these are probably going to change every time i do them

PSA about when someone you know decides to cut a parent out of their lives:

Please please please do not criticize their decision. It was not an easy thing to do, and it has probably been coming to this point for a very long time.

Do not tell them “things might change! Maybe your _____ will come to their senses!”
The odds are, if it’s gotten to this point, they have been given many chances through the years and have thrown every single one out the window.

Do not say “but they are your _____! You only get one!”
I only have one appendix, but if it’s toxic, I’m going to cut it out to save my life.

Do not say things like “you’re going to miss them when it’s time for (random event most parents should be part of)”
Yes, I will be slightly disappointed that my parent was unable to attend this important moment in my life, but the unfortunate truth is that they would have made this day difficult and uncomfortable for me.

DO NOT SAY “You’re lucky to have a ______ at all. Some people don’t. You’re wasting the chance to have a relationship many people wish they could have, but their _____ is no longer with them.”
That’s the thing though, that chance was never there. Just because my parent is alive doesn’t mean they are emotionally available, and to tell the truth, that’s almost worse. They are here and they can’t see past their own ignorance to try and have a civilized relationship with me. At least if they had passed away, and I’m not saying that I wish them dead or anything, I would have a valid and acceptable reason to not have them around. Instead I had to make a conscious and painful decision that goes against what most of society believes is right for the sake of my own mental health.

Please just support your friends in their decision to leave a Toxic person no matter who they may be. This is not easy and they are probably constantly arguing with themselves over whether or not they did the right thing. They need your love and support, not your criticism

anonymous asked:

can you explain why John Wick is such a good film? it's just like any other action film...

Okaaaaaaaay I don’t mind ppl disliking it bc i get it i do. it’s not for everyone, especially ppl that don’t care for action movies. but saying it’s like any other action film is where i’m gonna stop you there. First of all, John wick doesn’t have that shit camera shaking thing every action movies love to have. I appreciate action movies that let me see what the hell is actually going on. It also got beautiful choreography n performance from my man Reeves. He nailed it and for a man in his fifties, he absolutely killed it. The film is so pretty to look at too AND this is what i love the most probably, the fact that guns actually have LIMITED BULLETS and you see him actually fking changing them out. This film doesn’t try to be anything else it was which is ya know an action film. You can’t watch it for the story that’s not what it’s made for. Literally the plot is him getting revenge on ppl who like killed his dog and stole his car, that’s it. The world building on this is amazing also, especially in the second film where it leads up to the promising third film which i hope is coming soon :D

Pacifist vs. No Mercy - New Home Narration Comparison

ok it’s been a long time coming but here it is: a comparison of every single line that changes in new home between the pacifist/neutral route and the no mercy route, along with my theories on what the changes symbolize and how it reflects on the characters and the game’s larger meaning.

warning: this post is covered in huge, end-game spoilers and is very very long. feel free to look at just the screenshots, but you’re going to have to do a lot of scrolling!

also, a warning for people who don’t read my blog and need to be aware: i ship chara/asriel. i see them as friends, not really siblings, and i see it as a mutual childish crush/extremely unhealthy co-dependent trainwreck rather than remotely “romantic,” but at any rate, it’s probably going to leak into my speculation a bit. i try to keep it to a minimum but, if that bothers you, feel free to skip this post - i completely understand!

(and if it bothers you and you feel like bothering me about it: don’t!!!)

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Oh hey so I made that warlock of the Raven Queen today!

Anyone wanna listen to me talk about her? Yes? No? I’ll tell you anyway.

So I’ve not really figured out what she was doing before she was… 18-ish? I mean.. what do kids even usually do in the dnd-verse? go to school?? is that a thing?? dunno. But at around 18-19 she started stealing things, breaking into places, that sort of thing, to make money. Most of the money probably went into food and all that but she always made sure to give a part of it to the local temple (/some other form of charity). She learned to be quite a successful cat burglar, and maybe even made a bit of a reputation for herself, she was probably caught once or twice but usually managed to break her way out of holding and just hid somewhere for a while. She also kind of dated this awesome half-elf girl, who also happened to be a very reliable fence, for a while. It was a really casual thing though, they were never anything serious (also she’s. like. so gay. (which i believe has somehow become like a theme for underlings of the RQ?? i’m okay with this.))

Then, she managed to somehow make some really powerful enemies in the criminal world (maybe she broke into the wrong place, maybe she stole something important, maybe she made out with someone’s girlfriend, who knows) and she had to go into hiding. She’s about 22? at this point. This is also the last time she saw that fence girl, I’m really hoping they meet again at some point. She managed to stay hidden for a while, probably moving from city to city, but eventually those enemies found her and they tried to kill her by burning down the house she was in at night. And they succeeded. Sort of.

As she was dying, or dead, or something, she had a vision of the Raven Queen. She was offered a deal; she could survive the fire and continue her life if she swore to help track down and recover an important artifact (maybe???) that was stolen, probably from like some ancient temple ruin or something. She agreed to the deal because a) she didn’t want to die and b) she liked the idea of possibly getting revenge on the ones who murdered her. And that’s how she became a warlock! I’d also like to think that after the fire the word spread that she was dead, but she managed to get a message to a few of her closest contacts (including the fence girl, i just really want a reunion okay) that she was still alive.

She’s very charismatic and pleasant to be around, and she has a habit of trying to convince people she’s right. And also lying (i mean what, her?? lying??? never.) She has pretty good stats all around - except her strength, she’s feeble af - and she has skills in things like arcana, history and religion. She’s also kind of a kleptomaniac, she can’t help but think of stealing little trinkets and whatnot whenever she visits a place. I think she also doesn’t exactly advertise the fact that she’s a warlock or who her patron is (like most warlocks i think?), but I haven’t quite figured out how she does explain her powers, maybe she just pretends to be a wizard. Or a rogue.

Oh, and she’s a half-elf, btw.

This was supposed to be a short drabble and somehow it turned into an over a thousand word fic oops.This is my first time writing fanfiction (in full at least) so please go easy on me, this is based on the prompt below. I did change a few aspects of it though. Alex (@alexandriaperez3​) and Jen (@notreallythatpolpular​) both encouraged me to finish the second half of this so please give them some credit ;) This is dedicated to them and all the members of the SSUNL. Hope you enjoy!

You don’t have a name tattoo on your wrist, meaning you probably don’t have a soulmate but you didn’t want your friends to tease you about it so you had a tattoo made on your wrist about some name you picked at random because your friend said she wanted to see it soon. And then somehow there’s a person claiming to be your soulmate and they’re kind of cute and sweet so you don’t know what to do.

Everyone had them. Every single person from the day they were born till the day they died, had a tattoo on the inside of their wrist in cursive containing the name of their soulmate.

Except Maya.

And it just wasn’t fair.

Riley had one on each wrist, an unusual occurrence, Zay and Farkle certainly had trouble figuring that one out. In the end, Zay’s tattoo had changed once he had moved back to Texas in order to move on. He and Vanessa had been previously dating and the rest was history.

Riley and Farkle had some issues about whether Riley would ever fully be faithful to him because of the two tattoos. They argued about it all senior year but finally worked through it when the Matthew family had the annual New Year’s party. That ended in Cory chasing Farkle out the door the next morning with Farkle covered only by one of Riley’s purple fluffy robes.

Everyone had their soulmate and life figured out. Except from Maya.

It had happened before, people cropping up without tattoos or without finding their soulmate. Most of them found peace in the fact that they were different and died alone, not caring that they never had a true love story like they were all supposed to.

But Maya wanted the perfect love story, ribbon-tied in a big box for her to open like on Christmas day. After all the shit she went through, the universe owed her one. But that never came.

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“Frisk’s Theme”

I’m gonna do a little Undertale musical symbolism analysis for no reason.

So you know how pretty much every character in Undertale has their own musical theme/song? Papyrus has Bonetrousle, Flowey has Your Best Friend, Napstablook has Ghost Fight etc. And their musical themes come up when you fight them or just when they’re around sometimes. The melodies also reoccur and change in lots of cool ways when combined with other characters’ themes or in different situations. There’s a lot to be said about the use of music in Undertale.

But I want to talk about probably the most prevalent melody. You hear it a lot throughout the game and soundtrack in many different songs and forms. It’s the melody at the beginning of the first track, Once Upon a Time, if you want to go listen to it, and it looks like this:

I’m going to call this Frisk’s theme because 1. Frisk is the main character and this is probably the most used theme; you hear it everywhere because you are Frisk. 2. Frisk doesn’t have any other musical theme and this melody isn’t specific to any other character.

And 3. This is the main thing I wanted to talk about. I think it’s really cool if it was done on purpose. So this melody is really simple and consists of only the notes C, D, F, and G. Now, it probably doesn’t always appear in music which is in the key of C, but if you look at the melody on its own, C seems to be the central note. What is really cool is that if you consider this melody to be in C, you can’t tell if it’s C major or C minor, since it only has those four notes. If you look at the C major scale:

and the C minor scale:

you see that the four notes of this melody (C, D, F, G) are exactly the four notes shared by both scales. Therefore, the melody is not specifically major or minor. It could be either, or it’s just neither. (I’m still taking it out of context of any actual song, since the context changes and the key and mode could be different for different occurrences of the melody)

So, given this melody on its own, you can’t say that it’s specifically major or minor. You need more notes to determine that.

I think that this idea of undefined mode (major/minor) goes really well with Frisk. Since the entire game is about the choices you (Frisk) make and how good/evil you decide to be. Frisk on their own has no morality until you start playing as them and giving them their character. Frisk is a blank slate who becomes what the player decides. Just like Frisk’s melody, they have no specific leaning to good (major, if you will) or evil (minor). (Of course major doesn’t equal good and minor doesn’t equal evil - Papyrus’s theme is minor but he’s one of the nicest characters. But it’s a metaphor, and I think it’s pretty cool.)

Maybe someone has already said this or it might make no sense but if anyone cares or has ideas, add your thoughts or something. I’m interested to hear other opinions. Thanks.

the signs when something doesn't go their way

aries: ok everyone line up i’m going to fight each and every one of you
taurus: you guys will regret not listening to me actually you probably already do 
gemini: UGH NOT FAIR but nah it’s ok i’m chill with anything
cancer: this is not how i played this out a million times in my head ???
leo: at least my hair looks good
virgo: my way or the highway lmao!!! oh. no? k
libra: i’m fine with whatever happens. *really isn’t*
scorpio: you do realize i’m capable of murdering you right? yeah i thought you might change your mind
sagittarius: NOOOOOOOO this ruins EVERYTHING. *gets over it a minute later*
capricorn: how predictable. *occasional passive aggressive sighs of disgust*
aquarius: *pretends it doesn’t bother them at all but you can tell they’re pissed*
pisces: i’m annoyed but i’m still smiling

Okay I need to rant

I’m so disgusted and angry with the moaning and complaining by people on Twitter and Tumblr.

1. Yes it was a bit annoying the live stream was cancelled, is it the end of the world? No. We all survived before live streams existed. We all get little clips from twitter and tumblr. It really doesn’t matter.

2. You moaned and moaned about Wonderland not being on the set list. She performs a beautiful acoustic version. You still moan. You want a bigger production, you want the regular version. SHUT UP.

3. The set list has changed a bit - uproar is caused. Does it really matter?!?! She’s probably going to tweak the set list loads as the tour goes on. Wouldn’t it be boring if we knew exactly what was coming every time? Sit back and enjoy the spontaneity.

4. People expecting too much from her - the amount of tweets I’ve seen today of people expecting Taylor to do things for them is ridiculous. You shouldn’t be asking her for anything. She goes out of her way to do amazing things for people. Let her do it her own way. Don’t try and guilt trip her into thinking she owes you something.

** AND IN GENERAL **

Stop criticising Taylor so much. She went OUT OF HER WAY to meet loads of fans backstage earlier.
She goes out of her way to come on Tumblr pretty much every day to talk to us, give us advice and like our posts - even though she must have one of the most hectic lives.
She’s so happy at the moment and it makes me happy to see her like this. So stop moaning at her and expecting so much from her all the time.

I’m off to a cat cafe in Budapest! Cya

For the record: Everyone is problematic. No one is put in to the world already knowing how to be PC in every situation.

You have probably misgendered someone, you have probably assumed someone was straight when they’re not, you’ve probably laughed at a joke that was so far beyond PC that even George Carlin was like “Woah, calm down”. Does that make you a horrible person? No. Not unless you keep doing it and refuse to change.

Fandom has a hella fun time pointing out when people are doing/saying problematic things, but doesn’t seem as worried about following up and teaching people why they’re problematic (and I mean in a calm, patient way, not the “OMFG U TRASH, GO DIE” way).

Remember: Not everyone knows what you know, not everyone has lived how you’ve lived. If someone’s doing something offensive, don’t just write them off as a hopeless case and bitch about it in your tags. Pay it forward, help someone grow, and maybe they’ll help correct someone else down the line.