there are plenty i can think of who are still dedicated to the club

Lostcauses Fic: Chrome

This is for @flecksofpoppy​ who pointed out that while there’s plenty of fan art of those leggings, they really deserve some fic.  Also for @fullmetallizard​ and anyone else who has grown to love Levi Ackerman’s fabulous fashion disaster.

“You’re not going out wearing that!”

Levi gapes at his flatmate aghast.

“Wearing what?”  Petra’s looks down at herself, nose scrunching into a little frown.

“That!” Levi waves his hand vaguely in his friend’s direction.

“You mean these?”  Petra peers at her shiny silver leggings, frown turning into something a bit more apprehensive.  “Why? Do they make my ass look big?” She cranes her head over her shoulder in an unsuccessful attempt to see her petite bottom.

“What the fuck? You’ve barely got an ass!”

“What’s wrong then?”

“Looks like something a twelve year old girl would wear.”  

“No it doesn’t!” Petra huffs.  “I’ll have you know this jacket came from a chi chi little boutique in the West End and the leggings are from a really cool Japanese outlet online.”

“I don’t care where they’re from,” Levi snorts dismissively, “I’m not going out with you looking like that.”

“And who made you the fashion police all of a sudden?”  Petra pouts, sticking her chin out defiantly.

“Just saying…”

“Just jealous more like.”  Petra sniffs haughtily.

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Irish, Gaelic, or Irish Gaelic: What’s in a Name?

Announcement outside a playground in Glencolmcille, Co, Donegal.

Sometimes I envy people who speak Spanish, or German, or Icelandic, or just about any other language I can think of. They have it so easy!.

If you’re at a social gathering here in the U.S. and you tell someone you speak, teach, or are learning Spanish (or German, or Icelandic, or whatever), nobody gives you a confused look, or asks you what you mean by “Spanish.”

Irish is different. If you say you speak/learn/teach Irish, after a moment of befuddled silence, you usually get one of the following:

  • “You mean they have their own language?”
  • “Do you mean you’re learning to speak with an Irish accent?”
  • “Oy can speak Oirish too! (this person is usually quite obnoxiously drunk)
  • “Do you mean Gaelic?” (The ones who want to appear especially in-the-know may pronounce this “GAA-lik,” as it is in Scotland. I blame Outlander).

Say Something Irish

Things get more interesting if you’re asked to “say something in Irish.”

I usually resist my impulse to respond with “’Rud éigin’ as Gaeilge” (”’Something’ in Irish”) and rattle off something I can say by heart, such as the Lord’s Prayer:

Ár n-Athair atá ar neamh, go naofar d’ainm, go dtaga do ríocht ar an talamh mar atá ar neamh…

To which the response often is:

“But that doesn’t sound much like English!”


Of course, there’s always the Carlsberg approach:

* Yes, I know that’s a bit snarky. But it just goes to show what some of us have to deal with when speaking of the language outside of its home island.

A Language With an Identity Problem

At issue is the fact that, outside of its home region, and particularly in the U.S., Irish suffers from a real identity problem..

You would think that, with the huge number of people from Ireland who immigrated to the U.S. in the 18th and 19th centuries, when Irish was still the majority language in Ireland, some knowledge of the language would at least linger here. And perhaps it does in some Irish-American communities.

Most Americans, though, don’t seem to know that the Irish have ever spoken anything but English. And those who do don’t know what to call it, or even that it’s still a living (albeit endangered) language.

This puts those of us who work with a predominately American market in a somewhat difficult position. How do we let our target audience know that we’re speaking of a language that is native to Ireland (and that isn’t a form of English)? 

The answer that many of us have arrived at is to use the term “Irish Gaelic.” Unfortunately that opens up a completely different can of worms.

Much Ado About Nothing

There are, I’m afraid, people out there who are hugely bothered by the term “Irish Gaelic.” I mean HUGELY bothered. Get-your-knickers-in-a-twist bothered. Major-freak-outage bothered.

In fact, from some of the more over-the-top responses to the term, you might be justified in thinking that calling the language “Irish Gaelic” is roughly equivalent to saying “You’re ugly, and your mother dresses you funny.”

But is it really? Are those of us who use “Irish Gaelic” in the titles of our books and learning programs really being disrespectful to the language? Let’s take a look at some of the objections raised.

“They Don’t Call it That in Ireland”

This is absolutely, indisputably true. You won’t hear people in Ireland referring to “Irish Gaelic.”

I feel the need to point out, though, that they don’t need to. If you were to announce in Ireland that you were learning Irish, they would know exactly what you were talking about (they might think you were crazy, but they wouldn’t be confused by the reference).

It’s their language, after all. Whether or not they speak it, they’re surrounded by it from birth to death…in school, on television and radio, on road signs. Irish may not be widely spoken in Ireland anymore, but it’s still very much present.

Much as I wish it were otherwise, that isn’t the case here in the U.S. If we want people to know what we’re talking about, we need to be more specific.

And yes…it sucks that we have to jump through these hoops to ensure that people know what we’re talking about. After all, if you tell someone you’re learning French, they don’t ask “Do you mean you’re learning French cooking?” But it is what it is.

“It’s Incorrect”

Well, really, it isn’t. It’s not official, and it’s certainly not the standard in Ireland, but it’s not incorrect.

Irish is a Gaelic (Goidelic) language…a language of the Celtic people known as the Gaels. It shares this distinction with its sister languages, Scottish Gaelic and Manx. And, in fact, many older Irish speakers in Ireland do refer to the language as “Gaelic.”

“Gaelic” is also a word that just about anyone will recognize as referring to a language. And if you want proof that it is, in fact, used in Ireland, I can only point to the fact that the English name of Conradh na Gaeilge is “The Gaelic League.”

The problem is that, by convention, the word “Gaelic” by itself is taken to mean the language of Scotland. This is an important distinction if you’re looking for learning or teaching resources, as anything that is simply called “Gaelic” will be for Scottish Gaelic. Hence the need to specify “Irish Gaelic,” if we’re going to use the term “Gaelic” at all.

Yes, “Irish” is the official name of the language, and all of us who speak or teach the language use it (Well, when we’re speaking English. When we’re speaking Irish, we use “Gaeilge,” or one of the regional iterations). But it’s really a stretch to say that “Irish Gaelic” is “incorrect.”

“You Should ‘Educate’ People by Using the ‘Correct’ Term”

I must say, I’m all for education. And, in fact, whenever I teach or write about the language, I make it clear that the accepted name for it in English is “Irish.”

And, well…see the section above.

But I can’t “educate” people I can’t reach. And I can’t reach people if I’m using a term they don’t understand.

In all my years learning and teaching Irish, I’ve seen many a person who was drawn to the language by what some might consider a “trivial” interest fall in love with it for its own sake. And often what has drawn them in has been the term “Irish Gaelic.” It that’s not education, I don’t know what the word means.

“It’s Disrespectful to the Language/Culture”

Oh, come on! Seriously? Do you honestly think that anyone would dedicate more than a decade to learning a language for which he or she had no respect? Or that such a person could do so without a deep regard for the country and culture to which that language belongs?

A more “polite” version of this one is “It displays an ignorance of Irish culture.” Of course, in addition to being wrong in almost every case, this presumes that no actual Irish person would ever use such a term.

I hate to burst anyone’s bubble, but the reality is that most of the people who use the term “Irish Gaelic” in the titles of their learning or teaching materials are Irish. And I don’t mean “Irish-American.”

Of the people I know personally who have developed such materials for a predominately American market, one is a native speaker and the other grew up spending summers in the Donegal Gaeltacht.  Both were born, raised in, and currently reside in Ireland.

It’s quite simply a pragmatic decision to reach (and thus to educate) the widest possible audience by using the clearest possible terms. Nothing sinister, disrespectful, or ignorant about it.

A World Language or an Exclusive Club?

I’m certainly not suggesting that everyone start using the term “Irish Gaelic” (If you think that’s what I’m saying, you need to re-read this post. Go ahead. I’ll wait).

I do, however, think that the sometimes extreme reactions to the use of that term are, at best, misguided, and at worst, potentially harmful.

While I can’t speak for everyone who learns, teaches, or promotes the Irish language, here’s how I see the situation:

Irish is not, and should not be, an exclusive club. People shouldn’t have to know the passwords and secret handshake to access it. If a little thing like being more explicit about what we call it when addressing certain audiences helps more people to come to know and love the Irish language, I’m all for it.

Irish is a threatened minority language. It needs all our help, and the more exposure we can give it, the better.

In the face of a shrinking Gaeltacht (or, if you prefer, an encroaching Galltacht), the gradual erosion of native Irish idioms and pronunciation in favor of “Béarlachas” and Anglicized pronunciation, reduction in funding, and an often indifferent (sometimes downright hostile) governmental attitude toward the language, the matter of putting the word “Gaelic” after the word “Irish” in the title of a book or a computer program is (or should be) a relatively minor concern. 

There are plenty of things to be bothered, outraged, or concerned about. This isn’t one of them.

Discussion Welcome

I recognize that, for some, this is a still contentious issue, and I welcome CIVIL discussion, both here on my blog and in other places where this post may appear. Emphasis on “civil.” Don’t adopt a hostile stance, or assume that a person who holds a different view is ignorant or disrespectful toward the language and the culture.

We’re all in this together.

Le meas,


anonymous asked:

whats the differrence between demisexual and just regular attraction? im sorry i know its not really nb related but im confused and see a lot of hate over it and thought id ask

hey non, it’s not a problem!

let’s talk about sexual attraction first–sexual attraction is when you find someone or certain things about a person sexually appealing or arousing. you can, 100%, feel sexual attraction towards someone and have absolutely zero intentions or desire to act on that attraction and actually ever have sex with that person (some people experience sexual attraction but are sex repulsed to the idea of actually acting on it even).

keep in mind that experiencing sexual attraction =/= having sex

moving on from that, let’s define demisexuality: demisexuality is defined as when you don’t experience sexual attraction unless you have a prior emotional bond with a person first.

to emphasize: it is about sexual attraction, NOT the act of sex. experiencing sexual attraction and having sex are not inherently the same thing.

i think where people get confused about demisexuality is when they confuse sexual attraction with having sex. they think, “well i would never have sex with someone who i didn’t have an emotional bond with and that’s what’s normal so what on earth makes demisexuality a valid label?” and they’re messing up on two levels there:

the primary issue is that, again, sexual attraction =/= having sex! demisexuality does not mean someone not having sex with another person unless they have an emotional bond, it means that they do not experience SEXUAL ATTRACTION towards someone unless they have a prior emotional bond.

something to compare it to would be this: i’m bisexual. i may see a random person in the grocery store or walking down the street and be attracted to them. i don’t know these people from adam–not their name or who they are or anything about them–but there may still be certain things about them that i find arousing, certain parts of their appearance that i find physically very attractive, and i may even fantasize about them later on. i do not need to know these people in order for this attraction to happen. i do not even need to speak a word to them. i can simply see them, like them, and be attracted to them. it’s a regular part of my sexuality and, as long as i’m not being a creepy fuck about it, it’s completely normal and healthy for me just as it’s normal for plenty of other people in their own sexuality. i am sexually attracted to plenty of people on any given day but that doesn’t mean i’m having sex with all (or any) of them.

with demisexuality, that attraction i describe does not happen. it has nothing to do with the act of having sex, again, but of the initial sexual attraction. for demisexuals, that does not happen unless they have a prior bond to the person. as a bisexual, i don’t need to know someone well or be friends with them beforehand to find them attractive–demisexuals DO need that. sexual attraction physically does not happen for them without that bond.

the second way that people mess up with their understanding of demisexuality is this: the assertion that not having sex with someone unless you have a prior emotional bond is what everyone does is not true. we’ve already established that sexual attraction =/= sex so i’m not going to go over it again but the fact is that people have sex without having an emotional bond ALL THE TIME. there are, literally, entire apps and websites and clubs dedicated specifically to people being able to have sex with others who they do not have an emotional bond or any other ties too.

the assertion that EVERYONE has to have an emotional bond with someone before having sex with them comes from a place of sex shaming and just regular ignorance. people have sex with people they barely know all the time and as long as it’s done consensually there’s nothing wrong with it. another thing is that i think a lot of people may also be conflating having sex with having a relationship and may be misunderstanding things due to that as well (see: “people don’t have romantic relationships without having an emotional bond with the person first” generally does make sense, but it does NOT mean the same thing as “people never have sex without having an emotional bond first” – some people think these ARE the same thing). adding this to people misconstruing sexual attraction + having sex (which, again, not the same thing!) and there are a lot of people who just willfully don’t understand demisexuality.

Vietnam’s Gay Scene

Vietnam’s gay scenes may be lacking in nightlife, but as David Mann reports, things are (slowly) changing for the better.

It’s Saturday night and the boys are ready to hit the town. Binh, 25, is a personal trainer, Alex, 23, is a mixed-race marketing executive and Duong, 26, is a successful Viet Kieu entrepreneur.

Our destination is the suggestively named Golden Cock “G.C” Bar. It lays claim to being the oldest gay bar in Vietnam. It’s also the only gay bar in Hanoi. Just steps from Hoan Kiem Lake, G.C. Bar is pretty much empty during the week except for two hours each Saturday night, when it’s packed to the rafters with gentlemen seeking the company of other gentlemen.

Gay rights supporters cycle through Hanoi as part of the city’s annual Viet Pride festival. 

Inside we join a scrum of sweaty bodies waiting in line for drinks as Kesha’s We R Who We R blares on the speakers. The bar occupies the first floor of a traditional Hanoi tube house: long and narrow, with no dance floor and a lone pool table.

After collecting our reasonably priced G&Ts, the boys and I head to a corner where we can safely peruse the local talent. “Do any of these look familiar?” I ask watching Binh’s eyes scan the room, which is filled predominately with locals and a handful of expats.

“Yeah, most of them I’ve seen before, either here or on Grindr,” he says, referring to the popular gay dating app. “But I prefer to go out. I like meeting guys in person and talking with them out in the open — this is really the only place to do that.”

Soon enough, it’s standing only as more boys pack into the already crammed bar to navigate the safari of twinks, muscle Marys and the odd bear. No dancing, though, which is immensely frustrating given the music is perhaps the most, ahem, fabulous in all of Hanoi.

But then at 12am the curfew hits, the lights come on and the bar closes. Some pack into cabs bound for all-night bars, the rest hop on their motorcycles and head home.

Hanoi’s Emerging Scene

Coming from Sydney, widely considered one of the great gay capitals of the world, I initially found myself disappointed with the absence of a vibrant gay scene in Hanoi. Back home, my Saturday nights were happily spent bouncing between the half-a-dozen or so gay bars on Sydney’s iconic Oxford Street.

Indeed, the more time I spent in Hanoi, the more I realised that Vietnam’s conservative social mores had resulted in same-sex people fraternising mostly behind closed doors, rather than out in the open, in the kinds of bars and trendy gaybourhoods that I was accustomed to.

“There has been a gay boom in Vietnam — in both cities,” says Minh. “Twenty years ago, you would have struggled to see openly gay people or couples walking down the street, or even in bars.”

“People are still very discreet because of the community environment. They’re worried about what people think,” Duong tells me over coffee. “Probably like how Sydney or London was 30 years ago.”

An image from “The Pink Choice” a compilation of photos of same-sex couples in Vietnam compiled by Vietnamese photographer Maika Elan.

However, none of this is to say that Hanoi has nothing to offer its gay residents and visitors. In fact, Minh, 35, says that compared with when he first came out 20 years ago, things have improved dramatically.

“There has been a gay boom in Vietnam — in both cities,” he says. “20 years ago, you would have struggled to see openly gay people or couples walking down the street, or even in bars.”

Indeed, there’s a lot of evidence to show that Hanoi’s gay scene is developing. At Com Ga Café in Hanoi’s Old Quarter, owner Anh-Thuan Nguyen has dedicated the fourth floor to The Closet, a gay-friendly café and lounge that hosts bi-monthly events.

Music and cocktail venue CAMA ATK, tucked away on Mai Hac De Street in Hanoi’s Hai Ba Trung District, hosts a monthly Queer Disco where gay icons Beyonce, Kylie, Lady Gaga and Madonna are the main soundtrack and drag queens proudly strut their stuff for the audience. May’s Queer Disco also saw the launch of Hanoi’s first LGBT zine (hipster speak for “magazine”), Hanoi Panic, which is now stocked at cafes Joma, Daluva and La Bicicleta. The publication’s founders have also, as of September, opened the Hanoi Panic Bar, hosting everything from after parties to speaker events and weekly themed parties. 

“I think more spaces to meet other gay people would really improve the scene here,” he says. “Especially another bar or club with a dance floor to go dancing with friends — that would be amazing.”

There is also the US Embassy-sponsored ASEAN Pride Festival, which for the second consecutive year, saw around 5000 Hanoians gather to watch queer-friendly live music acts from around Southeast Asia perform to raise awareness of LGBT issues and celebrate sexual diversity. [Openly gay U.S. Ambassador - the first openly gay U.S. Ambassador to be posted to Southeast Asia - Ted Osius and husband Clayton Bond also attended the event, accompanied by other members of the diplomatic community.]

Revellers at this year’s Halloween Queer Disco Party at Club CAMA ATK in Hanoi. 

Of course, there are plenty of LGBT-friendly cafés found throughout Hanoi. In Tay Ho District, Maison de Tet Décor is popular with the brunching crowd, while Puku, Boo Cafe and the Hanoi Social Club show their fervent support of gay clientele with rainbow flags on the walls as a sign of proud solidarity.

But for Alex, an American expat who moved to Hanoi six months ago from Phnom Penh, the capital’s gay scene still lags behind other parts of Asia, including neighbouring Cambodia and Thailand.

“I think more spaces to meet other gay people would really improve the scene here,” he says. “Especially another bar or club with a dance floor to go dancing with friends — that would be amazing.”

Meanwhile, in Saigon

Down south, however, a slightly different story emerges. More developed, wealthier and with a larger contingent of expats and openly gay Vietnamese, Ho Chi Minh City flies the rainbow flag moderately higher than its northern sister.

In comparison with Hanoi, Ho Chi Minh City boasts a marginally more developed scene. Its comparatively high concentration of LGBT residents, including those who have relocated from the countryside or overseas, has also helped the tolerance levels, creating a more open and liberal environment where locals can be more open about their sexual preference.

“It’s not really hard to meet guys or girls here — whether it’s at the office, mixed bars or gyms like California Wow. People are less discreet here than they are in Hanoi,” he says.

“Ho Chi Minh City is more happening and open in terms of gay venues and the visibility of the gay community,” says Huy, an executive at a hip digital marketing agency in Ho Chi Minh City’s District 1.

For the younger crowds, Saturday nights are typically split between Centro Lounge, near Lam Son Square, the Republic Lounge in District 1, or Papa Café, a café-cum-double-storey-club overlooking Turtle Lake.

“Older guys tend to go to Apocalypse, a gay-straight bar, but overall the scene is pretty mixed in terms of where different tribes — twinks, jocks, bears — hang out. It’s not really that segregated.”

Huy also says that Le Pub and THI Lounge in District 1 cater to mixed gay-straight crowds, with a strong patronage from gay clientele on weekends.

“It’s not really hard to meet guys or girls here — whether it’s at the office, mixed bars or gyms like California Wow. People are less discreet here than they are in Hanoi,” he says.

Of course, not everyone likes to be scene queen. “I don’t really frequent the ‘scene’ anymore,” explains former Saigon scenester Josh Nguyen. “I did get into it at one point but soon got tired of the stereotypical attitudes. The music is also a terrible mix between Vinahouse and Top 40.”

Wanted: More Lesbians

But while the gay fellas of Hanoi and Ho Chi Minh City might bemoan their lack of romantic options, women have it even harder.

“I did notice that it’s much, much easier to meet gay men in Ho Chi Minh City, and that the bigger expat community and maybe more outgoing locals meant I was meeting more gay people in general,” says Karen Hewell, an American expat who arrived in Vietnam nearly three years ago, and has lived in both cities.

“Hanoi and Ho Chi Minh City are not far apart in terms of a community for women,” she says, adding that after some fruitless searches online and asking around, she posted something on The New Hanoian, an English language community site in Vietnam.

“Meeting queer women can be difficult because of local traditions that stipulate children live with their parents until marriage. Had I not met her, I could imagine I would have reached a point of dire frustration”

“I had two ladies respond saying they also had a hard time finding places to meet like-minded women, and we sort of bonded over that.”

Karen, who now lives with her Vietnamese girlfriend in Hanoi, says the two met on a blind date set up by a mutual friend. She says that initially cultural barriers made it tricky to meet other women, regardless of whether they were open about their sexuality or not.

“Meeting queer women can be difficult because of local traditions that stipulate children live with their parents until marriage. Had I not met her, I could imagine I would have reached a point of dire frustration.

“I know that people also use apps like Brenda and OkCupid, and Le Pub attracts a decent crowd of women on weekends, same with trendy coffee shops — but it moves around.”

However, in spite of the challenges, she’s optimistic that a shift in attitudes, along with bigger pride events, will deliver a more open and active gay scene for both men and women.

“Having now moved back to Hanoi after doing a long stint in Ho Chi Minh City, it’s so refreshing to see things like Queer Disco — that gays actually go to — pop up.”

The Apps

While Hanoi may be a little behind the times in regards to gay nightlife, it’s right on cue with its use of high-tech dating apps such as Grindr, Tindr, Jack’d and Her (for women) that employ GPS-tracking to connect you with other like-minded people nearby. Since arriving on the market around four years ago, use of the apps has skyrocketed along with the purchase of smartphones.

“In the past, people would have gone to gyms or saunas to meet people. Now, the apps mean you can meet other LGBT people even more discreetly — whether it’s other Vietnamese, tourists or expats,” says Tuan

“In the past, people would have gone to gyms or saunas to meet people. Now, the apps mean you can meet other LGBT people even more discreetly — whether it’s other Vietnamese, tourists or expats,” says Tuan, a 29-year-old business development manager.

But while the emergence of networking apps such as Grindr and Jack’d means Tuan has no trouble finding dates, he says it’s been harder to find someone to settle down with.

“Most people on networking apps, whether it’s hookup apps like Grindr or matchmaking apps like Tinder, aren’t really interested in a relationship,” says Tuan.

“I don’t like using the apps. But I still know a lot of people enjoy using them.”

Whether you’re heading out for the night or searching for love, it seems like there are increasingly more options on the table for gay people in Vietnam. For young guys like Binh, Alex and Duong, the current trends are encouraging.

“We know things are changing. And it’s definitely changing for the better — albeit slowly.

“As Vietnam develops and becomes more open, we know the gay scene will, too.”

**Disclaimer: This article was originally slated to run in the June edition of Word magazine but was pulled by Vietnam’s censors. 

anonymous asked:

Why exactly does shelley deserve so much attention? No hate I'm just curious

i am so glad you asked, here’s why you should stan shelley hennig:

  • she won miss teen usa at only 17. now i know what you’re thinking - so what? she’s a beauty queen but what does that mean? well for a start shelley was a complete pageant novice yet she won the most prestigious competition for her age group in america. also, the motivation for her entering came from her need to get a scholarship to get into a dance college (which is what she really wanted to do at that age) and nothing to do with her desire to wear a crown - she’s actually made comments since about hating crowns!
  • upon winning miss teen usa, she made it her #1 priority to be a voice to teenagers. part of her role was to travel around the country, and in doing so she made sure to speak to plenty of young teenagers who looked up to her in order to try and be a positive influence in their lives (x)
  • one of the largest issues she addressed was drink driving. in fact, shelley became a massive advocate to stop drink driving and lended her voice to companies such as ‘buzz free prom’ and C.A.D.A in louisiana, dedicated to trying to prevent alcohol and drug abuse. this was a cause particularly close to her heart because at the age of 14 she lost her eldest brother in a drink driving accident (x)
  • she worked with many other non-profit organizations during her time including seeds of peace, D.A.R.E, sparrow clubs and SHiNE
  • miss teen usa didn’t get to her head; she continued on at school, even having two poems published in the ‘young authors book of poetry’ and went on to study at the ‘new york conservatory for dramatic arts’ (which she gained a scholarship for as part of her winnings) where she worked hard at getting into acting. she’s spoken before about how acting was not something that came naturally to her (in fact she’s flat out said she sucked) but she worked hard at it to get where she is today
  • at the age of 20 she booked her first acting role on ‘days of our lives’ all on her own merit where she worked 12 hour days
  • she went on to receive two daytime emmy nominations for outstanding younger actress; i’d just like to stress that in soaps they’re allowed one take for their scene. one take to get it right. these nominations stressed how far shelley had come in her acting career
  • she dealt with a lot of hate for the character she played actually, mostly because her character had been recast and the previous actress was red haired, blue eyed. it’s a lot of pressure to tackle your first acting job when fans of the shows are yelling about how you’re not right for the part
  • i know being like ‘she was a soap star!!’ must seem like a dumb reason on this list, but remember that soaps address a lot of real-life issues and seeing them done well on tv can effect a lot of real life people. shelley’s spoken about how people have told her that they were touched or helped by something she portrayed as her character, and i think it’s pretty important to remember the outreach these shows have (x)
  • shelley was asked to stay on teen wolf as a main. she was only supposed to do two episodes in season 3 but jeff asked her to stay on as malia; i think that speaks volumes about her not only as an actress, but her presence on set
  • she’s literally got on like a house on fire with every single cast she’s been placed with (particularly the secret circle, of whom she’s still good friends with to this day, and teen wolf) that tells you something about how lovely she must be to work with
  • the very first full length film she did (unfriended; i know ouija was released first but unfriended was actually filmed prior to this!) she was cast as the lead and she literally shot the movie in one take. they would sit and do 90 minutes of acting, an entire script run, going through every emotion under the sun - and who suggested they do this? shelley. she’s always ready to push herself and sink her teeth into a challenge. it’s also important to note that while the movie was not critically acclaimed, shelley’s performance was, and she was called the saving grace of the movie by many reviews
  • she’s the first female in the teen wolf cast to win an acting award which is pretty damn cool; she got choice female summer tv star at the teen choice awards
  • when the louisana floods happened, she was a great voice in promoting aid and also put her money towards feeding people in denham springs
  • she made a lot of noise during the election this year also which i’m proud of her for, telling people to vote and being very clear about where her support lay, without outright trying to pressure people into voting hillary
  • she’s beautiful, she’s funny, she’s extremely down to earth, she’s so good at promoting self confidence (i know i personally am very self-conscious about acne, and i’ve seen instagram posts and snapchats from shelley being like ‘i’ve got a zit but i still look flawless screw it’ and that helped me a lot) and she always promotes the message to be yourself
  • she’s a big advocate for girl power! both in how malia is and her relationship with other women
  • she’s always been supportive of LGBTQ; she and phoebe tonkin were both extremely supportive of fans who wanted ‘fayana’ (a ship between their two characters on the secret circle) and still support it to this day. she’s also been vocal about making malia bisexual #givemaliagirlfriend
  • she’s loyal to her roots, and that shows in her love for her family (see her relationship with her niece, especially over this past year, which is adorable!) and her loyalty to shows such as days of our lives where she begun, which she is planning a return to next year. it’s lovely to see how humble she is and how thankful she is to her origins
  • she deals with anxiety, which i don’t think anyone really knows because she never draws attention to it (and hey, is probably partly fuelled by how badly the fandom treats her), but it’s obvious she’s really tried to work on that and has attended far more fan conventions this year to try and give back to her fans
  • overall shelley is incredible. she’s worked so hard to get to where she is, has had great success along the way with even more success to come i’m sure, and has remained so humble. just watch literally any interview where she talks about teen wolf; she’s so thankful and grateful to the show even though she doesn’t get half the credit she deserves. she really gets her head into her characters; 6x01 with the hair flip which was supposed to show malia looking up to lydia and copying her mannerisms is such an example of this. she puts her heart and soul into her work, but never comes across as egotistical. and she’s so damn funny that she needs her own comedy show somewhere! shelley deserves so much more attention and i’m sure one day, with her talent, she’ll get just that
Hot For Teacher

AU, Klaine, 17k.  A03. KHBB.

When dreamy new orchestra director Blaine Anderson shows up at Mountain High, an arts school near L.A., Kurt doesn’t plan on having much to do with him.  Kurt just wants to keep his head down and do his job, heading up the choral program and making sure Rachel doesn’t go overboard with her drama students.   It’s hard enough admitting that he needed a break from his acting career without adding failed romance to the equation. But when even Rachel succumbs to Blaine’s charms, Kurt decides to see for himself what Blaine is like.

Written for the 2016 Kurt Hummel Big Bang.  Many thanks to the talented @47mel47  for creating this amazing trailer - I want to watch it over and over.  Here’s the link so you can give her some love directly.   And thanks as always to my dear friend and wonderful beta @perryavenue without whom this fandom life would not be nearly as much fun.

Chapter 1

Kurt figures he must have missed the email in the flurry of back to school activity.  But as he files in to the first teacher orientation meeting of the year, shuffling around the circle of chairs to make space for several late arrivals, Rachel is quick to fill him in.

“There’s a new orchestra director.  Easy on the eyes, isn’t he?  Although apparently he hasn’t taught high school before.”

Kurt leans forward and looks down the row, but the athletic director is blocking his view.   All he can see is that the new teacher is wearing bright red pants and boat shoes.  “Did Mr. Cortez retire?”

Rachel nods.  “Sort of.  I think Sue kicked him out.  Something about not showing sufficient respect for her royal highness.”

“She’s not royalty, no matter what she says.  I checked.”

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azuresquirrel  asked:

I do this because I want to be helpful and not selfishly get fic for my OTPS, not at all. Femslash February prompt: Rei/Usagi. Rei hates her birthday. Usagi wants to fix that. Usagi gets Rei something she is sure she will love. It's tickets to a Takarazuka musical. Rei is Less Than Amused. Take it from there.

Apparently this was the best prompt ever. Also apparently I REALLY LOVE writing Rei and Usagi. As a result, this fic is TWICE AS LONG as that other one. And I even did light research for it. You unleashed a monster.


It was widely known among her friends that Rei wasn’t overly fond of her birthday, even if nobody knew exactly why. The reason was simple. It was her designated “day” to spend with her father, but he usually sent someone else in his place unless it was campaign season or something was going on politically and he was trying to play up the family man angle. Rei had picked up on that pattern fairly quickly and decided to avoid the birthday dinner as much as she could. Unfortunately, her father was as tenacious as she was, so that didn’t always work.

So her preferred activity on her birthday was finding the best hiding place in Tokyo and leading some hapless assistant on a merry chase. But becoming friends with Usagi had thrown a wrench in that. She was always trying to plan some sort of get-together and Rei always had to get out of it somehow. She didn’t want to explain it to her and other girls, and she sure as hell didn’t want to see their reactions if the party got crashed by some suit keen on kidnapping her.

Usagi had been suspiciously quiet this year, though. She was probably planning a surprise party. Well, she’d have no one to surprise, thought Rei as she got up early the morning of the big day, preparing to make her usual escape.  She felt a twinge of guilt over that, but it was quickly smothered when she reminded herself that this would just mean Usagi would have free cake to enjoy. The other girls would rally and just throw the party for Usagi instead to make up for her disappointment.

With all the essentials packed in a tote bag- manga, snacks, money, homework to do, a hat and glasses to put on to disguise herself if need be-she left the shrine. Only to find someone waiting at the bottom of the steps.

Usagi?” Rei could hardly believe her eyes. She looked up at the dark sky and back at odango-haired goon standing there with a big grin. “What are you doing? It’s early.” She wondered if Usagi had just somehow not noticed this, and as soon as Rei reminded her she’d drop back to sleep, right there.

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How to College (Part One)

As some prepare to go back to college (I guess this could also be applied to High School) or going to college for the first time, here are some helpful things to keep in mind from a Super Senior

Buy A Good Planner
You may have to dole out some cash, but a good planner is imperative for school. I know that are a lot of people out there who promote Bullet Journals, and if you can do it, more power to you. The planner I use is from etsy called PlumPaperDesigns. I personally have a regular planner set up hourly, because that is how I process my days, but there are plenty of options to choose from. Also, it is personalized, so that is always a plus for me.
On the final note on planners, if you buy it Use It! I am not joking. It took me years to actually use planner I purchased (all crappy 10 dollar ones from Target btw) but once I got one I loved and once I used it, boom better(ish) time management.

Go to Syllabus Day
There are a lot of older college students that say skip it, and hell, I have skipped a few. But as you get older, your classes shrink and the more students and professors you may become more comfortable with. In addition, you get a list of all the important dates that you can put in that handy dandy planner you bought. 

Join at least one student organization
This can be anything from the Adventure club to whatever club is there for your major to Greek Life. Join Something. Trust me, you do not want to think back to your college years and not seeing anything. In addition to the social aspect these clubs bring about, they are also awesome for networking for your current situations and for the future. 

On that note Get a Job
Now this does not have to be done immediately, but you should have had at least one job in your four (or five) years of undergrad. A) you need to build your resume from somewhere, B) it teaches you time management, and C)money. You cannot mooch off your parents for forever. Getting a job teaches you responsibility for not only yourself, but others. It will teach you budgeting, because you really should blow your money on alcohol every weekend (been there, done that) and it teaches you how to be an adult. I have had my job for three years, and in that time I have had three raises and one promotion and then another job offer (at the same place). This will look amazing on a resume to see my dedication to my job and my place of work and will show that I know how to be an employee.
But on this note as well DO NOT WORK 40 HOURS A WEEK AND BE A FULL TIME STUDENT. it is stupid, trust me. I am doing that now. Worst fucking decision of my life. I have no time to do all my school work on top of my jobs, unless I compromise on sleep or function. Luckily, it is easy for me to go home early on some days, but for the love of all things, do not do it unless it is absolutely necessary.

Do your work earlier than later
This is something I am still trying to do, but I have learned. The earlier you get started on something, the earlier you finish and the earlier you can party watch netflix. Trust me, your mental health and your grades will thank you in the end.

And finally (for this round) Failing is OK
You failed a class, well suck it up buttercup and retake it. College will kick you in the ass, harder and less forgiving than high school. If you though high school was easy then you are in for a wake up call. There are some classes that you could take in your sleep, but then there are some classes that you are always studying for instead of sleeping. Failing is part of life, and I do hope you get through college with all A’s and B’s, but if you fail, it is okay. From failure you learn and change and understand. I failed plenty of classes of undergrad (which is partially why I am a super senior) but I have learned from my mistakes and moved on and my mental health and grades are thankful for that understanding.

rosietwiggs  asked:


Let the record reflect that Rosie is an asshole.

Also, I’m sorry that this is really weird.

18. Trying to get pregnant

“I want a baby,” Felicity blurted into the quiet.

Oliver leaned over, choking on his fresh swallow of soda, and Tommy stared at Felicity with an open mouth as he absently pounded his best friend on the back.

“You what?” Oliver rasped, still wheezing and coughing.

"Um.” Tommy leaned forward, forearms bracing on his knees as he looked across the coffee table at Felicity on the loveseat. “I am so confused. Are you—did you start dating somebody and not tell us?”

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I understand there is reason for discussion if Cidney is oversexualized or not - and I won´t go further into that because everyone has the right for their own opinion - but when it comes to all-male party and the gender-ratio, I don´t really see any reasons to complain.

The Final Fantasy series has always featured strong women and girls - and especially the latest FF games have been very balanced.

XIII was 3:3
XIII-2 was 1:1
LR was Lightning only
Type-0 is 7:7

XII was 3:3.
- and so on.

So why not let SE try something different?
Back then, with FF X-2 we had an all girl party - and if there had been a dude, they would probably behaved differently, too.
This has nothing to do with “Girls and boys can´t be intimate with each other without being lovers?” or “So boys and girls can´t be best friends?” - this is about special forms which groups can take, if they are entirely made of one gender.

I´ve spent many years attending one-gendered classes - and I´ve spent years attending mixed classes and there was a huge difference in the behaviour of both genders, when the others were around.
Did we get along? HECK YEAH WE DID!
But still, it was nice to be on our own as well for some time.

And now, please don´t tell me that you have NEVER EVER said “Damn boys suck they just don´t understand us!”, or “Damn girls are just so different”

There are exceptions where girls or boys can fit perfectly well into “the other group” where it makes literally no difference - but that is rare. Possible, but rare.

And there definitely is difference between “All girl group”, “mixed group” and “all boys group” in the behaviour, their interests, or the things they talk about.
(Mind you, exceptions are of course always possible)

Yes, I too doubt that an all male cast will make the game “more approachable”, they could have worded and reasoned way better than this - but the statement about the boys being able to be more themselves and more natural without a girl?
That´s definitely true - would work the same vice versa with girls - and I´ve witnessed enough cases from my own friends, in how a girl in an all boy´s group, or a boy in an all girl´s group can make a difference.

(Remember the times when you were in puberty and prefered being with your own gender, because the other side was just “too different” back then? )
There is a reason why grown up Ladies have their Ladies´ Nights - and why dudes still go to pubs together on their own.
That´s not sexist - that´s just nice, sometimes.

  • Would a Lady discuss her period problems when being with dudes only? Probably not - she´d talk about that with her female friends, because they understand.
    Or she´d rant about her stupid boyfriend / ex-boyfriend rather to her other girls because they can relate to her point of view.
    Or they´d talk about shoes, make-up, their favourite movies / actors / etc
  • Would a Man discuss his feelings about that other ‘asshole dude’ which he sees as a rival when courting his love? Or at work? Or in his sports team? - Probably also with dudes.
    Or how he feels like he can´t compete with other dudes - how he fears he is too dumn / ugly / hasn´t enough muscles /  whatsoevs? Probably also to his male friends.

So please - just let SE be.
We always had nice gender ratios - and if they want an all-male party for the narrative aspect and the special chemistry of “one gendered groups” - …why not?

It´s not that we won´t have any female characters anyway - I am sure we will have female guest-party members quite some time - and we still don´t know whether Stella, Luna, or the black-haired girl are friends, or foes.

There are so many people here on tumblr and twitter, bitching about this all-male party - and in the same sentence suggesting an “all girl´s group” - when in fact we´ve had that already.
And why would all-girls be fine and awesome- but all male “disgusting” and “boring”?
Think about it -  THAT sounds really sexist.

I know there will be plenty people again, not even bothering to read this post, while reblogging it and putting their hate towards me into the tags - but please- go ahead.
I never intended to go back to this debate, but these double-standarts are just disgusting and annoying and I wanted to share my take on that.

(And yes - let me repeat - I am not believing that "all male cast” makes the Game more approachable - but for reasons listed above, there surely is a difference to characters´ behaviour in regard to the gender-ratio of the group - and those who played the demo know how much banter and group interaction and bonding happens in the game. )

To you  I  maybe am just “that dumb white fuckboy who´s crying bitter male tears because his sausage-fest is being attacked” - but if you can overlook that for just one moment - if you can focus on what I said above for a few minutes…isn´t there a chance that this dumb white dude is right with what he´s saying?
Or at least making a good point?


-> personal experience from being a kindergarden teacher and observing the kids and how they act around each other

-> also teaching/ working in after-school care clubs (age range 6-13)

-> personal experience with years of one -gendered and mixed-gendered classes

-> personal experience from spending time with “only girl” groups, “mixed groups” and “only boy groups”

So please - go on and tell me, that there is no difference when it comes to behaviour, topics for talking and possibly also things to do, between those three groups.
I have entire (pedagogic / didactic / psychologic ) books dedicated to this topic and will gladly translate these scientific works for you, if you give me some time.

Shitting onto SE´s heads for focusing on the special aspect of one gendered groups is stupid - because there is a nice difference and the male answer to Final Fantasy X-2 also deserves to be told.