How do I talk to my partner about the fact that he's not straight? I'm out to him but he still refers to himself as straight and... no???
Since you’re already out to him, that should make it substantially… not easier, perhaps, but simpler? Maybe he just hasn’t quite connected the dots yet. Or maybe he’s just used to being straight and is struggling to let go of that; it can be super hard to question your sexuality, especially when it comes up suddenly. I know a lot of people struggle with this very concept when their partner comes out as trans, and it kind of sucks. But it’s unavoidable, at least for now.
The last ask I posted had some very insightful and helpful words from an anon that you might find relevant-ish. When you talk to your partner, try to be gentle-but-firm when you remind him that because of your gender identity, he isn’t really straight. At least, not fully, since you aren’t in a straight relationship. You can’t really force him to change his label for himself, but if you explain that you’re uncomfortable when he calls himself straight, he may be open for a proper discussion.