the solution to people not being able to express their sexuality in one or two words is not creating 1,000 micro-labels; it’s an understanding that you don’t NEED to communicate the intricacies of the attraction you feel toward other people in one or two words.
human sexuality is complex! human relationships are complex! the way that i, as a lesbian, view and am attracted to women is not the same as how every other lesbian views and is attracted to women - and that’s okay! it doesn’t matter! i don’t NEED strangers to know how well i have to know someone personally to want to have sex with them at a certain time of day and how much of that attraction i want reciprocated in what lighting. i don’t NEED to give strangers a detailed list of micro-labels that define every specific aspect of my attraction to women; i like girls! that’s all anyone needs to know unless a relationship is going to develop, and in that case, i would much rather have an actual discussion about what i want or need in a partner than say “i’m demi-homo-cupio-romantic, homo-placio-asexual”
moreover, most people dont even have a concrete understanding of their own attraction/desires/etc, and to assign fixed microlabels to oneself and then experience an attraction/desire/etc that contradicts that… more often than not makes one feel as though they’ve lied about their identity (or gives one an otherwise bad feeling that’s difficult to articulate). i get that it’s nice to feel like other people relate to your sexuality and all, but other lesbians exist. other bi people exist. other pan people exist. you can relate to them without sharing with each other the intimate details of where and when you feel attracted to what and who.
if having hundreds of sexuality definitions out there to choose from has somehow helped you, that’s fine, to each their own i guess. but i wanna emphasize that it’s not necessary - and often very uncomfortable - to like, divulge the particular way you experience sexuality to strangers in the form of a few prefixes.
TL;DR - just say you’re gay, janice.