they're the driving force of the show and are treated as such

Safe Haven sentence starters
  • "I don't know what we're heading towards, but I know my heart is all yours."
  • "All my friends tell me I'd be better off on my own, and sometimes I believe 'em."
  • "I can never leave him."
  • "Mixed signals, they're killing me."
  • "You knock and I let you in."
  • "Loving you is my greatest sin."
  • "I see it in your eyes, you wanna run."
  • "I don't know why I love you."
  • "I don't know why I stay."
  • "I don't know if its worth the pain."
  • "Even when you slam the door and drive away, I still set the table for two."
  • "Babe, you know I'm waiting on you."
  • "I believe you every time."
  • "I've never known anybody like you."
  • "I've never dreamed of nobody like you."
  • "I've heard of a love that comes once in a lifetime, and I'm pretty sure that you are that love of mine."
  • "I'm in a field of dandelions, wishing on every one that you'll be mine."
  • "I see forever in your eyes."
  • "I feel okay when I see you smile."
  • "I think that you are the one for me."
  • "It gets so hard to breathe when you're looking at me."
  • "I've never felt so alive and free."
  • "When you're looking at me, I've never felt so happy."
  • "I feel bad inside knowing this is all built on lies."
  • "I feel like an awful person."
  • "We're forcing love that don't exist."
  • "This is so unrighteous."
  • "This is so not like us."
  • "Love at first sight that was gone at the end of night."
  • "We both know that this is going to end."
  • "No chance we're going to make it."
  • "Can we fake it?"
  • "Even though I know you're not the one, this has really been a lot of fun."
  • "I don't really like you, but I still choose to stay."
  • "You still play the part so well."
  • "You're really cute, I must admit."
  • "I need something deeper than this."
  • "I wanna know when I'm looking at you that you don't only see the things you want to."
  • "I'm not perfect, I'm flawed, and if you don't like that, get lost."
  • "I don't want it if it's fake, I don't want it if it's just for show."
  • "I just want it if it's real."
  • "This superficial love thing got me going crazy."
  • "Baby if you want me, then you better need me."
  • "I'm so done not being your number one."
  • "If you wanna keep me, then you better treat me like a damn princess, make that an empress."
  • "Fun at first, I won't deny, but I want more than just what meets the eye."
  • "I want authentic, not just for fun."
  • "If this love is plastic, it'll break on us."
  • "I can feel you on my lips all the time."
  • "I just wanna feel you in my heart and on my mind."
  • "This ain't right."
  • "I feel broken, shattered, and blue, and it's all because of you."
  • "If this is love, why does it break me down?"
  • "It's been a long time since I felt the way that I do now."
  • "I need you, but I don't know how."
  • "It's been a while since I smiled and I meant it from my heart."
  • "The idea of leaving this behind, it tears me apart."
  • "Kiss me now and remind me why I ever wanted to make you mine."
  • "If this is love, why do you break me down?"
  • "You're the other half of my broken heart."
  • "There was a time when I was alone, nowhere to go and no place to call home."
  • "My only friend was the man in the moon, and even sometimes he would go away, too."
  • "He came to me with the sweetest smile, told me he wanted to talk for awhile."
  • "I promise that you'll never be lonely."
  • "Lost boys like me are free."
  • "I realized I finally had a family."
  • "You are my perfect story book."
  • "You are now my home sweet home."
  • "Tonight hope fills our lungs and I can see it in everyone."
  • "The songs use to make us sad, tonight they don't sound so bad."
  • "It feels so good to be young."
  • "I think I'll stay awhile."
  • "I am obsessed with being a mess."
  • "I am in love with being young."
  • "I don't know what the future holds."
  • "I can't believe its been all these years."
  • "My friends tell me I should've moved on a long long time ago, but what do they know?"
  • "I don't mean to be selfish, but my heart breaks every time that I see you smile 'cause I know that it's not me
  • Who brings it out of you anymore."
  • "You found somebody new, you put me in the past."
  • "I don't know if our memories will last."
  • "If by chance it doesn't work out with her, you'll always have a chance with me."
  • "I wonder what happens when you hear our song, do you brush it away or do you sing along?"
  • "Do you talk about the future the way we did?"
  • "You'll always have a chance with me in my world."
  • "Is it so wrong of me to hope she breaks your heart?"
  • "Is it so wrong of me to pray she tears you apart?"
  • "I know in the darkest part of you, you pray and hope and wish for it, too."
  • "You don't mean to be selfish, but your heart breaks every time that you see me smile 'cause you know its not you who brings it out of me anymore."
  • "So casually you walked into my universe."
  • "Hey, you got some pretty brown eyes."
  • "I couldn't help but smile and I think that's the moment it all happened."
  • "Love turned into games, and games turned into heartbreak, and heartbreak turned into war."
  • "Darling, all is fair in love and war."
  • "You meant the world to me."
  • "I'll be your fighter if you say so."
  • "I don't get why we're meant to fall in love, then say goodbye."
  • "Gave you all my heart and all my precious time."
  • "I can picture you in your blue jeans, looking right at me with that gorgeous smile."
  • "I couldn't see the lies and the things that you would hide."
  • "You love so mercilessly."
  • "Here's to everything we ever were."
  • "I got the greatest weapon of all - a broken heart."
  • "Let me hold you for the day and let you know that its okay, give you all the love and peace that you usually send my way."
  • "When its dark for you, don't know what to do, just know you're my light."
  • "When the world is caving, baby you're my safe haven."
  • "On my darkest day I know you'll be my shine."
  • "You're my safe haven."
  • "Love at first sight, it exists."
  • "I've had my heart broken so many times before."
  • "I'll call you in the morning if I see you in my dreams tonight."
  • "I don't even know your name."
  • "I vowed not to let anyone enter my heart."
  • "I know love at first sight can't exist."
  • "Maybe we'll meet in a different dimension and you can tell me all the things you didn't mention."
  • "Maybe we'll meet in a different dimension."
  • "I saw you in my dreams."
  • "I guess that I was scared of what I was before us."
  • "Guess you were my only blemish."
  • "For the first time I don't mind that you found somebody else."
  • "For the first time I'm totally fine being by myself."
  • "I was my best when I was with you."
  • "Would you believe me if I told you that I'm over it?"

anonymous asked:

Same guy. I wasn't gonna do a follow up thing but I have a response to your complaints so I might I as well voice them. I can infer that you're not actually interested in a defense of the movie but I've already started thinking about it so this is happening now I guess. 1) I don't think Tony is front and center anymore than Steve is. They're dual protagonists/each other's antagonist so that only makes sense. I still think it's very much Steve's story. It's his tragic flaw that drives things.

2) No it doesn’t follow on perfectly from TWS but only in the same way that TWS doesn’t follow perfectly from the First Avenger. The Avengers films that take place between Cap’s movies can’t just be dismissed. With Shield long gone and the way Age of Ultron ends, there was never any chance that a Cap movie afterwards wasn’t going to essentially function as a sequel to that film. 3) I don’t really get the character progression complaint. Steve’s never been the character with an arc in his own movies. Both TFA and TWS were all about how Steve SHOULDN’T change, and how the world tries to force him to buy he rejects it. Civil War just takes that to its logical extreme, and that’s why the film is a tragedy; for once Steve is wrong about something and most of the bad things that happen in the film are a consequence of him never knowing when to pull back or compromise. 3.2) Steve’s moment of change comes when he drops the shield, and while that’s not necessarily a “progression” (in the sense that it’s a move forward) it IS the end of a character arc where Steve’s inability to ever compromise has finally caught up with him. He and the Avengers don’t get to grow into better people because this movie is all about them losing to their own flaws, not overcoming them. The opportunity for change is presented, and rejected, and that’s why it’s sad. 3.whatever) The only character with an arc that moves them forward is T'Challa, probably because he’s the one non-Avenger with an emotional stake in the conflict and thus isn’t part of the big family tragedy going on. In keeping with that he’s the only one who gets to claim any victory by the end of the movie. Except Zemo.

There’s a lot to break down here because I disagree with basically everything in here. Which isn’t to say your opinion is wrong, it’s your take on a piece of media and that’s fine, but it’s absolutely not my take on the same piece of media and here’s why.

1. Okay well the whole film was shot like an Iron Man/Avengers film. I’ve done a whole post on this before, I’ll add the link in later, but basically all the key branches of the MCU have their own “look” in the way they’re filmed, and Civil War was filmed as an Iron Man or Avengers film, not as a Cap film. (Update: here’s the post on that if you wanna read)And given that it was Steve’s film, no one else’s, it was supposedly a Captain America film, Steve should have been front and centre a lot more than Tony was - but he wasn’t, that’s the whole issue.

2. The entire narrative was shaped in such a way that despite it being Steve’s film, the way they presented the story, the whole point was for people to see Tony as being “rational and logical and doing the right thing” and Steve as the villain who was being “selfish and thinking only of himself and not the bigger picture”. Like that’s literally the way the narrative guides you. If you don’t apply critical thinking and just go in, watch the film and leave, you’re shown a narrative that puts Tony on a pedestal and treats Steve like the villain. In his own movie. He’s treated like the bad guy in a film where he’s supposed to be the hero. Steve was rational throughout if you apply logic and actually think about it, but instead people have left the film with the impression that it’s Steve having a flaw that drove this movie. Steve just wanted to help people in this movie. People that couldn’t help themselves. This movie and the key narrative of it was driven almost entirely by Tony Stark having an ego and not much else.

3. Steve had character progression in the first two films??? He had an arc??? Yes his arc was linked to other characters, ie Bucky, but it was still his arc. The whole point of those films was Steve growing and finding out who he was and how he - as Steve - fit in the world in which he inhabits, despite the way he’s perceived by those around him. Be that as skinny Steve learning that who he was inside was the most important thing about him, and that’s what made him great, even though other people overlooked that. Or whether it’s him trying to figure out who Steve Rogers is in the 21st century when all the world seems to want is Captain America. The point of those films was to show Steve as a good man, not a soldier who mindlessly follows orders like a soldier is trained to do, a good and decent man. A man who does question authority if what authority is saying is something with questionable or potentially dangerous consequences. Steve isn’t wrong to do this in Civil War. He isn’t rejecting change, he’s rejecting the loss of his agency and the loss of his freedom to choose and the implementation of total government control. That’s not a bad thing. That’s something that should 100% be questioned and fought against. Like the idea that Steve rejecting this concept - especially given the way government agencies have let him down consistently in the past - is somehow a bad thing, and that he’s “losing to his own flaw” is actually a terrifying concept to me. The idea that rejecting politicians deciding who and where on the planet deserves help and how much of it is somehow a bad thing, that scares me as a mindset. Because we live in that world and people are suffering unimaginable existences as a result of it, and it is something that should be fought against. Steve wants to help people because he wants to help people. Government agencies want to help the people located in the most financially prosperous areas because money is valued over people. And Steve has seen this truth time and time again, so he was right to oppose this. And yet, as previously mentioned, him doing this had him portrayed as the bad guy.

4. Catws does follow on pretty much perfectly from catfa. The only thing that needs explaining is Natasha’s presence there. I’ve watched catws immediately after catfa with people that have only seen the Cap films and once they went “Sorry, who’s the redhead?” and I explained who she was, they completely got the rest of the story. They didn’t need to have seen Avengers, it wasn’t really a significant part of Steve’s story. Which is what the Cap films are, or at least should be. Steve’s story. They should be separate to the Avengers content, like sure, little nods to it are fine - Nat being in catws or the reference to the Battle of New York being the trigger for Tony’s ptsd in IM3 for example - but IM3 was still very much an Iron Man movie. It was Tony’s story being told. It was about Tony and Rhodey and Pepper, it was their story. You didn’t have to watch any of the other films to follow Tony’s story. You can watch all 3 films in a row and they flow, they fit, they work together. We didn’t get that in Civil War. It wasn’t Steve’s story. It was an Avengers story. It served as an introduction to T'Challa and to Tom’s Peter, despite them both having their own films coming up. And I’m convinced the only reason people try and say it wasn’t an Avengers film is because Thor and Bruce weren’t in it, because this film had more avengers in it than the last two Avengers movies did.

5. I went to see Civil War for my birthday, again with people that have only seen the Cap films, and they had to ask me so many questions at the end. They had so much they couldn’t follow because it isn’t a sequel to Catws and isn’t a good final chapter in the Cap trilogy. It feels like a follow on to AoU. It feels like Avengers: Civil War. To the point where, if you watch catfa - catws - cacw, it feels like you’re missing something, like it doesn’t work as a trilogy, like there should be something more there. But if you watch Avengers - AoU - CW, it does flow. Even Bucky’s presence makes sense because they make reference to Steve losing him in Avengers, Sam still looking for him in AoU and then his location being found in CW. Civil War is not a sequel to Winter Soldier. It’s not a conclusion to the Cap trilogy. It doesn’t deliver even semi descent story for Steve or Bucky or Sam. Civil War is a sequel to Age of Ultron and should have been marketed as a Avengers film, and as it was supposed to be Steve’s story, it should have been about Steve and those close to him, and shouldn’t have had 10+ other main characters. At the end of this film, there shouldn’t have been people that went “T'Challa had the best arc” because Steve’s arc is the one they marketed this as. And yet here we are. So it should have been an Avengers film, because it certainly wasn’t a Cap one.
Power, Honour, Love.

So I’ve been thinking about foil characters a lot recently (who am I kidding when am I ever not thinking about foil characters) and y'know I think my favourite pair might be? 

Cersei and Brienne. 

I see these two “compared” a lot because of the whole Jaime thing but y'know what who even cares about Jaime? (I do, I care a lot about Jaime, but not right now okay) Cersei and Brienne are so interesting as a pair of characters entirely independent of who they’re shipped with and I really think we all need to stop this reductive characterisation of both of them to qualify one ship or another.

I think this pair of quotations really sums up the brilliance of these two as characters who are simultaneously foils and mirrors: 

She had a warrior’s heart, but the gods in their blind malice had given her the feeble body of a woman. [Cersei, AFFC] 

You have a man’s strength in your arm, but your heart is as soft as any maid’s. [Brienne, AFFC] 

Both women feel as though their hearts are at odds with their bodies. Cersei feels like she ought to be a warrior, but finds herself armed only with her beauty and her wits. Brienne, personality wise, has many more traits traditionally associated with femininity (her romantic view of the world, her maternal instinct (which Cersei has, but specifically for her own children), her love of songs and beauty) but has a large, mannish body which is a cause of great insecurity. Both have to adapt their given temperament to suit the body they have, and the way their bodies are viewed by the society they inhabit: Cersei learns to use her sexuality to her advantage, and Brienne steels herself for the battle that she has realised is less painful than attempting to be “womanly”.

This is why I adored the scene the show gave us between the two of them; I’ve already written meta on that but the crux of the matter is that when Cersei says ’You’re Lord Selwyn Tarth’s daughter, that makes you a lady whether you want to be or not' those are Tywin’s words, words spoken to Cersei when she would swap clothes with Jaime to train with the boys. Brienne has the freedom that Cersei has always wanted, the ability to fight her own corner and refuse to marry. Of course, what Cersei cannot know is how difficult it is for Brienne to move in the male-dominated circles she inhabits; constant mockery and threat of rape are the cost of such freedom. At the same time, the beauty and grace that Cersei possesses is everything Brienne has ever wanted. After years of being humiliated and reviled for her ugliness Brienne looks at Cersei and sees the daughter she wishes she could have been, rather than ‘the freakish one, fit to be neither son nor daughter’. Just as Cersei cannot comprehend the hardships of Brienne’s life, Brienne cannot fully appreciate what Cersei suffers both as Robert’s wife and Tywin’s daughter. Each woman therefore encapsulates what the other wishes they had, even if neither can fully appreciate the difficulties of having it. 

 Perhaps it is this aspect of their personalities which shapes their respective approaches to love. One of Cersei’s most famous lines from the show is ’the more people you love, the weaker you are' and Brienne serves both to illustrate the truth of those words, and to dispute them. The way that Cersei and Brienne view love is actually more similar than one might initially imagine: Cersei says outright that love is weakness, and thus she guards herself against this. Brienne does this as well, though her motivations are different: Cersei fears love because it has the potential to make her act rashly or without regard for her own preservation, where Brienne fears the emotional pain that loving is liable to cause her. Almost as soon as they meet, Catelyn notes that ’there are walls as high as Winterfell around that one’, and this is hardly surprising considering what we later learn about Brienne’s past, both romantic and familial. Of course, due to her soft heart and her youth, Brienne is less adept at guarding against love than Cersei is. It is Brienne’s love that both puts her in terrible situations, and gives her the power to overcome them. It is her love for Jaime that gets her hanged by Lady Stoneheart, and her love for Pod that causes her to agree to kill Jaime, however we also know that it is Brienne’s desire to do right by those she loves that is her driving force, keeping her going through all the hardship she endures as she searches for Sansa. For all that Cersei despises the idea of weakness, and sees love as a weakness, she herself also proves that love can be a strength; during her walk of shame it is the thought of Tommen that helps her to keep going, since ’every step brought her closer to her son and her salvation’. Once again these two women both contrast and compliment each other; the way they love is both vastly different and very similar. 

Speaking of love, I lied: I’m going to talk about Jaime. Because actually I think their relationships with him represent a really important aspect of both their personalities. For Cersei, Jaime is quite literally the only person in the world ever who, since Joanna’s death, has seen her as a human being. Okay, he has a warped view of who she is, and she him, but to him she is not just another asset (as she is to Tywin) or a baby-making-machine (as she is to Robert). Jaime was willing to give up Casterly Rock to be with her, would abandon civilisation to marry her openly, and while she dismisses this as stupid, it’s also part of why she loves him; she is his priority, she in herself is important. 

Similarly, Brienne loves Jaime (and you can interpret that love as platonic or romantic as it suits you) because he sees her as the knight she aspires to be. In giving her Oathkeeper and trusting her with his “last chance for honour” he places her among the gallant knights of the tales she so adores, even if she herself doesn’t believe she belongs there. He doesn’t treat her like a freak or a novelty, but like an equal, a brother-in-arms. And we’ve seen with Renly and Catelyn how easily Brienne gives her heart away to people who treat her with respect. 

This need for respect that Brienne and Cersei have is, for both of them, also reflected in their ambition. Tyrion says of Cersei that she is ’greedy for power, for honour, for love,' and while he doesn’t always get Cersei right, he really hits the nail on the head here. The thing is, this quote might just as easily be applied to Brienne. Once again she doesn’t want these things in the say way that Cersei does, but they are probably three things she most values; while Cersei seeks political power, what Brienne wants is the power to make her own decisions, to rule herself; Cersei wants the honour of others, to be honoured, where Brienne seeks to be honourable; Cersei wants to have the love of others because of the power it gives her over them, where Brienne wants someone who can love her as wholly and completely as she herself loves. I think it’s this point that really sums up why Cersei and Brienne are such a brilliant pair of characters, because they desperately want similar things, apparently for different reasons. However, though these reasons appear to be opposite, they share a root in the way Cersei and Brienne react to the treatment of their gender. What both of them desperately want is recognition that the gender role they have each been assigned is too narrow; Cersei does this by lashing out and adopting a very male aggression in her feminine role, and Brienne by using her femininity to be a better knight than any man. 

So while on the surface these two women absolutely could not be more different, many of the struggles they face are similar, as are the things they strive for. Oh, they go about it in different ways and in terms of personality they are polar opposites, but there’s more to this pair than meets the eye. They aren’t the Madonna and Whore (looking at u Kingslayer), they are both multifaceted, ambitious, intelligent, strong women who, in their own ways, subvert gender expectations and assert their own identity in doing so. 

doomhamster  asked:

FWIW I would read that Rey/Kylo fic. And am so, so sick of the way fandom treats him, not because I really like him that much (though I would like to know more about his backstory which is apparently the same thing?) but because... people aren't mocking him for being a murderer or a patricide or working for a genocidal regime? They're mocking him for having feelings, basically, and his being a bad guy is supposed to make that okay.

YES YES YES.

Actually?  They’re mocking him for being unmasculine.  And okay, the beauty of Kylo Ren in the movies is that it takes souped-up hypermasculine rage and shows us that in reality, it’s not all badass and fearsome–in reality, it’s infantile and pathetic.  So I love that!  It’s what canon portrayals of MCU Loki really lacked.  Whereas TFA went out of its way to show us stuff like the two Stormtroopers figuring out Kylo was having a tantrum and backing away slowly.

But you solve a problem like Kylo Ren by leaning more into his feelings, by helping him figure out what’s really bothering him and addressing it.  Whereas I feel like if he just “manned up” and was all stoic and badass and had no moments of weakness, fandom wouldn’t be nearly so critical.

And okay okay I get that humour is how we deal with discomfort and problem spots and it’s a legit coping mechanism for people BUT WATCHING THEM DO IT DRIVES ME UP THE WALL.  

Because everyone would like to say that he’s whiny and like a teenager who doesn’t appreciate his loving parents, but, well… we all KNOW the Jedi’s approach to emotion and attachment is fucking toxic!  Luke could handle it, but Luke reached adulthood before he lost his loving and stable caretakers.  And Han and Leia are great people but seriously, I grew up near an Army town and most of my friends were Army brats, it is a known fucking fact that even if great people are fighting for the noblest cause in the world, if they have to raise a child in an environment of chaos where parents are at frequent risk of disappearing or dying and nobody prioritizes the child’s emotional health, it will have consequences.

anonymous asked:

Are they pushing the Ray thing too fast to get to the Olicity stuff, because they are having her moving on and rationally I get she wants to be happy, but it seems a bit quick, I want a foundation to a relationship, more than just intelligence and mutual attraction. Also seems to me that the final mid season cliff will be sex with raylicity, after the spoiled stephen, emily acting they're chops off, and oliver beaten by Ra's. No hope for Oliver right now it seems.

11-dino said:  Did you see the new promo for Arrow? Besides that it was awesome there was a Raylicity kiss in there or not? I do like Ray (i tried not to but he does treat her right and what she deserves) never thought it would happen that fast we haven’t really seen any feelings between than yet but I take it this is a first season half trailer so it might not happen in the next few episodes. And when i am on it. Stumbled6on your plot causw of the defense of felicity smoak piece and reread a lot on your poot

 Time to combo these bad boys.

 Yes, I saw the promo. The next four episodes look awesome! Can I be honest…I completely forgot Ted Grant is Wildcat. He’s showing Laurel his “lair” and I all….”OH!!! Oh yeah!!!” hehehe. The mind is a strange thing.

 Anywho, no I don’t think they are pushing Raylcity too fast. Why? Because it’s Arrow. Arrow slices through plot like a shredding machine. Zip zip zip.

First of all….everyone BREATHE!!!! I told you it was going to get a lot worse before it gets better. Ray Palmer is the worse. We knew this was going to happen.

Have they been pushing romance with Raylicity? Eh, not really. I think Felicity connected with Ray on an intellectual level, she views him as a coworker. Every time he turns around she’s crying so he’s tried to be kind to her.

But now is the time they are cranking up the heat. My guess is that “work” date leads to actual sparkage and maybe a kiss.  There’s a great line from Shawshank Redemption “Get busy living. Or get busy dying.”

This is Felicity LIVING. Yes, Oliver is trying to figure out a way to be both Oliver & The Arrow. Yes, the seeds have been planted but he’s MILES away from being anywhere near ready. He’s still very much focused on The Arrow. He loves Felicity and the reconnect they had in 3x05 is important but in all reality…NOTHING has changed. He was telling her again that he loved her but he wasn’t offering to BE with her. For Felicity, just loving her isn’t enough. She wants more from him. She deserves more from him.

So it’s time to get busy living. Also…she is completely heartbroken do not let her fool you for one damn second. The rapid succession of dates, the kissing…this is serious REBOUND. But rebound can turn into a legitimate romance. It didn’t with Barry but it will with Ray.

For Oliver, he’s still making the choice to get busy living or get busy dying. He’s leaning towards living and that’s an important step but he’s still far behind where Felicity is at. They’ve got a gulf the size of the ocean between them.

You know why I chuckled at the people who say “this story line is so cliche”, “love triangles are so stupid” “or “this is so predictable"…because the storyline IS WORKING. Like I knew it would.  Was it predictable that Raylicity would happen so soon? No. We’re all in a twitter over the PROMO of Felicity kissing Ray. The point of this story line is to evoke emotion from the audience. And it is working.

Without Ray Palmer…it could take Oliver YEARS to finally decide to get busy living and that’s not fair to Felicity. Ray Palmer puts more of a clock on our boy and you know what? It’s necessary. Oliver needs a good swift kick in the ass. 

Never, for one second, forget the point of Ray Palmer’s existence. He is another option for Felicity. A life outside of Oliver Queen. So she can DECIDE that the life she wants…is the one she has with Oliver Queen. But she can’t know that for sure until she explores one without him. Or rather…she’s being FORCED to explore one without him.

And for Oliver…Ray Palmer is the mirror that will force Oliver to take a look at his own life and his choices. Yes, he let Felicity go…but he hasn’t truly lost her yet. Is he prepared to do that? Is that the cost of life as The Arrow? Or will he decide to get busy living and accept BOTH sides of himself?

Like Slade was, Ray Palmer is just another catalyst to drive these two apart so they can find their way back to one another. They NEED a catalyst or nothing will change. They will forever be in a state of limbo. That’s not fair to either one of them.

Ray Palmer is an obstacle. Difficult to overcome? Yes. But not impossible.