nothing in my life has ever made me happier than to love and cherish 9 of the most loveliest boys in existence. as a group you have grown so much these past 5 years and nothing has made me more proud than seeing you push past the limits that people put on you and achieving things nobody else has yet to achieve. your hardwork, your perseverance, and your loyalty is evident time and time again and nobody can any longer doubt how hard you have all worked to become the successful and talented group you have dreamed of since predebut. happy happy 5 years exo and i truly hope to see you boys achieve all of your dreams that will last you a lifetime! (insp)
u cant be a grown person and have “dont say anything about me that could possibly be construed as negative, or anything negative that could possibly be construed as being about me” as like, a baseline expectation 4 social interactions. it leads to bad things
Tim: Have you guys ever planned for what you would do if you suddenly got sucked back in time? I mean… It’s a legit thing to think about because of our line of work and all the strange stuff that happens.
Jason: I would infiltrate a saber toothed tiger pride, and bring offerings of food to the leader so that they would accept me. After a couple weeks I would be put in charge of watching the cubs, and one would become super attached. Once the time portal opened again, the little cub would have grown to a huge beast and wouldn’t let me leave without it. I would take him on patrol and ride into battle on its back. His name will be Toast.
Damian: I was going to say ‘invent indoor plumbing’ but I’m super on board with Todd’s idea.
“Yeah, it’s so cool. It’s trippy. It’s awesome. I think that my fanbase have grown up with me a little bit too. I still get to see some of the same faces at premieres and they’re older and like engaged in this new work that is obviously incredibly different from the Twilight stuff and it makes me really happy.”
Omg I was diagnosed with a convulsive syncope disorder a few years ago and the neurologist told me my symptoms would lessen with age, if that's any comfort. But yeah, they suuuck dude.
I get the convulsions too. That’s the freakiest part - I’m vaguely conscious for them, so I’m aware of my body twitching and jerking like a demented puppet, but I’m not fully “there” processing it. The first time it happened, I fell face-first onto concrete, smacked my head against the floor, and thought, “Hmm, am I having a seizure? I really wish I had taken my glasses off before this… I don’t want them to break…” and stared calmly at the floor while my body convulsed and the nurse screamed in panic and ran out of the room. I guess she’d never seen that happen before. You’d think my head had twisted around and vomited pea soup by the way she reacted.
Having come to a new understanding on the topic, after discussing the issue with friends that are living with oppression, I’d like to address some of the statements and questions I’ve seen over the last few days concerning cosplaying as POC.
(This is coming from the perspective of a White individual, hearing the position and opinions of a POC individual.)
The media is huge factor in developing our sense of self.
Very often as children, we are drawn to the characters that look like us because we recognize similarities. These characters become our “favorite” characters… often not for any other reason than the fact that they have similar features.
As a child, my choices were endless in characters I could see myself reflected in. I could see traits/qualities I admired or even idolized in characters that looked just like me. This allowed me to reinforce my sense of security and self worth, because I could see myself over and over again, in almost every movie or show I chose to watch.
Over and over and over again…
As a white individual, think about the amount of characters that resembled you… main characters, characters that were the focus of the story.
Not everyone has that kind of representation.
Here is one example. The first African American Disney princess did not appear on screen until 2009. By that time, it had already been 72 years since the creation of the first Disney princess. In those 72 years, the amount of white representation far surpassed POC representation on screen… and it continues to.
In the United States (and many other places in the westernized world) the media lacks balance. This can cause a lot of harm to a child’s development of self.
If the vast majority of the “hero” based characters that you see in the media do not reflect you… but instead reflect those around you that do not share similar physical qualities, how hard does it become to develop a sense of self worth, and find equal footing?
In order to create progress, coming to a place of understanding, unity and level footing is necessary. This is why it is important to work together and create an environment that is safe for POC.
This mentality carries over into cosplay…
Here is how the situation was explained to me.
Having grown up with a wide variety of characters that represent me, the comfort I feel stepping across any boundary, and dressing as any character, is not very limited. This is because I am used to seeing myself represented.
However, for someone who is not used to seeing representation, coming into a community and stepping out of the box can be incredibly intimidating. The limited amount of POC characters become something akin to a “safe zone”, and although the individual may want to step out of that safe zone, the internalized fear and discomfort can sometimes be too overwhelming.
When a white individual, who has a lot of characters at their disposal to cosplay that reflect them, steps into that safe-zone, it can be both intimidating and hurtful to someone who is not yet comfortable doing the same.
Now we have to understand, at the heart of it… anyone, of any ethnicity, cosplaying as anyone they’d like… is not a harmful thing… wanting to cosplay a character you love, regardless of ethnicity, is not a harmful thing…
If everyone is on equal footing.
If everyone is on equal footing, there is nothing wrong with this. This is the kind of equality that we are striving for.
However, where there IS a problem, is the fact that not everyone is on equal footing.
This particular issue is not about what is fair or equal… fairness and equality in this scenario would mean that everyone is comfortable playing everyone, and that there are no feelings of guilt or uncertainty when choosing to do so… but this is not the case.
POC do not have equal representation… and because of this lack of representation, it makes it extremely difficult to feel comfortable branching out and cosplaying whoever they’d like.
In order to reach a point where everyone is comfortable playing everything they would like to play… we, as individuals that are used to playing as many roles as we’d like (because we have been given a wide range of characters that emulate us to choose from), should allow those who have grown up with limitations placed on them by society to test the water, and become comfortable in their environment.
Here’s an example I was given… You are standing on top of a cliff, and your friend is at the bottom. In order to get on the same footing, either you need to make your way all the way to the bottom of the cliff, or your friend needs to climb all the way to the top… that is a long way to climb…
However, if you can both meet at the middle, and then help each other the rest of the way, the journey becomes a lot easier/safer.
Regardless of what may be “equal” or “fair”, there are steps that must be taken in order to reach that equality… it is a process that cannot be solved overnight, or by telling someone to “Just do it”.
It’s not asking a lot for us to take a small step back, and play characters that won’t infringe on the comfort of those who are trying to become comfortable in this environment. (This does not mean that if you have done so, you did something “bad”… it simply means that you can now become aware of how to help those around you, and become accommodating of their needs and help in their progress by adjusting your choices).
This is not about conflict… this is not about blame or guilt… this is not about creating division or emphasizing differences…
It’s about people having an open dialogue… and expanding our minds, on every front, to other opinions and life experiences.
It’s about recognizing that someone else might not be in the same position because of the way our culture has conditioned us.
It’s about realizing that we can change, within our own circle of influence, the way our world functions.
It’s about compromising and reaching a point where everyone can feel accepted and equal.
It’s about showing compassion and empathy for each other as human beings.
i typed this up in ms paint in a frustrated haze so its not the most visually appealing or all-inclusive but this is basically for anyone whos Not Having the huge amount of differences between the old & new xmcu. this serves as an alternative to that official timeline fox came out with that conflates the two
I know I’m suppose to be positive about life. I know that. So many people tell me on a daily basis. I know I should put a smile on my face and fight back. I know my problems aren’t the end of the world. But you don’t understand. I’m tired.
I’m tired of looking at my face. I’m tired of not knowing what to do. I’m tired of all the people hurting me, even when they don’t realize they are hurting me.
I’m merely sick and tired.
I feel like such a waste of time, a downgrade, a replaceable, and an empty person.
So instead of standing up and auguring I just sit there silent, I cry until I fall asleep.
I can’t fight back my tears anymore.
I’m sorry I’m not better.
I’m sorry I’m too much to handle.
I’m sorry that I’ve given up.
I feel as if I wasted my whole life to achieve nothing, literally nothing.
I want to find a purpose.
Something to look forward to.
I’m so unhappy and isolated.
For the last 3-4 years I have been so sad.
That sadness has grown inside of me and it’s all I know now. I can’t stop it, I can’t control it. Because even when I’m happy and laughing, it’s seems like it’s still there, just waiting to strike at me and take me down.
I always pretend to be a cold hearted person when in reality I cry about everything, all the time, literally, always crying.
I’ve given up and lost hope. I don’t think I will ever be the girl I used to be. Because of how much my sadness has consumed me, I’m a different person. Walking in large crowds, feeling more lonely than ever. Doing random tasks and only thinking about how much I want to be dead.
Before you go telling me how many people are greatful for me, just think. Did you ever think about the fact that some people just don’t want to live ? They have no dramatic reason, they just dont want to live.
I’m sorry I don’t cherish life the way you do. I’m sorry I feel as if I don’t belong here. And I’m sorry that at any given point in time I will just completely give up and die. I’m sorry if me dying is an inconvenience to you. I’m so sorry, please forgive me.
I’m just so unhappy here and I’m tired of everything
Hey I dunno if you remember me, but I'm utease from that stream of Lance on Twitch. I created an Instagram account and posted my art and photos (but before I had the account private and never let anybody follow me), and people at my school began to compliment me on how good they are. I just wanted to tell you this because you helped me come out of my comfort zone and make me have more confidence in myself. Thank you. You are such an inspiration and I love your art. :)
I’M SO PROUD AND HAPPY FOR YOU <3 sdfjkh well done for pushing out of your comfort zone and posting your stuff! And thank you for sharing with me - you’ve totally TOTALLY made my day!