The Mate Rules
Each of Maas’ series, “Throne of Glass” and “A Court of Thorns and Roses” contains half the rules that apply to Mates, so if you hadn’t read both, or didn’t catch the rules (some are throwaway sentences), you’d be confused. I’ve seen a lot of people who’ve read one series but not the other wondering about it lately, so I figured I’d gather all the “Rules” in one place :)
- There is only one Mate for everyone (ToG).
- Even Demi-Fae (one parent Fae, one human) have a Mate if their Fae side is strong enough (ToG).
- The Mating Bond takes a while to click into place, a couple or few months isn’t typical but is hardly a-typical (ToG).
- The Mating Bond has a strong pull, even if you are rejecting it (ToG).
- Once the Mating Bond is recognized and the bond is consummated (sex), it grows exponentially in strength (ACOTAR/ToG).
- Mates don’t have to like each other necessarily, as Rhysand pointed out- his parents strongly disliked one another (ACOTAR).
- You can kill your Mate. Like, physically murder them (ToG).
- If your Mate dies (and you weren’t the one that killed them), it can send you into an epic downward spiral of grief that apparently lasts a minimum of 10 years (ToG).
- The mating bond can be faked by a bitchy Fae Queen with hidden agendas. (ToG)
- A Mating bond, under the right circumstances, can exist between a Fae and a Human, when this happens a Fae can reject their Fae-ness and become mortal (ToG).
- Traditionally, a sign of the mating bond being accepted is the female providing the male with food they’ve made (Rhysand at least specifies it’s the female to the male, but that’s just traditional, as in ToG there is a homosexual Mated couple, so males can do it too)
- Mates don’t have to be opposite sexes (ToG)
If I’m forgetting any, let me know!
Thanks to @Noonesjob , and @gail1012 for adding #11.
And as @crochanblackbeak pointed out, the rules of magic between ACOTAR and ToG tend to differ (iron being harmful, Fae all having a second form vs just high lords, etc), so it’s possible the Mate rules do too!