rfa, saeran, and V reaction to MC wanting to adopt teenagers since they usually don't get adopted as often as younger kids
(heck yeah I’m here on team adopt older kids and teenagers!!!)
at first he doesn’t know if it’s a good idea
not because he thinks the teenager would be any trouble, or that the idea itself is flawed
he’s just not sure if he’s going to be able to be the father of a teenager right away??
MC can’t help but snicker when he spills his worries
“wHAT IF THEY ARE GOING THROUGH THEIR REBEL PHASE MC? MC YOU KNOW I CAN’T BERATE MY CHILD WHAT DO I DO IF THEY WANT TO PARTY? WHAT IF THEY WANT TO GO TO A CONCERT AND I DON’T KNOW IF IT’S OK-”
seriously, that’s all he’s worried about
he knows he’s weak when it comes to his loved ones and he doesn’t think he’ll have enough strenght to berate his new child if they rebel
MC is just, laughing at this point because they know this man will make a great father
after a while, he’s much more calm and ready to talk with MC about the plans- when should they adopt? where could they go? should they start meeting teenagers in adoption right now? and all that important jazz
her smile is as wide as her happiness is
Jaehee is a pro for adoption of all kinds, especially seeing as she was taken in by her aunt and uncle
of course, when MC expresses how sad it makes them to think of all those teenagers thrown about in the adoption system, Jaehee joins in with her feelings too
it’s not even a conversation- MC just says it and Jaehee is agreeing by the second
Jaehee is usually one for calm planification though, so MC knows that it’ll be ages before the actual adoption takes place
because obviously, Jaehee will want to read up on teenager care, adoption care, nearby high schools, the psychological needs of an adopted teenager, and probably any sort of book related on the matter to make sure she’s prepared for everything
at first he’s a bit surprised to hear that
when he hears “adopting a child” his mind just tends to picture the typical scene of a couple with a baby in their hands after leaving an orphanage or something
he hadn’t ever just wondered what happened to the older kids? he guessed they left, but the more he thinks about it… the less he likes the fact they’re left behind
still, he’s a bit hesitant and MC notices it, mainly because he remembers how he was as a teenager
and oh boy is he not ready to take care of a teenager like that
him and MC end up visiting one of the adoption centers to meet some of the teens for adoption, mostly so Zen can see not everyone was an unruly little shit at age 15 like he was
once at home, Zen starts wondering about the future- he’ll skip through all the baby care, the raising… and he doesn’t really mind. MC seems happy, and honestly, just that is enough to tell him it is the correct decision
his heart is split in two
one side says he doesn’t mind, he really doesn’t care that MC wants to adopt and he’ll gladly go along, and that he’s happy as long as MC is
the other half screams that his father will be unhappy, that of course someone like his father wants a flesh and blood grandchild, and that this might just tear apart his father’s patience
MC notices he’s worried, and for a second they think he might dislike the idea of adopting a teenager
Jumin opens up rather easily, maybe because he’s spent so much time with MC, about why he worries his father won’t like the fact he’ll get a teenage grandchild like that
after talking for a while, Jumin decides to simply think it through- he and MC can tell his father after everything is done, and frankly, as long as neither him or MC mind adopting an older child, who cares?
it’s not easy for him to adopt the “it’s our choice” mentality (after all, his father had been asking for a grandchild since Jumin was about twenty, and had always been there to add his opinion to most of Jumin’s big life choices) but once he does, his worries melt away
Seven is a bit serious when it comes to the topic of children- not because he feels like it’s worrying, but because he feels like if it’s something important to MC, he shouldn’t joke around it too much
really, Seven is ready for whatever. MC wants children? he’s happy with that. MC wants no children? he’s more than ok with that. MC wants twenty kids? a-ok by him.
so MC wants to adopt a teenager? he’s more than happy to cheer along
he just feels like his life is now complete with MC by his side, and whatever happens afterwards with them will be filled with happiness no matter what
and if that is by adopting a teenager, then he’s more than happy to proceed with that plan
he can’t help but crack a joke about it here and there, though- such as how he’s going to make the poor teenager’s life a mess by throwing in dad jokes 24/7 at them, or how he’s planning on driving them to high school in the most ridiculously expensive sports cars he owns to make their classmates think they’re the child of a multimillionaire
which, y’know, taking in count how much money Seven has, is kinda right
one of his fears, that he hardly ever expresses, is accidentally harming a child- even more so if it were his child
MC had mentioned adoption before, and he hadn’t minded much; the idea of adopting was natural to him? he’d never quite understood why people would say things like “they want it to be their child” when speaking against adoption
and fairly, teenage adoption seems more…easy, in a sense
MC warns him that it’ll be a bit difficult- and that the teenager might be a bit awkward at first around them, or might rebel a bit, but he knows he can handle that
secondly, he knows that at least with a teenager he doesn’t run the risk of accidentally dropping them and hurting them when trying to play with them
and as an added bonus, nobody would judge the teen’s clothes if they went through an emo phase. because. one of their parents is already a Big Emo so
after everything he and MC have been through, it’s easy to talk about anything with him
maybe it’s that or his naturally calming aura that make MC pretty chill with the whole telling him and seeing what he thinks
V listens to all of MC’s points, about why they think adopting a teenager would be good, and about why it’s harder for teenagers to get adopted, along with other benefits, as V listens carefully
he nods along and hums in agreement, not interrupting MC
once they’re done, MC looks at him, waiting for an answer
he just smiles, and asks MC if they have a plan or a set date when they’d like to begin the process
he just jumps head-first into it, ready to go along with it
he’s also pretty excited to take a family photo- but he says he wants to wait to actually adopt so he knows what kind of scenery or aesthetic the teenager would like for the photo, so he waits before making the arrangements
What she means:
Lance McClain was clearly set up to be a major protagonist, if not THE protagonist of the show Voltron: Legendary Defender, and yet we barely see any of him in Season 2. He had only two action scenes in Season 2, and other than those, we only see him lounging around, or not at all. But Lance is clearly loved by the fandom and we, collectively, should adopt him, and give him the love and care he deserves.
“For a while she was quiet, then Elizabeth Taylor’s violet eyes were flickering and she said: ‘They spat on me in Rome.’ Who did? ‘Ordinary people, on the streets. They crossed over and spat. It was during le scandale, when the Vatican newspaper thoughtfully said I was morally unfit to be a mother and that my request to adopt Maria should be denied. They also announced that my natural children should be taken away from me.’ But it didn’t happen. You survived. ‘Damn right I survived,’ she said with resignation. ‘I’ve been through it all. I’m Mother Courage. I’ll be dragging my sable coat behind me into old age.'” -Life Magazine, 1969.
So I work for my local Child Protective Services...
And everyone’s response is the same when they hear this: sympathy, they could never do my job, ouch, etc. Very appropriate responses, but all of these are typically in regards to the families I work with.
I will be honest: many of the parents I encounter should never have been parents. Ever. Many should not even be trusted with a cactus, nonetheless another living being. However, most of my families AREN’T like this, and the ones which are like this I tend to give some slack, even as I’m working like hell to keep their kids safe. Many of them have severe mental health issues, and many have been told, despite not having a parenting bone in their body, that they SHOULD be parents and they needed to grow up and BE parents, without ever acknowledging that parenting is completely beyond their abilities.
Which brings me to the frustrating portion of the job: people who SHOULD know better and yet don’t.
These are the supposedly mentally healthy, educated, intelligent beings who return to the children to the parents against all evidence pointing out how terribly this will end. These are the people who struggle to provide evidence against the parents in court because they want to be liked and they don’t want to bad talk the parents. These are the people who close their eyes against warning sign after warning sign because despite multiple HORRIFIC failures, they want to give these parents a chance, because they’re sure that these parents love their children and want the best for them…deep down. Really deep down.
There is a view on what parenting is supposed to be and what the relationship between parents and their children are supposed to be and don’t get me started on the myths regarding maternal instincts. It’s easy to get wrapped up in ideals and ignore the blatant evidence right in front of them, and the result is too many children being endangered…and in some cases, depending on the children, people AROUND the children being endangered.
I had one adoptive parent, who was related to the father, be so upset because the father couldn’t “man up” and take responsibility because he was signing away his rights to the child. I had to convince her that he WAS fulfilling his responsibility: by recognizing that he could not possibly parent the child and was allowing the child to grow up in a good home.
I’m childfree, and I’ve heard multiple times that I should have kids and I would be such a good mother and blahblahblah. Being childfree has given me a perspective a lot of people around me don’t have. These people believe that everyone should have children and everyone has the instinct to love, protect, and nurture those children. This can lead to actively dangerous situations for the children, and even when the parent states that they can’t do it, that they hate the child, that they want someone else to have the child, I still hear judges and counselors and service providers insisting that if the parent just had a LITTLE MORE HELP…
So, no. It’s typically not the parents which make my job so hard. It’s the people who should know better and get confused when everything goes to hell.