Serious question: how was life before you came out to everyone? I’ve been following you since 4eva (ily and I can’t escape this app what can I say) and I remember you coming out like your first year in college. How was it before that? Did you come out all at once or tell a few people along the way? How did the ppl closest to you take it? Did you end up losing anyone you loved because of your sexuality? I’m thinking of coming out soon, and there are just so many things that could happen I’m 😩
In general, life before coming out was actually pretty good. Aside from how much I struggled with being closeted highschool was really enjoyable.
I didn’t tell a single person before college which i regret, and if i could do it over i would’ve come out to everyone, but hey, theres no point in dwelling on the past
Everyone I told was actually extremely supportive. I started off by personally telling a few people who were close to me then i just made a post on insta. I actually got a huggge flood of comments & texts from people I went to highschool with showing me support. One guy who even kinda bullied me throughout my childhood-highschool texted me and apologized and wished me all the best which was surprising but really nice.
But I know exactly how you feel. When I was closeted I had so much anxiety about the thought of coming out and felt so trapped and every homophobic comment, no matter how little, that people around me said was just another nail on my closet door. But coming out was the most liberating thing I’ve done in my life and even if I did lose relationships in the process, I think the feeling of being able to live my life unapologetic of who I am would outweigh it.
I really hope this was helpful, and if you ever want more advice my ask/messages are always open :)