And sometimes when you’re on, You’re really fucking on, And your friends, they sing along And they love you. But the lows are so extreme That the good seems fucking cheap, And it teases you for weeks In its absence.
But you’ll fight, and you’ll make it through, You’ll fake it if you have to, And you’ll show up for work with a smile. And you’ll be better, and you’ll be smarter, And more grown up, and a better daughter, Or son, and a real good friend. You’ll be awake, you’ll be alert, You’ll be positive, though it hurts, And you’ll laugh, and embrace all your friends. You’ll be a real good listener. You’ll be honest, you’ll be brave. You’ll be handsome, and you’ll be beautiful. You’ll be happy.
Now it’s sixteen miles to the promised land, And I promise you, I’m doing the best I can. Now, some days, they last longer than others, But this day by the lake went too fast. And if you want me, you better speak up, I won’t wait, So you better move fast.
what are some coping/trauma related songs you would recommend?
hi friend! I’ve gotten a couple of asks about music, so I’m gonna answer them all here. everyone copes differently and everyone has different tastes, but here’s a few recs I have based on what has helped me. (I’m favoring folk/indie here though my tastes are usually more varied, because these are related to trauma/coping more explicitly)
“download immediately I’m begging you” tier:
The Sunset Tree - The Mountain Goats (if you already know this album, then it sounds like a given. it’s a staple for me. in fact I’m linking the single track, This Year, which got me through several years of my life. this album is explicitly about surviving abuse)
linked here isA Better Son/Daughter, of off
The Execution of All Things by Rilo Kiley (this one’s so good that i’m actually recommending a single track, which I never do because I prefer always to recommend albums. you might cry like a lot. I definitely did the first dozen times I heard this. also the rest of the album’s great too! more about relationships tho.)
if you only read this far, please listen to those two tracks! ^^^ <3
“saved my life” tier:
Transcendental Youth also by The Mountain Goats, would be my very next rec, if you want to feel like your life and your suffering are real and valid. (give the track Spent Gladiator II a listen!)
Lanterns - Son Lux (not about trauma, still helped me hang on by a thread when it was Bad. shameless plug, it’s patently my all-time favorite album)
Feel Good Ghosts - Cloud Cult (this is a Happier album that is literally about Surviving when you think you can’t anymore, it’s a little psychedelic and weird tho)
look friends, there is nothing wrong with a little Black Parade or Simple Plan for when it Hurts (Gerard Way and that cohort did it right all right?) This was middle school for me but this genre saved my life when I was that age
“gets me through it” tier:
Neon bible - Arcade Fire (track “my body is a cage” is always stuck in my head and encapsulates That feeling perfectly)
Good News for People Who Like Bad News - Modest Mouse (feeling bitter? this is for you!)
anything by Sufjan Stevens (the album Carrie & Lowell might be the most relatable, but I also love Age of Adz, All Delighted People, and Illinois. this melancholy folk singer-songwriter is my favorite artist ever maybe)
ANYWAY! that’s everything I can think of for now. thanks for reading this far, and if anyone wants like, a playlist instead of albums, let me know! that would be more varied in genre/style. or, send a genre and I can find stuff within that.
In my dreams, I see you asleep on a twin bed. The covers pulled up over your head, am I asleep or awake? And it’s morning and the captain is playing the radio, and he’s just put the paint on his new boat. Am I asleep or awake?
Oh, God, come quickly, The execution of all things. Let’s start with the bears and the air And mountains, rivers, and streams. Then we’ll murder what matters to you And move on to your neighbors and kids. Crush all hopes of happiness with disease ‘Cause of what you did. And lastly, you’re all alone with Nothing left but sleep. But sleep never comes to you, It’s the guilt and forever wakefulness of the weak. It’s just you and me. The execution of all things.