theme:abuse

Abuse by parents is so insidious, especially emotional abuse. Because parents can be fine and supportive and loving until something doesn’t go their way and then it’s guilt and appeals to authority that border on gaslighting.

Because I don’t know what else to call it when a parent says the way they remember it is the TRUTH, negating a child’s experience and memory and then saying that they are right because they are the parent.

Their version of what happened is the official story and a child gets manipulated into believing it or agreeing with it.

And sometimes these relationships don’t necessarily change when the child becomes an adult, sometimes that child standing up for themselves and holding their ground becomes evidence that they don’t “care” and that they are “unfeeling” or “unappreciative” of what the parent has given them.

And sure, maybe overall they are top tier parents worthy of awards, but so many can’t face that at best they have been using abusive tactics to emotionally manipulate their children.

Seeing people defend R Kelly is so disgusting, especially when they use the “I’m not going to shun him because black men face police brutality” when:

1. Victims of police brutality are innocent, whereas R Kelly is the predator

2. R Kelly is a known abuser who preys on young girls (he was caught outside of middle schools trying to seduce young girls and married Aaliyah when she was 15)

3. R Kelly is forcing those women into cutting off all contact with their family and threatens to to financially ruin these women if they leave

4. Multiple women who were in his inner circle or were his victims over the years confirmed the allegations and gave more details about his abuse


Excusing an abuser’s behavior because he’s black and other black men are victims of police brutality is not only demeaning to the innocent people who experienced systematic oppression, but also putting the feelings of a predator over the wellbeing of these innocent young black women who are being brainwashed and abused physically, emotionally, and sexually.

The latest R. Kelly allegations are more evidence that black women’s words are never enough

Anytime that I learn that R. Kelly is releasing new music, or that he’ll be appearing at an awards show or that he’s received some other affirmation or distinction in spite of his despicable history, I’m reminded that those who harm black women and girls too often escape accountability, and that our word is rarely enough.

How else to explain Monday’s devastating report at BuzzFeed detailing new allegations of predatory and abusive behavior towards young women by Kelly?

It shouldn’t have come as a surprise to many people, but even just judging by the parents of the women whose cases are featured in the story, the implications of years of reports of Kelly’s behavior escaped many people, if they’d heard about it at all . 

After all, unless you are an avid consumer of African-American media or the Chicago Sun-Times, it’s perhaps possible that you’ve missed hearing very much about the decades of rumors, allegations, lawsuits, settlements and criminal charges that define, for some of us, the self-proclaimed “Pied Piper of R&B” far more than any of his famous songs ever could.

Kelly’s alleged abuse of underage girls and women has been covered by the likes of the Village Voice, GQ and New York; his behaviors aren’t some deeply hidden industry secret that managed to evade public speculation for years. Read more (Opinion)

— Jamilah Lemieux

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LETTER FROM EYRICKA KING, RECEIVED 11 JULY 2017
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DEAR ——–

HELLO HOW ARE YOU? FINE I HOPE
AS FOR ME NOT DOING WELL AT ALL.
THEY ARE TRYING TO KILL ME! SERIOUSLY
I GOT BACK TO FRANKLIN ON FRIDAY
JUNE 30ᵀᴴ AND I’VE BEEN IN THE BOX
SINCE I WAS ATTACKED BY SOME
SARGENTS UPON MY ARRIVAL BACK HERE
AND THROWN IN THE BOX TO SILENCE
ME. HERE IS WHAT HAPPENED
WHEN I GOT BACK TO FRANKLIN
THE PUT ME IN A DORM WITH THE
SAME GUY (INMATE) WHO TRIED HAVING
SEX WITH ME AND WHEN I REFUSED
TO HAVE SEX HE SPIT ON ME, YOU
REMEMBER WHEN THAT INCIDENT HAPPENED
BACK IN APRIL, AND THE PREA DEPUTY
MS. SOUTHERS HAD ME MOVED TO
A BETTER DORM. OK UPON MY
ARRIVAL TO THE DORM THE INMATE
CAME TO THE DOOR WITH 3
OTHER INMATES AND THREATENED

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TO ATTACK ME IF I CAME INTO
THE HOUSE. SO I IMMEDIATLY
TOLD THE OFFICER THAT I COULD NOT
LIVE IN THAT DORM AND FOR HIM
TO CALL A SARGENT, HE DID JUST
THAT. THE SARGENT ARRIVED IN A
BLACK VAN WITH 2 OTHER SARGENTS
AND HE IMMEDIATLY SAID IT 9:00
AT NIGHT I DON’T FEEL LIKE DEALING
WITH THIS PUSSY FAGGOT CUFF
HIM NOW THE OTHER SARGENTS
THEN BEGAN RUFFING ME UP
THEY SLAMMED ME FACE FIRST ON
A BRICK WALL LUCKILY NOTHING
SEVERE HAPPENED TO MY FACE BUT
I WAS SLAMMED SO HARD ONTO
THE WALL MY RIGHT BREAST INPLANT
SWELLED UP EXTRA BIG AND IS
BRUISED THEY BEGAN PUNCHING
ME AND SAYING YOU ARE A
MAN WHAT IS A FUCKING TRANSGENDER

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I WAS CRYING AND BEGGING
FOR THEM TO STOP BEATING ME
ONE SARGENT SAID AINT THAT WHAT
YOU LIKE YOU LIKE MEN TO MAN
HANDLE YOU. THEY THEN THREW ME
IN THE BACK OF THE VAN BEAT UP
AND STILL CUFFED AND DROVE ME
TO THE BOX AND STRIPPED ME NAKED
AND THREW ME IN A CELL IVE BEEN
IN THE SAME CELL SINCE, THEY ARE
DENYING ME MEDICAL TREATMENT
IVE BEEN ▦ IN SO MUCH PAIN AND
SO OUT OF IT I HAVENT EATEN SINCE
FRIDAY MORNING JUNE 30ᵀᴴ. ——– IM
SO SCARED I THINK THEY ARE GOING
TO REALLY HURT ME AND TRY TO SAY IT
WAS A SUICIDE. PLEASE CONTACT
EVERYBODY THE NEWS STATIONS
CALL THE FACILITY ASK TO SPEAK
WITH MS. SAUTHERS AND DEPUTY
RONALD FOSTER HAVE ——– AND

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——– HELP, CONTACT ——–
ALSO I NEED OUT OF THE BOX
BEFORE IT’S TO LATE I SWEAR
——– I THINK I MIGHT DIE IN
HERE PLEASE HELP ME

I WROTE YOU 3 DIFFERENT TIMES SINCE
THIS HAPPENED ONLY TO GET THE MAIL
RETURNED TO ME SHREDDED UP IN
PIECES, THANKS TO ONE GOOD OFFICER
THAT CAME TO THE CELL TODAY AND TOLD
ME HE SEE’S EVERYTHING THEY DOING
TO ME AND THAT HE GOING TO MAKE
SURE THIS LETTER GETES MAILED OUT.
AGAIN ——– HELP ME DO
EVERY AND ANYTHING YOU
GUYS CAN TO GET ME
OUT OF HERE. F2L IS MY
ONLY HOPE.

        ERICA

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THEY ONLY CARE ONCE YOU HAVE
PEOPLE FROM THE OUTSIDE CALL
IN. HAVE ——– CONTACT
THE COMMISSIONER GUY THAT
SHE BEEN SPEAKING WITH.
——– I DONT WANNA BE IN
THE BOX I DID NOTHING WRONG
HELP ME.

P.S. I PRAY THIS LETTER
REACHES YOU.

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Assist by calling these numbers:

Jason Effman…Head PREA person in Albany…518-457-3955
Franklin Correctional Facility: 518 483 6040. (You can ask to talk to Deputy Deb Southers or a sergeant).
Office of Special Investigations Department of Corrections and Community Supervision (PREA office)…(518)-457-2653
Office of the Inspector General…(518) 474-1010

and demanding that Eyricka be transferred out of Franklin to a facility closer to NYC with protective custody that is *not* solitary confinement. Eyricka’s DIN# is 16A4486. If you call, reply to this post or reblog with a summary so that we can know what kind of impact we are having.


If a person shows signs of being uncomfortable, don’t keep persisting. Stop.

If a person gets scared and nervous when you want them to do something, don’t keep pressuring them. Just stop.

If a person makes it very clear that they don’t want to do it, stop what you’re doing.

If you use the excuse “if you love me, you’ll do it,” fuck you.

If you threaten them in any way, even though they’re uncomfortable, fuck you.

If you manipulate their feelings in order to get them to do what you want, fuck you.

anyway thats your daily reminder that allistics aint shit, and more importantly:

if you have any clothes from independence day clothing co and have an abusive relationship in your life (parents or otherwise), please be careful. 

all of their clothes are designed with a hidden pocket that buyers have the option to place a very small and discrete gps tracker inside.

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“Maybe this case will teach the community not to turn a blind eye to abused children,” said defence lawyer, Amanda Hopkins, at the trial of John Caudle. When John was just 14-years-old, he shot and killed his mother, Joanna Galla Rinebarger and his stepfather, Tracy Rinebarger. What would drive a teenager to kill those who should be closest to him? Abuse. John had suffered years of abuse and neglect; ultimately and unsurprisingly, one day he snapped.

It was the 26th of October, 2009, when John and Joanna got into an altercation. The altercation was specifically because John forgot to bring his mother a soda when she asked. As she stood and yelled in his face, he knew then and there what he needed to do to finally end the years of torment. “I went to my room and for one of the guns. I came out and started shooting at her,” he said. After she was dead, he noticed Tracy’s truck pull up in the driveway. Fearing the trouble he would be in, he hid in the laundry room. Tracy entered the house and saw the lifeless body of his wife. As he rushed over to her side, John emerged from the laundry room and shot him dead.

John was apprehend the following day and the years of neglect and abuse he had suffered quickly surfaced. John, who still sucked his thumb, was often withheld food from his mother while his stepfather often taunted him by calling him a “faggot.” In fact, when he was apprehend he weighed a mere 97 pounds. An avid reader, books were a way for John to escape his reality. However, his books were always confiscated as a punishment. Joanne’s own parents corroborated these claims, adding that she “isolated him from other children,“ and would continually berate and mock him.

John was charged as an adult and sentenced to 16 to 22 years in the Colorado Department of Corrections. John fell through the cracks of the child welfare system and was thrown into the general population of adult prison. In his first and only public statement during his sentencing phase, he said: “At the time, I felt I had nowhere else to turn. I know what I did was wrong, and I am truly sorry.”

just because your anger at something is justified doesn’t mean that lashing out at people with that anger is also justified.

example: a person says something horrible to you and you get mad about it. this anger is valid, it’s reasonable, it’s justified. you go home mad and take your anger out on your roommate by screaming at them, slamming things around, punching walls, whatever else. these actions are not justified.

your feelings about a certain situation or person can be 100% totally reasonable and valid but that doesn’t mean that going on to use those feelings as a weapon against someone who is innocent in all of it is okay.