I don’t know what it’s like to be famous. I never will. I’m just a young woman who went to school and got good grades and became a school counselor. I got married and had a baby and decided to leave my career behind to stay home with him. I question a lot whether that was the right choice, because I worry about teaching him that women can do anything they want to do, just like him, and that they don’t “belong” at home raising children.
I don’t know what it’s like to be Sam or Caitriona. I don’t know how Sam feels when he goes through his social media mentions and sees so many women who desperately need attention from him. I don’t know if he feels amused or flattered or overwhelmed. I don’t know what it’s like to have women who range from young 20s to probably late 60s/70s wanting a piece of me, any piece, but probably a physical one, all the time. I never will.
What I do know is that we have real issues in this world that I didn’t realize affected me so much until I joined this fandom. The way women treat other women saddens me. The desire to get a wink and nod from a celebrity, no matter his behavior towards other women, seems to be more important than women being treated with dignity and respect online. All women should feel safe to express respectful opinions online without being called horrifying or bitchy or bullies or whatever hot ticket word of the moment comes up.
I really hope the next time someone decides to target and bully a shipper, or ANY woman in this fandom, they stop and think about what they are really doing. You are setting an example. You are setting a precedent. You may be raising children or grandchildren and by going along with these nasty, sick games, you are promoting and growing a societal system where our value as women is cheapened and reduced and we are made to feel like we are less when we have a voice and an opinion.
Like I said, I’m a nobody. I don’t have a huge audience to speak to. I’m one person - but I hope I am one person who has had a positive effect on other women in this fandom. Even if I’ve made 2 people feel better or more empowered, that is a win. THAT is more important than a like or tweet from a celebrity.