there-are-other-things-that-bother-me-too

basic things you should know about your main characters
  • how is their relationship with their family
  • what are their beliefs, if they have any
  • what is their motivation (preferably something unrelated to their love interest/romantic feelings, bc people care about other things, too, kthx)
  • who were they raised to be vs. who they became/are becoming
  • what are their plans for the future, if they have any
  • how do they feel about themselves and how it affects their behaviour (i mean. you can’t tell me a character is shy then have them do things shy people wouldn’t do, like?????)
  • how do they feel about things they cannot control? 
  • and last but not least: 
  • WHY IS THIS CHARACTER THE PROTAGONIST
  • LBR DO THEY EVEN MATTER

ALSO what’s with biowares thing of putting misogynistic content in their game and then tearing down female characters to prove a point as if those characters made the clothing choices themselves… Like Miranda’s skin tight latex suit is an absolute mess and the designers fucking know that so they put some dialogue here and there calling her a slut because obviously she shouldn’t have put on that suit for battle. Jack wears nothing but a harness that covers her nipples in an entire game and it’s totally her fault like she shouldnt have made the choice to wear it, she says it herself, “it was stupid to run around Topless in a prison” okay but then why did you??? Because you’re a fictional character and the choices you make are actually made by some guy who wants to make u look sexy that’s why. Edi is subjected to comments that are textbook examples of sexual harassment because the game devs made her into a Sexy Female Robot™ and they know it’s a sexist approach so they call her a sex bot through the mouth of another character, because hey, we are aware that this is a sexist boring trope but we also want to attract dudebros. Like you’re either a misogynist or not you can’t aim to please sexist people and claim that you strive for progresiveness. Stop that shit and hire more women, non white and lgbt devs to your team because I’m tired of sexy women designed by straight men and lesbians written by straight men.

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The whole “Date A Girl Who Reads” thing has always bothered me, so I wrote a story about falling in love with the idea of a person and not with the person themselves, and that kind of superficial love that you can only have with a character archetype and not a real person, and how that kind of love will always fall apart at the slightest hint of reality. Hope y'all like it, and know that if you do like it, it would mean a lot to me if you reblogged it so that others could read it, too.

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SaturDIARY: I’M ON TV // Grace Helbig

Understanding Self-Loathing

Symptoms of self-loathing

People who struggle with depression or anxiety can often have a running internal monologue of self-loathing thoughts. Some of the following may be typical:

- I am worthless.

- I deserve the pain from my mistakes.

- I deserve to be treated poorly.

- I feel things differently than other people - they are better than I am.

- I am weak, pathetic, and too sensitive.

- I am stupid for being hurt by this, and people will laugh at me if I admit that I am hurting.

- I don’t deserve to be comforted.

- People just put up with me.

- I hurt everyone; people should stay away from me.

- People expect the worst of me; why bother trying?

- Everything I do is a disaster.

- I can’t live up to anyone’s expectations.

- I’m a failure at everything.

How to Interrupt Negative Self-Talk:

If you struggle with depression or self-loathing, it is important to see a therapist so that you can work together to find a combination of therapy and medication that can assist you. The following things are commonly used to interrupt negative self-talk and thoughts of despair and worthlessness:

- Treat yourself the way you treat your friends. You deserve better than hating yourself.

- Do something different - stand up, take a walk, sing - to interrupt the negative self-talk.

- Take a few moments and breathe deeply, breathing in your surroundings.

- Talk back to the negative self-talk. If it’s saying, “I’m worthless,” say “I’m awesome.”

- Talk with it; exaggerate whatever the negative self-talk. Either it’ll make you cry or laugh.

- Visualize yourself as a worthy person.

- Question the validity of the negative self-talk.

- Identify the reasons for the negative self-talk, write them down, then come up with reasons that the negative self-talk is wrong.

Source: http://bandbacktogether.com/self-loathing-self-hatred-resources/

Bakura: I WILL RUN IN FRONT OF THIS SPEEDING MOTORCYCLE, COMPLETELY TRUSTING THAT THE DRIVER WILL AVOID RUNNING ME OVER AND KILLING MY HOST.

EVEN THOUGH I SORT OF NEED HIM ALIVE AND I’VE GONE OUT OF MY WAY TO PROTECT HIM AT OTHER POINTS IN TIME AND LATER ON I WON’T EVEN LET HIM PLAY A CARD GAME BECAUSE IT’S TOO DANGEROUS.

BUT YEAH LET’S JUMP IN FRONT OF THIS PSYCHOPATH’S MOTORCYCLE AND HOPE HE’LL BOTHER TO STOP BEFORE SMEARING ME ON THE PAVEMENT. NOTHING CAN GO WRONG WITH THIS PLAN.

(Does Bakura even attempt to think things through or does he just do whatever feels right in the moment?)

Maybe, Possibly

Summary: Phil’s mother is adamant that he should be settling down, so invites one of his turbulent exes to an annual family get-together the following day. In a moment of panic, he tells her he’s already dating someone. With no other options, he turns to Dan.

Genre: Reality

Word Count: 9k

Warnings: Some swearing, references to alcohol

Read on ao3

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Symptoms of Self-Loathing

People who struggle with depression or anxiety can often have a running internal monologue of self-loathing thoughts. Some of the following may be typical:

- I am worthless.
- I deserve the pain from my mistakes.
- I deserve to be treated poorly.
- I feel things differently than other people - they are better than I am.
- I am weak, pathetic, and too sensitive.
- I am stupid for being hurt by this, and people will laugh at me if I admit that I am hurting.
- I don’t deserve to be comforted.
- People just put up with me.
- I hurt everyone; people should stay away from me.
- People expect the worst of me; why bother trying?
- Everything I do is a disaster.
- I can’t live up to anyone’s expectations.
- I’m a failure at everything.
How to Interrupt Negative Self-Talk:

If you struggle with depression or self-loathing, it is important to see a therapist so that you can work together to find a combination of therapy and medication that can assist you. The following things are commonly used to interrupt negative self-talk and thoughts of despair and worthlessness:
- Treat yourself the way you treat your friends. You deserve better than hating yourself.
- Do something different - stand up, take a walk, sing - to interrupt the negative self-talk.
- Take a few moments and breathe deeply, breathing in your surroundings.
- Talk back to the negative self-talk. If it’s saying, “I’m worthless,” say “I’m awesome.”
- Talk with it; exaggerate whatever the negative self-talk. Either it’ll make you cry or laugh.
- Visualize yourself as a worthy person.
- Question the validity of the negative self-talk.
- Identify the reasons for the negative self-talk, write them down, then come up with reasons that the negative self-talk is wrong.

Source: http://bandbacktogether.com/self-loathing-self-hatred-resources/

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SOMEBODY LIKE YOU

Rating: Teen

Pairing: Harry/Louis

Word count: 5k

Summary:

“Oh look at the time,” Louis says quickly, turning on his heel and rushing to the greenhouse door. He twists the handle and tugs on it a few times, yanking progressively harder. “Oi, Harry, if you’re the president, then you’re in charge of this shack, right? So why won’t the fucking door open?”

Harry carefully steps over the mess on the ground and heads to the door, giving the handle a twist and pulling as hard as he can. It’s a futile attempt because the door doesn’t budge, not that Harry thought it would. There’s no way Louis would have known to be careful with the door, and with the wind howling outside right now, shutting it gently would be near-impossible.

“It’s shut,” Harry says, giving it a final, firm yank. The door doesn’t move an inch.

Or, Harry and Louis are locked in a greenhouse.

written for the @hlspringexchange2016 // ao3 collection

Hi, in case you didn’t know, it is Ace Day! So in celebration, I made a Jedi with the asexual flag colors. So I guess I will say a few things about me for now.

I am Gray-Asexual, which means I rarely experience sexual attraction. I am Biromantic (bisexual too when I do feel attraction), which means that I can fall in love with and desire to date members of either sex. I am sex repulsed, which for me means that ideas of me having sex or other people having sex make me sick/bother me immensely.

Well that is it for this post. I will post another one for Ace Day later.

“I step back and remember at the end of the day, I’ve just got to do the best job that I know how to do and just be sincere and be honest, and try to do the right thing.”

Please Don't Use Themes from Jublieethemes

The owner has stolen coding from me, the owner of vulcanthemes (whole thing about that here), and certainly many others. She either ignores messages or acts out incredibly rudely.

Jubileethemes’s latest theme, “Precipitous” includes coding for the captions that I used on my old personal theme. I know the coding is mine because I researched for days how to center the captions vertically, and used a method that I had not seen previously in tumblr themes. Lo and behold, she uses it too (right after I make my coding legible), and doesn’t even bother to change the order of the lines of code. She ignored my message, but I can’t ignore her theft.

Tldr; Jubileethemes has stolen coding in the past and continues to do so. Please respect theme-makers and their hard work and don’t use her themes.

Bring the past back,
When youd kiss my forehead
And wipe every tears I shed

Bring the past Back,
When you used to hold my hand
Where we always do something unplanned

Bring the Past back,
When you used to Hug me so tight
When things back then was so light

Bring the Past Back,
When we still have each other
When nobody was ever a bother

Bring the past back,
When you had me
And I had you

Bring the past back,
When you said I love you
And I’d say I love you too

I’m really sorry I know deleting+reuploading pics must be super annoying but I had to choose a nicer shot bc the other picture bothered me especially my face u___u here you can actually see most of the outfit too! my face keeps doing the square thing tho so a lil heart to cover my boxface for everyone’s sake T 7 T

also!! skirt is from sweetsoulshop and you can get the same here!! ; 7 ;

Am I too much
for you to hold any longer
Is it that I’m too strong a whirlwind
am I mussing your hair, darling
Have I done too many little things
that could be beckoning
the flashing lights and wailing sirens
the ones that are only ever hunting other people
Does it bother you when she follows me
instead of you
or are you more concerned when I’m behind her
Are we simply drifting apart
like ships
ships untied from their docks
you see the problem with that is
it implies that we can’t tie ourselves
to one another
maybe we don’t want to
Maybe I’ve just gotten too dark
too deep
for you to grip my hand any farther
That’s alright, my old friend
I still love you
just maybe not the same
—  A.O.A.M. || Am I Losing You

Every time people here stress “WEEK [number]!!!!” of the X Factor to drive the point of Harry and Louis being smitten and gone from the beginning, I feel like writing this, but I always put it off.

Week 1 of the Live Shows was from 4 October till 10 October 2010. Harry and Louis met on 20 July and were put in the band on 23 July. The famous ‘bungalow’ was in August. Judges’ houses was in September. They moved to the X Factor house on 20 September.

By the time Week 1 rolled up, Harry and Louis had known each other for almost three months (11 weeks) and had lived together, sharing a room, for 2/3 weeks (not counting the bungalow and Spain, when they also lived together).

“They were still wearing name tags!!!” is also inaccurate. My guess is that the name tags were for the crew- The participants all knew each other already.

Yeah, they were smitten from the beginning, no doubt about it. But it’s really not worth the stressing, imo. They were 16/18. At that age, three months of knowing each other and basically living in each other’s pockets is a very normal time-frame to be completely gone for someone (at any age tbh, but at that age, even more).