Since as we all know Skam is ending tomorrow I
just wanted to take a moment to write a post thanking all the amazing people I’ve
met here and that have made the Skam experience so much better.
You know, I remember the exact moment when my
life here in Tumblr changed. It was the day that the last clip of episode 4x03
was about to air. I remember that I had this scene in my head and I decided to
write it and post it even though I’ve never really liked to share my writings
because I’ve always thought that I’m no good at it. I remember that after that
I went to the cinema and when I got out of it I checked Tumblr and I was
completely overwhelmed by the support and love you all showed to that drabble.
And after that I decided to post another fic and after that another one and
another one and another one until today.
Another meaningful moment for me was when I
decided to do the Skam Week. I remember being so crashed after episode 5 that I
thought I’d never write anything again but when I saw that everybody here in
Tumblr was as sad as I was I decided to try to make everyone feel a little bit
better and that’s how the Skam Week was born and let me tell you that I can’t
thank you all enough for the support that you showed me during that week. Just
the simple thought of one person taking the time to read something that I’ve
written, it still amazes me.
I can’t put into words how amazing and special
this season has been for me. Because I’ve had the chance to live it with all of
you and that have made the whole experience a lot better. The excitement I got
every time there was an update and I got to share my thoughts with you and you
share yours with mine that’s something I’ve never taken for granted and it’s
one of the things I’m going to miss the most.
I love Skam as a whole but this season has been
special for me because I’ve got to live the full experience, I’ve got to feel
the anxiety and excitement while waiting for an update, feel the frustration
when the update wasn’t what we expected, feel the joy when it was better than
we expected. I’ve cried, I’ve laughed, I’ve got angry and I’ve got happy and
what this season has made me feel no show has ever made me feel. And again, a
huge part of that is thanks to all of you who are here every day sharing this
experience with me, making me feel part of something.
When things went wrong in my life for whatever
reason, when I was overwhelmed or sad I’d just go in here and see your posts
and your messages and I would instantly get in a better mood. When I was too
tired to even write or to even think I’d tell myself “you have to do this, you
owe it to them”.
With all these what I want to say is THANK YOU.
Thank you, thank you and a thousand times thank you for being there to share
this experience with me, via fanfics, via posts, via direct messages, via anon
I’m not going to mention all the people that
has been there for me one by one because I’d never end but I want to thank each
of you who has taken a little bit of your time to read something I’ve posted,
being it a fic or not, who has taken the time to like, reblog, comment or send
me an ask. Thank you to everyone who has lived with me in my denial island
where everything was happy. Thank to all of you lovely people with who I’ve
been sharing conversations about Skam and about life via chats, you know who
you are and you’re all super important to me. Thank you to all of you who have
taken the time to translate the clips and the texts because without you, us
international fans wouldn’t be able to enjoy this amazing show.
And finally, thank you SKAM.
Thank you because when I say that this show has
taken over my life I swear I’m not exaggerating. This show has taken over my
life this season and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. And
especially Yousef and Sana’s relationship, I’ve never been so invested in a
ship in my life because what they made me feel, I can’t even put it into words,
it’s the purest relationship I’ve ever seen.
I know that once I watch the last clip I’m
going to feel like a part of me has been taken and I know it’s going to be
really hard to deal with the loss of Skam but I’m sure that we will survive
this because we are a family. And I’d like to take this chance to say that even
if tomorrow the clip isn’t what we would like it to be let’s all try to enjoy
it because it’s the last clip we’ll ever get and I want us to enjoy it
together, no wars, no fights.
Thank you Julie Andem for creating this show,
even if sometimes we’ve wanted to kill you, you’re an awesome writer and I’ve
never seen a more perfect show in my life. The way this show makes me feel with
one scene, with one look, with one sentence, with one song even with one text,
it’s something I’ve never felt with any other show.
Thank you Sana Bakkoush for teaching me that
hate doesn’t come from religion, it comes from fear. Thank you for teaching me
that we have to put other people first and we have to be nice to everyone even
when they wrong us. But also thank you for teaching me that we need to speak up
for ourselves and fight against the unfair. Thank you for represent all of us
who feel like we’re not the main character in our own lives. Thank you for
being the way you are and for teaching us to be tolerant and respectful and
that we should rather be true losers than fake winners.
Thank you Isak Valtersen for teaching me that
we’re not alone. Thank you for teaching me that life is now and that we should
rather live a true life than a fake one. Thank you for being the one who
introduced me to this amazing show.
Thank you Noora Amalie Sætre for teaching me
that everyone we meet is fighting a battle we know nothing about and to be
kind, always. Thank you for teaching me that people need people and that our
body needs potatoes.
Thank you Eva Kviig Mohn for teaching me that
our opinion of ourselves should be more important than the opinion people have
about us. Thank you for teaching me to forgive and to ask for forgiveness.
Thank you Vilde, Chris, Yousef, Elias, Even,
Mutta, Adam, Mikael, Jonas, Magnus, Mahdi, Linn, Eskild and every single
character of this show for teaching me what a true friendship is. Thank you for
teaching me what true love is. Thank you for teaching me that every story has
two sides, two versions, and that we shouldn’t make assumptions until we know
all the story. Thank you for teaching me that everyone makes mistakes and that
we should learn from them.
Thank you SKAM for being the best show I’ve
And thank you all for sharing this experience
SKAM will end soon but we will always have it
in our hearts and we won’t ever forget what this show has taught us.
normanikordei: I just need to make sure that you are aware that you’ll always be my baby. I don’t care if you’re twenty grown and sexy. We have navigated alongside one another through the most significant moments of our young lives. We have lived so much in such minimal time. You have wiped my tears, been there to listen, you convince me that I’m snatched practically everyday and you’re the most credible wing woman in the game. It get’s hard out here for a pimp. You out of all people know what an awkward mess that I can be. Thank you for helping me through it all. The appreciation that you have for life itself humbles me. You have a heart that radiates love and hopefulness. You have the power to make anyone around you feel a sense of peace and security. God’s love for all of us shines through you. I’m grateful that you’re a part of my world. The foundation and commitment of this sisterhood that we’ve built together will forever be one of my most prized possessions. You’re a rare, kind and beautiful soul. Never forget that and don’t ever allow the world to have you think otherwise. You may be the youngest but you’ve never failed to carry your big sisters through no matter the circumstances. I am inspired by you and it has been such a blessing for me to see your transformation into the strong woman that you have become. You have much more to offer this world and it puts a smile on my face knowing that I get to witness it everyday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY to this angel that walks the earth. You have my heart. One day I’ll be able to covey the enormous amount of love that I have for you but for now this is all. My baby isn’t a baby anymore. I couldn’t be more proud. 🙊
I don’t have all the answers but this is what I know seems to work for me like 85% of the time. It’s not perfect, but the odds are quite good, so obviously i have to share.
1. You need to get out of your skull.
Your thoughts and feelings after a binge can be absolutely toxic, suicidal and never-ending. I am not joking. It is enough to drive someone to the brink of their sanity.
2. You need social interaction
You need to laugh out loud, bitch and just have an exchange with another human being that really brings you into the present moment on that you can stop living in your skull because it is a painful place to be right now. You need to get as far away as possible from self-hate and endless chatter in your brain.
So schedule to go out with friends, with family, spend time being not alone or alone in your own skull. Don’t let yourself be alone with your thoughts for too long to ruminate and go into dark places.
3. Get rid of the binge food.
You’ve probably bought a huge stash of binge foods .. chips, chocolates, maccas, whatever….. right? It’s time to throw it out or give it away.
IF you think its a waste of money, it’s not. You already spent the money when you purchased it. It either goes in the waste or to your waist.
I guarantee, everytime you see the binge food, you will be tempted to go and grab it and binge some more in a freaking heartbeat. Looking at it will cause emotional turmoil and unnecessary temptation. You know you can’t eat it in moderation at this point, it’s literally all of nothing. Also, visually and psychologically, getting rid of all that trash is like clearing away all the negativity and toxicity out of your life and starting over a clean slate.
“Guide me through this darkness, Lord. Hover over me especially when I cannot seem to hold on for another moment. Flood me with the graces of hope and fortitude. Send your angels to watch over me as I sleep through the night. Remind me during the day that from this small dark cocoon, I will emerge a butterfly.” — Caroline Myss
i mean you can imagine how you’d raise your own children but if we’re talking about jonathan:
SO MUCH LOVE. jonathan would be overflowing with love for his babies and he’d be hell bent on raising them by his example, by showing them that you should be nice and respectful towards others. it even comes to a point when like if you hear him say “fuck” when you’re both alone you’re like “??????” because the moment your kid is born not another curse word comes out of his mouth again. also he ALWAYS explains things to them and answers every question they have. if he says no he explains why he’s saying no, and you’ll NEVER hear the phrase “because i said so” come out of his mouth. EVER. he’s incredibly affectionate and supportive, and absolutely nothing breaks his heart like seeing his kids cry, for whatever reason it might be. he’ll just hold them in his arms and whisper soothing words, only wanting to make the hurt go away and make everything better
also…. dozens and dozens of photo albums. seriously.
“So you basically asked us to share the details on the worst moments of our lives,” Alec said, before taking another bite of his burger.
“Sorry,” I replied.
Not exactly the lighthearted dinner banter Taylor was expecting, no.
“It’s okay,” Brian reassured me, “It’s one of those things you only really hear about from other capes, and you only know us. Maybe you’d hear more about trigger events if you took a university class in parahuman studies, but I doubt you’d get the full picture there. Kind of have to go through it yourself.”
Makes sense. Not everything can be conventionally taught.
Lisa reached over and mussed up my hair, “Don’t worry about it.”
Why had I brought up origins? It would have eventually have been my turn, and I would’ve had to share my own story.
Oh, I thought you would have considered that, and were fine with it.
Maybe I’d wanted to.
It might not be a solid tactical move to share such with your enemies.
But it sure is something you might want to do with your friends.
There’s a bit in Wonder Woman that I can’t stop thinking about. It’s the part where she walks towards General Ludendorff at the gala. He see her and starts walking in her direction as if to attack, then surges towards her and grabs her in a kind of dance hold. She’s stunned, frozen. It’s probably the only time in the film where Diana looks afraid.
Because she was attacked, but in a way she’s never encountered before. She’s been trained to handle “honest” attacks, where the attacker makes their intentions clear. But here she is attacked in the way women in this world are so often attacked. It’s an unwanted, unwelcome intrusion, a man putting his hands on her without her consent, intruding into her personal space in an aggressive, obtrusive, threatening manner. But to bystanders, they are simply dancing. She doesn’t know what to do. She’s trained her whole life to deal with honest, open attacks, but faced with the sneaky, faux-polite attack of this kind of man, she’s completely lost.
I thought this was a great moment. It reflects the experiences of so many women so well.
On a side note, I mentioned it to my (male) partner afterward, and he hadn’t even noticed Diana’s reaction in that moment. He’s a great guy and a good, kind person, but his obliviousness to her confusion and fear speaks volumes about the different experiences of men and women in our society.
when i was like 14, i once wore contact lenses instead of glasses to school bc i had just learned how to put them on and i wanted to show them to my friends right, and this one guy goes and tells me “i thought girls were supposed to become beautiful when they stopped wearing glasses. something obviously went wrong with you” and that was??? so incredibly rude i wanted to cry but i just stood there not knowing what to say bc i honestly thought we were friends
but the girl sitting in front of him (who was also his crush, mind u) hears him and turns around with the most disgusted expression on her face, and calls him out on it like “omg i cant believe you said that have you even seen yourself in a mirror you have no right to tell her shit” and then she turns to me and says “dont listen to him, you look gorgeous with or without glasses” and she probably already forgot about that but i always remember it whenever i feel self-conscious about myself
so the moral of the story is: if u see someone being a jerk to someone else, dont laugh along and call them out on it. stick together and bring all the fuckboys down