anonymous asked:

In surah Nissa verse 34 it says that men are allowed to beat women. I just want to know why this is so.

Assalam Alaikom,

I am looking for a really good video on this but until then, here are some links I would read. I am not good with tafsir tbh -_- Sorry if I am not much help! It might be beneficial to search youtube. I suggest keeping in mind the context in which a verse was revealed, other supporting verses about women and martial relations, and the sunnah of our Rasulullah (pbuh) who never raised his hand on his wives and/or even got angry in a harsh way with them. Allah knows best & is a merciful Lord.

 Can you beat your wife?!? (no)

Abuse is Abuse (Nouman Ali Khan short video)

Another Tafsir

Another link


Relationships has never been something I’m brave enough to write about, especially in public. The love between a man and a woman to me is very personal. Add religion into the equation and it just becomes very sacred to me. I do not wish to write too long, since I have classes tomorrow at 9am and it’s exactly 4.30am right now. However, I just need to let a few things off my chest because it has been bothering me for quite a while now. Also, due to my hectic schedule, this is the only time I have to write- though I swear to god I’m super sleepy right now

Before we jump into the topic, yes I am single. Have I ever been in a relationship? The answer is also yes. I know how it feels like to love and be loved the same way I know how it feels to be completely shattered. You see, different people have different definitions of love. I strongly believe that the people we fall in love with can sometimes reflect the kind of person we are. For instance, I really value religion, knowledge and ambition. Thus, if i were to marry someone, I look for someone with these exact characteristics. I want someone who has the same goals that I have. Someone who will not only fight with me to succeed in this world, but also in the hereafter. I need someone who works just as hard as I do, not someone who is always tired and only cares about sleep. No more time should be wasted with whiny and lazy ambitionless boys. If you’re serious to pursue a relationship, look for a man.

If there’s one thing a relationship has taught me, it is the importance of maturity when it comes to love. NEVER indulge in a relationship just because it’s a ‘nice’ feeling. If you want to be with someone might as well be with a person who will help bring the best out of you, spiritually, mentally and also emotionally. If the relationship you are in is leading you towards the haraam, leave. No buts. It is just the end of a toxic relationship, not the end of the world. 

By the way people, it is perfectly OKAY to be single. I have been single for over a year now, and wallahi I have never been this happy and I have been achieving so much. I always tell my friends that when you are single, you have 27 hours a day. What it essentially mean is that you’ll have more time for yourself. I know some people who can only seek comfort in the presence of their significant other. After one relationship ends they feel the need to jump into another. Chill people, chill. Take a breather. You don’t need another person to feel sufficient. Try to be comfortable and at peace with yourself with or without a relationship. You have the rest of your life to be spent with your significant other, so while you’re single, might as well really embrace/enjoy it.

Okay last point before I hit the sack, never settle. Ya Allah I can’t stress this enough. Being single is better than being with the wrong person. As they say, it’s better to wait long than marry wrong. If we dont know what we deserve, we will always settle for less. But to deserve more, we should first be more. Build your character before you choose to build a family. Study hard, learn new skills, take up a hobby, read more, travel. There’s so much that can be done when you’re single for your personal development. Take care of yourself. Your health, spirituality, intelligence, akhlak (good character) etc & inshaAllah you’ll get someone who’d do the same for you.

Jim Rohn once said, “The greatest gift you can give somebody is your own personal development. I used to say, ‘If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.’ Now I say, ‘I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me”.

I know this entry is all over the place, but I’m half awake so do forgive me. I hope you find this post helpful. As for me, call me philophobic but I am personally afraid to be in a relationship again. But when the time comes, I hope the guy I end up with will be proud with the lady I have become. If you happen to read this, whoever you may be, please know that not a day passes that I don’t make do’a for you, and for us. Wherever you are in this world, I hope you are also striving to be your best self. May Allah make it easy for us to find our way to each other. See you when I see you!

Ending this cringey post with one of my favorite quotes from Rumi,

‘Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.’

Lots of love,


When you truly want the best for people, you’ll realise that Allah will start giving you the best too. Allah sees your good intentions. Please try to protect your heart from arrogance, anger, jealousy and anything that Allah does not like.

Ibnu Mas’ood said,

وَالَّذِي لَا إِلَهَ غَيْرُهُ مَا أُعْطِيَ عَبْدٌ مُؤْمِنٌ شَيْئًا خَيْرًا مِنْ حُسْنِ الظَّنِّ بِاللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَالَّذِي لَا إِلَهَ غَيْرُهُ لَا يُحْسِنُ عَبْدٌ بِاللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ الظَّنَّ إِلَّا أَعْطَاهُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ ظَنُّهُ ذَلِكَ بِأَنَّ الْخَيْرَ فِي يَدِهِ

“I swear by Allah, no believer can be given anything that is better than having good expectations of Allah. I swear by Allah, any person who expects the best from Allah, Allah will give him according to what He expects. This is because all goodness is in His Hands.”  

[ narrated by ibn abi dunya ]

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry.. No i'm not, but how stupid can one be to think transgender/gay is allowed in Islam? Unless your source is directly from the Quran or an authentic hadith, your argument is invalid. have you not heard of the story of Lut from the Quran? You can be gay and not act on it. thats fine. But to say that a muslim can be transgender and have gay relationships no, that's not. Hello Zinna! Not allowed. Unless you were a non muslim before then fair enough. Quran is our handbook to life.

The fact that you’re insulting me before even making a point make me think I’m probably not going to change your mind (even in the face of multiple sources and a sound argument) BUT for the sake of anybody else reading this who is genuinely interested or could benefit from the information, I’m going to answer.

—   There are multiple verifiable sources and ahadith which corroborate this particular truth:
- that gender variant people (whom we may today interpret as “transgender”) existed during the time of the Prophet (saw), AND
- that they were accepted as functioning members of society (and by & large
respected in their lived/chosen gender role)

—   In a modern context, several authentic, well respected institutions have ruled in favor of transgender people’s prerogative to transition and allow trans people to seek medical intervention and live as their preferred gender. These are not esoteric, left-wing or activist type rulings. These are not specific to any particular sect. These are rulings from places like Al-Azhar, the oldest Islamic university in the world (by a fatwa from Sunni Grand Imam Mohammed Sayyed Tantawi in 1992) and the Islamic Republic Of Iran, not exactly know for it’s lenient position on deviant lifestyles (from revolutionary-era Shi’a authority Ayatollah Khomeni in 1987).

What are your sources? Aside from an emotional knee-jerk reaction to something you don’t understand? You mention Lut - are you aware of any of the countless other interpretations of that passage, other than the one so often blindly wielded to justify hatred? Can you tell me what that passage is supposed to say about transgender people at all? Are you a scholar? Can you back up your claims, with solid logical and legal support? 

You call me stupid. I’m largely self-educated and of course my own knowledge is limited, but I have studied, for years, to better understand how my family and people like me can live more wholly and well under Islam. If I had any doubt, for even a moment, that this faith condemns me and people like me simply for existing; I wouldn’t be here in the first place. I’m blessed with the knowledge that Islam is much greater than the narrow, clueless bigotry that so often shouts over the rest. If I knew nothing else about this subject, knowing Allah would still be enough for me.

Do you believe in an infinitely merciful, all knowing, loving God? Why would you limit that to condemn something you don’t understand? To up and turn people away from the greatest truth there is in the universe? How cruel can you be? How does that in any way reflect submission to that same loving, merciful and omnipotent undying force?

I’m gonna keep living, and I’m going to keep supporting family like me. You do you. Allah knows best.


Commonly Used..
subhan'Allah - Glory be to God.

Astaghfirullah - Forgive me Allah.
Alhumdulillah - Praise be to God.

Masha'Allah - As God had willed.
Insha'Allah (i.A) - God Willing/ as God has willed.

Allahu-Akbar - God is the greatest.
La Illaha ill allah - There is no God but Allah.

Fi amaanillah - In Allah’s protection.
Allahu Alam - Allah knows best.

Aza wa jal - Mighty and majestic he is.
Barakallah Feek -  May Allah’s blessing be upon you (in general/ group)

Radiyallahu Anhu - used when the companion of the Prophet Muhammed is mentioned or used in writing. IT means - ‘May Allah be pleased with him’
[usually abbreviated as RA or RAA]
RadiAllahu anhaa- May Allah be pleased with her’ used after a female companion
[usually abbreviated as RA or RAA]

Some Quranic phrases that are recited often.
Innalilahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon - To Allah we belong and to Him we shall return

Bismillah ar rahman ar raheem - In the name of Allah the merciful, the compassionate.

Audhu Billahi min ash shaytaan ar rajeem - I seek protection in Allah from satan.

Allah - God
Salam - peace
Hayaa - modesty
Taqwa - Fear Of Allah
Imaan - Faith
Dunya - world
Jannah - Paradise
Kaaba - Sacred mosque 🕋
Hadith - A collection of traditions containing sayings of the prophet Muhammad which, with accounts of his daily practice (the Sunna), constitute the major source of guidance for Muslims apart from the Quran.

Ill keep updating it if you wish! Thanks again for asking!