I have actively been trying to eat differently and move more to lose weight for the better part of the last five years.
And yet SUDDENLY now that I am getting married in eight months, any time I happen to decline a pastry or eat a lunch consisting of chicken, broccoli and rice (which I really enjoy, by the way) people feel the need to say something about how I must be “sweating for that wedding!” or “trying to fit into that dress!” Or, even worse, when I have a piece of chocolate in my hand, “Careful, you need to fit into your dress!”
NEWSFLASH: I am purposefully NOT associating my health and fitness goals with my upcoming wedding.
NEWSFLASH: My dress looks fucking amazing on me at the size I am now. That’s why I bought it??!
NEWSFLASH: I can imagine nothing worse than extreme dieting in the months leading up to what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life. ALSO, the last thing I want is to look one way in my wedding photos, gain a bunch of weight because that weight wasn’t lost in a sustainable way in the first place, and then hardly recognize myself later on when I look back at those photos.
The pressure that is automatically put on people who have upcoming weddings is ridiculous - diet culture at its worse. Other people probably feel differently about this and that’s fine. If you want to use your wedding as motivation, cool. But we shouldn’t assume that people are trying to lose weight for a wedding unless they talk about it first.
I’m not losing weight for my wedding, I’m losing weight for the rest of my life.