Dear Lestat, I wondered if you would give me advice on rather delicate matter. You see, I will be twenty in few days and I was never in a relationship. That in itself never bothered me, but lately everyone around me started to date someone, and it made me feel bit lonely. At the same time, I haven't found someone yet that I would connect with on that level or that would share my interests, and I don't think it would be right to date someone just for the sake of it. Any advice?
♛You’re not yet 20 years old? There is plenty of time for you! There is no rush. Appreciate the other flowers blooming in the garden around you, let their happiness be your happiness. See if you can learn from their example.
There is an awful pressure in this modern age that is similar to the pressure of my mortal years, that being single is somehow considered as “a failure” or “missing out.” I can’t agree with this judgment, and I hope you don’t either.
I have been in enough relationships to tell you that they are wonderful, but they are not all rainbows and
all the time. It’s a part-time job! It takes effort! Being in a relationship is not an end point, it’s the beginning of a shared chapter with someone.
But I won’t lie to you, you might not ever find love. Or it may be right around the corner. Who can tell?
Let go of any feelings of inadequacy for this, if you feel it. Too many people think of life as a series of required chapters or items on a checklist that must be accomplished, and therefore, the failure to achieve them implies a failure in you.
Absolutely not so. “Failure.” “Success.” Let go of society’s narrow definition of these concepts. It’s far worse to settle for having someone in your life who goes through the motions of loving you, but doesn’t. Someone you don’t love. Someone you project your fantasies onto. Someone you want so badly to love you the way you need to be loved. So many people fall into this trap; locked to someone they end up despising sooner or later.
All the loves of my life were found when I pushed past my comfort zone.* One thing is certain, love won’t find you if you close yourself off from the possibility and opportunity. I found Louis in pursuit of keeping my diet strictly evildoer, and there he was, too dignified to do it himself, throwing himself to the wolves in the hopes that they would slay him. Something led me there, among all the other dens of sin I might have gone to that night. Did fate lead me to him? I like to think so.
*Not that I have much of a comfort zone to begin with *shrugs*
You are whole as you are. Look at your triumphs in this life, look how far you’ve come. Look where you want to go, what you want to do. Give yourself some love.
I was the vampire Lestat again. I was back in action. New Orleans was once again my hunting ground. And I was asking myself, Lestat, what do you want to do now? Old rules didn’t matter to me now. I wanted to break every one of them.
Dear Lestat Claus, since it's December I would like to sit on your lap and read my list: I would like for you to be my best friend , and I want a chateau in the french country side, a chalet in the alps, and a yacht. I want a pony too. I wuv uuuuuu..
♛You’re asking for quite a lot, ma petite! Have you been Nice enough for such a bounty? I wish I could just give it all to you without hesitation, but there’s still time for you to switch to the Naughty list, and then all these gifts would have been ill-given *winks*
If you’re asking for such extravagant things, you sound like you have a wonderful life as it is! Take a moment to reflect on that. Not everyone has that luxury.
Best friends don’t usually come gift-wrapped and bound in ribbons, you do have to earn them, you know… but sharing my adventures with you, although mostly one-sided, is that not a form of friendship already? I always felt that it was. Immortality does not increase the number of hours in a night and I just can’t physically be present to as a best friend with everyone *frowns.* My books are extensions of me, so give them a hug, I’ll feel it *smiles.*
… Or better yet, reach out to someone who also loves my books, even someone who prefers Armand over me (how dare anyone prefer him over me), and they could be the best friend you seek *hugs*