the-butch

anonymous asked:

I only can sing along to songs that a boy is singing or a lesbian bc they are singing about girls but most of them are about sex and stuff. what are some recommendations for lesbian musicians?

syd tha kid is INCREDIBLE rn she sings for The Internet and she sings about loving women a lot and Wow her voice?? smooth ALSO shes a Butch Dream Girl

Besides the pretty popular Hayley Kiyoko and Tegan and Sara, there’s Shura, Studio Killers, Sizzy Rocket, Catey Shaw, Pvris, and Gia who all have songs about liking girls. I think I saw a playlist that has some sapphic songs on it somewhere - I’ll see if I can find it again and reblog it for you!

remember when grace ebooks called me a misogynist when i said kendall jenner sucked at her job because i was “criticizing her for failing to perform femininity to society’s exacting standards”

like…..me, the butch dyke, over Kendall Fucking Jenner

anonymous asked:

I'm a girl but could use help with my bi-fi too. P.S. Love you love your blog

Keep in mind that your bi-fi should be tailored to your community and country as well as to your age group, as it can be pretty different depending on these factors. Most of all, remember that your bi-fi can never be perfect. There are so many kinds of people in this community that you really never know. The idea behind bi-fi is just to try to improve your chances a little! But, for what it’s worth, here’s the perspective of one 23-year-old bi woman living in a liberal area of the US Southeast. 

Gender expression and personal style: 
Tons of queer women are femmes who can be hard to spot; femme invisibility is a real problem. That being said, women who have a more butch or androgynous look are more likely to be wlw. There are also some fashion staples of wlw that can be a good clue. For example: wingtip or oxford shoes, Doc Martens, outdoorsy hiking shoes or sandals, flannel shirts, oxford shirts, short-sleeve collared shirts especially with the sleeves cuffed; hair that is short or an undercut, colorful, or can be styled more masculine or feminine; gender expression that is fluid (more tomboyish some days or feminine others); piercings such as septum piercings; I also feel like glasses are a look for a lot of wlw. You can figure out what’s specific to your region/age group by observing people who are out or by looking at pictures on tinder! 

Politics and subcultures:
Do they talk about LGBTQIAP+ issues a lot? Share a lot of memes on Facebook or links such as pinknews.com? This is often the biggest clue. Also, check their Facebook profile to see if it’s listed! I find that wlw are more likely to be environmentally aware, anti-Trump, vegetarian/vegan, etc. Do they talk about out celebrities a lot? They might also be fans of certain artists, TV shows, or books. Here are a few: Hayley Kiyoko, The 100, Orange is the New Black (fairly mainstreamed though), Team Dresch, Carol (a good measure because it’s a queer classic but less well known by straight people), Blue is the Warmest Color, etc. Basically, if they like a lot of media that represents LGBTQIAP+ people well, that’s a strong indicator. If you’re trying to sound someone out, you can also ask them what they think about specific LGBTQIAP+ political issues to at least weed out any bigots.

Language:
This can be subtle, but it’s also a strong indicator. LGBTQIAP+ people in general and especially bi, pan, or queer people tend to use more gender-neutral words, like “partner” or “spouse,” whether to talk about themselves or in a general sense. They are more likely to be respectful and careful about pronouns and gendering. A lot of out wlw will intentionally signal their orientation by referencing an ex-girlfriend, too. 

Also, please remember that you can be out there signaling your presence too! And the more you think about how you could signal to other wlw that you’re bi, the easier it will be to notice when someone might be signaling you.

anonymous asked:

hey jw if u were to interview for a job would you keep it like super butch? like. I'm butch and i have bunch of professional like suits and stuff (i'm gonna be a high school teacher). but i have like. varying degrees of butch stuff you know? should i try and tone it down a bit for the interview? i have short hair and stuff but i'm just scared i won't get hired for reasons that have like nothing to do with my competence as a teacher and everything to do w being a dyke :(

This is a classic butch issue and a rock/hard place situation. I personally recommend going how you normally dress, which is pretty butch for me (shirt, tie, jacket, pants) and not trying to debutch for the interview. The reason for this is you’re unlikely to pass anyway if you’re like most of us, so the attempt itself shows a lack of confidence that you don’t want to be the first thing someone sees when interviewing you; on top of this, unless you plan to be closeted at this job, they will eventually find out that you’re gay and you’ll just get fired of harassed then if it’s a homophobic workplacr.

If you pass as male frequently, I don’t think there is any shame in using an androgynous name/nickname on your resume, showing up as yourself, and letting them hire you under the assumption thst you’re a guy until they get identification. That’s another option a lot of butches still use and have used, up to and including just continuing to pass on the job at jobs that won’t ask for much documentstion.

anonymous asked:

Do you have any info on the history/meaning of femme, or a good place to start? Thank you in advance!!!!!

hey! so first of all, I am by no means an expert on this, so if anybody has any additional info please lmk.

However, from my understanding, “femme” means woman in french so it has traditionally been associated with the more “feminine” presenting person in a traditional butch-femme lesbian relationship. This particular relationship dynamic started in the early twentieth century in underground bars, particularly with working class women, as a way for women to understand and contextualize their relationships.

Up until around the 1970s, lesbians were pretty much expected to be either “butch” or “femme” and only be in a relationship with someone that was the opposite type. However, with the lesbian feminist movement, butch-femme couples and their respective identities were called into question as women began to pick apart masculinity and femininity in terms of the oppression of women. However, since then these identities have reemerged within our community, but now gender and gender expression has become a lot less limiting. Butch-butch and femme-femme couples are accepted as well, and there are plenty of lesbians who do not identify as either. There has also been a push more recently for people who do not identify as women or lesbians to be able to consider themselves as “femmes,” though the term undeniably originated in the lesbian community.

Phew! That was a lot, and that’s merely a synopsis of the subject! Google is definitely your friend on this topic if you want to learn more :)

-mod a