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Alex Gaskarth’s speech before Missing You. I love how much he cares for his fans!

A video of me doing my therapy. Since I can’t bend my knee, I can’t stand up straight. Walking isn’t even an option for 12 weeks sincey right foot was completely shattered. I will get the pics of the scans so I can show them. But using this machine will help me with bending my left leg so I can stand on it again. Without pain… My left upper leg was broken on 3 places but because of the iron pens and screws I’m allowed to stand on it. It’s not going anywhere. Neither am I.

anonymous asked:

hello! i was wondering... what is a healthy way to deal with anger? both lashing out and repressing it seem not good... so what to do? i find it especially difficult to understand if i have been really wronged or if i am exaggerating... also considering that there are times when i feel mad at a lot of people for kind of small things

hey! 

you are totally correct, lashing out and repressing angry feelings are not great ways of handling anger. They’re both so common but tend to have a negative impact both on the person with the angry feelings and the people around them, and that sucks. 

there are some strategies to handle anger more effectively, though. I definitely recommend therapy to work on the kind of stuff you are talking about- depending on what your needs/goals are you might be able to work with a therapist for a few sessions (maybe 6-10, for example) and come out with a skill set to manage anger in a way you like better.

A few of the things I might think about are social skills training, including things like assertiveness (like, how do you communicate your needs and feelings in a respectful, clear way without being rude or aggressive) and jumping to conclusions (like, how do you understand what the most likely intentions of the other person are, so you can work through how to respond best- is this likely to be a scenario where you’ve been wronged? or could you have misinterpreted things?), and emotion regulation skills, which can help you manage your own emotions better as well as interpret other people’s emotions better (which can be useful in tough situations where you need to interpret other people). You can find some self-help stuff on this, but it’s so much easier to work with a professional because they know what the skill is supposed to look like and can help model it and give you extra insight based on what they see. I hope that helps! 

My lungs gave out
As I faced the crowd
I think that keeping this up,
Could be dangerous
‘Cause I’m flesh and bone,
But I’m a rolling fuckin’ stone
And the experts say I’m delirious

Give me therapy
I’m a walking travesty
But I’m smiling at everything
Therapy
You were never a friend to me
And you can take back your misery

Arrogant boy,
Love yourself so no one has to
They’re better off without you
(They’re better off without you)

Arrogant boy,
Cause a scene like you’re supposed to
They’ll fall asleep without you
You’re lucky if your memory remains

Give me therapy
I’m a walking travesty
But I’m smiling at everything
Therapy
You were never a friend to me
And you can take back your misery

Therapy
I’m a walking travesty
But I’m smiling at everything
Therapy
You were never a friend to me
And you can choke on your misery

Feeling better still

I am feeling so much better! If you are on the fence about taking meds for PTSD I would really consider it. Or if you just haven’t found the right one, keep trying. I wish I had done this sooner.

I finally threw everything at the PTSD, counseling, EMDR, meds, journal writting, blogging, reading other’s stories, reflecting on what I want in the future, processing prompts, art, gardening, cutting out hurtful people, cutting out stress, my own private exposure therapy, exercising, not having a job, cutting out men and sex, listening to a lot of fun or calming music, sleep, family time, self-care, cooking, support group, asking for help and support, talking about everything… It’s taken two years and the meds are the big push I needed.

Trazadone (an older antidepressant) has been fantastic to help me sleep and my antidepressant is brintellix. I had to work through 3 different psychiatrists/doctors prescribing and almost 10 different medicines before I found this combination.

Same story with the counseling, I went through 4 counselors before I found #5 who is a wonderful person and a wonderful counselor. Also I have found EMDR works really well for me but CBT didn’t, it just made me anxious, depressed and angry.

*Thank you selfcareafterrape and survivorsupport, you have been integral to this process and I read everything you all post!!