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Female childhood experiences:

  • getting pushed around, shoved, bullied, hair pulled and things stolen by boys and being told to not react because “boys will be boys” and “that only means they like you” or “you’re only encouraging them to do more if you respond” and “they’re only trying to get a reaction”
  • being repeatedly scolded, called out, and punished for not acting enough lady-like, for getting dirty in the mud or getting your knee bloodied, boys of course don’t get punished for this because “it’s only expected of them”
  • being fitted into uncomfortable, limiting clothes that makes it hard to play
  • having boys lift up your skirt and laugh at you to embarrass you
  • not realizing what is so embarrassing about it but feeling ashamed
  • having to wait to go outside to play because first your hair has to be braided/styled and you have to look respectable at all times
  • gangs of boys laughing at you for being a girl and thus somehow beneath them
  • getting shoved out of “boy’s clubs” and chased out for being a girl
  • having “you’re a girl!” shouted at you as if it was an insult
  • demanding same respect and freedom boys have and getting told that you are somehow different and pushing you to focus on clothes and makeup instead
  • getting your ideas, suggestions and voice yelled over by loud boys 
  • not getting a say in anything
  • feeling self conscious about your body and very early trying to locate where you are on the spectrum of “sexy” to determine your social value
  • figuring you were really low on the spectrum and either giving up on it or panicking and trying to increase your value somehow
  • figuring boys will hate you unless you can get their attention with your looks but even if they like you for a bit, as soon as they get what they wanted from you they will turn against you and join other boys in humiliating you again
  • hating boys
  • feeling like you don’t have a voice and you don’t matter
  • feeling like your interests don’t matter and being actively discouraged to developing any except for stereotypical feminine ones
  • seeing only celebrated adult women are those which are high on the “sexy” spectrum and thrive on getting men’s attention but you don’t really want to do that and you feel like you have nothing to strive for
  • realizing older men are staring at you in a weird way and not understanding why
  • feeling like your parents are ashamed of you and not understanding why
  • having thousand chores that are undervalued and not appreciated when you do them, it’s considered the least you can do as you’re a girl and need to apparently work to make up for it
  • feeling that you’ll end up having to get married and helpless with the issue
  • being told that you’ll “never get a husband” with your kind of behaviour whenever you act like yourself
  • being repeatedly taught that being unwanted is the worst thing you can possibly be
Little ways to be kind to yourself
  • drink a glass of water out of your favourite cup
  • make playlists of happy songs. don’t listen to the songs that make you sad or intense, not today
  • on tumblr, make your talking tag something positive - e.g. ‘em rambles’ instead of ‘shut up em’
  • do your make-up in the mirror; if it goes wrong, draw the eyeliner bigger, make the lipstick darker, end up looking like a gothic queen
  • google your favourite artist and have a look through their paintings, maybe some of the lesser-known ones; see something new and beautiful
  • get in touch with a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while; relieve the pressure of being meant to talk to them with actually talking to them and remembering why you love talking to them
  • get dressed up. get dressed up to eat cookies. get dressed up to watch a movie. get dressed up to walk to the shops. get dressed up and look stunning
  • get dressed down. relax. take off your bra or your binder and breathe. stretch. put on some clean PJ’s and laze.
  • if you need to, do your homework/assignment. start it now. if it’s early, all the better, you can take long regular breaks and have some fun with it. if it’s late, I know it’s scary and denial is a labyrinth, but take a deep breath and start it now. don’t even scroll past this post. you know you’ll be here another hour if you do. time to begin.
  • read that fanfic or that book you’ve been meaning to check out. ease the weight of the things that you’re supposed to be doing.
  • put food colouring in food and have red orange juice or blue pasta, just because.
  • have a little smile. aw, go on. <3

it’s ok to take space

it’s ok to take a break from people and to just be alone

however it’s important to let people know when you disappear

the people who care about you get concerned when you just stop talking to them

get comfortable knowing that needing space is valid so that you get comfortable talking about it and asking for it

Being a heal in Corsairs Stronghold
  • Jumping down to gate just to see no one is pvp’ing
  • Being alone at mid while it gets attacked
  • Seeing no one’s at ladder but know you can’t stay
  • Seeing everyone leaving ladder
  • Seeing mid sieges empty
  • Announcing south ship only to see that sieges ignore it and keep shooting the gate
  • Seeing ladder folks screaming for help, but you already know no one’s gonna help
  • Healing groups, then getting called a noob for not healing someone behind you
  • Getting insulted when calling DPS out for not staying at ladder
  • Crying over all the pvp horny idiot dps who don’t listen to strategy

MYSTIC BONUS:

  • Raid starting with “They have more priest, they will win”
  • Dropping lots of motes at mid just to see someone with 90 % health picking up all of them
  • Getting a “Lol u a mystic u suck no wonder we lost mid” after solo healing mid attack
  • Seeing a priest not using energy stars on gate, not using healing immersion, not using ANYTHING, then getting a “gg mystics suck”
Sam being a lot taller than you, his girlfriend...

Originally posted by thesolitaryghost

  • having to stand on your tiptoes whenever you want to kiss Sam and he still has to lean down
  • Sam making you sit on his lap all the time
  • Dean teasing you about your height, Sam teasing you as well, but not as much as Dean, Cas is the only one who doesn’t because he just doesn’t get the concept of teasing
  • when you are somewhere crowded you always walk behind Sam – he’s so tall and broad he easily opens a way through the crowd
  • Sam constantly holding your hand in his, loving how much small it is compared to his huge paws
  • Dean patting your head and you angrily swatting his hand away
  • Both of the Winchesters feeling very protective of you despite knowing that you can take care of yourself
  • always wearing Sam’s shirt to sleep – they are huge on you and he loves seeing you in them
  • getting piggy-back rides from Sam when you are tired or when you just feel like it
  • when Sam gets the feeling you working too hard or don’t pay enough attention to him he grabs whatever you are holding and holds it just out of your reach
  • Sam gives the best hugs, his huge arms completely wrapping you up, cocooning you in his warmth
  • when Sam makes you breakfast in the morning you can easily move underneath his arm to get yourself some coffee – you two are really in tune and Dean often comments that it’s creepy how Sam lifts his arm just in time for you to duck and walk past
  • randomly getting picked up by Sam
  • cuddling, lots of cuddling
  • calling Sam “giant” and similar nicknames while he calls you “shorty”
  • Sam thinking your height is adorable
Dark! Rachel
  • All her paintings are either demigods dying because they took her prophecies to seriously or Apollo vanishing because she hates him a little for the power
  • Sprouting prophecies right and left, with no concern for the demigods.
  • The green mist becoming almost black since she is filled with that much hate.
  • She thrives to give out prophecies that make demigods go crazy in fear
  • Not speaking to anyone for days.
  • She’s able to channel the green mist to choke people and kill them
  • Getting overly obssessed with taking her dad down because he’s still hurting the enviroment.

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