Okay, I just want to clear this up because I think a few people have the misconception that I was upset over other people not believing in sub!Harry, which is 100 percent not the case. I seriously don’t give one shit if other people think Harry is a sub, or if they switch, or if they don’t do anything bdsm related at all, or whatever.
My problem does not lie with anyone else’s opinions, it lies with posts that shame people for having those opinions.
No, I am not referring to one post in particular, this is an ongoing issue I’ve seen in the fandom, and last night was just the straw that broke the camel’s back so to speak.
I have seen over and over people try to censor discussion, or shame people for having it on numerous topics in this fandom, and over and over I also see that this results in tension, frustration, and just a generally not fun environment to be in. Additionally, when people shame others for considering or discussing something, they indirectly shame fans who have personal experience with the topic. When no one was allowed to talk about the possibility of Zayn having a drug addiction I had people in my inbox saying they felt terribly about themselves because they were addicts, with the posts that were circulating last night I had people saying they felt bad because they were subs.
At the end of the day being a sub is not a shameful thing, just like being not straight is not shameful, and I think people should feel free to talk about the possibility with Louis and Harry. As well, social cues are a thing that exist. Am I saying that just because Harry displays stereotypically submissive behaviors I KNOW he’s submissive? No. But am I saying that I have the opinion that he is based on these behaviors? Yes, and it’s not wrong to do so.
Now, should I have made the post I did last night? No. It was stupid and petty and to be frank it was rude. I don’t like indirecting and I don’t like starting drama, so for that I really do apologize. But I do not regret my stance on this.
And with that I’m putting this conversation to bed, just please understand that this was not (for me at least) a disagreement about headcanons. If you want to see how I handle that you can just check out mine and scruff’s “who opens the door” debate.