therefor i am in a book

my fav trope is like, nonhuman characters not understanding human needs/customs but still being super supportive of their human companion

“look what I found while exploring this planet’s surface!” “kilrak please I’m trying to sleep” “ah yes your human circadian rhythm. *stage whispering* I am supposed to be quiet during this time in your rhythm, yes?”

“the book I purchased on ragnok V says humans require physical touch when upset. therefore, I shall engage in a ‘hug’ with you.” *supremely awkward five-armed hug ensues*

*human sneezes* “OH MY GOD SIL'EEN GET THE MEDIC OUR HUMAN IS DYING”

“this pamphlet I received recently says that humans require companions and packmates in the form of small earth creatures. you should have told me this before we departed earth, but it is no worry. we will have to stop at the next trade planet to get you one of these ‘cats’ or 'dogs’.”

guys, we need to talk about eowyn

So I get really narky when people pull the whole ‘oh Eowyn’s storyline came to such a sucky ending; she was really cool going around killing orcs and Witch-Kings and then she got shoved into a traditional girly role by marrying Faramir and becoming a healer’ thing, because no. No-no-no-no-no. Not only does that stray dangerously into the territory of ‘women only have worth if they’re doing traditionally blokey things’, but that misses almost the entire point of Lord of the Rings.

Tolkien was in the trenches in the first world war, right? He got all that ‘for death and glory’ shit shoved down his throat, that was the whole point about the war, it was when so many people came to see how awful and misleading all the propaganda about winning glory through violence and death was. And Tolkien’s work completely shows that: it’s why the hobbits, who’ve never craved power or battle the way men do, are the heroes of the book; it’s why strong men like Aragorn and Faramir are shown to be lovers of peace rather than war. It’s why the quote - but I do not love the bright sword for its sharpness, nor the arrow for its swiftness, nor the warrior for his glory; I love only that which they defend – is so poignant and beautiful, when seen in the context of all Tolkien had gone through. He’d seen all but one of his closest friends die in an utterly pointless war; the prevalent message in his books is ‘if you’re going to have that many people die, let it be for something worth dying for.’ (Like defending your home from the lord of all darkness, for example.)

And Eowyn might be a fantastic female character, but she’s also got so much development to go through, and she’s by no means perfect. I find it really interesting that when Eowyn talks to Aragorn about wanting to go off and fight she never really actually mentions protecting her people, but speaks about wanting to ‘face peril and battle’, and to do ‘great deeds’. And it’s not that Eowyn doesn’t want to protect her people, because of course she does, but she’s also got such a driving motivation within her to do glorious and fell deeds simply for the sake of valour and renown. It’s one of her defining features, having an attitude that got so many young men killed in the war and which, obviously, Tolkien would have been very wary of.

(Also, I think, there’s so much in Eowyn that wants to prove herself to be more than ‘a mere woman’; because twice in that conversation she asserts that she’s no mere ‘dry-nurse’ or ‘serving-woman’, but a member of the house of Eorl and therefore capable of greater things. There’s almost this slight sense of Eowyn considering herself more than ‘just’ a domesticated woman that I sometimes get from her in the books? Which is very sad - the idea of Eowyn having less regard for others of her sex who do mind the house or raise the children - and why I so love that ‘I am no man’ moment in RotK. Eowyn’s no longer hiding herself, or dismissing fellow women as the weaker sex, but acknowledging and embracing the fact that women in all their forms can fuck you up.)

And then we reach the Houses of Healing, and Eowyn yearning for death in battle just like her Uncle Theoden, and basically buying into that whole world war one ethos that Tolkien would have considered so poisonous. Which is why her friendship and courtship with Faramir is so fricking beautiful. Remember that quote I wrote earlier? That’s from Faramir. He’s not backing down from conflict, he’s in no way less of a ‘real man’ than anyone else; he’s just saying there needs to be more to the fight than simply having a fight. There needs to be a reason; something worth fighting for. Eowyn recognises that Faramir is a good man in every sense of the word: he’s strong and valiant, but he doesn’t fight simply to prove himself or for the sake of winning glory, he fights for other people. And Faramir gently challenges Eowyn on her idolisation of battle-glory and encourages her not to scorn gentleness or peace, and he’s so freaking good for her.

(Seriously. Can we just stop for a moment and think about how wonderful Eowyn and Faramir are for each other: Faramir encouraging Eowyn to turn towards life and healing and openness while never denying her strength or courage, and Eowyn giving Faramir the validation and security he never got after so many years of an awful relationship with his father? I honestly don’t know why I don’t get all giddy about these two more often, because they make the very best otp.)

And the result of the departure of the Shadow and her friendship with Faramir is Eowyn’s decision that ‘I will be a shieldmaiden no longer, nor vie with the great Riders, nor take joy only in the songs of slaying. I will be a healer, and love all things that grow and are not barren.’

I think that last bit is so important because I’m certain that Tolkien doesn’t mean for Eowyn to immediately pack up her sword and shield and become a good girl sitting at home with her knitting and waiting for the men to return home after the fight – after all, she’s going to be the wife of the Steward of Gondor and there’s a lot of mess to clean up after the War of the Ring. Eowyn’s probably still going to find herself defending hearth and home from time to time. But the important thing is that she’s no longer defining herself simply by the doing of valiant deeds; she’ll no longer compare herself to the great warriors of her house and feel lacking simply because she hasn’t killed as many men. Most importantly, she’s not going to take joy only in the songs of the slaying, in destruction and death. Tolkien was all about healers symbolising life and rebirth, and Eowyn’s decision to become one – to aid in the preservation of life rather than the taking of it – is so beautiful. I don’t think Tolkien ever wrote Eowyn’s ending to make her reclaim her ‘lost femininity’; I think it’s a lovely way of adding to the ever-present theme in Lord of the Rings of hope and frailty and healing and friendship over glory and battle and strife.

Can you relate??

Do you ever just have that one character in a TV show/Movie/Book that you love so much and just can’t seem to handle seeing them with another character. Therefore you literally ship them with no one. And it’s not even about the character they are being shipped with or about the ship itself, you’re just so invested in the character that your heart just shatters when you see them with someone else. Even though you know you have absolutely no chance with them, you’re still so possessive. Guys please reblog and say u agree or else i am going to check myself into a mental hospital because I’ve been going crazy thinking about this and if no one can relate than that will prove how fucked up i am.

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PS These are just a few of the characters. 

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Are you overcomplicating astral travel?

Here’s the thing: By far the most common question I get from people is “how do I astral?” Which is, well, a big question. It begs other questions, like:

>Why do you want to travel

>WHERE do you want to travel

>Do you have jobs you need to do over there or are you gonna hang out

etc etc

But here’s the thing: Often people decide to travel, and then they get stuck. They try a method they maybe heard about once, and it doesn’t work, so maybe they research another method. Maybe they pick up a book on the topic, maybe the book tells them “you’ll know you’re astral traveling when you can rise out of your body and see it on your bed.”

BOOM. Imma stop you for a minute.

There it is. This is the moment the Gold Standard™ for the new person gets set in stone. The mind now says “If I’m not hovering above my body with full range of vision, I’m not Traveling, with a capital T.”

So now we have this goal. The person may feel a little more confident because there is a road map in front of them, and that map may have steps, often detailed by a book author, or maybe even a blogger here on tumblr. Maybe the person tries the steps, and fails. Maybe it takes months. Maybe it takes years, but eventually, maybe the person gets frustrated, and they give up.

“I just can’t travel”, they say, truly discouraged, or “I’m just not meant for this, if I was, I would have been hovering outside my body by now.” They maybe pack up the books and leave it be.

Perhaps you see people on tumblr or blogs that talk about full blown OBE or extreme situations, and then you internalize THEIR gold standard, and then you fail to achieve the standard. Same situation applies.

Imma stop you right here. What happened?

  1. Person decided they wanted to travel
  2. Person researched or was told what “authentic” travel looks like
  3. Person attempted to reach the “authentic” standard
  4. Person failed, and then
  5. Assumed they were not meant to travel, due to their failure to reach “Authentic Travel”.

BUT

Here’s the secret, my bros:

1. There is no one form of “authentic” astral travel. You will find this is an epidemic with older books on the astral, when astral “travel” or astral living was equated on a wide scale with your classic OBE, or Out Of Body Experience. So in reality, what many people are trying to achieve, when they want to travel, is an OBE. Based on what books/people tell them. But that is FAR from the only way to astral–in my case, for example, I’ve never achieved full OBE–and not for lack of years of trying. (Because I thought that was How One Astral Traveled)

1-A. THERE ARE MANY FORMS OF ASTRALING BESIDES “TRAVEL”. I don’t travel because I lead an astral double-life–I “tune in”. An OBE is wrong for my circumstances, and if I would have learned that sooner, it would have helped me a lot. There are people that astral-trip only in dreams! People that astral-trip only while DAYDREAMING! People that mentally trip but never leave awareness of their body, people who can’t “see” anything there but hear everything perfectly, people who can only see the astral in black and white, people without a “form” or a body, people with only a bizarre pinprick field of vision! HONESTLY IT’S ENDLESS. Learn your style!

2. Because there is no one form of “authentic” astraling–there is no ONE WAY to achieve the travel! If you fail at going OBE, there may be a perfectly good reason you aren’t suited to that route! The failure here also lies on authors and books that imply there IS one way of authentic travel, and therefore, the user is set up for a failure situation a lot of the time. (And for example, OBE LEAVES your body open for attack or walk-ins in a lot of cases–did you ever think this was your natural energy defense system preventing you from leaving yourself a shell?)

3. Your way of travel is probably NOT going to match someone else’s, so you absolutely need to drop the gold standard now. I am NOT telling you to give up on discernment, because that will keep you alive when you reach the astral. I am telling you that if you have lofty expectations of what the astral is going to be like for you based on someone you’ve read (including me!) you need to drop it before you go, because it’s likely to fuck you up. I have listened to hundreds of different astral experiences, and I co-run the astral atlas–it’s all remarkably different for each individual based on your needs and jobs.

4. Your ideas of the astral are probably going to get blown out of the water when you get there anyway. Know this. Expect it. It will constantly surprise you and remind you that this isn’t In Your Head, and in doing so it will shatter your ideas of what it is, over and over again. 

5. Stop complicating things. If I had a nickel for every time person that came to me and asked why they can’t astral, and I gave them the idea of “Well, did you try opening a door?” and then the look of revelation descended, I’d be rich. This is not a blame on you, because I don’t blame you for this over-complication thing. We’re humans, we like to complicate everything, it makes us happy and whatnot. It makes me almost tremendously happy to shroud things in pomp and circumstance. But seriously–have you tried opening a door? Like. Visualize a door, and then open it, and then walk through. That’s how I first got to the astral.

After weeks of trying and doing all this complex shit, eventually I was told to visualize a door, and walk through. And then I was fucking there.

(Can you imagine how pissed I was, though. Like wtf I WAS TOLD MY ENTRANCE WAS TO BE GRANDIOSE AND MAGNIFICENT, not a fucking shitty wooden-ass door with nobody around to see me. Harumph, I said. I ended up in an empty field in fuck-all nowhere, if you wanted to know.)

I’m not saying it’s always easy to get to the astral. It has ways of keeping you out (or in) inside mental spaces or white rooms until you’re ready to be out on your own. This is where discernment and patience come in. But I AM saying if you find yourself failing over and over again at this thing, ask: Is it because you have an unconscious Gold Standard? Analyze why. And then, let it go. Because it’s not going to help you, it’s just going to make you anxious and perpetuate the failure cycle, trust me. And then ask: Am I overcomplicating my approach/expectations because of my gold standard? Analyze that, let it go.

Then, try an amazingly simple thing like opening a door, and stop cutting yourself off at the pass, and just let it happen.

You might be surprised at the results.

(This post is aimed at people who a) WANT to astral and b) have a hard time doing so for unknown reasons. It is not suggesting everyone should astral if they don’t want to or have no interest, if that wasn’t self-evident.)

The "Myth" of Black Love

Let me start off by saying that I got inspiration for this post from another post about the disillusionment of a black woman about dating within the black community, expressing that too many black men aren’t attracted to black women and ideally go for non black women. Which got me thinking that with all this recent promotion of black couples via social media, I feel like we can’t just focus on the pros of black love, but we must also bring to light the darker, behind the scenes reality for black women finding love among black men who directly and indirectly express their refusal to be with black women.

I get it, the praise for black love has to do with unifying the black community by saying, “See, black men and women DO love each other.” And yes, I believe it. I don’t believe the photos I see of black couples on social media are fake or anything, but can we also bring to light female black singles and how their singleness is affected by the presence of misogyny noir and anti blackness among black men? Dating in general is hard, but imagine how dating is as not only a black person, but a black woman who does not fit Eurocentric beauty standards (such as light skin, light eyes, loose hair, slim facial features, etc.) Often times I commonly see these types of “conventionally” attractive black women paired up with black men more so than mono-racial looking black women - I wonder why?

As a mono-racial, dark skinned black woman who grew up in predominantly white spaces, from my own experiences on and offline, I can confidently say that a lot of black men don’t consider me to necessarily be their “ideal” type based off black and white standards of beauty, and I feel like black and white standards of beauty go hand in hand for obvious reasons having to do with cultural assimilation, a history of colonization, and so on. Which brings me right to another point I’d like to make about looks equating to superiority or inferiority. Sure, you can’t judge a book by the cover yet too often black men do so, falling prone to the stereotypes associated with non black ethnicities of women - so it’s not just about non black women meeting a Eurocentric standard of beauty easier than most black women. It’s also about how black men view them as less “controlling” than black women, therefore more agreeable and “nicer” JUST due to ethnicity and ethnicity alone. Mind you, I’m not saying black men who date outside their ethnicity all have agendas behind their attractions, BUT I am still iffy about their reasonings for “racial preferences.” I think now is a good time to quote myself from the post about the disillusioned black woman:

“And whenever I see a black woman who exclusively dates outside the black community I feel like it’s not for the same reasons black men often do it - for black women who either often or only date non black men I feel like I have more understanding for them because of the treatment they receive from black men who often have no issue with voicing how undesirable black women are to them. That gives black women more authority of their love lives by expanding their dating pool (since the lot of black women go for black mates) vs. black men who often go for non black women for superficial, anti black reasons rooted in sexism. So when a black woman says “I don’t date black dudes” I don’t see it as excusable but at the same time I understand her reasons for doing so more than a black man refusing to date black women. I feel like black women are often looking for genuine love, the kind of love too many black men can’t give them because of their racial baggage, while said black men are oftentimes looking for trophies to use to spite black women and make non black men “envy” them for “stealing” their women.”

You read it right. I do feel like a lot of black men aren’t capable of loving black women the way they need to be loved, which has to do with seeing their blackness in the same way that they see their own and not letting gender be the deciding factor concerning superiority vs. inferiority, especially if said black women don’t fit the Eurocentric standard of beauty. I will say that non black men aren’t the “golden ticket” of black women in order for them to find love - there’s undeniably issues of anti blackness and sexism in all communities. But at the same time since non black men aren’t hit the hardest by racism, since anti blackness is global, they do have less baggage from that and less pressure to socially conform in my eyes. Because really, I believe more non black men are attracted to black women more so than they let on, it’s just that their cultural ties such as pleasing family and community hold them back from acting on this attraction confidently.

We really do need to have a real conversation about misogyny noir alongside “black love.” Because part of the way black men are going to love black women unconditionally has to do with an awareness of their own social conditioning and their own perceptions of black womanhood.

yall: as someone who has been ~professionally diagnosed~ with borderline personality disorder, its NOT manipulative to have a fp. this goes for everyone who has bpd: self dx or pro, psychotherapy or no, u cannot control the way u react to situations bc lemme explain something about bpd:

(if it helps, this is literally confirmed by the hospital that treats me and my psychiatrist):

borderline personality disorder is formed by one’s upbringing, by trauma or by a series of traumatic events,, ur brain develops differently than a normal person’s because ur constantly on the defensive! this is why we have the black/white thinking, why we are impulsive, why we have a lot of anxiety all the time, why we’re so exhausted ,, our brains are on constant DEFENSE mode and its not something we can turn off: we can only deal with the symptoms (i.e take medication for the anxiety, treat impulsivity, etc). people with bpd have a VERY hard time molding into a societal “healthy” behavior because since we are constantly on defense mode, our instincts differ from a normal person’s.

now about the fp (favorite person(s), if u dont know): people with borderline personality disorder tend to idealize and imprint on a person or a small group of people they admire, because they crave validation and they feel like they Die without it. (im using they to make it easier, but I HAVE BEEN DIAGNOSED AND AM BEING TREATED FOR BPD). a lot of borderlines do not tell their fp(s) they are their fp, but it does not change the fact that its still a process that goes on internally and that they do have emotional dependance on people, characters, etc (note: a fp can be a tv personality, a book protagonist, an anime character etc. the fp doesnt have to physically exist to be a fp).

all this being said, it is factually incorrect to say that having a fp is inherently abusive, not to mention extremely harmful to the people who ate trying to manage their bpd and have fp(s), telling them that imprinting on a person is abusive when a lot of borderlines experience abuse from multiple sources can in fact cause an immense amount of guilt and self hatred that could cause a borderline to hurt themselves and/or isolate themselves from the people they love out of fear they’re being abusive. THAT IS NOT PRODUCTIVE.

having a fp, imprinting on someone, being emotionally dependent on an individual is NOT abusive or manipulative. a person with bpd is not Bad for having a fp(s). i chose to tell my boyfriend he’s my fp, but that’s just me. call me abusive all you like. in my humble onion, and this is also the opinion of a lot of professionals, it is GOOD to tell the people close to you about your symptoms and why you act the way you do, so they can be more understanding when you act impulsively or erratically and they cant fully comprehend why you are acting that way, because its not the way a healthy person would act.

like, should i apologize to juliette from the shatter me books for being my fp and am i being manipulative to a character because i imprinted on them? that’s plain ridiculous and you should feel ashamed for ever perpetuating the idea that an uncontrollable symptom of borderline personality disorder is inherently abusive because that means that you are calling my PERSONALITY abusive, something that i cannot control or cure with any amount of psychotherapy and medication, and therefore you yourself are being abusive. funny how that works, huh?

This is the seventh installment in a series of book recommendations, all of which will introduce you to kickass women from mythologies around the world, all of them written by women. All books listed had to pass the following criteria: 

  • Be written by a woman
  • Be fictional
  • Have a woman as (one of) the protagonist(s)
  • Feature Russian or Slavic mythology

This recommendation list comes on the heels of the Asian mythology rec list, because I really wanted to include Russia (which falls under both Asian and Slavic mythology), but I wanted to keep the country as a whole in one post. @kostromas (x) and @lamus-dworski (x) (x) were kind enough to take some time answering my questions.

While I mainly looked for books ft. Russian and Slavic mythologies (I used this Wiki file as a measure to determine the Slavic region), I also include a few books with other origins, such as Norway and various Eastern European countries, because I think - out of all the recommendation posts I have done and plan to do - this is the one they would fit best in. 

Please note as well that there is a lot of overlap among most of these cultures, with different versions of a character appearing in many, so some of the below classifications may be rather arbitrary (I usually go with what’s 1) listed in the summary, then see if 2) the writer specifies a culture, or if 3) readers had helpful input).

UPDATE: It’s been brought to my attention that this post could do with some clarification and additions. To start with, I’d like to address the small number of books listed under Slavic. I don’t mean to say that only the countries listed are Slavic countries. The list is as limited as it is because I found it difficult to locate books that met all the above listed criteria, and an unconscious fifth - that they be written in English. If you take out any one of those criteria, a larger pool of books would open itself up, and I encourage you to consider that as an option.

While I understand that limiting these lists to books written in or translated into English is not ideal, I also don’t think I am the right person to judge which books written in Slavic languages should be included, as I am not Slavic and don’t speak or read Slavic languages. Readers should be aware though, that reading a book featuring Slavic mythologies or cultures, which are not written by someone who identifies as Slavic, may promote a stereotypical or otherwise harmful depiction of those cultures. 

Moreover, those authors who do hail from the relevant region are more likely to be published if they don’t push the envelope too much to be acceptable for a generic Western audience. Therefore, additional reading of books on and / or featuring Slavic mythologies or cultures can aid in understanding the context of these tales. I have listed a couple of books in the honourable mentions with that in mind, and I have decided to add an asterisk (*) to all works written by an author who is confirmed as hailing from the region their work is set in. Typically, I’ve listed one or two books per author, but do check for their other writing.

Finally, I should add that I might have made a mistake in including Russia in this list. This was done because I wanted to keep the country in one post, rather than splitting it between the Asian list and this one. The Asian one was sufficiently long I didn’t want to add it there, but I might have been better off creating a completely separate list for it rather than including it here.

With the above reasons in mind, I have decided to move the Slavic section up, I have added a number of entries throughout, and expanded the resources list at the bottom.

Slavic

Russia

Other regions (not Slavic or Russian)

Undefined / speculative

Historical fiction

Comics & graphic novels

Some collected tales

Poetry

Honourable mentions

Other lists you can consult

If you have any suggestions for other Slavic and / or Russian women who deserve more attention (and a corresponding book), or which mythology should definitely be in this series, drop me a line!

Other kickass women in mythology: women in Greek mythology | women in Egyptian mythology & historywomen in Mesoamerican mythologies | women in Celtic mythologies | women in Native American mythologies | women in Asian mythologies | women in pirate lore & history


“I am bisexual, but I can’t come out in the countryside environment where I live. Most people I know have a very negative attitude towards LGBT-people and I’m scared of being outcasted and looked down upon. I will stay as deep into the closet as I can until I move away to study.“ *closes book* "This isn’t my story, but the story of a 18 y/o from Telemark (a county in the southern part of Norway). He doesn’t dare go in the Pride-parade, therefore I thought I’d go for him”

My doctor says that I have a malformed public-duty gland and a natural deficiency in moral fibre and that I am therefore excused from saving universes.
— 

Ford Prefect (the bestestestest of all characters in any story in the world IMO) in “Life, the Universe and everything” by Douglas Adams.


I’m still waiting for the right moment to quote this at someone who really can’t expect me to save the universe for him/her.

Usually I just go with “I would love to stay and help, … only I’m not going to,” (which is another quote by Ford Prefect, same book)

Motion to tone down the “I am the heroine of this YA Fantasy Novel and therefore I hate / do not understand makeup and will only wear a dress when forced” thing. Like excuse me but you can bet that if I’m trying to take down a corrupt monarchy alongside a bunch of elves I will be wearing my maroon lipstick because it takes 4 seconds to apply and if I were an evil goblin king and someone came at me with maroon lipstick and two swords I wouldn’t be running I would just be gone.

[W]hen I was young I wrote a letter to J.R.R. Tolkien, just as he was becoming extravagantly famous. I think the book that impressed me was Smith of Wootton Major. Mine must have been among hundreds or thousands of letters he received every week. I got a reply. It might have been dictated. For all I know, it might have been typed to a format. But it was signed. He must have had a sackful of letters from every commune and university in the world, written by people whose children are now grown-up and trying to make a normal life while being named Galadriel or Moonchild. It wasn’t as if I’d said a lot. There were no numbered questions. I just said that I’d enjoyed the book very much. And he said thank you. For a moment, it achieved the most basic and treasured of human communications: you are real, and therefore so am I.
—  Terry Pratchett, A Slip of the Keyboard: Collected Non-Fiction
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All 801 Pokemon Caught!

Along with binge-watching Netflix’s Iron Fist, I also spent the weekend finishing the Pokemon Sun and Moon Pokedex! As soon as Marshadow is released in a future Pokemon Event, I will be at 802 Pokemon! 

Important things to note:

  • In addition to all 801 individual Pokemon, I captured some additional Pokemon that had distinct type or style variations (ie. Wormadam, Shellos and Gastrodon, Unfezant, Basculin, Frillish and Jellicant, Pyroar, Meowstic, Zygarde, Oricorio, Lycanroc). I didn’t go for those Pokemon that had a crazy amount of variations like Unown, Vivillon, and Minior. 
  • I did capture all the Alola forms, which I placed near their non-Alola counterparts. 
  • I have two Charizards for both Mega Evolutions X and Y. I got a third shiny Charizard during Sun and Moon, which I am holding onto in my party (therefore not featured). 
  • I also have two Gyarados, one normal and one shiny (featured) 
  • Pokemon Sun and Moon does not give you a certificate or an additional passport page for completing the entire National Pokedex, so I upload the Alola Pokedex certificate instead. 

I honestly don’t know what to do with myself now. Maybe I’ll read a book. Lol. 

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attention all chris fans!!

so the gifs basically say it all, but the wonderful @crystalsmarie and @hoiychriswood on twitter have decided to put together a fan book for chris (which they will be giving him in person in london this month!!) so if you have any questions please dm either twitter because i am just a fellow fan who wants to spread positivity and the word around about this amazing opportunity.

recently chris has been the target of a lot of hate (undeserving of course) and for reasons we’re not entirely sure of he has become basically inactive on social media, and therefore more than likely isn’t seeing the love and respect he has from his fans, which is a shame because he is so loved and supported by us all. so this is such a great time to let chris know how you feel about him, why you love him or even if you just want to say hello. please don’t miss this opportunity because chris will be receiving this fan book in person and i’m sure he’ll be appreciative and happy to know how loved he is.

the deadline to send your message to @crystalsmarie or @hoiychriswood is the 20th of may and please send your message by DM. 

please reblog and spread the word because i think we all agree as a fandom that chris deserves to know how loved he is!!

Verses for when you doubt God’s love:

1 John 4:10 (NKJV)
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.  

Sometimes we fall under the very wrong assumption that God values one person more than He does another, or that His love for us is conditional based on how “good” of a Christian we are. Maybe that’s due to experiences we’ve had with the people around us, or just simply placing too much emphasize on our actions as opposed to God’s character.
I’ll let you in on a little secret though; you can’t earn God’s love. Even if you were to intentionally do everything in your power to grieve Him, He’s still going to love you. He’s not an imperfect earthly parent, who may shower you with love one day and then voice how much of a disappointment you are to them the next.
God omniscient, so nothing you’ve ever done or said has been a surprise to Him but despite all of it, He still chose to create you. He still said, “I want her, I want him. They are going to stumble but I still want to be there to pick them back up again.”

God loved you at your worst:
Romans 5:8
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Ephesians 2:4-5
But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved),

1 Timothy 1:15
This is a faithful saying and worthy of all acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am chief.

Colossians 1:21-22
And you, who once were alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now He has reconciled in the body of His flesh through death, to present you holy, and blameless, and above reproach in His sight—

Nothing can separate you from His love:
Romans 8:38-39
For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Jeremiah 31:3
The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying: “Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.

John 3:16-17
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.  For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.


Isaiah 54:10
“For the mountains shall depart and the hills be removed, but My kindness shall not depart from you, nor shall My covenant of peace be removed,” Says the Lord, who has mercy on you.


John 6:37
All that the Father gives Me will come to Me, and the one who comes to Me I will by no means cast out.


He values you:
Zephaniah 3:17
The Lord your God in your midst,
The Mighty One, will save;
He will rejoice over you with gladness,
He will quiet you with His love,
He will rejoice over you with singing.”

Matthew 10:29-31
Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of  them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.


Isaiah 49:15-16
“Can a woman forget her nursing child, and not have compassion on the son of her womb? Surely they may forget, yet I will not forget you. See, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands; your walls are continually before Me.


Psalm 139:13-16
For You formed my inward parts; you covered me in my mother’s womb.  I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed and in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them.


Who He is:

1 John 4:8
He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

Malachi 3:6
“For I am the Lord, I do not change; Therefore you are not consumed, O sons of Jacob.”
(God doesn’t change. Therefore His love doesn’t change either)

1 John 4:16
And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.

Deuteronomy 7:9
Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love Him and keep His commandments, to a thousand generations.

Psalm 86:15
But you, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God,
slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22-23
Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not.They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.

Titus 3:4-5
But when the kindness and the love of God our Savior toward man appeared, not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit,

Death is not so bad come to think of it. It doesn’t hurt. One merely ceases to exist. Granted, the act of perishing might be uncomfortable depending on the circumstances. But in any case there will be fine and brave people willing to aid and alleviate this process, allowing for a relatively short timeframe of final deterioration. Even more so, provided that one is fortunately located and unimpeded by personal moral objections, one is allowed to put the final dot behind one’s own life’s sentence. Especially writers should appreciate this sentiment.
   
Factually there is nothing to fear about death. It is the clinging onto life’s virtues that pains us. The potential regret of not having lived it to the fullest; the having to say one’s final goodbye to loved ones. Yes, there may be hardship in the twilight of existence. But such is a product of life nonetheless. If ever you should fear the process of dying, remember you control the future intrinsic circumstances of your passing right now.
   
Befriend people. Be kind and do not hide your affection for anyone. Share the love in your heart uninhibitedly. After all, in the end all that matters is the people whom we have touched and the people whom have been so generous to touch us.
   
Live actively. Regret is but a product of should haves and could haves but didn'ts. Your wants and needs matter. You matter. As a matter of fact, if there ever was such a thing as purpose in life it would be to share your unadulterated self with the world. That you might cause that unique ripple in the pond of existence that only you can. Surely, in the boundlessness of space and time such will resonate for eternity.
  
It is quite soothing to know it will, though it also comes with a sense of responsibility exclusive to sentient beings; those who have evolved beyond an instinctual state of existence. It is the duty to actively seek to be oneself, and then be oneself unapologetically. Know that guilt and shame only spring from situations in which one reacts incongruently. So allow yourself to be unburdened.
   
Do not fear death. Use the fear that comes with its premise to find out what is truly important. Rejoice. You are alive. You are here with us. Grant us the gift of you, and claim your purposed place in the universe. In the end only you can make sure your passing will be with a smile of satisfaction. Right now is the only time to foster that smile’s preconditions. There has been but one time I have witnessed a passing in the serenity of fulfillment, I reckon it should not have to be so extraordinary.
   
I know these words are of little significance in the grander scheme of things, being but fluttering thoughts destined to be forgotten, but they are part of my ripple. Therefore, even if they remain unread, or will never be understood to their full extent, they are worthy of being uttered. I intend to live my life applying the same logic. That is my lesson. Or in other words, my grandfather’s last emitted ripple in the fabric of the universe. A resonance I am now merely echoing to the best of my efforts. Time will tell if it is the only earthly possession I have worth sharing. Take it.
—  Ripples, by M.A. Tempels © 2017
this is how you’ll make it.

Cry. Make it small, make it so loud the world can hear you, but don’t keep the pain in. Just let it all out by crying. Throw away those words that hurt you because whatever it says is not true. Ask your friends, family, or anyone who matters to you. Use it as a barricade. Replace the words that hurts with a more positive one. No you are not a waste, you are treasured. No you are not a failure, just a work in progress. Write it on the city walls. Live as if you are already those words you told yourself. Yes I am beautiful, I don’t need to be told twice. Yes I am brave, therefore I can do what I feared before. Eventually, those words who hurt you won’t matter anymore. Because who we are is who we believe we are, with the help of people who believe in who we are.

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Anne & Gilbert - Anne of Green Gables