then look at the ship you're on

‘Why do Feysand and Rowaelin not get treated exactly the same way in the narrative/look exactly the same/why does Rhys do some things Rowan doesn’t/why is Rowan allowed to do some things that the narrative addresses with Rhys and points out that they’re not good’? repeat forever. 

Because there is not one model of a good/healthy relationship. It does not work Feyrhys = healthy; everything else = toxic. 

Because women are not carbon copies of one another. We have different tastes. We have different likes. We have different needs in a relationship. We are our own individual people and we need our partners to respond to our personal preferences, likes, and dislikes and not simply have someone behave exactly the same way to every single person they’re with. 

Feyre dislikes feeling smothered or not having her full freedom and independence. As such, when the mating bond snaps into place between her and Rhys, Rhys carefully explains to her why he feels protective and territorial and that he is working to stop doing that. Because she has been in an abusive relationship before where someone has done these things to an unhealthy level and is uncomfortable with any minor repetition of them. Rhys addresses her personal concerns and her personal needs and that is why the narrative picks this out and unpicks it and explains it with Rhys but not with Rowan. 

Aelin is a completely different character with a completely different backstory, a completely different set of insecurities and a completely different set of needs and Rowan responds to them. Aelin does not have a problem with Rowan being territorial or protective over, not in the way Feyre does. It might be a vague annoyance sometimes (AT THE VERY MOST) and even then she’s dismissive of it and it amuses her and it is never taken too far to the point that it restricts her freedom/the choices she can make/the things that she can do. And she is not in any way triggered by it as she has not experienced the same kind of abuse that Feyre has. 

Territorial behaviour of the kind that comes natural to the fae is not in itself abusive/unhealthy. Protectiveness over the people that you care about is not in itself unhealthy/abusive. What would be unhealthy would be to expect men to treat every single woman he meets/is with exactly the same way because it suits one single woman. That is reductive and frankly insulting.

 I have no doubt that Rhys would behave differently with Aelin and that Rowan would behave differently with Feyre because they are individual people with individual needs and desires and expecting Aelin to be treated the same as Feyre because this is apparently the only standard of a healthy relationship is frankly a little bit misoygnistic because, shock horror, not all women think the same/feel the same/like/dislike the same things. Isn’t that amazing? It’s as though we’re real people who know what we like and don’t like and expect the people closest to us to respect that and respond accordingly. Incredible. 

TL;DR Stop comparing Feyrhys and Rowaelin. Especially if the purpose of this is to say ‘Rhys does x, this is good for Feyre and makes their relationship healthy. Rowan does not do x, therefore this is bad for Aelin and makes their relationship unhealthy’ because, newsflash, that’s not the way it works

There is no one way to have a good, positive relationship. In fact that thinking in itself is unhealthy. Different people have different needs and their partners should therefore behave differently so suit those needs, not just mirror another’s behaviour because it has been deemed ‘The Most Healthy And Appropriate Way To Behave With Women’. Because. Guess what? Not all women are going to want/respond well to that and you ignoring their needs and wants in order to try and fulfil this idealistic idea of a perfect relationship is not healthy. Rowan is responding to what Aelin personally wants/needs/feels comfortable with. He is not Rhys, he does not behave like Rhys and that is completely okay because Aelin is not Feyre and does not need him to do that for her. 

Cassian: *doesn’t want to trust Jyn but allows her to keep the gun anyway*

Cassian: *shouts Jyn’s name whenever she puts herself in danger’s way*

Cassian: *looks impressed when Jyn takes down the stormtroopers by herself*

Cassian: *tries to convince himself that Jyn is now expendable so he can now leave her*

Cassian: *goes to find Jyn first before leaving when Jedha’s bombed even though he already told himself she was expendable*

Cassian: *tells Jyn she can’t go with him and Bodhi because she’s the messenger and she shouldn’t be harmed (sure, Cassian, whatever you say)*

Cassian: *plans to shoot Galen Erso but hesitates*

Cassian: *sees Jyn through his telescope* *panics*

Cassian: *tells the Rebel Alliance not to bomb the base*

Cassian: *when the base is bombed, only one word escapes his lips: Jyn*

Cassian: *goes to save Jyn even though it’s highly dangerous and he might be killed*

Cassian: *tries to tell himself that the reason he’s attached to Jyn is based on logic and pragmatism (sure)*

Cassian: *can’t stop thinking about Jyn though*

Cassian:

Me: *sips drink, eats fries* Oh Cassian dear…

☀️ Summer tol and smol ☀️

Kenma and his shoes are too cute for this world and Kuroo is That One Guy™ who wears flip flops all summer you can’t convince me otherwise ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

im a bit early but the absolute ball of CHEESE to the left actually bought himself and his girlfriend matching his/hers outfits for Christmas. dont they look wonderful

I’ve been seeing some people saying not to ship Otabek and Yuri because he’s 18, but as with JJ there’s not a problem. From what I understand the grand prix is taking place between Oct to Dec. Since the show said Otabek is 18 I’m assuming Nov-Dec since his birthday is Oct 31. So fresh 18yr old. Yuri’s birthday is in March so that’s 4-5 months until he’s 16. In both Russia and Kazakhstan the age of consent is 16. That means they could simply have a friendship/romantic relationship until then. Considering that he’s thought about Yuri this long I doubt Altin would mind waiting another 4-5 months to get jiggy with it or longer bc it’s all about Yuri being comfortable

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Top 30 romantic ships (as voted by my followers) → #02 Peyton and Lucas ∙ One Tree Hill
“I couldn’t die and do you know why? Because I had to come back and look into those green eyes and tell you I love you. I do. I love you, Peyton"

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There is a nigh-unholy amount of UST in this music video, holy god…

Since Chris x Josh ship name is ‘climbing class’ and it’s the only ship who has a quote name (at least from what I know), can’t we just name all ships with a quote ? 
Like the ship names could be so adorable.

  • Mike x Jess : He came for me
  • Chris x Ashley : None of it was wasted
  • Matt x Emily : You’re a person
  • Josh x Sam : We had a connection
  • Mike x Emily : He’s my man
  • Emily x Jess : Looking out for my girl
  • Mike x Sam : Thanks God you found me

I don’t know, I think it could be original and really cool ??

i made a thing of remus and sirius being all cute

you know the thing about antis is that i really dont care about the fact that you dont ship something, i guess you’re kind of annoying because you tell me what to do. or not.

look man i’m shipping otayuri or shaladin or idk what fictional ship you think is gross, for myself.

not for you.

okay not everything is about you. its a hard concept to grasp i know. but. its not about you. you have to get used to it, but its just not about you okay? its just not. super sad i know.

i ship it, for me, and for the people who do enjoy it.

not the ones who dont ship it.

not for you to hate on it.

not for you.

in other words stop being petty and think everything is directed to you.

Life Is Strange

so me and my boyfriend are playing Life Is Strange on his PS4 and I mentioned it being kind of popular lesbian stuff and he just looked at me all confused like: whaat what lesbian there are none… wait you mean Chloe and Max… they are friends..umm but they are cute…ummmmmm I don’t know Kate.

*3 hours later*

Chloe: If you’re hardcore then kiss me Max 
choice one: Kiss Chloe                      
choice two: don’t kiss Chloe

me: ooooh yeeesss finally
boyfriend looks at me grinning while I laugh and try to steal the controller from him: ooooooooookaaay you were right *he himself hits option one* 

both: awwwwwwwwwww 
both: 

Originally posted by goldenfluffy

anonymous asked:

Darth Vader and Luke, in a "TIE fighter pilot Luke" AU please? :)

Vader stared at the profile of one of the new TIE pilots assigned to his ship, a TIE pilot with an impossible name. He never usually bothered to learn the names, or even look at the names, of new recruits because they rarely survived past their first few dogfights, but he had felt the presence of a strong, if untrained, Force-sensitive among them and wanted to know how the Inquisitors could have possibly missed someone like him. But now, with an eerily familiar face staring back at him with an unprofessional, giddy smile from the screen of his datapad, he was unexpectedly glad they had missed this boy, had not killed him, or taken him before Vader had learned his name, and he barely took the time to drop the datapad before almost running down to the hangar to retrieve his son.


Send me a set of characters and an AU setting for a three sentence fic!

The way Han’s gaze drops onto Luke’s lips when Luke says that Han’ll get his reward ♡^▽^♡