You will lose weight if you eat at a caloric deficit. Period.
Basic laws of thermodynamics and the universe say in a closed system,
Energy in = energy out
Your body spends energy by existing – breathing, walking, talking, getting up to go to the bathroom, chewing on your food, pumping blood to your organs. Every single action requires energy (calories)!
There’s something called TDEE, or total daily energy expenditure. It’s a calculation of how much energy it requires for you to function and stay at the same weight. Obviously, it matters what heigh and weight you are – the taller and heavier you are, the more calories you require to simply exist. You can find TDEE calculators all over the internet simply by googling.
So for example:
5'4" female @140lb: 1668 calories
5'0" female @110lb: 1429 calories
What does this mean?
In order for you to lose weight, you just need to eat less than your TDEE.
This is basic physics. The laws of the universe do not change. If you eat less than TDEE, you will lose weight, no buts or ifs. If you “binge” eat 1600 calories, but your TDEE is 1660, you will not gain weight (permanently). It’s just not possible (see my notes on water weight below if you have doubts).
1lb of fat is approximately 3500 calories of deficit. In other words, that’s a 500 cal deficit per day, for one week, to lose one pound.
So if your TDEE is 1600, if you eat 1100 calories everyday, you lose one pound in a week.
“But I ate at 1000cal/day and I gained .5lb this morning!!!!”
Weight is so dependent on your sodium intake, hormonal levels, what food you’ve eaten that day that one single scale reading means NOTHING.
Here’s a picture of the scale readings over the past two months for me.
See how it fluctuates like crazy? What’s important is the general trend– although one day I may “gain” 2lbs, one week later I’ll be 3lbs below that “heavy” weight. I actually recommend stepping on the scale every day, at the same time. It helps move away from “omg I gained 3lbs!!!!” and let’s you accurately identify if you are actually losing weight.
So for all you people who are stressed out about eating too much, just do some basic math. Chances are, you can eat a reasonable amount and LOSE WEIGHT. For me, if I try to eat 500cal a day, I do it for one day, then binge eat the next day and ruin my progress. One pound per week may seem slow, but consider how long you e hated your weight, compared to how quickly it’ll drop off.
I’ve hated my weight for almost 8 years now, and in just two months I’ve dropped 1/3 of the weight I wanted to, while eating at 1200calories a day. In that context, 6 more months of this? Easy!
1200 calories: That’s a lot of food! You can eat properly with that! For example one day:
Coffee with condensed milk (60)
2boiled eggs (140)
1cup chicken teriyaki (150)
4 lychees (100)
One whole avocado (220)
2 slices of bread (180)
½ carton halo top (140)
In conclusion: you can eat a reasonable amount of food and still lose weight (faster than restricting, bc there’s wayyy less binges). Your caloric intake will depend on your height and weight– a 5'0 woman and a 5'6" woman should not be eating the same amount.
Its amazing that there are alot of posts these days telling straight women that they dont need to have a boyfriend to be happy or feel accomplished in life and that theres more to life than being with a man but i wish there were more posts like that telling wlw that they dont need to have a girlfriend to be happy too, bc i see so many wlw these days being upset and depressed about not having a girlfriend and and feeling like they are “missing out” on the wlw experience by not having a gf and either become sad 24/7 or keep jumping into relationships with other women coz they think that it is what they need to be happy. So this is @ all the lesbians, bi women n other wlw :
You are still amazing and not having a gf wont make you less lesbian/bi/wlw than other wlw who have girlfriends. Theres more to being a wlw than having a gf so you dont need to reduce your existence to being/not being in a relationship with another woman. You can still have a lot of fun as a wlw without having a girlfriend and dont let anyone tell you that you are somehow “incomplete” if you dont have a gf. Having a girlfriend wont automatically make your life perfect so dont rush into relationships with another girl hoping that it will make everything better. Live the wlw experience at your fullest instead of being miserable without a gf or with someone who is not good for you!
so i’ve been working on a reverse au where keith pilots the mission to kerberos instead of shiro for a few weeks and i’m so ridiculously excited about it. i’ve been plotting and writing like mad and i saw some incredible art for a similar reverse au concept today so i was inspired to share a bit of it.
Shiro doesn’t punch Iverson in the face, but it’s a close thing. Instead, he picks a fight with a wall and bandages his bruised, split-knuckled fist in the cool, lonely lamplight of his room. Interior decorating has never been high on the Garrison’s list of priorities.
Pilot error. It’s a thorn that’s burrowed itself in Shiro’s chest right making a home beside his heartbeat.
Pilot error. From Keith. Keith who had blasted through Shiro’s best scores the moment he stepped into the sim; Keith who had forced the garrison engineers to reprogram their test flights; Keith who took to the crags and canyons of the nearby desert like they were nothing but gentle hills and valleys; Keith—the youngest person to ever pilot a mission this deep into space; Keith who Shiro recommended take his place on the Kerberos mission when it became clear that the cast holding Shiro’s left leg in place wouldn’t come off in time.
Keith who was gone.
The cast came off. The bones healed, but there were bruises and scars buried deep beneath his skin, and there was no cast that could fix those fractures—no cast that could hold Shiro together.
Should have expected it from Kogane, they whispered. Never should have picked a hothead like him to pilot the mission. When you fly too close to the sun, you’re gonna get burned, they sneered.
But they were wrong; Keith was—is, Shiro’s heart whispers—the sun. Bright, beautiful, and unfailingly accurate in charting its course across the sky.
Shiro knows Keith, knows that he’s no Icarus. Shiro also knows a lie when he hears one.
He drifts through the rest of his day, looking away when he sees a cadet that looks too much like Matt for him keep his face from cracking. He has to get out of here.
PETER PAN (lol, sorry) by J. M. BARRIE and all variations thereof, but especially:
Alias Hook by Lisa Jensen, which is like Peter Pan meets Outlander from James Hook’s POV
Peter Darling by Austin Chant, which is queer grown up Peter/Hook
Peter Pan (2003) is my favourite straight up adaptation, with lots of Jason Isaacs being the single best and ridiculously sexy Hook EVER
Hook (1991), which is and will always be bangarang
Sodomy and the Pirate Tradition: English Sea Rovers in the Seventeenth-Century Caribbean by B. R. Burg, if you fancy paying an arm and a leg for what essentially amounts to a copy of someone’s Master’s thesis from the 1980s. (it was pretty good though.)
I should probably recommend Bloody Jack: Being an Account of the Curious Adventures of Mary “Jacky” Faber, Ship’s Boy by L. A. Meyer on behalf of Nicole, because she’s been telling me to read it for actual years at this point.
The Abyss Surrounds Us and The Edge of the Abyss by Emily Skrutskie are really cool futuristic Waterworld-esque sea monster lesbian pirate books, and I friggin’ loved ‘em.
I’m definitely going to read Brethren by W. A. Hoffman, a classiqué m/m pirate book, mainly because I read the goodreads reviews and one person was like ‘ugh it’s 100 pages before they even meet each other!’ and another was like ‘ugh it’s basically just every pirate AU ever!’ and IMHO neither of those things belong in the con column.
I’m giving BLACK SAILS its own bullet point as well, because how good this show is… truly cannot be overstated. it’s overwhelmingly queer, contains two (2) canon poly relationships, and is hands down some of the best storytelling I’ve ever seen on tv. the best way I’ve ever seen it described is: ‘black sails episode 1: “money gets my pussy wet”
black sails season 4: is intersectional revolution compatible with personal happiness?’ and that’s just… so real. it is absolutely stunning. PIRATES!
this arrangement of The Parson’s Farewell by Bear McCreary is from Black Sails – listen to the whole thing with your eyes closed and picture noble pirates rallying against the British Empire for love. you are Welcome.
I know that Johnny Depp makes us all furious now, but the first Pirates of the Caribbean still bangs. if you don’t want to look at him (understandable), then just listen to this. I’ve never wanted to climb a rigging more in my life than I do when I listen to this song.
I would like to present to you the following concept:
A modern-day, post-uni domestic AU (albeit with shinier, techier
prosthetics) where Jamison and Satya have known each other for about five or
six years since meeting at university.
Jamison is a mechanic at the shop across the city, and Satya works
for a prestigious company. They are good friends and mesh surprisingly well. A
year or two into their friendship proper, Satya had encouraged him to seek a
diagnosis for ADHD after learning about his struggles in class, which had
resulted in him realizing a whole lot about himself. He’d thanked her by
offering her samples of his cooking, and that led to the monthly evening where
they’d both show off meals from home.
(They both love spicy food. Satya tries
to make him sob with hot curry. It never works.)
deltora quest begins with jarred wishing to explore beyond the palace and concludes with doom traveling through deltora, and i’m just so happy that after everything he’s forced to endure, he finally gets his childhood desire.
As an Art Hisorian I am devastated by what is happening in Paris. I understand that nothing is forever and these things happen, and I have nothing really to say on the matter that hasn’t already been said by those more articulate than me.
I just wanted to share some pictures I took two summers ago when I was at Notre Dame. She has always been special, and I know this in no way approximates what it’s like to actually be there, but it’s what I have.
They music for Taz Amnesty is just so gooooood, man…like, it has a completely different sound from Balance,cause that had a more synthetic sound (idk much about actual music theory, sorry. I still love the music though) while Amnesty feels a lot more realistic and subdued and relaxed, until the Abominations show up and it gets really tense and string-y and i love it! The songs really take me into the world, it feels like Amnesty takes place in reality, and i love it.
One of my characters is a demon, a succubus, who takes the form of a past lover: a young black woman. She's asexual, a playful flirt, and cares deeply about her appearance. I've read all the bits on your blog I can find that pertains to oversexualizing and fetishization (and a lot more, thank you for creating this resource), and have done some research on my own, but I'd still like to ask if there's anything specific I should stay away from.
Black Asexual Succubus
Ohh I like this idea! Since the question is really broad I’m not sure how to answer other than what you probably already know. Do your research on the relevant topics and find appropriate sensitivity readers.
Hmm, and general tips…
I guess that would be to stay away from food descriptors unless you want someone to be fetishistic to her (as in a character uses food descriptors, not the narrator, and is not endorsed by the narrator as okay).
She can be sensual, sexual, all of that, but not all the time.
Show her having different sides and being a well-rounded character.
Robert quite naturally was concerned that any slipup on
Sally’s part would undoubtably lead to him. His concerns magnified
when Loyalist officers began living in the Townsend home, but his
apprehensions escalated in November 1778, when Simcoe began living
there. He knew by reputation that Simcoe was no fool, and worse yet, he
could be ruthlessly brutal. Even more worrisome to Townsend was the
knowledge that Simcoe’s mission included ferreting out enemy espionage
activities on Long Island. In short, the spy hunter was living in the
home of the spy he was pursuing. Townsend was worried that any misstep
by himself or Sally would place all the Townsend’s in danger. Long
Island historians like Frances Irwin maintain that Sally had been
passing information to Robert for some time, and she continued to do so
with intelligence that she gleaned from her association with Simcoe and
other Loyalists in the Oyster Bay area. But no one was more aware than
her brother Robert of the disastrous consequences her discovery would
have on the Townsend family and indeed on the Culper Ring. — Paul R. Misencik