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Down the Aisle: Wedding Decor

While planning my wedding, I was a mad pinner. I probably pinned over a  thousands things to my wedding ideas throughout the several months of planning. There were SO many great ideas and DIY things to do that I wanted to incorporate into my wedding while still keeping it special and personal. I knew from the beginning what my vision was- Halloween Chic/Masquerade Ball/Fall/New Orleans. We combined it all with the theme of “French Quarter in the Fall." 

A lot of my DIY things were documented on my Instagram throughout the weeks leading up to the wedding. A few of them are the Mr. &Mrs. pumpkins I painted, the 20 hand carved pumpkins a bunch of my friends lovingly helped with for a few beers and company, my photobooth, the entire candy bar, glitter skulls, the painted guest book tree, and the white ash tray pumpkin centerpieces. (A lot of our friends smoke and we needed something cute. Ta-da!) There were a few more not pictured as well, such as home made candy apples, mummy wrapped candy bars, and cotton candy martinis. 

Our venue for the reception was initially a bare room with pipes sticking out of the floor. With the help of my amazing florist turned day-of wedding planner, she got them to repaint, hang the lights, and put together my vision perfectly. Full of skulls, pumpkins, and masks with a chic, romantic feel. I am still so in love with how everything came out! 

whereswaldo-  asked:

Hey there! I just had a question on etiquette I guess for weddings. I was looking at wedding forum and they totally ripped this girl to shreds for getting married at a justice of the peace and then some months later having a traditional ceremony. Now, is that like a serious no-no or not? 

Ugh. Mean girls! I stay off of traditional forums for this very reason. People behind a screen are mean! Add in wedding stress and weird outdated traditions and you’ve got a serious bitch fest. I’d suggest to use websites like that for pretty pictures and thats it! The rest of it will stress you out and make you buy into stuff that doesn’t truly matter. They’re there to make you double the cost of your wedding! Haha. So, I’d suggest looking elsewhere. 

I can tell you that from experience. I thought there were all these crazy rules or what people like to call “etiquette”- things I HAD to do for my wedding. I got so stressed about all of it and didnt even feel like myself; I postponed my own wedding! Then I found Offbeat Bride. Man, it opened my eyes! I joined their forums and it was like a breath of fresh air! They are so supportive and are open to the fact that not all love is the same, and not all weddings are the same. In fact, the different the better! They have so much DIY stuff and beautiful pictures! The weddings are so original and fantastic. It really made me figure out what I not only wanted for MY wedding, but OUR wedding. It’s a day to combine two lives in love. That’s it. There are no rules past that. It’s all about you two.

Also, you aren’t alone! I don’t have much money for my wedding, and both my parents just got pretty ill. So, my planning is haywire right now. Also, if you want your actual ceremony to be small, that’s your choice and there’s nothing wrong with that! I plan on having an intimate wedding myself, and might have to do the same thing as what these forum girls ripped on. Life is complicated and wedding planning is HARD! If you want the actual day you get married to be relaxed, or for whatever reason you want to get married first, THEN have a reception or even another ceremony, DO IT. It’s your day. It’s about you and your spouse. It’s about love, family, friendship and celebrating all the beautiful relationships one gets to have in life. That’s what it should be about. Nothing else. If people want to complain, poke and make it about them- they will probably be invited to a lot less weddings.