tbh i rly hate the idea that in order to have a healthy relationship (platonic or romantic), you have to talk to each other all the time bc honestly? that’s unrealistic (and tbh could be unhealthy in some cases bc it could make u way too dependent on each other, which could put a strain on the relationship and the ppl involved).
ppl have lives and many factors of that life that could prevent them from talking all the time, or even from talking for days at a time. ppl have jobs, and school, and sometimes life throws curve balls at you that could make your life busier.
ppl also have their own levels of social tolerance. talking takes energy and effort, even text conversations, and not everyone can handle putting out that energy all the time. it’s nothing personal and it shouldn’t be taken personally. i know it’s hard to not take it personally, but trust me, it isn’t always you.
mental health is another factor as well bc ppl’s mental states and their mental illnesses/disorders can also make it so they aren’t up to talking.
i don’t like that people are made to feel guilty when they aren’t up to talking, and i don’t like that people on the other side of this are made to panic that their relationship is doomed just bc they don’t talk to each other 24/7.
ppl have their own lives and the stuff discussed involved with those lives, but ppl also need their space. everyone needs alone time every once in awhile and that should be respected and acknowledged more than it is.
if you’re someone who can’t bring yourself to talk to ppl all the time then you aren’t a bad person. you aren’t a bad friend or a bad significant other. you just can’t talk to ppl 24/7, and you shouldn’t be expected to honestly. if you’re on the other side of that, then just remember to not take it so personally if you don’t talk all the time. though, if it’s really that worrying, then maybe bring it up so you can understand why you aren’t able to talk all the time and get some reassurance. but just know that it’s healthy and normal to not talk all the time, and the idea that it isn’t is rly fucked.