Hello Simon :) Since reading your posts is helping me calm my nerves I have a question; how to handle the sudden agitation/anxiety after being shouted at by a guy. I mean, I don't know how to explain this but ever since I was a kid I always found myself hyperventilating when my dad shouted at me. We argued just now and I'm trying my best not to tear up by making a poker face, but I know it won't last.
Go somewhere private and vent instantaneous aggression. Punch something. Shout into a pillow. Then sit down and do something mathematical in nature. The human brain cannot hold both math and emotion. So do a complex math problem. Then eat something like chocolate, or something very fatty.
All of these will reset your neurochemistry more quickly than just sitting in your room shivering.
What you’re experiencing is called Fight or Flight, and is a survival response. the shaking occurs as the body floods with adrenalin, which is toxic. It also causes a biological response to regulate temperature and also to use up the chemicals that precursor running away or fighting. So what you’re experiencing is entirely normal, completely within normal bounds. It isn’t odd, or strange, or in any way harmful to you. I can understand that it is unsettling. All I can say is that the more confrontations you have, you’ll adjust.
And for reference, your father shouldn’t be shouting at you. Shouting won’t solve a problem. If you message me with details, I can perhaps assist you with a better reply that might help diffuse the next shouting spell.