this at night, in the morning, whatever. Again, this is something you should allow some time for. I don’t wash my hair every day, but I do condition it every day (from the ears down). Scrub yourself with a delicious-smelling body wash. If you shave, make yourself as smooth as a dolphin, dude. If you don’t, then don’t and don’t ever ever ever let anyone make you feel bad or weird about it. When you get out of the shower, wrap yourself in a fluffy towel and totally slather your sexy self with lotion. Top to bottom. Do it as soon as you can post-shower so it can really sink in. 
  • Put leave-in condition throughout your damp hair and comb it through.
  • Put on an outfit that makes you feel good! So important!
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Take a look at your daily to-do list. Knock out the most pressing stuff first. Take pride when you cross things off your list.
  • Make your bed! Oh my god, make your bed. Do it. Do it. Do it. 


  • Follow the “touch it once” approach. This is a truly life-changing thing. When a task is in front of you, no matter how big or small, just do it right then and there. How many times have you gotten a work email or homework assignment and thought, “Eh, I’ll do it later”? And then later never comes? Once something pops up, do it once. Squash it and be done. Cross things off your list and feel like a badass.
  • Try to go for a walk at lunch. Even one little lap around the block or campus will reenergize you like nobody’s business. 
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Be present. This is so hard for me too, but you have to make a major effort to be present in whatever you’re doing. Be engaged and plugged-in and just exist in the moment. Give 100 percent.
  • Be friendly to friends and strangers. A smile goes a long way.
  • Eat something. Eat what you packed for lunch (see below) and take a break from working while you do it. You need “you time”!


  • Take your makeup off as soon as you’re in for the night. Wash your face with your full routine and let your skin have a break. 
  • Workout. You can also do this in the morning. Whatever works for you. Make a great playlist and go hard af. Get your cardio in. Get your strength training in. Earn every freaking sweat bead forming on your forehead. Earn your shower!
  • Knock out your homework. Life is infinitely better you don’t have anything hanging over your head. Half the time, the energy and emotion you spent dreading/putting off your work is ten times worse than the work itself.
  • Make a list of what needs to be done tomorrow. It’ll set you up for success the next day, and you won’t forget anything!
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Lay out your clothes for tomorrow. This will save you SO MUCH TIME in the morning omg I can’t even tell you how important this is.
  • Eat something great. And once you’ve decided to be done eating for the night, be done. Brush your teeth so you can’t eat again.
  • After brushing, do a whitening treatment. Whether it’s classic baking soda, a Crest white strip, or a laser. Do something. And floss! Retainers in too, ladies 0:)
  • Relax! Take a few hours to do what YOU want to do. Scroll through Tumblr, binge on some Netflix, FaceTime gossip with your friends, anything. Do whatever makes you happiest. 
  • Shut the electronics off an hour before you want to go to bed. Put your phone on sleep mode. If you stare at the screen, it will keep you awake and alert and you won’t be able to fall asleep. A good night’s sleep is crucial for weightless and general happiness lol
  • Do a quick sweep of your room and see if there’s anything you can put away real quick. A clean space is a happy space.
  • Crawl into your bed (aren’t you happy you took the time to make it?!) and read a book by lamplight for a while. When you start to feel sleepy, go to sleep. Don’t push it. You kicked ass today and you deserve rest. 


  • Do something with your friends. It just has to be one thing. Even if you’re just hanging out at the coffee shop, spending time with your squad will make you a better, happier person.
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Do something just for you. Set your laptop up in the bathroom and watch a Netflix marathon while you take a bubble bath. Buy an old school bottle of Mr. Bubbles ($3 at Target!) and really just soak. Relax. Light a candle.
  • Do something creative. You can read a book, write, blog, draw, code, anything. It just has to be something that speaks to your passion.
  • Track your progress. Just do this once a week so it doesn’t become all-consuming. And remember that non-scale victories are just as important as shedding pounds.
  • Take the time to be grateful. Tell your friend how much you admire her taste in music. Mention to your mom how much you love her cooking and how happy you are that she takes care of you. Thank your teaching after an especially interesting lecture. When you do something awesome, take a moment to admire yourself. Be grateful for even the little things.

Anything I missed? Reblog + add yours! Don’t forget to tag your progress!

Put my mental health first.
Do not be quick to judge.
Be kind.
Meet new people. It opens new doors.
Try looking at things through other people’s perspectives.
Always find a way to connect with somebody, even if you two are total opposites.
Family First. Always.
Be there for people who are there for you.
Help your friends in times of need.
Be the first to smile.
Don’t make a living. Make a L I F E.
Stick to the things I like. Be 100% honest with myself.

Goals for 2017:
Discover. Learn. Grow.

—  shespeakz10-20 things I learned in 2016

Whale Shark at GA Aquarium.

Honestly I would love to hear what people have to say about the GA aquarium. I always thought it was pretty sketchy during my Blackfish stage when I didn’t realize how biased the sources were, and I was getting all of my GA Aquarium information from places that were backing up Blackfish. (I now lean towards the stance that, while they don’t do well in captivity and would ideally be able to live in the wild: the caretakers are doing their best to enrich their lives, animal welfare conditions are always trying to be improved, orca are facing a lot of problems out in the ocean that makes me feel worried for wild populations, and the general public does tend to care more when they can see the animal up close.)

So I decided to visit it for myself, I watched the sea lion show (amazing) and the dolphin show. I listened to the educators. Now that I’m more knowledgeable about zoo welfare things I try not to judge so harshly if I see stereotypic-appearing behaviors, etc. because I don’t know the animals’ background or how the caretakers are managing the behavior.

My main concerns with the GA Aq used to be the whale sharks, the belugas, and the dolphins. I don’t know much about the whale sharks, I’ve heard a lot of them have died? But they keep getting more? I’m not sure where from. I’ve read that the Aquarium was pushing to get more belugas from the wild, something about with Russia? I’d love for someone to throw some facts and legitimate sources at me. The dolphins swam in a circle in their tank, a video I took here, but the show was beautiful and they got to swim so fast for a lot of the tricks, the training is obviously enriching and they get to work together for a lot of the tricks, too. 

I’m not saying that justifies it, ideally they would be out in the wild but, you know, lots of problems with them being able to survive in the ocean we have created for them. Food depletion, pollution, temperature and pH changes, boating, nets, etc. 

I have some more posts related to these animals coming up but feel free to start discussions. @why-animals-do-the-thing I’m curious about what you know about the GA Aquarium and its whale sharks and belugas (and dolphins). 

I also follow a few marine mammal/aquarium people so maybe @shipshapeseal and/or @merswine? Curious about what you guys in the aquarium field think about it.

“Apparently, the deceased had liked candles. And long baths. I’m not judging. There’s a possibility I might enjoy a long bath myself occasionally. When Sherlock was alive I did a lot of running and fighting and sometimes I needed to relax and recuperate. And a bath is good for that. That’s a medical fact. So it makes sense. And essential oils and candles help with the whole relaxing thing. People might laugh. People did laugh when Sherlock told them I enjoyed having baths but I was fine with it. I’m still fine with it. Baths are good.”

A Little Individuality

@crankgameplays I don’t know if you’ll see this but I kinda wanted to talk about the whole “being compared to others” thing. I know it’s super annoying when people do that, especially since you’re a growing channel so it looks as if you “copy” Jack or Mark or whoever else. I myself find it annoying because I can see in your videos that you ARE unique, and I think that obviously people who compare you to bigger channels or complain for you to “stop copying them” HAVE NOT seen more of your videos and cannot make the judgement because they don’t know you enough. It isn’t copying to genuinely enjoy doing Youtube. It isn’t copying to have the desire to do charitable things with the channel. People who judge you straight off the bat and don’t give your channel a chance don’t deserve any extra attention for their complaints, because they don’t know the person they are talking about. You’ve been doing YouTube for more than 4 years and YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON, so please stay cranky :)

I love you and your videos so much Ethan, and I can’t wait for the livestream tomorrow!!!


SO I finally got myself together and wrote the SoC next-gen AU that I’ve been talking about. Yaay! 

Special thanks to @savagekaz , @henrymarsette , @dirtyhandsnet and everyone else who was passionately encouraging me to write this thing. It makes me really happy and I hope you like this. <3

If you want to see photosets or other extra content, click here.

Six years after the events of Crooked Kingdom…

As Kaz Brekker stared out the fourth-floor window, he twirled the slim gold band around his ungloved finger, trying not to imagine it where it should be: on the slim dark finger of a girl who was most likely dead and gone.

He heard her voice in his head, a painful but welcome reminder. “Don’t be so dramatic, Kaz,” she’d say with that endearing eyeroll he had come to love.

“Then come home,” he’d say to her now.

He looked out his office window, moving until he could see Fifth Harbor, his eyes lingering on The Wraith ’s berth.  Through the dark night and pouring rain, he couldn’t see much, but it was the thought that counted.  That berth had been empty for three years, her captain and crew lost somewhere between Novyi Zem and Ketterdam.  Kaz had tried to bring her home, had deployed his every resource, even asked Nikolai for help at great (and often irritating) expense, but the ship had vanished.

And with it had been the girl he wanted to marry. [Read on Ao3]

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Today, I CHOOSE to be happy🌟 I can’t control every situation but I CAN control how I react to it.
I choose not to let bad thoughts affect me. I choose not to compare or judge myself. I choose to do what is best for me and nourish my body with good plant foods, and enough them✨
I spent a very long time waiting for something to happen to magically make me happy, make things easier for me or fix all my problems. But I’ve realised, the only person who can do those things is me.
TRUST ME, I know it’s so much easier said than done. But if you never give it a shot, you’ll never find out what amazing things could have been if you just tried💫🐝🌱💜

IG: @naturally_nina_

i think that’s the biggest difference between social anxiety disorder and avoidant personality disorder, though.

social anxiety disorder = “oh man, no, i’m so afraid they’re gonna judge me for doing the thing, that’s way too stressful, i can’t do the thing.”

avoidant personality disorder = “i’m actually legitimately terrible, so what’s the point if people are just going to hate me for even trying to do the thing in the first place. we all are 100% aware that i’m not good enough and that i’m going to fail, so let’s just completely avoid the thing to keep everyone happy (except me, because even if i’m doing this to ‘protect’ myself, it literally makes me absolutely miserable).”


I like to think of myself as an understanding person. But if someone starts attacking my friends, that’s when I start to lose my patience.

I honestly do not care who you are, what you do or what you ship. Your choice. Own it, enjoy it, have fun doing your thing. Ain’t nobody judging you based on that.

Meet my friend @ihavetobenkyou. She’s one of the most loving people in the fandom. She’s a talented writer, an incredible motivator and she’s always there to cheer people up. She goes out of her way to encourage people. She inspires those around her, and make them better people. She’s a positive person, one everybody deserves to have in their lives. And she’s being attacked.

Some individuals felt it necessary to make a callout post about her and call her names on some of her posts. I don’t need to drop names, you know who you are. I don’t know what made you feel compelled to be so vile towards someone who has done nothing against you, but don’t you dare think that it’s okay to insult a person and everything they stand for over a shipping week.

You’re bad people.

If you’re not one of those individuals and have a few seconds to spare, please do send Ren some positive messages, because she doesn’t deserve any of the things she’s now being forced to put up with. Do not condone this type of behaviour in the fandom.

My tumblr is my feelings.
I’m not posting things I don’t feel or relate to, I’m posting me.
I’m posting parts of myself in hope no one will judge me, also for other people to know they are not alone, and if you wanna talk, ask me about my story or just tell me about yours, I’m always here, I won’t judge you, I won’t make you feel worse, I’m just like you and here to help.

I had promised myself to let it go, to just enjoy Robron and stop. After all, everyone is free to think what the believe and to express their opinions and their feelings, but then I felt personally called into question by some things I read.
Let’s talk about heart of the matter: ROBERT
Not to disturb the great philosophers, but once Aristotele wrote:

“Perfect people do not fight, do not lie, do not make mistakes and do not exist”.

So please, before you start judging from your high horse all of us as the cynical heartless (and abusive in our turn) you think we are, i would like you to think seriously about human nature, and the nature of human relationships.
Rise his hand who, during a heated discussion with their partners, hasn’t said or done something that to an external eye it might seem wrong, bad or selfish? Because if it didn’t ever happen to you, you have my envy and my respect (and you have to tell me how you did it, because I have never been able to stop myself… guilty of all charges!)
Now I certainly don’t want to throw us in a philosophical discussion on the absolute meaning of what is wrong and what is right (this is up to each of us anytime we face a decision), but only that you try to consider that human nature is flawed and the difference is made by the way you try to learn from your mistakes and try to make amend.
And also you have to keep in mind that you can’t change 30 years of being yourself (right or wrong) in a few months. False steps will be made and Robert, the heart of my rant here, certainly did and probably will do again (as much as Aaron).
Not even the greatest love of all can make you change that fast. Only a personality transplant can succeed in this. Or a lobotomy.

Probably none of this makes sense, in my mind yes, but I need to tell it, so bear with me.

its kinda like……i knw so many ppl who would genuinely love to be close to me and be best friends w me but i literally…..always isolate myself n keep myself from making other friends bc im worried that if i meet a new friend then they wont get how i am or they’ll think im weird or really hyper or really boring bc i can be all of those things n im jus 2 scared to get my hopes up when i knw that the friendships i make usually dnt last lmao

Why are so many people getting salty over ships in this fandom? 

 I mean c'mon we’re fighting over a cartoon of flying space men that shoots lasers out of their hands and can make their hair go blonde for jimminies sake! 

If theres something that you don’t like, you can you know, be polite and don’t make people stop liking a certain thing or judge on what they like. Can we just love and support on what we ship or headcanon without being so rude about it?

Originally posted by justalittletumblweed


First of all… Yes I am one of those very special people and have acknowledged my own skills in the field of drawing funny lines and circles. So let’s start with what I like to call: WTF is happening in this poster?

There’s been much speculation about the poster already and now I want to get in and hopefully raise some valid questions and not just make a fool of myself! So yeah, it’s more like please tell me what these things are than me actually saying anything smart about the pic

So that tail or whatever​ lined with yellow… What the hell is that thing? First I thought it belonged to either Ophanimon FDM or Meistachemon (could still belong to it) but then I noticed that it looks to have a head (or a larger portion of something) behind Stachey. This one I won’t address so much, because I’m fairly certain my tired brain wants to make it into some dragon Digimon and it actually is part of Meicoomon’s Ultimate form. But just gonna point out that it doesn’t look like a fitting additional part for either of the Digimon’s.

Then the white one!! Yes… I know I should wait for the HQ poster, but when you’re obsessed… Anyway it’s a thing in front of Hikari that’s different shade of blue than Ophanimon​ and I thought it looked peculiar. I can’t really say for sure what it is but this will be my #1 question till we get the damn HQ poster. And at some point I thought maybe Hikari was looking at it (?)

The blue one… Looks like a wishbone, I honestly forgot why I circled it…

But yeah, non marked questions include:
- That weird black shredded cloth looking thingy in the lower mid-section of Ophanimon’s schyte
- What is Meiko holding?
- Hikari, why u sad?

Alone and unforgiven

smallgirlcrazyworld asked: I’ve been so far away from God, and I stay away from the church I once called home, because my heart is so broken from being abandoned by the man I thought was it for me, who is now a father. I lost myself last year, to the point I didn’t recognize myself at all, and I did things I can’t forgive myself for, which in turn made me stay away from God. I want to be close to him again, but I feel a loss of self and I don’t know how to get back to God.

Unka Glen answered: I’m so sorry for the pain you’re going through. I know this feels like a dark and hopeless time, but it isn’t. There is hope, and there are some steps you can take right away to make things better.

First, forgive yourself. You don’t need to be a more harsh judge of yourself than God is. He knows better than you, and if He understands why your grief led to mistakes, then you can let yourself off the hook too.

You may have lost that image of yourself as the perfect little Christian, but that was going to happen anyway, because nobody is. Everyone has a past, and you didn’t invent a new way of sinning that God never heard of. Everything in that New Testament applies to you, regardless of what your emotions tell you.

Second, “could have been”s are a waste of time. If only this hadn’t happened, if only we’d handled things differently, if only we had more time for each other… Blah, blah. Embrace a key truth: you really have no idea what would have changed things in the past, or what things might be like today.

The toughest thing about relationships is that you can’t control how they work out. You’re dealing with another human being with free will, and this is why: a) you can’t build your life around anyone else but God, and b) it’s best to avoid all of that “I thought he was THE ONE” talk. It’s wonderful to be willing to devote yourself exclusively to another person, but it’s super unhealthy to think that this is the last person you’ll ever love.  

Third, stop living in the past. The past is a strange country we sometimes visit, where we are often immediately imprisoned and tortured with memories that bring us pain. So, ya know, why go there? Let alone live there? It’s great to look back and try to learn important lessons, but you should be focused on your present where you can be forgiven, and you can meet a DIFFERENT lovely young man, and find just as much happiness, if not more.

And he’ll probably even have a nice tight butt. Maybe. Pray on it.

judal-is-my-spirit-animal  asked:

One of my favorite things about you is that you don't judge people for liking things that some people might consider problematic. You have no idea what a relief it is to find someone who I don't feel like they're gonna jump down my throat trying to find something problematic about stuff all the time, it makes my tumblr experience better being able to talk to chill people like you about stuff and I wanted to thank you for that.

i think judging people is pretty pointless overall and try to avoid doing that myself, especially when it comes to personal stuff like kinks or non-political opinions. and even when it comes to politics, if you manage to keep the hostility down you can get along with pretty much anybody, which is really cool.

anonymous asked:

you are such a kind and beautiful person!! i can tell you're genuine and a really sweet person. not many people have said that about imaginary friends (the reason why i'm so scared is because i once admitted it and my friend judged me really hard and it made me feel really bad). thank you for saying that, it honestly made me feel better about myself. i love you! thank you for being an inspiration <3333

This makes me smile so much, omg :-))) Ah, that friend shouldn’t have made you feel bad about it. Not to be mean but there are some much weirder things people do - i.e. my strange addictions on TLC! Like the lady that baths in her own pee and ones that eat the most random objects? Yeah, don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your quirks. As Joe on Princess Diaries says “nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent”. Love you too <3 xxx