there are things that shouldn't been seen

  • Percy in the beginning of the series: Lonely boy who is bullied by kids at school and by his step dad plus he lives with dyslexia and ADHD. Struggles to fit in and feels isolated
  • Percy in BoO: OMG PANCAKES???!!!! IM GONNA DROWN THEM!!! HAHA LEO IS FUNNY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BRO!!!
  • Annabeth in the beginning of the series: Extremely intelligent girl who feels abandoned by her family and needs to be able to prove herself.
  • Annabeth in BoO: OMG!!!!! I LUV PERCY!!! PERSASSY!!111!!! (also piper tho)
  • Piper in the beginning of the series: Really self conscious girl who just wants someone to care about her for who she is.
  • PIper is BoO: literally just charmspeaks people and dates Annabeth. Has a pov but somehow still isn't relevant.
  • Hazel in the beginning of the series: Girl who has been repeatedly shunned for who she is and doesn't seen to fit in. Believes she shouldn't even be alive. Has very mixed feelings about her parents.
  • Hazel in BoO: FINALLY MEETS HADES! But that's not important at all.
  • Frank in the beginning of the series: Dealing with the loss of his mother and being in a new place where he is hardly accepted. His life has also been foretold to be short and a small stick is the only thing between him and death.
  • Frank in BoO: NOPE I'M NOT IN THIS BOOK MY STICK IS IRRELEVANT SORRY FOR ALL OF THE BUILD UP.
  • Leo in the beginning of the series: Boy who hasn't really fit in anywhere before and blames his mom's death on himself finally finds some self worth.
  • Leo in BoO: OMG CALYPSO!!!!! MY GF!!! LADIES LOVE ME! HOES B4 BROS!!!11!!!!1!! BYE!!!
  • Jason in the beginning of the series: WHO AM I?
  • Jason in BoO: WHO AM I? +glasses

anonymous asked:

Have you seen what the fandom is complaining about recently? I'm talking about Lea and how he "shouldn't be forgiven by Kairi because he doesn't deserve it". What do you think? Honestly, the whole thing is making me sad if not completely upset...

Yes, I’ve been holding my tongue because it really is leaning into the discourse ™ but it’s so gosh dang annoying so I will comment.

1) Lea deserves redemption, and forgiveness. Yes absolutely.

Did Axel do bad shit? Yes. He did. So did most of the other nobodies. But he also attempted to do good shit.

He took a hit from Saix so Kairi could run (Manga). In game helped Sora and apologised thru Sora for hurting Kairi. He has shown already he feels regret for what he’s done.

Lea meanwhile, sought out Isa, his best friend who he essentially disowned as a nobody right away, went and helped mickey while also pledging to use a keyblade. And saved Sora.

He may not be broody like Riku, but Lea is trying his best. The story doesn’t necessarily have to have him fall into a pit of despair to prove it. If anything, that would be even worse.

What I want Lea to show us is he isn’t Axel anymore, and to see him apologize to Kairi just like Sora told him too. Please. (I’ll be furious if it isn’t in game because it’s a big frikkin part of his development. Anyway.)

2) Kairi deserves the right to dislike Lea.

Knowing they’ll end up friends doesn’t mean that won’t happen, but it will be ridiculous if we don’t see it, because it’s another aspect of her character we’ve only seen in tiny bursts. Distrust, anger, forgiveness, understanding. And really, it will be detrimental to the development for both their characters if we don’t see it.

🤔

All that being said, I do think them being friends and KNOWING they will be is pretty much the greatest thing since the ffvii remake was announced.

It meanS we get a fucking awesome kickass red heads from radiant garden. And with Lea “too much fucking screen time” memorized around, we’re basically assured to get a hell of alot more Kairi in 3.

I think it’s a good thing for both their characters. Lea will be around someone that knows his shitty past and isn’t going to stand for bs, while Kairi will not only be off the island but with someone that isn’t going to let her get left behind.

The fact their not exactly the closest means we’ll have RIPE OPPORTUNITY FOR CHARQCTER DEVELOPMENT from both of them while they hang out. What class type is kairi? What eyeliner does Lea use? How did he end up a nobody? Does Kairi remember radiant garden? Are they going to get to do their own thing while Sora saves the world’s and Riku goes on a date with mickey??

The possibilities are not only endless, but exciting, and I’m not about to let fandom wank ruin my fun, and neither should you, anon. Take it for what it is and worry about the issues when 3 comes out. Have fun with their possible friendship. It’s what kh is all about.

anonymous asked:

Red, some people are shitting on white hired and albino Lavellans and basically invalidating them and saying how they're boring and shouldn't exist in Thedas because they wouldn't survive? and you have such an amazing, wonderful Lavellan, and mine has blond hair and I don't know, it kinda hurts? what do you think about it?

Dude… look this has been happening for ages now, I said long ago that the reason why I hadn’t introduced my Lavellan to anyone earlier was the animosity I’d seen in the fandom towards Lavellans who look a certain way.

I don’t get involved in it. I think one should allow others to enjoy things, and that everyone should respect other people’s characters who are clearly dear to them, without judging. I personally believe every Lavellan is just as beautiful and valid, I welcome and love them all. Period. You won’t see me comment on how boring (or anything else) some Lavellans are based on their looks or whatever, I don’t know what to tell you. Someone’s look are not their personality either, anyways…

Try to stay away from negativity if it hurts you, nonnie. 

-Red

anonymous asked:

I've seen some people say that lapis shouldn't be in a relationship because her character arc is her getting her freedom. And I guess people think peridot would weigh her down. I don't agree with this mindset and I wanted to hear your thoughts.

I strongly disagree with that argument too.

Ok, so let’s just look at something for a second - a quote from Peridot in Earthlings

“[Earth]’s not a shell, there’s so much life.  Living here, that’s what I’m doing!  I’m living here!  I’ve been learning new things about myself all the time!  Like how I can make metal do my bidding!  The point being Earth can set you free”

Do you see the key part of that quote there?

“Earth can set you free”!

That’s exactly what it’s already done for Lapis - it’s become her home now.  She’s got the freedom that was previously taken away from her time and time again.

And do you wanna know something?  Being in a relationship doesn’t take your freedom away or “weigh you down” or any of the rest of it.  Au contraire.  From my own experience of being married, there are things I’ve done and places I’ve visited that I never would’ve even considered without my husband!  If anything, sometimes relationships can enhance your freedom - and give you someone else to enjoy it all with :)  There’s no reason whatsoever why this logic can’t be applied to Lapis and Peridot - I mean, we’ve already seen how much happier they are when they’re together, for a start.

thewillowbends replied to your photo–From a Certain Point of View - “There is Another”…

That’s really not surprising - Leia grew up in a healthy, loving, supportive family with all of her needs met financially and emotionally. Makes a HUGE difference in coping mechanisms. It also makes me very sad, though, because we’ve seen that Anakin gets along just fine with people just like him (re: Ahsoka). They could’ve been best friends, and instead…it’s just ash and bitterness.

A lot of it does have to do with the circumstances that one grows up in–one of the biggest differences between Luke and Leia is that they both had this core desire for more than a simple life, but Leia was in the position where she could do something about it, she could live that life and do the things she was itching to do.  Luke, on the other hand, was stuck on a desert planet, knowing he was meant for more, was so eager and untested that all the loving support from Owen and Beru that he got couldn’t touch that core of how he practically vibrated with a need for more.

One of the important differences between Leia and Anakin is that she doesn’t hold onto her anger about something in a way that she can never let go of or it really trips her up.  It’s understandable why Anakin has trouble with that!  He has so much anger about his childhood and how he sees the galaxy and he never really lets anyone help him with that despite that they do try to, he cannot let it go, cannot control it before it controls him instead.

I think that’s the one of the big differences between Anakin and Ahsoka as well, that she has all this tremendous well of feeling in her, including a lot of anger at the same things that make Anakin angry, but she doesn’t hold onto it beyond what’s necessary, she listens when others reach out to her and help her, she lets go of it when she needs to.

Like, I’m not sure Leia would want to be a Jedi, she already has an outlet for her desire for that greater calling to help the galaxy, but if she did, I think that’s why they were interested in her and why she would have made an excellent Jedi, in the way Ahsoka was and Anakin never really quite was meant for it at his core! He was a great Jedi in a lot of ways, but ultimately I don’t think he was happy with their way of life (which is nothing against either of them!) and instead of the clarity he needed to find his focus and priorities, he just kept digging deeper and it ended so, so badly for him.  We see that Ahsoka does have the clarity to know when she needs to walk a new path and I think Leia has that same kind of clarity, about herself and her path.

anonymous asked:

I've seen people argued that Jensen shouldn't have shot down destiel, because it breaks fans dreams and also he's very defensive because he's insecure about his masculinity. Okay, I can agree that it probably will hurt the fans feelings, but I think they forget that Jensen has feelings too, and seriously destihellers are very nasty. Also do you think Jensen's insecure about his masculinity? I see this quite a lot, though it feels nothing more than a typical straight reaction to me.

No I don’t think Jensen is insecure about his masculinity.   I like feminine things, am 100% straight, and been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years.  If a stranger comes up to me and said, “I fantasize you with a girl so validate my fantasy by agreeing with me that you act like a lesbian”, I’m not going to be worried about that person’s feelings because I feel my personal identity and choices are being attacked.   Was I being insecure about my femininity or sexuality?  No,that  person was being completely inappropriate.

A lot of destiel shippers doesn’t appear to have empathy for Jensen, so I see no reason why Jensen is expected to protect shippers’ feelings when they don’t do the same for him. 

I’ve a read a blogger using Mark Hamill as an example of how to treat shippers  right.   That is a poor example.  Except for his intrigue with one woman, which turned out to be a famailial recognition for another Force-sensitive relative, Luke has never expressed any attraction to anyone so his character is open to those interpretation.  Dean has only shown interest in women in 12 years. 

WTF Guys!

I was gone for a few hours, and things seem to have gotten worst…

The WayHaught fandom(only a few trying to start drama) is up in hyperdrive right now. This discourse has gotten to the point where people are choosing sides…honestly it’s not that serious.

There are few things to remember:

  1. Waverly has been through a lot of stuff for the past few weeks! Being possessed by goo, Black badge drama, fighting with Nicole about her place in BBD, and the bombshell of Wynonna’s pregnancy. I’m sure all the stuff has stressed her out, and Nicole probably wanted her to have a few moments of happiness before her life could potentially shatter.

  2. Relationships are fucking work. The beginnings are always easy because you’re newly in love; however, you can’t be in the honeymoon stage forever. Every relationship has its drama….just because a couple fights does not mean it’s toxic or healthy… Every healthy relationship has some drama.

  3. Waverly did something similar to Nicole! She kept her out of the BBD even though she knew what it meant to Nicole to be included, but she still decided for Nicole that she would not be in the BBD. They have both done things that can be seen as overbearing, protective, and manipulative.

  4. (This is one that I think people forget the most) THEY BARELY KNOW EACH OTHER! They were never friends before(not really) they got together, and therefore don’t know each other. We know for a fact that Waverly has some secrets, and based off of what we know….I highly doubt Waverly knows about Nicole’s past or background. Love takes time and love takes work.

My thoughts:

I mean…. Obviously what Nicole did was bad. I’m not making excuses for her. Y'all need to realize that Waverly has done some bad things too…. They are only human… Humans are not perfect! We are beautifully flawed…

Also, some of y'all’s behavior has been sickening. I’ve seen post in the #’s of certain individuals attacking others in the fandom. That’s wrong!

I used to be proud to call myself a WayHaught shipper… Now, not so much. It’s becoming toxic, which is the very thing you’re criticizing Nicole for.

anonymous asked:

There's this dude who started like 3 months ago. The slowest cashier I've ever seen. He takes forever to take orders and take them out, he always goes into the dining area to clean(when it's already clean) or just stands there when he's done taking orders, but doesn't try taking anything out. It's the most irritating thing because he still doesn't know basic things/protocol and he's been working full time and at this point he shouldn't be asking me super basic trainee questions.

I feel bad for him though. I’ve been in positions where like, I would always have questions even though I’d been there for what seemed like forever. I mean, I see where you’re coming from, but I’d rather someone ask a really stupid question than not and completely fuck up.

anonymous asked:

(1/2) When exactly did age discourse become a thing? I was around fandom about six years ago when I was 13, and there was nothing like this (or at least it wasn't everywhere). Now, I see people claiming ships with even a one year age gap are a great sin that will raze our cities to the ground and salt and burn the earth. I have even seen people saying that characters who were canonically frozen in time are mentally 70 and shouldn't date people their own physical age. When? Did? This? Happen?

(2/2) It’s quite jarring actually. It’s only been six years, and I’ve never really been “out” of fandom. I’ve always been around on some site or other. This is something I’ve only really seen since I joined Tumblr. Attitudes seemed to have changed too. Like, when I was 13, if I saw a (now old) fandom term I didn’t understand, I clicked on the thing, and noped the hell out of there when I saw something that freaked me out. Lesson learned. Avoid that term. It’s the same generation. What happened?

—————–

I honestly don’t know when it all went wrong I would happily go back to the superwholock days of tumblr if it meant all this dumb shit would stop I’m sick of it I miss when people weren’t so fucking entitled

anonymous asked:

If they go on vacation together, why shouldn't they post pictures from the location? How is that still innuendo or fuckery after they've been seen together for a year now? There will probably be pictures, we know that, so there's no reason to let it spoil anything. SDCC won't all of a sudden a make-out session from Sam and Cait and change things.

Anything posted by that girl is innuendo to fuck with people. Don’t even try and pretend otherwise. The fake engagement ring picture proves that. Okay I’ve given enough air time to this topic. Moving on.

PVRIS lyrics sentence starters
  • "Take a good look at what I've become."
  • "There's a hole in my chest and I don't think it's leaving room for anyone."
  • "I'm trying my best."
  • "I'm doing everything to bring this body back to life."
  • "No matter how hard I try, I don't think I will make it through the night."
  • "I've been changing, falling, fading."
  • "There's demons at the door patiently waiting."
  • "Please watch over me, and be the light to carry me."
  • "I can feel it, being torn from my, my hands; my innocence."
  • "This change is all so permanent."
  • "Can't you see a change in me?"
  • "This world is a masterpiece."
  • "Shout out to the artist who took his heart and his soul and lost them both in the process."
  • "Please be the saint to save me."
  • "You were spoiled rotten and turned stale." "My tongue's acquired tolerance for tastes I couldn't stand.""You've been stuck in a rut and a wasteland."
  • "So just trust me, you'll be just fine."
  • "I need your trust just for tonight."
  • "Reach out your hands and tell me just what you feel."
  • "This is not just all in your head."
  • "Mind over matter makes these things feel so real."
  • "I can see the doubt in your eyes."
  • "You say there's no such thing as better things in life."
  • "I must confess this is all too new for me."
  • "Keep an open mind, it brings open hearts and open eyes."
  • "I'm hoping you weren't heaven sent, 'cause only hell knows where you've been."
  • "Your built composure's wearing thin."
  • "All your walls are caving in."
  • "I just wanna lift you up."
  • "I'll take all this love I found and I hope that it's enough."
  • "Don't you shut this down, no, don't you give this up."
  • "If we don't bend then this might break."
  • "Dream of me to keep you safe."
  • "Before you came around, I was lost and out of place."
  • "You're the only love I found and I'm hoping that you'll stay."
  • "Please stay."
  • "This isn't violence, this is just a war in my head."
  • "I give it time but it never seems to end."
  • "Don't you try to run right now, 'cause baby I could burn you down."
  • "The second that you walk into a room, I can't help myself from the things that you do."
  • "You're killing me right now."
  • "I think it's time you burn me down."
  • "I love the things we do when it's just me and you."
  • "You're just a ghost of blissful feelings."
  • "I'm losing you to the games in my mind."
  • "I know it's chemicals that make me cling to you."
  • "I need a miracle to get away from you."
  • "I think you're a saint and I think you're an angel."
  • "You give me something to think about that's not the shit in my head."
  • "You're a miracle."
  • "You're a glimpse of bliss, a little taste of heaven."
  • "You give me something to talk about."
  • "I need a miracle to bring me back to you."
  • "I know you're gone now, but I still wait for you."
  • "You walk around like you own the place."
  • "Guess it was all my fault."
  • "I think I let you in."
  • "Never thought that I would feel like this."
  • "Such a mess when I'm in your presence."
  • "It's my soul, it isn't yours anymore."
  • "Darling, you can't stay."
  • "Haven't you heard? I'm not yours anymore."
  • "I think it's time to get out."
  • "You've got it all, but you've got it all wrong."
  • "You're a poor unfortunate soul."
  • "You make it seem that you feel whole so they don't know you're a poor unfortunate soul."
  • "Think you're holy when you're not."
  • "I hate to break it to you baby, but you're simply lost."
  • "Simply calling out sins don't bring you closer to God."
  • "You're just a ghost at most, a set of empty bones."
  • "Searching for anything and everything to make you feel whole."
  • "You're all alone, you poor unfortunate soul."
  • "You just know I'm a poor unfortunate soul."
  • "There's no way that there's weight in the words that you preach."
  • "You contradict your speech."
  • "You're shallow and empty and filled with regret."
  • "Don't think I didn't notice."
  • "You've got it all."
  • "You've got it all wrong."
  • "It's hard to be what you need."
  • "All you ever do is turn me down."
  • "Can you hear me? I'm screaming for you."
  • "Day by day, I'm slowly replaced in your picture frames."
  • "Sick of the lack of signal, sick of the lack of touch."
  • "It's not enough, it's not enough."
  • "Don't blame your death on the shit in your head that you claimed ate you like a virus for days on end."
  • "I watched you decay, watched you waste away."
  • "Who'd you think you'd fool, baby, digging your own grave?"
  • "So go ahead, you just drop dead."
  • "You're trying to fool the whole world."
  • "You can't cheat death when you're digging your own grave."
  • "You're out of line."
  • "Your bridges are burning."
  • "You started a fire and you're burning up."
  • "What you give is what you get and in your case that's nothing but guilt and regret."
  • "I swear I couldn't wait to get you off my chest."
  • "It's hard to find life in something that's already died."
  • "I can't sleep, that's when you're torn away from me."
  • "It's hard to say 'good morning' when it's followed with 'goodbye'."
  • "Just wanted to say 'good night.'"
  • "I'm not ready to say 'good night.'"
  • "Yeah, I need to feel you again."
  • "Here comes the hardest part."
  • "In what world do I go to sleep after you and wake up before you? I don’t even know how it happens."
  • "Well I hope you’re having sweet dreams, and you call me when you wake up."
  • "Darling, don't be so shy."
  • "I'll see you at midnight."
  • "You make my world spin."
  • "I'll wait to see you again."
  • "I know you're dead inside."
  • "I don't feel so lonely."
  • "Darling, don't be so shy, I'll see you at midnight."
  • "In the morning, I hope I see you by my side."
  • "I know you're dead inside, but you make me feel alive."
  • "I'm the one with the ghosts in my bed."
  • "I swear that I'll be fine in the daylight."
  • "It's my head not my heart that's strayed."
  • "I'm sorry I keep pushing you away."
  • "I don't wanna fight."
  • "Why can't you stay?"
  • "I'm up against these things I can't see."
  • "Make me believe."
  • "You struck a match and left me to burn."
  • "I wanna feel something that's not the touch of your breath on my neck."
  • "I wanna feel something that's not the weight of your world in my head."
  • "I shouldn't give in, but I let you win."
  • "I won't let you in."
  • "I know it's warmer where you are and it's safer by your side."
  • "I can't be what you want."
  • "You and I can keep our love alive."
  • "It's cold when we're apart."
  • "I hate to feel this die."
  • "You can't give me what I want."
  • "I can't keep you in these arms so I keep you in my mind."
  • "Can we meet in the middle?"
  • "I've been wondering why you keep feeding me these lines."
  • "You made a fool of me."
  • "You charm me, it's not easy."
  • "You would not believe how the tides have turned."
  • "If I'm gonna play your games, I know there's a price to pay."
  • "I've got the tendency to constantly pay for my mistakes."
  • "I can't pick sides."
  • "You would not believe all the things I've seen."
  • "If I'm gonna lose this game, what's the use in trying to play?"
  • "I shouldn't expect any less but I can't always have my way."
  • "Your doubts of me are constant reminders of why I should stop hoping."
  • "Keep your eyes on me."
  • "I won't let them pull you under."
  • "You'll find what you're looking for."

theartof-loveandlife  asked:

Hey I'm glad I found your blog! Its nice to see healthy views of health and fitness. But I wanted to know what is your opinion on obesity? I've been learning more accurate and healthy views when it comes to weight (and because of my past with an eating disorder it's been difficult). But I've seen people in the fat acceptance community claim that there's nothing wrong with being obese. Clearly people like that shouldn't be belittled but aren't there legitimate health concerns?

Yes, there are correlations between being fat and having certain health problems. But really, nearly everything is a health risk: Being single poses a legitimate health concern. Getting a tattoo exposes you to legitimate health concerns. Having red hair, living in Nevada, being a farmer, owning a cat - All of these things have the potential to seriously and negatively impact your health. Yet when we see a redhead on the street with a rockin’ cat tattoo, most people aren’t about to stop her and lecture her about making responsible life choices. Instead, we save that sort of personal criticism for fat people. Hmm…

In terms of how obesity is related to health, please remember that correlation is different than causation. Just because various health problems are associated with being fat does not mean that they are caused by being fat. Not all health issues (related to body fat percentage) can be directly solved by weight loss.

After all, obesity isn’t a homogeneous condition: There will never be a case where every single fat person is un/healthy, or has good/bad blood pressure, or has high/low cholesterol. Our bodies are incredibly complex instruments and weight is just one element out of many.

And honestly, I’m not even comfortable setting up “good health” as a moral necessity in life. The truth is that no one is under any obligation to be healthy or to behave in what the public deems a “healthy” manner. Health is an incredibly personal concept. Everyone has their own concerns in life and their own standards of acceptability. It isn’t our place to point fingers at another person’s body and say “You need to change that, you need to care more.” We all may want people to make good choices, to be happy and to live long lives, but these are complicated and unique decisions that we each have to make for ourselves.

In the end, people have the right to look and behave in the manner that they feel is best for them. Whether or not someone else is healthy should not be the basis for their value as a person, or for the amount of respect that you give them. Nor should their health determine whether or not they retain the right to bodily autonomy. No one is obligated to live by “healthy” standards. You only get to control your own body, no one else’s.

Because there isn’t anything wrong with being fat.

Daryl and Merle Dixon, Chupacabra Season 2 

Daryl:”Screw you!”

Merle: “You are the one that’s screwed from the looks of it..All them years I spent trying to make a man of you, this is what I get? Look at ya! Lying in the dirt like a used rubber!

You are gonna die out here little brother - and for what?”

Daryl: “Girl, THEY lost a little girl!”

Merle: “So you gotta thing for little girls now?”

——————-

Merle: “Is this the same Rick that handcuffed me to the rooftop in the first place? Forced me to cut off my own hand…that’s who we talking about here?
You his Bitch now?”

Daryl: “I ain’t nobody’s Bitch!”

Merle: “You are a joke is what you are, playing errand boy to a bunch of pansy asses, (n) and democrats! You are nothing but a freak to them, redneck trash! It’s all ya are! They are laughing at ya behind your back, you know that don’t ya? Well I got news for ya son, one of these days they are gonna scrape you off their heels like ya was dog shit!
Hey?!
They ain’t your kin! Your blood! If ya have any damn nuts in that sack if yours you’d go back and shoot your pal Rick in the face for me!
Now you listen to me - ain’t nobody ever gonna care about you except me little brother!
Ain’t nobody ever will!
Come on get up on your feet before I have to kick your teeth in!…”

This is a very pivotal emotional scene for Daryl Dixon as it not only introduces his toxic relationship dynamic with Merle but also gives the audience a glimpse of the unhappiness and dysfunction the “little brother” came from.

For me this was the moment that offered more understanding as to why Daryl was so dedicated to his search for Sophia and why he seemed to gravitate towards Carol more than the rest of the group.


Merle being the big brother is portrayed as having the upper hand in this relationship and specifically indicates that he was one of the sources of the abuse that shaped Daryl into the man he was to become.

Belittling and tearing down outside connections, planting doubt and suspicion in others and saying “nobody will ever care about you except me” are all classic examples of deep isolating emotional abuse!

The heartbreaking part of it all is the realization that even though this is a “hallucination” this kind of message was clearly a repeated pattern in Daryl’s reality because even his own consciousness is tortured by its destructive effects.
Essentially a part of Daryl believes every word of it! He doesn’t feel worthy because he’s been told that he is “redneck trash” and that he needs to hold on to Merle because everyone else is either mocking his existence or waiting for Daryl to become useless so he too can be left behind like “dog shit”.


The anger, the rejection, the aggressive stances and the badly acted aloofness are all part of Daryl’s coping defensive mechanism to what Merle made him believe.

Push everyone away first so they don’t have a chance to do it first

Act like you don’t care so it looks like you have nothing to lose when they walk away first!


Apparently that was the mantra the Dixons followed and Daryl never learned and was never shown a different way!
The difference between the brothers is that Daryl had finally come across people like Carol and Dale that did things that proved Merle wrong by standing by him even though he gave them every reason to walk away.
Carol especially showed Daryl that he can be loved by others and not just Merle, not just his “blood”!

She loved him even when there was no specific benefit from his presence!
He still hasn’t accepted that fully

After hearing Merle’s callous ministrations and his attempts to steer Daryl back away from anything but him and their “blood kin” the parallel between that toxicity and the one Ed created for Carol’s reality is quite startling.


Both Ed and Merle abused the one they claimed to “love” and used the same methods to isolate them from “the others” AND it took them being separated for their victims to blossom and become their own “persons”.

Carol and Daryl got rid of the destructive force in their lives at the same time when Ed died and Merle disappeared, putting them both on a path of transformation to someone stronger, someone “better”…someone they never got a chance to be!


People going through similar traumatic events and coming from similar painful backgrounds naturally “recognize” each other because not only do they share the same kind of pain and turmoil BUT they are also in the best position to understand, accept and shield each other from those that “don’t get it”!


Daryl and Carol are connected because they “get each other”, they understand why they act or do certain things (she’ll understand) and are willing to go that extra mile for each other.

Daryl went to get a Cherokee Rose for Carol when he realized she needed hope and Carol went to Daryl despite her own grief to make sure he knew he was still important and still very much needed even though Sophia wasn't found. 

Instinctively they both knew what the other needed at their lowest points!

When Merle asks Daryl why he was in the woods, he says “THEY lost a little girl” instead of singling Carol, the mother, out as the one to blame for Sophia’s disappearance!

This might sound like such a minor thing in that emotion-heavy conversation BUT I think it says a lot about how much Daryl understands about being “blamed” or made to feel bad about.

He knows that Carol blames herself regardless, he has seen her pain more than once and he is aware of the fact that men like Ed blame everything that doesn’t go their way on the person they are used to pushing down.

Carol has been the target of this “blame game” enough times to feel responsible for things she shouldn't be faulted on and Daryl knowing how that feels is not going to add to her burdens even during his hallucinatory Merle vision.

He gets it, he knows how she feels and he wants to make things better because as Merle clearly shows, Daryl understands her grief, her loss and her vulnerability.

Daryl wants to find Sophia so he can go from being a witness to her pain to being a witness to her happiness!

And he doesn’t blame her for any of it!

Yet another reason why the CARYL dynamic is not something you can replicate or “cheapen” or “water-down” or tear down in 2 episodes.

vampirebowie  asked:

I agree with a lot of the things you post but what confuses me is the existence of prisoner rights groups and such. Why do people advocate freedom/good treatment of those who deserve it least? it's one thing if it's an unjustly imprisoned POC or an impoverished thief but what about murderers, etc? I've seen groups push for them to have internet, game systems, and college education on taxpayer money! Why does that exist? Shouldn't there be a middle ground based on crime committed, or something?

Hi!

Great question. I am a huge proponent of prison reform and prisoner’s rights so you’ve come to the right place.

Prisoner rights groups exist because prisoners are one of the most disenfranchised populations in the U.S. The overwhelming majority of people in prison are people of color and the poor. Once you’ve been convicted of a felony, in almost every state (Maine and Vermont are the lone exceptions) you cannot vote in elections. Wikipedia has some stats:

In 2008 over 5.3 million people in the United States were denied the right to vote because of felony disfranchisement.[5] Approximately thirteen percent of the United States’ population is African American, yet African Americans make up thirty-eight percent of the American prison population.[2] Slightly more than fifteen percent of the United States population is Hispanic, while twenty percent of the prison population is Hispanic.[2] People who are felons are disproportionately people of color.[1][2] In the United States, felon disfranchisement laws disproportionately affect communities of color as “they are disproportionately arrested, convicted, and subsequently denied the right to vote”.[1] Research has shown that as much as 10 percent of the population in some minority communities in the USA is unable to vote, as a result of felon disfranchisement.[1]

Many businesses and government orgs require you to disclose whether you’ve been convicted of a felony. So gainful employment is much, much more difficult to find after you’ve been in prison.

Yes, some felons are murderers and rapists. But lots and lots of them (roughly half of the prisoners in federal penitentiaries) are nonviolent drug offenders who are victims of the “war on drugs,” which is generally just a war on black and brown people. So when you say “I understand wanting rights for unjustly imprisoned POC,” that’s a huuuuuge chunk of the prison population.

Basically, a good deal of imprisonment is unjust. But even more than that, people in prison–even people who did legitimately bad things–deserve a modicum of human decency, because they are human beings.

I once did a piece in my ~professional life~ about how other countries treat their prisoners. In Norway, recidivism (the rate at which people who were previously in prison return to prison) is about 20% - less than a third of what it is in the U.S., and one of the lowest rates in the world. Their prisons are, comparatively, palaces. (I did not write that CNN article, FYI. It was a source I used.) Everyone has their own TV and mini-fridge. Prisoners can fish and swim in the ocean. The guards don’t carry guns and sometimes play soccer with the inmates. Prisoners cook and can get an education. Even murderers.

In 2007, Norway spent $384 million on their prison system. In 2008, the U.S. spent $75 BILLION on theirs.

When you go to prison, you lose your freedom. That is the punishment. You cannot see family and friends, you cannot go wherever you want, you can’t work at your regular job. THAT is the punishment. It shouldn’t be all of those things, PLUS everything else we put our prisoners through. Bad food, risk of violence, abuse from guards, overpriced goods, unjust wages, and general inhumane treatment. Oh, and you can technically enslave them.

Part of why our recidivism rate is so high is because prison does not rehabilitate prisoners and teach them to function in the outside world. Lots of crimes, including violent crimes, are committed because of a lack of alternative options. When you take someone who committed a crime and pull them out of society for a few years and don’t teach them job skills or even how to find a job (something the Internet would be very helpful for in prison!) or any kind of education or basic life skills like how to find an apartment, you are basically asking them to commit another crime and come back to prison, because they have no other choice.

So, yes, prisoners - all prisoners - deserve Internet access and education access. And a game system, if they want. It’s incredibly obvious that what we’re doing now isn’t working. Countries (Norway is a good example, but they aren’t the only ones) who treat their prisoners more humanely are less likely to see those prisoners return.

This is long and rambling, but basically, it’s more humane AND more cost-effective to treat prisoners like adult human beings instead of caged animals. That’s why prisoner rights groups exist.

anonymous asked:

Don't know whether I'm the only one who feels like this, but I feel that a majority of darkiplier fans are being treated like they're idiots. I've been noticing it with a lot of the artists, things they've been saying like 'you all are crazy, need help, what the hell is wrong with you', and just general disrespect. Yes, there are some who demand crazy things, but others who show their support and are respectful shouldn't be lynched out for thinking a shirtless dark art is hot.

I’m not 100% on how to word this correctly without it sounding jumbled, but here goes:

Yes, there are some amazingly supportive people, and then there are people who act a bit….Much. Have you seen at all those asks haleyscomett-art and I have gotten (her more so than me). I mean, hilarity aside, it’s a bit ridiculous and kind of annoying. I’m all for shirtless Darkiplier, but not ALL the DAMN time. Don’t demand we (the artist) draw something simply because you want it. 9 times out of 10 we wont draw it and asking incessantly isn’t going to make us draw it anymore than asking the first time. And if we do we’re not going to draw you what you want and even if we did, it’s going to be our terms and you probably wont like it because it may or may not be 100% serious.

Look, ok, honestly I understand Dark’s allure; he’s a jerk, he’s a villian, he’s got that bad boy appeal, and he looks like Mark. But that doesn’t mean berate the artist that draws him into drawing constant porn of him because you have some strange fantasy. Once and a while is ok, but not ALL THE TIME. It gets old fast and becomes no fun. 

And you gotta think of it from OUR (the artist’s) perspective. Being constantly asked to draw him shirtless or doing other lewd things gets old and rather annoying after a while and the way we react just goes to show how fed up we get with it. I mean there’s only so many times you can be asked “SHOW US UR DIK” or whatever before ya just say “ ya know what? No.” and act like a douche to that person cuz they won’t stop bothering you. Ya know?  

He’s a tease, yes. But not your sex slave. 

Idk that’s just how I feel. *word vomit* 

anonymous asked:

If you, a self-proclaimed intersenctional wlw feminist, can't realize that and understand that people want their forms of representation to have just as much freedom as white heterosexual characters have, then I'm sorry to say you're far from being understanding of the situation. If anything, your response borderlines on being downright selfish and narrow-minded, because you seem to think that Miller, a gay man, shouldn't be allowed to be affectionate the same way Clarke, a bi girl, can be.

Then you didn’t read my response. Miler should be allowed to be as affectionate as he wants. I do understand why people want to see more gay men or why it’s important that Miller is a non-white gay man. I agree, that that representation is extremely important. 

That being said, people can believe that things are important, understand a call for specific types of representation, and also have some logical reasoning as to why they haven’t seen those things yet. Miller and his boyfriend have been seen on screen together maybe twice. Miller and his boyfriend are not regulars. Because he is not a regular, Miller does not actually get a large piece of the storyline. He exists sort of in the background of other stories and every now and then you may see him have some cool involvement or do a little more. 

If that post had said that the person wanted Miller to be a regular so we could see more of him or if that post had said that they wished there were more queer series regulars, or more diverse LGBT characters on the show, or anything of that nature, I wouldn’t have blinked at it. The problem is, that’s not what the post said. The post expressed a lack of understanding for why those two characters hadn’t kissed int he three seconds total of screen time that they have had. While also trying to use the sexual nature of Clarke’s character to (once again) try everything to shame people for liking Clarke and Lexa because now if it can’t be toxic it’s “oversexualized.”

That post I replied to didn’t say “how come Bellamy and Gina got to kiss but Miller and Bryan didn’t?” That post didn’t say “I hope we get to see more of Miller and Bryan’s relationship.” That post knocked another queer relationship as bad representation while knocking this queer relationship and the people that work hard to bring those things to life, and quite frankly, it shows just as much of a “lack of understanding” on your part, and on the maker of that posts part, to not understand why people are happy with Clarke and Lexa, why they don’t want to have girls with sex scenes repeatedly called “oversexualized” and why they still love Bryan and Miller for what they bring to the table, as minor characters that were given the opportunity of being one of the few romantic relationships currently on our show, and a cool chance of diversifying the background romance in a world that should not be shown as heteronormative.

xxser3ndipityxx  asked:

Hey! It's me again~ I just wanted to know if you guys have seen Netizenbuzz's article on Alex's addition to Rania? If anyone's been curious, lots of Koreans have been saying things like "She's pretty..!!". One person even said they think she's "even prettier than Beyoncé." Another thinks she looks like a "top level international model." And one person implied that she shouldn't even be in a Korean girl group because "such a pretty girl will own everyone else." lol It's crazy...

Love it! xD

anonymous asked:

Have you seen GMReal World clip yet? I know the Riley's been in Riley Committee's box but isn't it a little unrealistic, her not knowing about stuff like war or poverty? We know she's book smart, shouldn't book smart person know about those things?

Riley’s always had a tendency towards willful self-delusion that was both encouraged and enabled (and at times even ENFORCED) by the committee. People have tried to deny it for a long time since a lot of that willful self-delusion has been tied to Lucas and the way she conceptualizes/idealizes him and their relationship, but this episode pretty much makes the willful self-delusion irrefutable canon (not that it wasn’t canon af before, but now it’s undeniable).

http://theowldetective.tumblr.com/post/148895782591/wait-a-minute-riley-had-no-idea-that-there-was

anonymous asked:

It baffles me how people can see upstate in a positive light for rilucas. once again, maya's steering the wheel for rilucas, and lucas is shown to be bummed out when she decides that he chose riley, as opposed to one second ago when he was smiling at maya saying ''I did''. Shouldn't he be visibly relieved that maya's out of the way if he never liked her and wanted riley all along like people have been claiming? and why would he be insisting on asking maya what she wants after she gave him riley?

Yeah, I don’t get it at all. I’ve seen quite a few of them say things along the lines of:

“He was obviously going to choose Riley. That’s why he said those nice things to Maya’s mom.”

or

“The only reason he wasn’t more happy when Maya said that he chose Riley was because he didn’t get to say it himself and he was annoyed at her for cutting him off.”

Which, just….no.

The first one is basically insinuating he was buttering up Maya’s mom because he was about to potentially break her daughter’s heart. For people that honestly believe that that was what he was doing, what does that say about Lucas as a character? Also, that (UNPROVOKED) parallel between Shawn’s “I care about your mother” to Maya and Lucas’ “I care about your daughter” to Katy.

Come on now…

And lol at the second justification. If it was Riley and he was annoyed at Maya for stealing his moment, then why in the world did he ask her what she wanted to do, instead of…ya know, taking advantage of Maya’s out of jail free card, acknowledging Riley, and telling her that he chose her. Legit. That last reason makes zero logical sense. It doesn’t add up.

Not to reiterate the point, but why is he asking MAYA what SHE wants to do when she’s handed him over to Riley. If Riley was his choice, there was no reason to ask Maya what she wanted to do. 

But yep. You’re right. Once again, Maya has taken the wheel. She’s steering the ship, just like she’s done countless times before (and will continue to do so). Like I said a while ago, Maya has far more control over this situation than she realizes (or that certain people are willing to acknowledge).

I would actually legitimately be curious to see why rilucas shippers think this episode is a good thing for that relationship, beyond the reasons stated above.