So are you saying that I'm allowed to use daydreaming as a coping mechanism? Even though I'm an adult? I've been told that I need to grow out of that stuff but... I really miss creating my own worlds
After thoroughly investigating “maladaptive daydreaming” literature, I could find no actual evidence that daydreaming is, in itself, maladaptive! The problem is usually a skill gap where the daydreamer ALSO doesn’t know how to deal with a problem.
A problem that occurs in countless other people who don’t daydream.
Meanwhile, my main area of study is complex trauma, which field is full of cases of, “This horrible trauma/neglect/deprivation should have totally fucked this person up and would have produced a human being incapable of anything resembling a normal life–but because they had a rich imagination and abundant inner resources, they were able to create an inner narrative that gave the safety, control, love, and meaning that their real life utterly lacked.”
So I was gonna say “ehh, I’m new to the field, IDK that I’m allowed to give anyone permission to anyone” but—
DREAM THE FUCK ON. Learn to deal with real life too, but if daydreams are there for you to fall back on? DREAM.