Why we ship what we ship, or why Camren shippers won't stop shipping Camren
People ask CS blogs why we still ship camren, or that we should stop, we’re crazy, Lauren, Lucy and Camila are bothered, etc. Please understand that each one of us have our own story.
For me, camren and 5H have been my only friends in my darkest time. I’ve been struggling with depression for the past two years because i failed college and had to drop out. When all my friends have graduated, some have got married, got a job, move on with their life, i’m still stuck in my inertia. And it’s such a lonely, deep and dark place because i don’t feel like i want to socialize with my friends, my family, or even myself. I want to be left alone. For me my only goal is to survive and doesn’t give up on that impulse to cut my wrist and end the suffering.
I got into the fandom because I accidentally saw “Lauren Jauregui” trended on Tumblr (it was the day Laucy kiss got leaked). I got curious and i dig in the tag. The rest is history. You see, i don’t like pop and what i listen to is pretty far from pop, don’t even mention some tweenie girl groups. My expectation of 5H was so-so. But then i saw some hilarious posts, like their quirky meet & greet pictures, dorky Camila gifs, some very strange and amusing conspiracy theories, etc. It picked my interest. And for all i know i keep coming back for more.
For the first time ever, i forget my depression, i’m laughing. I haven’t laugh till my stomach hurts for a long time. I don’t know when exactly, but it’s like the girls and the Tumblr fandom are my friends. When i feel low, i seek them–the hilarious fan videos, gifs, pictures, the pervert tumblr squad, the Karla Estrabao booty shake, the Normila reminiscences, Ally laughing like a maniac, the Camren conspiracy theories, etc. Those, they, made me feel like i’m not alone and less lonely. These girls and the Tumblr fandom (the Camren and OT5 fandom) made me forget my sorrows and the bad things i’m going through.
Perhaps the answer to “why do we ship what we ship?” is because we seek the emotional bond our otp have. These girls make me want to seek their kind of friendship and love. When i ship Normila or Norminah or whatever 5H ship for that matters, it’s because i see the friendship i yearn in them. When i ship Camren it’s never about my perversion, it’s because i see the kind of love i want to have in Camila and Lauren. Whatever kind of love it is, platonic or romantic.
It’s not about who’s Lauren or Camila dating. I don’t ship Lauren with Lucy, Luis, Brad, or even Ryan Gosling because I didn’t see the kind of love i want to see in those people. I find my kind of love in Camren. And if you find your kind of love in Laucy, then i’m happy for you. But as long as the CS you ask to stop shipping isn’t crossing the boundaries of direct interaction (tagging, mentioning the girls), then please respect people’s right to ship what they want to ship. If you want to get angry, get angry at the right people–those who cross the boundaries.
We all cope with life in our different ways. Some cope with Camren, some with Laucy, some with OT5, DC3, basically whatever ship you guys ship (but i’m sure no one cope with Camachine). And it’s fine as long as the shipper respect the otp. And that we should respect each other’s ship. If you try to understand, you will never judge. And if you judge, you will never understand.