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Anti-anxiety Herbs

A list of herbs that help reduce stress & anxiety & how to use them. 

Chamomile: Top of the list because it’s my personal favourite. Chamomile is very calming, & also helps calm the nervous system, reducing physical & emotional tensions & helping to soothe, & calm the mind. Chamomile tea is very effective in relieving anxiety, & can also be used in combination with other herbs as an edible oil to take internally for an instant relief. The smell of Chamomile alone is very calming & for these reasons it can also be used in aromatherapy remedies as incense or facial mists. 

Lavender: Lavender is also very soothing & has a slight sedative effect. Use Lavender alone, or in combination with other herbs to place inside a pillow to aid in a restful sleep. Lavender can also be drunk as a tea to provide relief from emotional tensions & anxieties, & aid in soothing the nervous system, relieving physical stress as well. 

Green Tea: Helps by relieving heart rate, & blood pressure, & cleans & detoxifies the blood at the same time. Provides mental clarity & reduces anxiety whilst improving focus, preventing one from becoming lethargic. Note that green tea does contain small amounts of caffeine so it may not work for everyone in the same way. 

Hops: Used in sleep pillows, & edible anti-anxiety oils & tinctures. Hops has mild sedative effects.

Valerian: Valerian is a strong sedative herb & can help promote a deep, restful sleep. It produces an unpleasant smell, so is usually taken as a supplement or tincture, but can also be used in combination with other fragrant herbs to drink as tea.Valerian has such strong sedative effects that it is advised only taking this herb in the evening, before bed. A good aid for insomniacs. 

Lemon Balm: Lemon Balm has been used since the middle ages to help reduce stress & anxiety. It is useful in promoting both a calm, & more alert state of mind. Commonly taken as a tea, tincture, or capsule supplement. 

Passionflower: Passionflower has mild sedative properties & helps soothe & calm the nervous system & relieve anxiety. It is also a great aid for insomnia. 

Licorice Root: Helps by stimulating relaxing chemicals in the brain, it helps one in dealing with general stress. Soothes & calms the nervous system. Most commonly drunk in combination with other herbs as a tea, & used in sleep pillows. 

Note: All of these herbs can be used in herbal sachets & other magickal charms to relieve stress & anxiety. 

Remember these are only herbal suggestions, NOT prescribed medicine, if you are already on medication, ask your doctor if it’s ok to use some of these herbs internally as some come can react with medication. Do not take too many sedative supplements at once & consult your doctor before internal use of any herbal supplements if you are pregnant. 

To whomever loves her next, here’s some things that you should know:

Her favorite color is black. She hates lipstick. She likes to call you when she’s driving somewhere, it’s one of her favorite times to talk. She loves going out at night. She loves her alcohol even more. She’s emotional when she’s drunk, it’s okay though, she’ll be okay. She might call you up when she’s drank too much, and crying, just listen to her, just softly tell her things to soothe her from whatever’s wrong that night. That’s truly all she needs from you. It’s all she wants from you. She’ll eventually tire herself out and fall asleep. Your flaws will be her favorite parts about you. She’ll constantly touch the parts you hate most about yourself. This is her way of pulling the shame from these things. Because how could you hate a part about you that she loves? She likes for you to read to her before she falls asleep. Her arms will be the safest place for you to rest your head at night, but please don’t get too comfortable, you won’t be there for long. Sometimes she’ll curl into you and pull at your arms to wrap around her, and that same night she may throw them off. Take it with a grain of salt. You’ll need thick skin to be with her because she can be the sweetest person in the world or more cruel than you ever thought possible. She jokes a lot, but they’ll sting still. One minute you feel like the most important person, and the next it’s like she wants nothing to do with you. She’ll tell you what you want to hear, and I beg you please don’t believe it till you see it, and even then be careful. Falling for her will be easy. It won’t even feel like falling. And before you even know it, you’re in deep. She’ll tell you she’s ready to settle down, she’s not. She’ll tell you that all she wants is you, you’re not. She will kiss every inch of you and fuck some random girl in a bathroom stall the next night. And you’ll stay. You’ll pretend it doesn’t bother you and maybe it won’t, because you know who she is, you know how she is. You’ll let her win every argument. Until you don’t. And fighting with her will be one of the most painful things you’ll do. You’ll do it with tears streaming down your cheeks and she’ll do it with venom in her words. It really will crush you because all you’ll want is for her to just try to see it your way, but she won’t. And then you’ll never hear from her again. But you’ll never forget her. Never. She’s stubborn, she’s smart, she’s funny, she’s reckless, she’s selfish, she feels like home, she’s driven, she’s passionate, and she’s confusing. She’s a lot of things, but she’s never boring. And god, she’s so fucking extraordinary.

—  you’ll go into this knowing that she is a storm, and all she’ll do is break you, but let me tell you this, you’ll do it anyways.
The Moon Signs When Drunk

Aries Moon: Usually quite hyperactive, easy to rile up and their emotions are quite raw, either the first to fall asleep or they’re up till the next day suggesting a round two. They can be sort of unpredictable just as they would be sober, one minute they could be opening up, but the next they’ll get incredibly defensive and think that you’re going to judge them etc. Overall party animals but their childlike temperament can be a problem. 

Taurus Moon: Pretty giggly and surprisingly ditzy, as if they’re on cloud 9. They talk about random shit and will take the time to tell you how much you mean to them in a perfectly honest way. If you’re drinking together, I promise you 97% of your inside jokes will be made then and there. They’ll really look after you if you need it and won’t judge you for anything you do in your drunken state. 10/10 would get drunk with (again).

Gemini Moon: They can be pretty mouthy but in a good way, they’re incredibly funny and will rip the piss out of you to your face for the laugh. Probably not the best at looking after drink friends but they try. They may get pretty thoughtful with like minded people but will also run around the place being the trickster.

Cancer Moon: Honestly takes the term “mom friend” to a whole new level. Their inner hoe shines when they’re drunk and they don’t give a shit but they’ll sober up as soon as someone is sick and needs help. Can make pretty stupid decisions as a result of deep seated insecurities but will eventually deal with it. They replace their walking with dancing too.

Leo Moon: Becomes the comedian of the evening even if they’re not usually very funny. They spend so much time when they’re sober laughing off their pain so when they’re drunk it comes down on them a lot harder meaning they could crumble should someone poke at their emotions. They’re very proud and HATE opening up when drunk, for this reason they often distract themselves when drunk with entertaining others. 

Virgo Moon: Probably the most responsible drunk of the zodiac and by this I mean, they’d make sure to eat beforehand and they’d pace themselves etc but when drunk they tend to either party hard or sit and watch the world go by. They tend to be more outgoing and will be very chatty even with randomers! Other times though they will be the types that will sit, cloudy minded, watching and laughing at everyone else.

Libra Moon: Typically the “I love you” drunk but it isn’t always romantic or sexual. Their innate sense of compassion tends to become stronger and they are the type that will sit with someone who needs to (drunkingly) pour out their heart. They’re also social butterflies and will have fun with absolutely anybody. Not to mention they can be incrediblyyyyyyy flirty as if that wasn’t a given.

Scorpio Moon: This is the type of drinker that like their sign can be very enigmatic. They tend to be quite quiet and brooding but two minutes later they could be the soul of the party! This is because scorpio moons feel things so deeply that the alcohol - a natural depressant - will amplify those emotions, sometimes scorpio moon will brush them off and be incredibly fun but other times they need time to wallow, it’s natural and we all need it sometimes.

Sagittarius Moon: Loud af and can be in people’s face a lot. They’d probably be the type to do really dangerous drinking games or would be the one who decides to do something stupidly dangerous for fun. They don’t really do the whole emotional thing when drinking but when they do it’s A LOT of raw emotion and sometimes anger. 

Capricorn Moon: These drunks are quite reserved until they get to their limit, once they pass it, they seem to lose all inhibitions. They can be very snide and suddenly their words are laced with venom so I would advise caution to those dealing with Capricorn moons when drunk. They can also be quite reckless but fun and surprisingly would be the person others look after rather than the other way around, they sober up pretty quick though.

Aquarius Moon: Surprisingly to most, these people are probably some of the most emotional drunks there are! This is because Aquarius is ruled by Saturn and Uranus. These people have a lot of chaotic emotions as it is but (when sober) Saturn keeps them locked away. When drunk, Saturn’s surface falls away and one minute this person will be partying hard and the next they may feel their walls crashing and burning.

Pisces Moon: Pisces Moon is in it’s element around alcohol as it is the sign of escapism, they must be careful and watch how much they drink. They usually become more outgoing and find it easier to be bluntly honest with others. These are generally the “happy go lucky” drunks but the slightest thing could potentially send them spiraling downwards so it is also important that they are with people they trust.

Marauders Headcanon #13

-James was a happy drunk. It didn’t take much to get him tipsy, and once he was, he would giggle about nothing, dance to songs that had stopped playing an hour ago, go on rants about how much he loved the color green, wrap his arms around his friends and beam, or lay with his head on Lily’s lap and go on for hours about how ‘I really really love you, Lils.’

-Remus was a reckless drunk. He could hold alcohol better than any of the others, but once he was drunk, he was drunk. He would completely loose his filter, which lead to James learning way more about how Remus and Sirius passed time alone than he ever wanted to know, Peter getting roped into trying to steal the sorting hat from Dumbledore’s office, and the infamous streaking incident of 1977. After the first few times, Remus learned exactly where to draw the line with alcohol- he hated the feeling of loosing control.

-Sirius was an emotional drunk. People who thought he was a drama queen sober had obviously never seen him after a few drinks. Remus secretly loved getting him drunk to hear him declare his love for him, or laugh at him challenging James to a battle for their honor over James telling him that he had the cuter date. However, he would instantly regret it when Sirius burst into tears because, ‘You don’t understand, Moony, he took my cupcake!’

-Peter was a philosophical drunk. He was just as much of a lightweight as James, except instead of laughing at nothing and rambling about Lily’s hair, he could be found quietly asking Remus if he believed in heaven, discussing the death penalty with a stranger, or arguing with Sirius about what the best bar food at the hog’s head was.

It didn’t make sense to anyone else but her. She looked at him and spit insults to his face as she watched the love he had for her fade. He pushed her to the side and walked away and it’s like she could breathe again. She knew that as long as part of him still loved her, she would never move on. She had to ruin everything to put herself back together. Three months later, she feels worse than she did before. She didn’t know she loved him too. She didn’t know.
—  I was wrong
Hogwarts Houses While Drunk
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  • Gryffindor: they laugh louder, yell to each other, and cheer more. Gryffindor are the type to form new friendships and relationships while drunk.
  • Slytherin: they make insane plans and attempt to carry them out while drunk. They're the type to wake up the next morning with mysterious injuries and amused friends.
  • Ravenclaw: the most talkative drunks. They tend to say whatever they're thinking when they're drunk, leading to much discussion of conspiracies and wild insights.
  • Hufflepuff: they're emotional drunks, and are very likely to confess feelings or call their family in the middle of the night just to talk. Hufflepuffs usually tend to be less affected by alcohol
The signs when drunk

Check your moon.

Aries: a walking disaster. Too loud and too rude at the same time. Laughing all the time and end picking fights with their friends or strangers.

Taurus: need physical contact, constant hugs and kisses. Take care of their drunk friends, even when they can’t take care of themselves. Flirty af.

Gemini: talk too much, probably the one who send messages while drunk. Pouring out all their emotions, then regret it.

Cancer: remembering something from their past, crying in the bathroom or dancing. Never stop drinking, never remember what happened that night.

Leo: laugh too much, or cry the whole night, there’s no in between. More dramatic than usual. Center of attention.

Virgo: excuse me?? they only drink water ;).

Libra: as Taurus, flirty af. Clingy, the regular fuckboy. They kind of let away their Venusian politeness while drunk, all the unpretty thpughts/words come out.

Scorpio: metaphysical and philosophical thoughts while doing shots. Stare at everyone in the room. Bitchin’. Never get tired.

Sagittarius: too loud, weird dances and hitting their feet with every furniture and person there. Dumber than usual.

Capricorn: They’re not used to drink too much but when they’ve failed at something and can’t stop overthinking.

Aquarius: talking weird shit, probably making friends, laughing out loud or just googling something.

Pisces: sleeping on the couch.

-Melisa.

Jensen Ackles at JIB8!

I rarely get involved when the fandom argues about something, but I’ve seen a lot of discussion on this part, and since I was actually there, I’ve got something to say.

First of all, Jensen is a grown man (they are all adults!) who is more than capable of making his own decisions and say no if there’s something he doesn’t wanna do. No one - and I repeat - NO ONE was forced to drink alcohol during this con. The stage contained a table with water bottles - and the actors chose for themselves whatever they liked to drink during the day.

Secondly, and most importantly, Jensen wasn’t drunk during his panel with Misha Sunday. I’d interacted with him several times during the day - at my J2 photo op session & at Jensen’s autograph session to mention a few. Both he and Jared were tired (the actors had been enjoying the evening in Rome Saturday) and were still a little jetlagged from their trip, but they were warm and kind and focused while interacting with their fans - as always! Jensen had gone through an emotional rollercoaster that day, having met a couple of ladies who worked the YANA crisis hotline, and it had hit him hard. As he said at the panel; the fans mean a shit-ton to him and the rest of the cast, and this was the first time he’d met some of the operators of the hotline in person. So at the panel, Jensen was vulnerable. In true Jensen fashion though, he probably tried to over-compensate for that by doing his best to make the panel light and make us laugh. However, Misha decided to bring up what had happened to Jensen during the day (with Jensen’s permission), and Jensen got emotional again talking about it.

This had nothing to do with alcohol. Jensen was completely on point! It saddens me that people are calling Jensen all sorts of things (saying he was drunk and forced to be it), when he chose to open up to us, and felt comfortable enough to do so. Compared to Jared, Jensen’s often more like a closed book. He doesn’t wear his feelings on his sleeve. But during the years, he’s opened himself up to his fans, and part of this (Jensen mentioned a few years back) is because he became a father.

Jensen has said that the JIB con is his favorite con, and I think a part of this is because he and Jared get to be around the rest of the actors for multiple days (compared to Creation cons where they’re only there on the last day) and because the organizer really looks out for them and spoils them shitless. Some years back, there had been some issues at Creation cons with Ty Olsson who’d said/done some things under the influence of alcohol that had been inappropriate. Ty was then invited to JIB con, and the organizer made sure he didn’t drink too much, so there wouldn’t be any trouble. She looked after him and she looked after us, the fans.

So, back to Jensen. IF there had ever been a single doubt whether or not the actors could control their alcohol consumption and/or do their job properly, I’m more than sure the organizer would have prevented it. However, Jensen is professional. He knows how to do his job. And he wasn’t drunk. Do not belittle his emotions by blaming it on alcohol! That’s disrespectful to a guy who embraces his fans and loves them as much as he does!

J2 are in general more touchy feely when they’re at this con - especially with each other. Jared has had several misfortunes around JIB time. Two years ago, we nearly lost him, and Jensen knows this. They’re best friends, they’re brothers - they look out for each other when they’re so far away from their families. Jared has often been the one to be open about his feelings. This time it was Jensen’s turn - and Jared was there for him.

The panel was not uncomfortable in the slightest. It was a precious moment that brought tears to my eyes, and I will not sit back and allow people (especially people who weren’t even there!) to take that moment away from me or - more importantly - to take that moment away from Jensen! So can we please drop all the alcohol talk, and just love the man for being honest with us and for loving us so much in return? Thanks!

Female early twenties aesthetic:

Unmade beds
Finding change in pockets
Barely used lingerie
Coffee cups
Unfinished books
College debt
Trust issues
A vibrator under your pillow
Barely empty vodka bottles
Kraft dinner nights
Satin skin with new stretch marks
Coming home at 5am
Prescriptions for your emotions
Questionable friends
Wine drunk nights
Public transit

13 Reasons Why Preference - Drunk

A/N: What they’d be like when they’re drunk.

Hannah Baker

Hannah would, without a doubt, be a very “proud” drunk. Once she’s had enough to drink, she has no problem showing you off. She will literally shout how much she loves you to the whole party or any one that will listen. 

Clay Jensen

I just feel like Clay would be, kind of, an insecure drunk, like he thinks that every guy in room is flirting with you and will probably get all sad because he thinks he’s going to lose you. Which will probably end up with you driving him home and him rambling in the car about not wanting to lose you.

Justin Foley

He would definitely be an overly touchy drunk. Wherever you were, he’d just pull you into his arms and wouldn’t let you go under any circumstances.

Zach Dempsey

Zach would probably spend the night just denying he was drunk, usually stumbling while he insists.

Alex Standall

Alex would, sort of, turn into like a baby. He’d just be babbling incessantly, making literally no sense.

Jessica Davis

Jess would totally be an emotional drunk, like the slightest thing would cause her to burst into tears, either that or she wouldn’t be able to stop giggling, like she found anything anyone said to be utterly hilarious.

Jeff Atkins

Jeff would absolutely be a reckless drunk, I’m talking like thinking he can fly and jumping off the roof kind of reckless. He’ll think he’s superman and try and fly and do loads of crazy, reckless things before someone convinces him to stop or go home.

Tony Padilla

Tony doesn’t get drunk often but when he does, he is definitely a sad drunk. I mean, he’d probably just be in a corner, like sobbing into his drink until someone took him home.

Montgomery De La Cruz

I feel like Monty would be a very angry drunk. Like he wouldn’t care who it was, he’d just pick a fight with anyone.

Neil wasn’t a fan of inebriants. He had a rocky relationship with alcohol at the best of times, and would characterise his acquaintance with any other form of drug to be downright hostile. Some of it was to do with what Andrew had done to him, before such things as trust and hate and an ever-increasing percentage. Most of it was from fear.

His mother had always told him that a man who couldn’t run was as good as dead. A man too drunk to stand or too high off his face to see the danger around him wouldn’t even feel the knife between his shoulder blades or the gun between his eyes before he was bleeding on the ground. The beating that followed a high school party stint when he was sixteen was harsh enough to ensure he would never forget that.

But things were different now. There was no danger here. At least, not enough that he had to be afraid all the time. Caution was in his nature, but he wasn’t alone anymore. He had Andrew, all the foxes, and the walls of fox tower itself between him and anyone who would wish to do him harm.

Sometimes, rarely, but sometimes, that was enough for him to let go.

Drinking wasn’t entirely foreign to him. He was no stranger to the buzz from a bottle of whiskey. Memories of a gas station bathroom, the pain of hastily done stitches, and his mother’s hoarse voice telling him to keep drinking while she pulled needle through skin, made sure of that. But drinking to excess, for the purpose of it, that was still strange.

He had to remind himself that he didn’t have to stop once he felt the heat in his cheeks, once his thoughts started to feel a little heavier, a little funnier. He had to remind himself that he had decided to do this, just tonight, because he wanted to.

Andrew slid the tumbler across the increasingly sticky table, elbowing Nicky in the stomach before the already drunk backliner could make a grab for it. Neil caught it and cradled it in his hand, watching the way the amber liquid sloshed around the glass. He smiled at it, at everything it represented.

“Drink your fucking whiskey, Neil,” Andrew said.

With a smirk and a wink, eyes locked with Andrew’s, Neil did.

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Lunar Cycles

I’m sure I’m not alone being someone deeply effected by the moon to the point where I have emotional episodes due to which phase it’s in. Like the seasons I also adapted my practice to go in the flow which the moon moves in in order to be in balance. Hopefully this practice can help you too if you find this of value.


Major Phases

New Moon
This is the most important phase for me. On the first day the moon enters this phase I cleanse my space energetically and take time to do a ritual bath (or shower with a soap spell if I don’t have time for a full bath). The theme is energy cleansing and starting new. Cleanse the altar, cleanse the crystals, cleanse yourself, set up wards- depending on the element of the moon I cleanse with incense, candle, salt or mist (Or whatever feels right at the time. Usually the element and quality of the sign shows itself more in the bath than in the cleansing of my space but it’s just an example).
The New Moon is also full of cerebral energy for me. The moon rules emotions and inner thoughts and I personally feel the new moon has more power in influencing my mind as the full has more power in influencing my raw emotions. Depending on which sign the new moon is in, I focus my mental energy towards it’s message and the direction I should focus on for the next lunar cycle. Typically the new moon rests in whatever sign the sun is in so I focus on the zodiac season’s energy (like if it’s Libra season, Taurus season etc). The next week following (waxing crescent week) is mentally figuring out and visualizing how I will bring what I want and what I need to focus on in manifesting in my life.

Full Moon
The Full moon tends to be the phase everyone focuses on but its energy can be overwhelming to me since it heightens my emotions and makes me feel irrational. The Full Moon has intense energy and it’s theme is perfect for charging and energy work. Charge magical tools and crystals, charge yourself, channel the moon’s element and sign in a focused meditation and absorb it’s energy. Use the powerful energy lingering to cast spells. I find it easier to manifest something on this day perhaps because my emotions are heightened and a lot of spell casting and success depends on how I feel.
Other activities to engage the moon’s power and emotional influence is creating art or releasing pent up emotions through dance or listening to music. The Full Moon is a phase personally for me, that focuses on the magic of art and how art can help release certain emotions especially if the moon is trying to highlight a hidden or repressed feeling. Take the evening to draw, put on music to fit the mood and use art to explore yourself or do shadow work. If you enjoy drinking, enchant a cocktail or enjoy a beer to help bring to light certain emotions and maybe do drunken tarot or do some journaling to document how you feel and help with further introspection later. You can do this all solitary or gather some witchy friends to get drunk and scream your emotions into the void (I mean wolves howl at the full moon, so why can’t you?) Then put on some music, do some art, dance your feelings away or cry together because you feel irrationally moody and out of control.


Minor Phases

I don’t do anything in particular for these actual days but their weeks are important to me.

First Quarter
The week following the first quarter is dedicated to spells of growth, prosperity, manifestation, momentum and drive. It follows the week of the waxing crescent which is dedicated to visualization and setting goals. First quarter initiates action for the waxing gibbous week. If there’s something I wish to give power to, it’s casted on this week. 

Last Quarter
The week following the Last Quarter is dedicated to cleaning, purging and banishing. I make sure to clean my space thoroughly and throw out old things, ward unwanted energy and try to distance myself from things I dislike, drink more water- eat less red meat and wheat (for personal health issues to help with my digestion)- drink cleansing teas, and focus my energy on release. Spells to cast on this week are warding, banishing, ending or distancing.