they had such a complex relationship

anonymous asked:

was phil ever in a relationship before he met dan?? i just realised that whenever he talks about crushes in his past or relationships in his past it's just about him having crushes when he was really young like 12

if he was, there’s absolutely zero evidence of it online. the one dramatic ~heartbreak~ he’s ever talked about was the girl whom he “started dating” via msn instant messenger and whom he asked for kissing lessons and then who cheated on him with ian who is now one of his closest friends (he talks about the incident a bunch of times: primarily in the video the breakup, but again in this vyou, briefly in this vidcon 2015 interview about his first kiss, and also briefly in his draw my life). the whole relationship lasted a week. safe to say it wasn’t that serious. there was also some involvement with charlieskies soon before he met dan, which had its own complexities, but never appeared to amount to anything actually serious. in summary, i firmly believe dan was his first and only official relationship,,,,,, which you know,, just opens up a lot of lovely and emotional trains of thought. 

anonymous asked:

<p>So my ex got another girl pregnant and still had the audacity to have an intimate relationship with me so naturally I tell the girl hey he’s scum stay away and she goes “ that’s what wives have to deal with.” It’s so sad that women / girls will rather keep a man than open their eyes and see that not only does he not respect you he has no respect for the life you have growing inside of you. Smh I’m still amazed at this generations mentality</p>

no shade but I don’t wanna hear this god complex jerry springer nonsense. think about your choices and then tell me if you really think you’re in the position to judge this woman…. get back to me in 24-48 hours

but-what-if-i-fly  asked:

I know what you mean about the weird anti-emotion 4chan thing; it's like wtf?? Over all, I'm pleased to see 19 days continuing with the plot, because old xian has definitely invested a lot of time into this story line, so I can understand why they maybe felt burnt out etc.. (though tbh i thought the sock rose was funny - classic Jian Yi). I'm excited to see more characterization of He Chang because so far we've seen relatively little and I think this will offer perspective on He Tian as well.

yeah absolutely. i think they just burnt themselves out and needed the break to recuperate and draft the outline of what they wanted to do.

lmao the sock rose was funny – i rolled my eyes hard – it was just we had that compared to the kind of emotional rollercoaster of the she li saga, and compared to the complexity of jian yi and zhengxi’s relationship and the kiss etc. etc., but i get that it was probably as much a moment of down-time for old xian as anything else, and perhaps it was needed? i’m not sure. it was entertaining for me, but to a point, and it felt lacking compared to the kind of update we’ve had today. it was not so much the rose thing – which was jian yi being ridiculous jian yi – as just the whole plot of zixi’s birthday and the present thing that i couldn’t understand?

yes omg. i really, really want to know more about he cheng. his relationship – or the disintegration of it, thereof – with he tian is really really interesting. i’m also so excited to see jian yi’s father omg……

Tonight’s Pitch, hell, the whole season thus far, has shown a black woman being actively loved and cared for by so many people, friends, family, teammates and associates alike.

Tonight’s episode showed a diverse room of women and a diverse car full of women NOT talking about men.

Pitch has an intelligent, driven, caring, likeable Latino in a high position of power.

Tonight’s episode had an Asian man being- if for a moment- an objectof desire and firmly stand up for himself to his white employer.

The black female lead has a working and personal relationship full of respect and admiration with her male lead.

The women are vocal, respected and are as complex as the men.

Next week’s episode has a woman tell a man about his mansplaining.

Next week’s episode has the incredibly diverse crew teaming up to help and protect the black female lead.

This show is important. It cannot be canceled.

There’s method in my madness, there’s no logic in your sadness
You don’t gain a single thing from misery, take it from me

Huevember Day 20: I have decided that King by Lauren Aquilina would be Reigen’s song to Mob. I had this sketch sitting there for a couple days but I kept falling asleep after work…

One of the things that Mob Psycho 100 excels at is it’s portrayal of the characters and their relationships. They are perfect in their imperfection and their complexity and the intricate nature of the give and take is fascinating. None are more so then Reigen’s and Mob’s relationship, especially if you’re caught up on the comic and you know how intricate it gets. Reigen is still trying to understand Mob and Mob is growing up… and away… I’m not crying, you’re crying

Overprotective Brother- RFA + Unknown

Thanks for the request, and awh dont be nervous <3  I didnt really know how to write the sister complex in so its mainly over protection 

Yoosung-
  - yoosung was soooo nervous when he met him
  - very intimidated 
  - stutters out every answer to a question that your brother asks in fear of getting yelled at
  - you told him that he wouldn’t be aggressive with him but yoosung didnt listen
  - was more scared of meeting him than your father
  - your brother finally accepted the relationship
  - him and yoosung actually had a lot in common when they got to know each other

Jaehee-
  - not nervous at all
  - nor intimidated 
  - she went into formal mode
  - called him “sir” and “mister” 
  - your borther thought she was a bit stuck up
  - *cue arm punches from MC*
  - he accepts in though, as jaehee is a nice person

707-
  - your brother goes apeshit when he hears Seven’s been spying on you through cameras
  - instantly swings for Seven 
  - Seven just laughs, dodging the punches
  - you assure your brother that he wasn’t being pervy
  - “isn’t hacking a dangerous job? i don’t want MC being in danger”
  - Seven assures him he wouldn’t put you in danger
  - Your brother manages to laugh at a few of Seven’s jokes but is still reluctant 

Jumin-
  - your brother loves him as soon as he enters the penthouse 
  - he tries to question jumin but jumin asks him questions instead
  - elly seems to like your brother
  - you think he might love jumin as much as you do

Zen-
  - conceited
  - you told your brother he’s a sweetheart
  - “he sure does love himself”
  - when they actually started talking they actually began to like each other
  - talking about musicals
  - your brother lowkey sliding threats into their conversations
  - loves zen though

Unknown-
  - your brother is taken aback
  - “thats a lot of tattoos”
  - saeran isnt bothered by your brother coming over
  - he answers his questions bluntly and truthfully
  -your brother didnt see the attraction in him honestly 
  - but liked him enough to allow th relationship
  - as soon as he left saeran had about ten aneurysms 
  - “do you think he liked me!?”

let's talk about Ursa for a minute

I’ve heard a lot of people blame Ursa for the emotional damage inflicted on Azula. And while I agree that how Ursa treated Azula had a negative effect on the way she turned out, it’s unfair to all characters involved to look at their relationship in a vacuum. The Royal Family is very complex, and it’s important to consider the context before assigning blame for Azula’s situation.

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my first soulmate was for the young me, the innocent me, the i need somebody to call me beautiful or else i won’t believe it me, the i’m too young to understand the complexities of relationships me, the please just kiss me and call me pretty me. he was for the me that thought i was broken because a boy didn’t have a crush on me back, the me that didn’t know what being broken felt like, the me that didn’t know what being broken even meant. he was the soulmate for the me that had never been kissed, never been in love, never been whispered pretty promises to, never been lied to, never been cheated on, never been heartbroken. and when i had experienced these things, he was no longer my soulmate. he was first love.

my second soulmate was for the transforming me, the temporary me, the i’m working on getting over the first soulmate me, the i’m still not over it me, the i still don’t understand how relationships work but i’m getting there me. he was for the me that needed a friend, the me that let myself fall in love with anybody who wanted me to, the me that didn’t get the work it took to make things, well, work. he was the soulmate for the me that had too high of expectations, too little dedication, too many cracks that i put in myself. and when i had learned what i need to learn, he was no longer my soulmate. he was fragile love.

my third soulmate was for the strong me, the i love myself me, the i am finally good to myself me, the i don’t really care if you want me at all because i’m fine without you me, the but it would be nice if you did want me back me. he was for the me that wasn’t sure where to go but just knew not to go backwards, the me that had figured out that boys aren’t worth hurting yourself over, the me that knew that and still hurt herself over boys. he was the soulmate for the me that still searched for somebody else, the me that was never quite satisfied with what i had, the me that should have been satisfied, the me that should have stopped looking. and when i didn’t stop looking, he was no longer my soulmate. he was selfish love.

my fourth soulmate was for the broken me, the careless me, the i really think you’re my soulmate me, the i know you’re hurting me but i don’t care me, the he has to be the one me. he was for the me that gave up everything for one little taste, the me that allowed toxicity due to circumstance, the me that believed the promises made and the words said, the me that stayed up waiting for you to come back long after i knew you wouldn’t. he was the soulmate for the me that needed to go back to being strong, the me that needed to open her eyes, the me that needed to realize when something had ended. and when i realized it, he was no longer my soulmate. he was toxic love.

my fifth soulmate is for the new me, the brave me, the i’m going to kiss you when you least expect it me, the i’ll text you ten times in a row and not give a shit me. he is for the me that is now, the me that lives and breathes light, the me that is no longer bound by chains. he is the soulmate for the me that i love, the me that i am, the me that i have always been. and now that the young, the transforming, the strong, the broken, and new parts of me know this, we can settle. we can breathe. and we can stop looking. for we have found it. he is true love.

— 

c.h. // instagram: @evanescent.love (via @poeticaffinity

inspired by this quote:

“Maybe we all have a lot of soul mates, each for a different time in our lives. Maybe every person we ever love is a soulmate in some sense, and that’s why they mean so much to us, that’ s why they’ re so hard to forget. People change and fall out of love, but that doesn’t mean that at one time, they weren’t perfect for each other.” -anonymous 

So I actually really like that scene where Archie says he’s not good enough for Betty because of how well it plays into their character arcs. I think Archie’s still dealing with the fact that he was stupid and had a sexual relationship with a teacher (or student teacher maybe how old is this lady?), and that in keeping this relationship a secret he might have let someone be murdered. Of course Archie’s not gonna feel good enough for Betty after that. No one would feel good enough to get involved with their best friend after that. He’s just trying to keep Betty out of this.

At the same time, this is completely feeding into the isolation Betty is feeling. Betty is trapped in some kind of perfection complex forced on her by her mother, and she’s trying to break out of her bubble and be her own person. To have the person you’re crushing on tell you you’re too perfect to be with…man, that’s really gotta hurt. And when she leaves, Archie really has nothing else to say, because it seemed like such a huge struggle to even talk to her that much, and he didn’t know how to make it better.

I really think I might like this show, at least for now. There’s a lot of smart character drama going on here, and it’s nice to have arcs going on that seem built on real emotion and conflicts instead of bullshit misunderstandings. Gonna give this a couple more episodes

And like - even if it wasn’t blameless, sometimes placing responsibility for your trauma can be complicated.

Sometimes it’s a whole bunch of people who should have noticed or understood or stepped up and they didn’t and that’s the direct reason why you were harmed. Sometimes that group is so big it’s literally all of society.

Sometimes your relationship with the person or people who hurt you is complex and you understand so clearly why they did it that it’s hard to lay blame.

Sometimes you’re painfully aware the person or people who hurt you wouldn’t have done what they did if you had said anything about it, but you didn’t because you didn’t know how or didn’t think you deserved better or any of a million other reasons why we don’t tell people they’re hurting us.

Sometimes you feel responsible because you made choices that put yourself in harm’s way, maybe many times.

Sometimes you’re just not ready. A lot of people take a long time to get to a place where we’re comfortable seeing someone who was/is important to us as Actually To Blame for what they did.

And in every one of those situations, it’s still okay to acknowledge your trauma. You’re still allowed to try to process and grieve and work through your trauma even if you can’t or really really don’t want to point to one person in particular.

You still deserve a chance to figure out how to be okay. You aren’t being too sensitive, your trauma isn’t less valid just because you don’t have a clean narrative with one clear bad guy. You still didn’t deserve to be hurt.

Peggy Carter

So my favourite female character in the Marvel cinematic universe is Peggy Carter.

Where do I begin? She is an amazing character. In my opinion, she is the most developed MCU lady. She is a complex, well rounded character. She had great qualities, and some epic flaws too!

She is funny and witty and smart and resourceful and independent and feminine and confident and stubborn and bold and sometimes reckless and jealous. She can be mean and hurt people.

She does what she thinks is right, and will stop at nothing to achieve what she truly believes in.

She’s Captain America’s hero, and his compass.

She founded SHIELD.

Despite working in a male dominated field, she cultivates healthy relationship with other great women: Angie Martinelli, Rose Roberts, Ana Jarvis… Plus her indescribable relationship with Dottie Underwood.

She has love and lost (Michael, Steve), and she grieved, and she managed to love again. (seriously, it’s not often a character is actually allowed to grieve on screen time, and it was done beautifully)

She takes shit from no one, be it a private, a superior officer, a colleague, a man she actually likes, or another woman. See below my favourite exhibit:

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She is a very good spy and a great warrior. She comes up with great plans, tactics and strategies, but if need be (or if someone she cares about is in danger), she’s not afraid to get her hands dirty and rush into danger.

She uprooted herself and came to live in the USA.

(She went for the grenade, too)

She was never a damsel in distress.

She is a woman who likes lipstick, shoes, accessories and other typically feminine things. And she’s a badass. She genuinely can fight and shoot. She proves that all those things are not mutually exclusive.

The way she deals with bullies and sexist jerks is awe-inspiring. She had to stomach so much sh*t and always came up on top! Her strength and perseverance in the hostile environment that’s her workplace is amazing.

I don’t identify with her so much as I aspire to be her. She is seriously one of the greatest role models ever. And she is played to perfection by the sensational Hayley Atwell.

Some of her amazing quotes:

“I know my value, anyone else’s opinion doesn’t really matter”

“I conducted my own investigation because no one listens to me. I got away with it because no one looks at me. Because unless I have your reports, your coffee, or your lunch, I am invisible.”

“as has always been the case, I don’t require your help”

“He would say: ‘Do as Peggy says’!”

“What’s your name, darling? - Agent.”

“The alphabet? I can teach you. Let’s start with words beginning by the letter ‘A'”

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Villain/hero drunk New Years ramble:

Listen,
Since the dawn of time there has always been something sexy and alluring about the dark and brooding type,

Originally posted by lolitashaven

Something hot about the bad boy, the villain, the “beast”, the anti-hero

Originally posted by ladydisnerd

In common fairy-tale the handsome hero gets the girl. That’s all fine and dandy, I’m not knocking the original ideal scene, but relationships that form between the hero and the villain can be twice as interesting.

Originally posted by thexacexofxhearts

The challenges the couple will have to face become ten times more difficult. Love triangles, redemption arcs, and raised stakes! The added villainous love interest makes for a very complex and compelling story.

Originally posted by reyloiscanon17

Of course, it takes a little more time for relationships like these to iron out, that’s why we love them! We feel more deeply for what they’ve gained, because of the extra mile the two characters had to run in order to get to the end result. This isn’t love at first sight! This is two people bonding.

HAPPY DRUNK SHIPPING!

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Don’t Stress (E2-Harrison x Reader) Imagines [PART II]

Imagine:
It’s been days since you told Harry about your pregnancy, and he’s been avoiding you since. Just being away from him causes you a lot of stress - mentally, emotionally and physically - so Jesse decides to do something about it…

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*~*~*~*~*

There was a knock on the door.

Setting down the wrench and grabbing a rag, you wiped your hands clean and peeked over the edge of the Speed Lab’s Command Center. There, standing in the doorway, dressed in a flowy blue shirt, black skirt and a red cardigan, was Jesse Wells.

You couldn’t help but smile.

Jesse had been one of the sweetest and most talented girls you’ve ever met. She’s always been supportive of you and Harry’s relationship, which was a definite plus for you.

Especially these past few days when she noticed a change in communication with her dad. As far as you could tell, she didn’t know what you two were arguing about and - really - you’d rather keep it that way.

A part of you feared that you wouldn’t know how else to react if she ended up hating you too.

“Hey,” you greeted, walking towards her. “What’s up?”

“Nothing much,” she shrugged. “I just wanted to see if you needed help with maintenance.”

You raised an eyebrow. “You have a degree in electrical engineering?”

“Who doesn’t?” She asked.

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We Asked Shonda Rhimes 9 Qs About Grey's — Here Are Her Answers | TVLine
By Michael Ausiello

Ahead of Grey’s Anatomy‘s return on Thursday, Jan. 19, I put in a request to speak to series creator Shonda Rhimes about the second half of the ABC drama’s 13th season. She was unable to hop on the phone with me due to her busy schedule, but she agreed to answer a handful of questions via email. What follows are her unedited answers.

TVLINE | Nathan and Meredith: How will their relationship – or lack thereof – evolve during the second half of the season?
SHONDA RHIMES | Meredith’s journey is always interesting and complex. There are so many aspects to her as woman, a surgeon, a sister and a mother.

TVLINE | As close as Meredith and Alex are, and as romantically lost as they are, why haven’t they considered possibly becoming more than friends by now?
That’s like asking me why haven’t I had a certain kind of cheese. The answer is, ‘Because I haven’t had that kind of cheese.’

TVLINE | Are you interested in finding a way to bring Callie back into the fold this season, even if just for an episode or two? Have you had discussions with Sara?
I love Sara Ramirez and I love Callie Torres.

TVLINE | How will the dynamic between Arizona and Eliza (Marika Dominczyk) differ from the one between Arizona and Callie?
I don’t look at it in terms of dynamics and I can’t possibly compare Arizona and Callie’s marriage with what is currently barely a flirtation. The fun comes with waiting to see what unfolds.

TVLINE | If DeLuca were to drop the charges against Alex, what would be his motivation — DeLuca’s feelings for Jo (and what are those, anyway?), his sense of Alex’s actual remorse?
[Rhimes declined to answer]

TVLINE | How have DeLuca’s feelings toward Jo been developing over the course of this season, and how do you foresee them developing?
I think we’ve all had a chance to watch what’s happened between Jo and Andrew. I am not sure that it’s mature to put a name on what’s going on at the moment.

TVLINE | How will co-parenting impact Jackson and April’s separation? And what’s the possibility of Harriet bringing them together again as an actual couple?
This isn’t a new issue so we’ve already seen any and all issues that this might entail. It’s such a positive thing to watch our characters behave as fully formed adults who know how to co-parent. What’s great is that parenting has nothing to do with their storyline this season — it gets much more interesting than you’d imagine…

TVLINE | If Megan (Bridget Reagan) were to turn out to be alive, where could you imagine her fitting into the world of Grey’s, professionally and romantically?
I don’t even know how to answer this question as it confuses me deeply.

TVLINE | Will there be a wedding before the season is up?
Weddings do not define my characters. I thought we all learned that when Meredith nailed a Post-It note to her wall.

anonymous asked:

TBH it should have been Frank. I'm sick of him

I really wish it had been Frank. Other than being sick of watching black characters be killed off for shock value, I think it would’ve been more interesting watching Annalise deal with Wes’ betrayal than having another who did it storyline. Annalise and Wes’ relationship is so rich and complex, and one of the show’s biggest draw-ins for me, so seeing that further complicated with the betrayal of him turning on her would’ve been stellar for me. Plus imagine everyone else’s reaction if they found out. 

I’m just, like, slowly realizing that Scanlan is my favorite character.

Like, I appreciate the Perc'ahlia ship so much because of all the depth and complexity there. It took time and certain specific events to develop. There were hidden sides of both the characters that they revealed to one another as they built trust. Their love seems so genuine.

And, like, here’s the thing… those same reasons are why Scanlan’s my favorite character, too. It’s like over the course of the show, Percy and Vex were developing their relationship as the audience was developing its relationship with Scanlan. He’s deep and complex, hiding his genuine love, anxiety, responsibility, wisdom, and foresight with a smirk or a joke. He has revealed his true nature to us over time, first in developing his relationship with his estranged daughter, then revealing his anxieties through his interactions with Jarrett concerning suude. We had to build trust and rapport with his character as he went from being the sleazeball of the group, the one who was funny, but also creepy and uncomfortable, to being this genuine, kindhearted person who used his humor to charm and entertain others, not to seduce or manipulate.

I just… Scanlan is the comedic role. The one who’s the butt of the jokes or is constantly ruining an emotional moment with a stupid quip. He’s not supposed to be the one sticking around, the last line of defense between antagonistic giants and his friends as Vox Machina escapes. He’s not supposed to be the one working to become more responsible so he can be part of his daughter’s life. He’s not supposed to be the one comforting his friends immediately after being resurrected from death. And, yet…

You know, Scanlan frequently jokes about being the leader of Vox Machina, but truthfully? In a way, he really is. He carries them when they get down, emotionally. He speaks for them when they need a representative voice. He makes sure they have a safe space to eat and sleep in dangerous places. Scanlan is always the character with the most clutch solutions. He’s the one there, quietly supporting others as they face their own difficulty, while he struggles desperately to take care of himself on his own.

I love Scanlan so much. And he is severely under appreciated by the fandom.

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Victor knew that Yuri idolized him, he knew that he had been Yuri’s idol when Yuri was younger. It was obvious. He had had a feeling when he first came to coach Yuri that that had been the case, and as things progressed, as their relationship progressed, it became even more blatant. And then after awhile, Yuri just flat out told him. Victor was honored. Sure, Victor had fans, but Yuri was different. Yuri was a whole different person with an individual complex that had Victor swooning from when they first met. So, really, he was honored to find out that Yuri thought of him so highly. But, he didn’t know exactly how highly he thought of him until they were visiting Yuri’s family back in Japan some months after the Grand Prix Final.

Yuri and Victor had moved into Victor’s old apartment in Russia, and Yuri was getting quite comfortable there, but he had told Victor that he wanted to keep in touch with his family, visit every once in awhile. He assured Victor that he didn’t need to come, but Victor was absolutely insistent. Staying with Yuri’s family in Japan for the first months of coaching Yuri was a wonderful experience that Victor would not mind repeating a single bit. As long as Makkachin could come, of course. (And he did, of course.)

Yuri told Victor that he could stay in the room he had stayed in before since Yuri’s bed was only a twin size, but Victor refused. Yuri had learned that Victor was about the biggest cuddler he had and would ever encounter.

So, it was settled, they would stay in Yuri’s old room, his room that hadn’t changed a bit. They stayed there for about a week or so, and Victor was honestly a little sad when they had to leave. But, all the same he packed his things as Yuri had done. It was only when he dropped something that rolled under Yuri’s bed that he discovered something very… intriguing.

“Oh my God.”

Yuri heard it from the hallway, he was heading into his room anyways where Victor was, where Victor’s voice was echoing. He donned a look of confusion, wondering what had happened, if Victor had seen something on his phone, if he had lost something. But the tone of his voice, the inflection, it sounded almost… surprised. Or amazed.

“Victor?” Yuri said, pushing the door to his room open. He simply stood in the doorway for a moment, looking over at Victor who had a wide eyed look on. But he also looked almost gleeful. And he was holding something, something that looked like paper. Yuri’s old math sheets? From school? No, they were bigger than that, and there was more than one. They looked almost like…

Yuri’s eyes widened so much it was probably comedic as he darted forwards, almost tackling Victor. Victor completely blocked him though, stepping backwards.

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Mistake (Bucky x Reader)

Summary: Bucky wants something simple in a relationship, but can’t fight the complexities he feels for Y/N

Characters: Bucky Barnes, Reader Y/N, Steve Rogers, Sam Wilson, OC

Notes: Well this was a combination of two very sad requests… TRIGGER WARNING: SUICIDE ATTEMPT. IF YOU ARE FEELING THIS WAY, PLEASE SEEK HELP AT 18002738255

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Off Limits (Skam - Chris x OC) Part 2

Pairing: Chris x OC

Synopsis: Mara Magnusson has always had everything she ever wanted in life, except for one thing. The boyish charm of her brother’s childhood friend had wrecked her poor heart and ruined her for any other guy – you can trust her, she has tried. She could see the way he looked at her, though she knew there were rules about not hitting on your best friend’s little sister. Luckily for her, there were no restrictions when it was the other way around.

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Chris’ relationship with Mara had always been a complex one. No matter how hard he tried to convince himself that it would be better to simply consider her as his own little sister, he couldn’t erase what attraction he felt toward his best friend’s little sister. She was one year younger than them, but it’s true what they say: girls mature quicker than boys.

He kept his distance when he could and played it off as the big brother kind of concern when he couldn’t stay away from her. When her first boyfriend broke up with her and she came home crying to Chris and William playing video game. When she drank too much at a party and started getting touchy with strangers. Or when she was going out to a party and her dress was so short both he and William let out a sharp comment and told her to get changed – as if it was any of their business in the first place. The thing is, Chris’ concern was justified most of the time, but the most significant difference between William’s brotherly worry and Chris’ unease upon seeing Mara dress like she was going on a man-hunt was the motivation behind it.

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